The Conversation Factory

Daniel Stillman
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Welcome to The Conversation Factory, where I investigate how to create change through changing conversations. Each episode I'll talk to an amazing conversation designer about how to Amplify, Shift or Transform conversations in Organizations, Teams, Communities and our own lives. Visit www.theconversationfactory.com where I distill these insights we can bring into our work and lives.

  1. Leading with Respect with Marcy Syms

    09/10/2025

    Leading with Respect with Marcy Syms

    Marcy Syms is a pioneering businesswoman and advocate for respect in leadership. She's seen leadership fads come and go. She was a CEO when people still thought "women shouldn't do that sort of thing"  And she's done something many folks have never had to endure - shuttering her family's business while making her key creditors whole - an act deeply in line with her core value of respect. Marcy shares insights from her journey in the retail industry, her experiences with leadership dynamics  and her advocacy for the Equal Rights Amendment - something she hopes to see made part of the constitution while she's still around to enjoy it! Why Respect? 🗝️Respect drives sustainable growth - respect for your team allows them to feel empowered to be the face of your business and to build the processes and systems that make growth sustainable. 🗝️Giving respect helps you get respect - starting first, leading the conversation with respect at the core helps get things done, especially in times of stress and turbulence. 🗝️Respect is outer behavior and inner work - to make it a core habit and your default behavior takes strategic reflection and personal growth. Check out the full conversation 👇 🎙️ Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3QzcPAW  🍎 Apple: https://apple.co/4ifh6pb  📺YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@danielstillman-TCF-podcast 🌐more episodes at https://theconversationfactory.com/listen And please subscribe on Spotify or iTunes! Also! support the podcast with  a monthly contribution here: https://theconversationfactory.com/conversation-factory-insider or a one-time donation here.: https://dastillman.gumroad.com/l/dscoffee Don't have time to watch or listen to the full episode? To learn more about leading conversations more powerfully and beautifully, watch these short clips 👇 👀make respect a habit and start from within https://youtu.be/tmURMgvcnIs 👀How to Respond to Disrespect with Dignity and Strategy https://youtu.be/f21aAalKGLU 👀To Scale you need to Respect your team https://youtube.com/shorts/HczFY9-ASFw 👀Leadership Balances Top Down Strategy and Bottom up Insights https://youtube.com/shorts/57yWfiQtykw 👀Know your board as humans https://youtu.be/eH5Mv95iunE One Takeaway to not forget: Fight for the ERA! Marcy shares how she sees the ERA as the ultimate sign of respect and continues to fight for women's full inclusion in the constitution. Watch here: https://youtu.be/YAbEAqIVxzU Key Links: Marcy's book: Leading with the Respect Marcy's website

    57 min
  2. The Seven Everyday Habits for Transforming Systems

    08/25/2025

    The Seven Everyday Habits for Transforming Systems

    Download free chapters from Good Talk and master the art of conversations big and small: https://www.danielstillman.com/good-talk Listen now 👇 🎙️ Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3QzcPAW 🍎 Apple: https://apple.co/4ifh6pb  And please subscribe on Spotify or iTunes!  Also! support the podcast with  a monthly contribution here: https://theconversationfactory.com/conversation-factory-insider or a one-time donation here: https://dastillman.gumroad.com/l/dscoffee Full show notes: https://theconversationfactory.com/listen   SUMMARY In this conversation, Adam Kahane discusses the complexities of transforming systems, emphasizing the importance of understanding systems thinking, collaboration, and the role of individual contributions. He shares insights from urban transformation examples, the significance of culture, and the necessity of engaging with systems responsibly. Kahane introduces seven habits for transforming systems, highlighting the importance of finding cracks as opportunities for change and the balance between closeness and distance in understanding systems.   KEY TAKEAWAYS Systems can't be transformed without understanding them. Transformation requires many people to do many things. You can't just change a system by force. Look for what's unseen in a system. Forget your perfect offering; there's a crack in everything. Acting responsibly is crucial for transformation. We all have bells we still can ring. Engaging with the system is a collective activity. You can make wiser decisions by understanding others. Change how you think, change how you are.   CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Systems for Transformation 02:29 The Role of Collaboration in System Change 05:05 Insights from Global Examples 07:46 The Importance of Proximity in System Change 10:10 Cracks and Leverage Points in Systems 12:46 The Journey of Transformation in South Africa 24:31 The Journey of Collective Engagement 24:55 Radical Engagement: Understanding System Transformation 26:13 The Role of Outsiders vs. Insiders 27:41 Spotting Cracks: Micro Interactions in Systems 28:46 The Art of Persuasion vs. Convincing 30:29 Granular Habits for System Transformation 31:41 Relating in Three Dimensions 33:43 Understanding the Seven Habits 39:32 Acting Responsibly in Systems 43:21 Finding Light in the Cracks   LINKS Learn more about Adam's work at www.reospartners.com , www.reospartners.com/adamkahane and find him on twitter/X at @adamkahane

