Better Than Best Podcast with Coach Red Wallace

Coach Red Wallace
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It’s hard to live your best life when you don’t have someone motivating you past being average. My podcast will challenge you to live the legacy you were created to leave. Every Monday you’ll find five minute motivational‘s that are guaranteed to help you conquer your Monday. Most importantly you will find yourself here, I believe art is a reflection of who we are and I hope you find what you looking for. Be sure to stay connected by hitting that subscribe button. If you like what you hear share it. Thanks for listening!

  1. 2d ago

    Don't Waste Your Hard Season Trying to Escape It!

    What if the frustration you're facing right now is revealing something God wants to develop in you?You pray to become a more patient father, a more loving husband, and a stronger man of faith. But what happens when life doesn't go according to plan?Maybe it's a career setback. Financial pressure. Tension in your marriage. Or a difficult season that seems to be taking longer than you expected.In this video, we're exploring what Saul's encounter with Jesus on the road to Damascus (Acts 9) can teach us about humility, surrender, and transformation.Because sometimes we're so focused on getting our circumstances back to normal that we miss the opportunity to grow in how we respond.We'll work through three questions:1. What is my response revealing?2. What am I trying to control that I need to surrender?3. What would a Christlike response look like right now?CHAPTERS:When daily disruptions hit, how do you respond? Learn how to turn frustration into an opportunity for spiritual growth.We often pray for patience or character, only to feel tested the moment our plans are interrupted. Whether it is your children interrupting or tension in your marriage, these moments are not just annoyances; they are the exact places where we practice our faith. This video explores how to move past the immediate urge to control your circumstances and instead focus on what God is developing in your heart.By looking at the story of Saul in Acts 9, we see how even a total change in direction can be a catalyst for transformation. We will work through practical questions to help you surrender the need for control and choose a Christlike response when life does not go as planned. If you are tired of letting your environment dictate your peace, this is for you.Take the Present Provider Assessment below to identify how you are showing up at home. Subscribe for weekly biblical encouragement on Christian fatherhood and leadership, and share in the comments: what is one area where you are learning to surrender control today?00:00 Disruption as Direction00:57 Abide Not Strive02:13 Waze and Trust04:32 Saul Interrupted06:52 Question One Heart Check10:43 Question Two Surrender Control13:34 Question Three Christlike Response15:19 Dependence and Community17:15 Challenge and Next Steps18:48 Final EncouragementI'll also share a practical exercise called "Mine to Do / Beyond My Control" to help you identify what you're responsible for and what you need to surrender to God.FREE RESOURCE: THE PRESENT PROVIDER ASSESSMENT: Is the pressure you're carrying affecting how you show up at home?Take the Present Provider Assessment to reflect on where you are as a husband and father and identify opportunities for growth.👉 https://forms.gle/YF3MTvdBnzFEkC8MASCRIPTURES REFERENCEDActs 9:1–22 — Saul's encounter with Jesus on the road to DamascusJames 1:2–5 — Perseverance, maturity, and asking God for wisdomJOIN THE CONVERSATIONWhat's one area of your life where you're learning to surrender control and trust God?Share your thoughts in the comments. Your experience might encourage another man walking through a similar season.Remember: You don't have to understand everything that's happening in your life to take the next faithful step.Don't become so focused on getting your life back to normal that you miss who God is calling you to become.#ChristianMen #ChristianFatherhood #TrustingGod

