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All the Feelings, Season 11: Still Adulting—A Life-Long Course in Feeling Unprepared You know that moment when you look around and realize, Oh no… I’m the adult in this room? Maybe it’s when you pretend to understand tax brackets. Or when your back starts to hurt because you "slept." Or when you stand in the grocery store, staring at asparagus, wondering if you should be investing in heavy greens futures. Welcome to All the Feelings Season 10, where your able hosts, Tommy Metz III and Pete Wright, are going to tackle the unspoken truth of adulthood: nobody actually knows what they’re doing most of the time. This season, we’re diving into the emotional chaos of adulting—all the things that, by now, we should have mastered but somehow still make us feel like confused 12-year-olds wearing oversized suits. We’ll explore the existential panic of estate planning (Wills: Now Featuring Your Inevitable Mortality!), the sheer absurdity of socializing as a grown-up (Why Is Making Friends Harder Than Filing Taxes?), and the shame spiral of arguing (Yes, You Can Still Lose a Fight in Your 40s!). We’ll unpack civic duty, grief, apologizing, and the delicate balance of managing time without feeling like you’re constantly failing an invisible test. And of course, we’ll get real about the things that make adulthood straight-up weird: why is sleep suddenly a competitive sport? Why does gift-giving induce a full-blown identity crisis? And why does every conversation about homeownership involve so much sighing? This season, Pete and Tommy are back to do what they do best: explore the emotional absurdity of being human. Because if adulthood is just a long series of pop quizzes, we might as well laugh about it together.

  1. Wet Phone Summer

    Jun 2

    Wet Phone Summer

    Season 11 may be on hiatus, but Pete and Tommy have the audacity to show up anyway — because something happened at Denver International Airport that absolutely cannot wait until fall. Tommy arrived in New York City with everything he needed for a great trip, and then he didn't. The story involves a maintenance worker with a unique communication style, a rubber glove, and a level of IP water resistance certification that turns out to be more relevant to everyday life than one might expect. It's a tale of panic, improvisation, and the humiliation of writing someone's address on the back of a band-aid.Pete, meanwhile, has been quietly assembling a life on the outside of his house while the inside remains a work in progress. There are composite deck planks. There is outdoor furniture. There is a sectional. And somewhere out there, a cabinet renderer is looking at a completely different kitchen. Plus: Pete's been writing at a pace that suggests either something has clicked or something has broken, and either way, there are books coming.Before they let you go, Pete and Tommy have locked in the agenda for at least one of the remaining hiatus check-ins — starting with a blind tasting event that will require both significant financial investment and a willingness to find out what Pikachu tastes like. Everything is fine. Everything is coming up Feeling Friends.Of course, if you're listening to this episode in this public feed, you won't hear most of that. But if you visit allthefeelings.fun, and sign up to become a Feeling Friend, you get the works! --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    14 min
  2. Wishcycling, Shadow Calendars, and the Tyranny of Mums

    May 5

    Wishcycling, Shadow Calendars, and the Tyranny of Mums

    Season 11 closes with what Pete and Tommy insist is a whimper, which is how you know it is absolutely not a whimper. They handed each other their worst possible topics — trash and recycling for Tommy, seasonal stuff for Pete — and accidentally made an episode about deception, ancient biology, and a rhinoceros named Cacareco who won a 1959 São Paulo city council seat in a landslide.Tommy did, in his own words, "too much research" on recycling, which he now says as a warning. The chasing-arrows symbol is not what you think it is, the plastics industry has known since the eighties that none of this was going to work, and your Starbucks cup is currently booking a one-way flight to Senegal. Pete's seasonal-stuff segment begins with mums — the flower, not your mother — and lands somewhere near the claim that 84 genes in your body are in active dispute with late-stage capitalism about what time of year it is.Thanks for listening to Season 11. We'll be back. --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    51 min
  3. The Four-Hundred-Year Head Start on Feeling Better in Mind and Body

    Apr 28

    The Four-Hundred-Year Head Start on Feeling Better in Mind and Body

    Tommy opens with a conversation that didn't start as a therapy pitch — and became exactly that. Someone in his life has been white-knuckling a worsening anxiety spiral, armed with nothing but the very adult conviction that they should probably just handle it. Sound familiar? Tommy walks through what he told them: the case for therapy, the case for medication, and the analogy that reframes everything about why you take something "to feel better." He also surfaces the most important and least-discussed reason people avoid getting help — and it has nothing to do with stigma.Pete, meanwhile, has a confession. He is possibly inappropriately enthusiastic about surgery. Not in a Cronenberg way. In the way of a man who went to sleep with a gallbladder and woke up without one and has been genuinely awed about it ever since. This episode is his love letter to the laparoscopic revolution — six hundred thousand procedures a year, four tiny holes, and the medical equivalent of a hey-while-you're-in-there moment that changed the entire field within five years. He also has some thoughts on telesurgery, ultrasound beams that dissolve kidney stones without touching you, and what it says about adult trust that we will hand ourselves to strangers with robot arms and simply say: do your worst.Together, these segments make an argument the show has been circling all season: that adulthood is mostly accepting help you didn't know you needed, from systems you don't entirely understand, built by people who failed spectacularly for centuries before they got it right. Whether you're staring down a panic attack or a surgical consent form, the move is the same — stop trying to fix it with dirt, and let someone who practiced on a cadaver take a look.Pete also has feelings about pig kidneys. Big feelings. Feeling Friends feelings. --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    43 min
  4. The Gift of Dentistry