    58 min
  3. Innovation, Connection, and Conscious Leadership with Othership CEO Robbie Bent

    08/06/2025

    Innovation, Connection, and Conscious Leadership with Othership CEO Robbie Bent

    Get free chapters of my book, Good Talk, and master the art of conversations big and small: https://www.danielstillman.com/good-talk Please support the podcast! 💌 subscribe on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3QzcPAW 💌 iTunes: https://apple.co/4ifh6pb or with a monthly contribution here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-monthly one-time donation here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-once Check out the episode page for the full transcript and video highlights. Episode page: https://theconversationfactory.com/podcast/innovation-connection-and-conscious-leadership-with-othership-ceo-robbie-bent AI Summary: Introduction and Connection: Daniel Stillman introduces Robbie Bent, highlighting the connection through mutual acquaintance Robbie Hammond. Inception of OtherShip: Robbie shares the story of starting with a backyard ice bath, fostering community connections without the influence of alcohol. Innovative Experiences: Discussion on unique offerings at OtherShip, such as comedy nights and men's work sessions, blending wellness with entertainment. Creativity and Experimentation: Robbie emphasizes the importance of allowing creativity to emerge through testing and iteration. Challenges and Growth: Insights into the challenges faced in expanding OtherShip, including managing stress and maintaining personal well-being. Community and Relationships: The role of community in personal and business growth, with Robbie working closely with his wife and friends. Facilitating Conversations: The significance of open communication and addressing conflicts early in both personal and professional settings. Future Aspirations: Robbie's excitement about expanding OtherShip and continuing to innovate in the wellness space. Links Othership - https://www.othership.us/ Follow Robbie Bent on Instagram | LinkedIn IG: https://www.instagram.com/robbiebent/?hl=en LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robbiebent/

    50 min
  4. The Founder's Financial Compass: Navigating Emotions and Assumptions with Fractional CFO Lauren Pearl

    07/24/2025

    The Founder's Financial Compass: Navigating Emotions and Assumptions with Fractional CFO Lauren Pearl

    Get free chapters of my book, Good Talk, and master the art of conversations big and small: https://www.danielstillman.com/good-talk Please support the podcast! 💌 subscribe on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3QzcPAW 💌 iTunes: https://apple.co/4ifh6pb or with a monthly contribution here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-monthly one-time donation here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-once Check out https://theconversationfactory.com/podcast/the-founders-financial-compass-navigating-emotions-and-assumptions-with-fractional-cfo-lauren-pearl for the full transcript and video highlights. Money! It can be an emotional topic. But, as my guest on today's podcast, fractional CFO Lauren Pearl says, it's emotional for everyone in different ways! In this episode, Lauren reveals her perspectives on how to approach these difficult conversations. Given how many leaders she's worked with, we also explore her thinking about effective leadership, intentional decision-making, and how it's crucial for founders to be endlessly unafraid to ask why. She makes an excellent point in the opening quote: we often listen to respond. And when we respond from that place we're missing a lot of crucial information. It's hard to do but it's so important to take the risk to slow down, to ask why and to be a little bit more vulnerable with what you don't know - it's that inner willingness to face your blind spots that separates the best from the rest. We talk about the life experiences that taught her how to adapt her communication styles for diverse audiences, how she approaches talking with founders about triggering money topics, and we unpack some insights from her course on Business Modelling - how she helps founders turn their core understanding of their business into plain-English business math.  I particularly enjoyed Lauren's insights around reframing tough decisions not as losses but as opportunities. We unpacked how shutting down a "pet project" can be reframed not as a loss or a mistake but as a day one decision - ie, we made a choice and a decision one day with the information and the knowledge and insights that we had and today with different knowledge, different insights and different information we're making another decision. We linked this notion back to one of the key ideas in Annie Duke's classic "thinking in bets" - the idea of "resulting", or judging a decision based on its outcome. A good bet is one that a reasonable person with the amount of information we had would have made at that moment, not necessarily one that works out exactly as you'd hoped. And Lauren urges founders to start admiring business leaders who didn't just get lucky once…but ones who repeatedly make smart bets - and can explain why they made them. Strap in! We also unpack some common financial misconceptions, discuss how to be a founder whose advisors can help them, and we unpack some interesting case studies in strategic decision making. Lauren's on-the-fly explanation of some key financial assumptions was dizzying in the best way possible. Links https://www.laurenpearlconsulting.com/ https://www.laurenpearlconsulting.com/newsletter Thinking in Bets by Annie Duke - A Visual Summary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H49lFODYp7g Video Highlights Adapting your communication style on the fly - https://youtu.be/rWtSvkoMkiw The Founder Finance Gap: Managing Emotions and Unearthing Assumptions - https://youtu.be/Dfc8r9BBtyY Using Clear Language to define your Critical Business Math - https://youtu.be/l7oosTdqTLo Admiring Founders who make good bets repeatedly - https://youtu.be/cuwZIjW01TU