  2. Oct 9

    The Dangerous Side of Being the Strongest Man in the Room

    Being the strong one can feel like a gift.People trust you.They call you when something goes wrong.You carry responsibility.You figure things out.But there’s a dangerous side to becoming highly capable:Eventually, capability can become isolation.You can become so accustomed to being the person everyone needs that asking for help starts to feel threatening.And sometimes the man everybody depends on becomes the man nobody truly knows.In this video, I unpack why strong, responsible Christian men can struggle to receive help, why running your race alone can distort your perspective, and why you need people close enough to recognize when you’re moving too fast, too slow, or in the wrong direction.We’ll talk about:• Why self-reliance can disguise itself as strength • How fear can sound like discernment • How striving can look like faithfulness • The danger of running with the wrong people • What I mean by a “pacesetter” • Why Jesus never modeled isolated strength • How to identify someone who has earned permission to challenge you • The question every capable man needs to ask: “Who can tell me something I don’t want to hear and I’ll actually listen?”You still have to run your race.But faithfulness does not mean running it alone.If you’re a Christian husband or father who wants to provide well without sacrificing your faith, marriage, family, peace, or presence in the process, take the Present Provider Assessment below.👇 TAKE THE PRESENT PROVIDER ASSESSMENT https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScs_engMAPnET5YrDC-iXiwQKvfX8d2cjwwRZLHZQrkaPa9vQ/viewform?usp=dialogIt’ll help you identify where you’re strong, where you may be drifting, and where the gap between providing and being present may be showing up in your life.CHAPTERS:00:00 The Fall That Revealed Me01:04 Capability Turns Into Isolation02:02 Why You Need Pace Setters02:31 Running Alone Lies To You04:14 Wrong People Wrong Pace05:41 What A Pace Setter Does07:16 Why Strong Men Resist Help08:35 Jesus Modeled Dependence10:50 Who Qualifies As A Pace Setter12:18 Give Someone Permission13:16 Coaching Invite And Final ChargeI’m Red Wallace. I help Christian husbands and fathers become Present Providers: men who build meaningful lives, lead their families well, and stay present for what matters most.Self-reliance can disguise itself as strength. Learn why running your race alone is the biggest trap for high-achieving men.Being the one everyone depends on often leads to a dangerous kind of isolation. For many Christian men, the instinct to carry every burden alone is mistaken for faithfulness. But when you stop letting others close enough to challenge your direction, you lose the perspective needed to stay on the right path.True biblical manhood is not about enduring everything in silence. It is about recognizing that even the strongest leaders were never meant to operate without a community. We explore how to identify people who have earned the right to speak into your life and why you need them to help you stay present, grounded, and honest. This is the difference between isolated strength and the support you were meant to have.Subscribe for weekly guidance on faith and leadership, and take the assessment below to see if your self-reliance is costing you your peace.

  3. Oct 2

    Why You Can't Rest: 3 Traps Strong Men Fall Into

    Some men are exhausted because they've become really good at carrying.Join the Better Than Best Brotherhood:https://www.skool.com/better-than-best-academy-5909/aboutApply for the Redprint hot Seat Coaching: https://forms.gle/YYDG3Qsa8tQS6ELbAYou solve problems. You provide. You think ahead. You push through. People depend on you.Then responsibility starts turning into control. Learning keeps you from acting. Being needed gets tangled up with being valuable. You sit down to rest and immediately feel guilty because part of you still believes everything might fall apart if you stop moving.I've been confronting this in myself.In this video, we're talking about the dark side of being the strong one and how to recognize when a good strength has started costing you peace, presence, and the people closest to you.We'll get into:• carrying responsibility that was never yours • using activity to deal with uncertainty • trying to earn peace through progress • tying your value to achievement and usefulness • finding your identity in Christ while still working hard and taking responsibilityCHAPTERS:00:00 When Strength Hurts00:25 Muscle That Won't Release01:35 Strength Without Boundaries02:41 Capability Versus Calling03:36 Carry Or Put Down04:29 Trap Of More05:56 Consistency Over Intensity06:39 Count The Cost08:05 Productivity As Avoidance09:30 Faith Without Full Clarity11:24 Achievement As Identity13:27 Being Needed Trap14:54 Coaching Invitation16:20 Peace Through Progress17:29 Jesus Gives Rest19:10 Three Question Challenge20:33 True Strength Is Release21:04 Final EncouragementBefore the video ends, I want you to sit with these questions:What am I carrying that God never asked me to carry?What do I keep doing because it makes me feel more in control?If I stopped trying to prove myself for the next 30 days, what would change?Your family doesn't need you to carry everything.They need you present enough to know what matters.

  4. Sep 25

    If You’re Drowning, Reach for the Hand

    Some men don’t drown because nobody offered to help.They drown because they’re trying to look strong while swallowing water.You’re the one people depend on. You handle the pressure. You solve the problems. You carry the responsibility.But what happens when something becomes bigger than you know how to carry?For a lot of men, the answer is silence.We research more. Work harder. Pray vaguely. Delay the conversation. Convince ourselves we’re being patient, responsible, or strong… when underneath it all, fear may be making the decisions.In this video, we’re talking about what secrecy actually costs, why asking for help can feel so threatening, how to choose someone safe enough to tell the truth to, and exactly what to say when you don’t know how to start the conversation.I’ll also give you four sentences you can use when you finally sit down with someone:“Here’s what happened.”“Here’s what I’m afraid it means.”“Here’s what I’ve been doing to avoid it.”“Here’s the decision or conversation I need to face.”CHAPTERS:Real strength isn't pretending you're fine while you're drowning. Learn how to stop the cycle of silence in men's mental health.You carry the weight of responsibility, solve every problem, and handle the pressure. But secrecy has a cost. Many men internalize their struggles because we fear appearing weak, yet this silence often prevents us from finding the support we need. We must learn to move past the instinct to isolate ourselves when life gets heavy.Breaking the pattern of overcoming isolation requires choosing safe people to trust. I am sharing four specific sentences you can use to start a conversation when you feel overwhelmed. True strength looks like reaching for a hand that is already offered, and then turning around to become that support for another. Prioritizing asking for help is not a sign of failure; it is the path to becoming the strong men we are called to be.If you are looking for a place to have these honest conversations, join the Brotherhood below. Subscribe for more guidance on biblical manhood and character.00:00 Silent Drowning01:14 The Cost of Secrecy01:28 A Friend Opens Up02:44 Fear in the Dark04:32 Why Men Hide05:59 Built for Community06:52 Choose Safe People08:27 Send the Text09:05 Four Honest Sentences09:49 Clarity vs Trust10:42 When You Need Counseling11:11 Be the Hand12:39 One Simple Challenge13:24 Brotherhood Invitation13:52 Final EncouragementStrength isn’t pretending you’re fine while you’re drowning.Sometimes strength looks like reaching for the hand that’s already being offered.And once you’re standing again, turn around and become that hand for another man.If you’re looking for a place where men can have these kinds of honest conversations without performing, I’d love to invite you into the Better Than Best Brotherhood.👇 Join the Brotherhood here:https://www.skool.com/better-than-best-academy-5909/aboutNow let’s go live Better Than Best.#MensMentalHealth #ChristianMen #MensGrowth #Faith #Brotherhood #Leadership #Marriage #PersonalDevelopment

  5. Sep 18

    Why You Need to Stop Believing This Lie About Yourself

    What label have you been living under?Failure. Angry. Undisciplined. Fatherless. Addicted. Broken. Too far gone.Your past may explain parts of your story—but it does not have the authority to decide who you are.In this video, we look at John 1:45–46 and Nathanael’s question about Jesus: “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” One label almost caused him to dismiss what God was doing right in front of him.And we can do the same thing to ourselves.Maybe you’ve spent years allowing your family history, failures, wounds, sins, or reputation to become your identity. But there is a difference between acknowledging what happened and allowing what happened to name you.For the man who belongs to Christ, your identity is not something you earn through better performance. It is something you receive through grace—and then learn to walk out through obedience.In this video, I’ll give you a simple three-step process to begin breaking the labels you’ve been living under:1. Name it.2. Test it against the truth.3. Obey differently.Grace removes condemnation—but it does not remove responsibility.You don’t have to rebuild your entire life today. Take one act of obedience that agrees with the man God is calling you to become.If this message helped you, share it with another brother who needs to hear it.👇 Take the Present Provider Assessment below and discover where you are strong, where you may be drifting, and what your next step should be. https://forms.gle/95Q5bSdNHjLdgbkv8Subscribe for more biblical encouragement and practical guidance for becoming a present husband, father, leader, and man of God.Scriptures discussed:John 1:45–461 Corinthians 61 Peter 1#ChristianMen #IdentityInChrist #BiblicalManhood

  6. Sep 11

    I Got What I Prayed For… And Hated What It Cost Me

    What happens when you get exactly what you prayed for… and it makes you feel replaceable?For years, I was one of the people my church needed behind the drums. Then the team grew. New drummers came in. They got better. The ministry became healthier.And suddenly, they didn’t need me as much.That should have felt like success.Instead, it exposed something in me.I didn’t just enjoy being useful. Part of my identity had become attached to being needed.Maybe you know that feeling.You’re the provider.The fixer.The leader.The dependable one.The person everybody calls when something goes wrong.Those can all be good things—but what happens when your usefulness becomes the thing proving your worth?In this video, we’re talking about:• Why someone else’s growth can sometimes feel threatening• The difference between being needed, useful, wanted, and loved• How our identity can quietly become attached to our role• Why delegation and multiplication can expose insecurity• What John 15 and Ephesians 2 teach us about belonging and fruit• How to celebrate someone who gets the opportunity you wanted• Why losing a role doesn’t mean losing your worth• Three questions to help uncover where your identity has become tangled with what you doGod may reduce your role without reducing your worth.Your children becoming capable without you, someone you trained becoming better than you, or a team you built functioning without you doesn’t automatically mean you’ve become irrelevant.Sometimes, that’s what faithful leadership and legacy actually look like.You were created to bear fruit.You were never meant to make the fruit the root of who you are.👇 PRESENT PROVIDER ASSESSMENT:https://forms.gle/pixHy6AzSFiaPTFw8If this hit somewhere personal, tell me in the comments:“If they no longer needed me to __________, I’m afraid it would mean __________.”Let’s live faithful—not FOR identity, but FROM identity.Now go live better and best. Conquer this week. CHAPTERS: 00:00 Success That Hurts 01:37 Loving The Craft 02:19 When Growth Costs You 02:57 The Need To Be Needed 06:13 Identity Beyond Usefulness 06:55 Faith Abiding And Fruit 07:47 Legacy Not Replacement 10:01 Don’t Withdraw In Pride 11:00 Three Questions To Ask 12:50 Journal And Pray It Out 13:58 Calling Worth And Legacy 15:22 Assessment And Sendoff