    58 min
  5. Join or Die: Behind the Scenes of Creative Collaboration

    05/22/2025

    Join or Die: Behind the Scenes of Creative Collaboration

    Get free chapters of my book, Good Talk, and master the art of conversations big and small: https://www.danielstillman.com/good-talk Please support the podcast! 💌 subscribe on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3QzcPAW 💌 iTunes: https://apple.co/4ifh6pb or with a monthly contribution here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-monthly one-time donation here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-once Check out the episode page for the full transcript and video highlights: https://theconversationfactory.com/podcast/join-or-die-behind-the-scenes-of-creative-collaboration Key Chapters 00:00 Growing Up Together: A Family Legacy 02:58 The Birth of a Documentary Idea 06:02 Navigating the Journey: Challenges and Growth 09:02 The Lens of Community: A New Perspective 12:01 Conflict and Collaboration: The Art of Working Together 14:54 The Long Haul: Commitment and Transformation 22:15 The Transformative Power of Art 24:13 Inner Growth Through Creative Confidence 26:32 Finding Hope in Community Engagement 29:56 The Long-Term Commitment to Projects 31:20 Community Screenings as a Tool for Connection 34:10 The Role of Community in Film Distribution 36:20 Best Practices for Effective Gatherings 45:34 Identifying Barriers to Community Engagement 48:15 Building Community Through Shared Activities 49:26 The Importance of Civic Engagement 54:52 Convenience vs. Community 01:00:22 Bridging Political Divides 01:05:38 Lessons from the Past for a Hopeful Future

    1h 16m
  6. Founder-Led Sales and Building Co-founder Relationships

    04/03/2025

    Founder-Led Sales and Building Co-founder Relationships

    Get free chapters of my book, Good Talk, and master the art of conversations big and small: https://www.danielstillman.com/good-talk Please support the podcast! 💌 subscribe on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3QzcPAW 💌 iTunes: https://apple.co/4ifh6pb or with a monthly contribution here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-monthly one-time donation here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-once Check out the episode page for the full transcript and video highlights. https://theconversationfactory.com/podcast/founder-led-sales-with-parallel-health-ceo-natalise-kalea-robinson We break down:  The Importance of Deep and Authentic Conversations and unpack how Natalise fosters honest and open conversations and has worked to build a company culture that reflects these values.  Intentional Co-founder Relationship Building: We talk about how Natalise and her co-founder, Nathan Brown, approached building a strong relationship intentionally by having regular in-depth conversations and retreats together in some of their favorite spots. She shares some of her favorite questions to bring into these co-founder conversations.  Founder-Led Sales and CEO as Science Translator: Both Natalise and her co-founder Nathan are actively involved in explaining their product to both investors and consumers. We talk about how she approaches adapting her message for different audiences, always striving to put the science ahead of marketing. Highlighting the Potential of Phage Therapy: We dive into some of the science behind phage therapy and its potential as a precise and sustainable alternative to antibiotics. The Value of Open Feedback and Continuous Evolution: Natalise encourages feedback from all levels within her company and believes that good ideas can come from anywhere. She also emphasizes the importance of ongoing communication and alignment between co-founders. Key Chapters 00:00 Exploring the Depth of Conversations 03:01 The Ambivert Spectrum: Understanding Social Dynamics 06:06 Creating Safe Spaces for Honest Conversations 09:01 Feedback Culture: The Art of Positive Feedback 11:57 Building Authentic Relationships in Business 14:57 The Journey of Co-Founders: Nathan and Natalise 21:01 Navigating Vulnerability in Professional Relationships 24:17 Navigating Co-Founder Relationships 30:14 The Art of Communication in Business 37:45 Understanding Phage Technology and Its Impact 46:02 Building Strong Co-Founder Foundations Links https://www.parallelhealth.io/ Parallel Health on TechCrunch: https://techcrunch.com/2023/09/20/parallel-health-takes-a-biotech-forward-approach-to-skincare-with-custom-phage-therapy/ Video Highlight Links 👀Giving Praise with powerful Specificity: https://youtube.com/shorts/5zwdVyJr_mc 👀Leaning into Difficult Cofounder Conversations: https://youtube.com/shorts/MjeDjSIUeDM 👀In Founder-Led Sales, the Marketing Serves the Science: https://youtube.com/shorts/fp6oKVhq-FQ