  7. Sep 10

    The World is Training You to See Everything Wrong

    What have you trained yourself to look for? Right now, the world is very good at showing us what’s wrong. Broken families. Struggling kids. Failing marriages. Angry politics. Weak men. A divided Church. AI. Outrage. Fear. Bad news everywhere. The trash business is booming. But what if followers of Jesus are supposed to see differently? A gold miner doesn’t ignore the dirt. He simply knows the dirt isn’t all that’s there. In this episode of Better Than Best Academy, we’re talking about cynicism, hope, Psalm 139, spiritual refinement, parenting, marriage, men, and what happens when we ask God to teach us to see beneath the surface. “Search me, O God, and know my heart.” Before God teaches us to find the gold in other people, He starts digging in us. And when He does, it requires us to stay HOT: Humble.Open.Transparent. Speaking off apply for you chance to be in the HOT SEAT HERE: https://forms.gle/FHYgVqJGLown88dp7 Because we can’t ask God to refine us and then get offended by the temperature. My challenge for you this week is simple: Stop collecting trash. Choose one person—your spouse, your child, a friend, a student, a coworker, maybe even yourself—and ask God: “Show me the gold.” Then when you see it, call it out. The world can keep screaming that the sky is falling. We’ll keep digging. God is still working. And hope is still rising. 👇 QUESTION FOR YOU:Who is one person you need to start seeing differently this week? Subscribe to Better Than Best for conversations about faith, family, leadership, character, purpose, and becoming the man or woman God is calling you to become. CHAPTERS:00:00 Trash or Gold Mindset 01:57 Outrage Economy Trap 03:13 Training Your Focus 04:10 Instant Answers vs Truth 06:04 Search Me Prayer 07:30 Refining Fire Process 10:27 Mining Gold in Others 12:19 Calling Out the Gold 14:03 Hope That Endures 17:42 Challenge to Dig 18:40 Final Encouragement #BetterThanBest #ChristianMen #ChristianMotivation #Faith #Hope #PersonalGrowth #BiblicalWisdom #ChristianLiving

  8. Aug 28

    You Can’t Serve God and Money—Here’s What Jesus Meant

    What if your bank statement could reveal something about your relationship with God? In Luke 16:9–13, Jesus makes an uncomfortable connection between money, faithfulness, and worship. He doesn’t say you can’t have money and serve God. He says you cannot serve both God and money. So how do you know when money has stopped being a tool and started becoming your master? In this video, we walk through 3 tests that expose what money may be revealing about your heart: What are you asking money to give you?What happens when your money feels threatened?What are you doing with what God has already placed in your hands?We’ll also use the Redprint framework to help you recognize what money is exposing, reorganize the lies underneath it, rediscover what is true, rebuild your financial habits, and refine the way you steward what God has given you. Before this video ends, I’m going to challenge you to do something practical: open your real bank or credit card statement and look at the last seven days. Then finish this sentence: “My money shows me that I’ve been trusting ______.” This is not prosperity gospel. It’s not about believing that if you handle $100 correctly, God owes you $100,000. It’s about stewardship. Money can be a useful servant—but it was never designed to be your savior. If this challenged you, comment below: Which of the three tests exposed the most for you? Subscribe for more biblical teaching on spiritual formation, stewardship, faith, and becoming who God created you to be. ➡️ Steward To Last: https://www.youtube.com/@StewardtoLast➡️ Better Than Best Brotherhood: https://www.skool.com/better-than-best-academy-5909/about Scripture: Luke 16:9–13 #ChristianMoney #BiblicalStewardship #Luke16 #FaithAndFinances #ChristianLiving

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It’s hard to live your best life when you don’t have someone motivating you past being average. My podcast will challenge you to live the legacy you were created to leave. Every Monday you’ll find five minute motivational‘s that are guaranteed to help you conquer your Monday. Most importantly you will find yourself here, I believe art is a reflection of who we are and I hope you find what you looking for. Be sure to stay connected by hitting that subscribe button. If you like what you hear share it. Thanks for listening!

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