    54 min
  7. The Inner Work of Leadership with Carole Robin, PhD

    03/14/2025

    The Inner Work of Leadership with Carole Robin, PhD

    Master the art of conversations big and small - both inside yourself and in your teams and organization. Get free chapters of my book, Good Talk: https://www.danielstillman.com/good-talk Please support the podcast! 💌 Subscribe on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3QzcPAW 💌 iTunes: https://apple.co/4ifh6pb or with a monthly contribution here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-monthly or make a one-time donation here: https://bit.ly/support-tcf-once For the full transcript, video highlights, and more show links, check out the episode page here: https://theconversationfactory.com/podcast/the-inner-work-of-leadership-with-carole-robin-phd Every conversation - especially the hard ones - is an opportunity to learn more about yourself, to learn about another person and to learn about interpersonal dynamics - if you can set aside judgment and be open to curiosity. I'm SO excited to share this epic podcast conversation with the "queen of Touchy Feely" - Carole Robin, PhD. Carole taught the most popular elective at Stanford Graduate School of Business, Interpersonal Dynamics (mostly known affectionately as "Touchy Feely"!) for nearly 20 years and is co-author (with co-teacher David Bradford) of the excellent book Connect: Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends and Colleagues. She has a vast reserve of wisdom to share. We discuss the importance of navigating vulnerability and intentional connection as an essential leadership skill and unpack some of her most powerful principles of effective communication. We also talk about Carole's conversations with her own personal AI, trained on all of her past writings and course notes…and how it helped her evolve how she tells her own story! Building exceptional relationships is work that's done one conversation at a time. Carole's insights can help you unlock the potential in each conversation. Key Moments 00:00 The Art of Greeting with Interpersonal Dynamics in mind 03:00 AI and Personal Narratives: The Evolution of Carole's Story in collaboration with her personal AI 06:01 Leadership Lessons: Emotions in Business 09:06 Vulnerability vs. Strength: The Leadership Paradox 12:04 Transparency in Leadership: The Balance of Sharing 14:58 Strategic Authenticity: Navigating Vulnerability 18:01 True and Kind: The Principles of Effective Communication 20:50 The Importance of Self-Care for Leaders 21:59 Navigating Emotions in Leadership 23:49 Vulnerability and Authenticity in Leadership 30:07 Self-Management and Emotional Discipline 32:59 Curiosity as Leadership superpower 37:57 The Work of Building Relationships

    42 min
  8. Your Brain on Beautiful Conversations with Anjan Chatterjee

    02/26/2025

    Your Brain on Beautiful Conversations with Anjan Chatterjee

    Download free chapters from Good Talk and master the art of conversations big and small Please support the podcast by subscribing on Spotify or iTunes, making a monthly contribution here, or making a one-time donation here. Check out the episode post for the full transcript and video highlights. Dr. Anjan Chatterjee is a renowned professor and the founding Director of the Penn Center for Neuroaesthetics. He's a leading expert on how our brains perceive beauty and art, and author of an engaging book on this topic: "The Aesthetic Brain: How We Evolved to Desire Beauty and Enjoy Art" In this beautiful conversation, we explore: the intersection of beauty, conversation, and the human brain how our biological evolution has left us in a world that often feels disconnected from our innate ways of communicating the aesthetic qualities of conversations, the biases we hold toward beauty, and how cultural representations influence our perceptions the importance of awareness in mitigating biases how to embrace complex ideas, rather than simplify them Links Dr. Anjan Chatterjee and the Penn Center for Neuroaesthetics (PCfN) online PBS News Hour feature: 'Brains and Beauty' exhibit explores how the mind processes art and aesthetic experiences The PCfN 2024 Year in Review Dr. Anjan Chatterjee on Bluesky  The Aesthetic Brain: How We Evolved to Desire Beauty and Enjoy Art

    51 min
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Welcome to The Conversation Factory, where I investigate how to create change through changing conversations. Each episode I'll talk to an amazing conversation designer about how to Amplify, Shift or Transform conversations in Organizations, Teams, Communities and our own lives. Visit www.theconversationfactory.com where I distill these insights we can bring into our work and lives.

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