    Apr 21

    The Gift of Dentistry

    If you have ever stood in a store paralyzed over whether the candle is enough, whether the wine communicates something terrible about how little you care, whether showing up without something is worse than showing up with the wrong thing: there is a name for that. Tommy found it. Dr. Melissa Colt calls it trauma-based giving, which is the clinical way of saying you are not choosing a gift so much as you are paying a ransom.Pete's dentist, when Pete was a kid, gave him more metal fillings than any child with freshly grown adult teeth could possibly need. Every visit, something new to fill. It was, as Pete now recognizes, a textbook case of dental overtreatment. He responded the way anyone would: he avoided dentists entirely for the next seventeen years. --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    42 min
  5. The Dog Never Updated the Terms of Service

    Apr 14

    The Dog Never Updated the Terms of Service

    Pete was a true believer. ICQ. AIM. Friendster. MySpace. A Twitter ID below four thousand. He didn't just use the early social web — he helped build it, one weird forum and one enthusiastic post at a time. And then, somewhere between the algorithmic timeline and the fourteenth terms-of-service update, something got taken. Cory Doctorow has a word for what happened. Pete has feelings about it. This is that conversation.The thing about pet influencers is that they shouldn't work. The $24 billion pet influencer industry — a phrase that should not exist — is built entirely on content created by creatures who cannot consent, cannot read the comments, and are legally classified as property in most jurisdictions. And yet. Science has thoughts on why this is, and Pete has thoughts on what it says about everything we built on the internet and watched get taken apart. The dog, it turns out, never updated the terms of service.Tommy is here to make the affirmative case: pets are genuinely, measurably, peer-reviewedly good for you. He also has an origin story for his dog Foster that involves July 4th, a rescue organization, three rules he broke immediately, and what the scientific community refers to as a "foster failure." Pete's dog Gambit has a headcanon that is both extremely funny and, per Pete, incredibly derogatory. Both dogs are excellent. --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    58 min

  6. Apr 7

    The Surprisingly Good News About Your Feeble Human Brain

    Here is something that should make you briefly furious: the reason so many adults stop trying new things — stop picking up instruments and languages and crafts, stop putting themselves in positions of gorgeous, humbling incompetence — is not laziness, and it is not age. It is a scientific consensus that was overturned decades ago and somehow never sent you notice.Pete brings some brain stuff. Tommy brings some hobbies. And together they make a case that two of the most underrated things an adult can do are: willingly be terrible at something new, and stop apologizing for what you do in your free time.Pete's side will change the way you talk to yourself about your own brain. Tommy's side will make you want to immediately go do something completely unnecessary and slightly obsessive. The Feeling Friends segment involves lemon juice, a Polaroid camera, and the birth of an entire field of psychology.Press play. You've got time. --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    56 min

  7. Mar 31

    Fax for Drugs

    At some point in your adult life — somewhere between your first real prescription and the moment you quietly acquired a weekly pill organizer — you became a person with opinions about pharmacies. Strong ones. Opinions forged in the specific purgatory of an insurance pre-authorization, a fax machine that exists for reasons no one can explain, and a pharmacist who is simultaneously the most important person in your life and the person you are least willing to actually speak to. Pete is currently living inside this system, and he has questions.This week, Pete digs into why so many people with chronic conditions don't take the medications they've been prescribed — and the answer involves your body actively deceiving you, the emotional weight of swallowing a pill that means admitting something is wrong, and a healthcare system that was never actually designed with you in mind. Tommy, meanwhile, takes the other side of the problem: what happens when medicine overcorrects, when the pills start piling up, and when someone finally asks whether you actually need all of them. He arrives at this topic via some formative pharmaceutical history that spans elementary school, a diagnosis at thirty that his dermatologist called "the nuclear option," and a period of his life during which he was, technically, an international drug smuggler.Two segments. One topic. A combined lifetime of pharmaceutical anxiety that might, finally, make you feel a little less alone about yours. --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    43 min

  8. Mar 24

    The Evacuation Slide Theory of Career Development

    Nobody told you that your job title was quietly becoming your personality. Or that the moment you started thinking about leaving, you weren't just weighing pros and cons — you were grieving.This week, Pete and Tommy tackle the twin anxieties of work-life balance and quitting your job: two topics that sound like HR seminar titles but turn out to be about identity, mortality, and the specific pain of realizing you've been earning SMILES program letters instead of a raise.Tommy revisits his brief, glorious, and deeply instructive tenure at MOOVies — a cow-themed children's video store that pivoted to softcore pornography and never updated the signage — as a case study in what happens when you try to reclaim your life by taking a step sideways into something worse. Pete unpacks what psychologists James Marcia and Erik Erikson called "identity foreclosure": the unsettling discovery that leaving a job means evicting a self you didn't realize you'd moved in. And yes, there are five types of quitting. You already know which one you are.Plus: the Great Resignation by the numbers, a taxonomy of modern exits from the quiet fade to the loyalty trap, and the story of JetBlue flight attendant Steven Slater — a man who grabbed two beers and became, briefly, America's most relatable employee. --- Learn more about supporting this podcast by becoming a member. Visit allthefeelings.fum/join to learn more!

    49 min
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All the Feelings, Season 11: Still Adulting—A Life-Long Course in Feeling Unprepared You know that moment when you look around and realize, Oh no… I’m the adult in this room? Maybe it’s when you pretend to understand tax brackets. Or when your back starts to hurt because you "slept." Or when you stand in the grocery store, staring at asparagus, wondering if you should be investing in heavy greens futures. Welcome to All the Feelings Season 10, where your able hosts, Tommy Metz III and Pete Wright, are going to tackle the unspoken truth of adulthood: nobody actually knows what they’re doing most of the time. This season, we’re diving into the emotional chaos of adulting—all the things that, by now, we should have mastered but somehow still make us feel like confused 12-year-olds wearing oversized suits. We’ll explore the existential panic of estate planning (Wills: Now Featuring Your Inevitable Mortality!), the sheer absurdity of socializing as a grown-up (Why Is Making Friends Harder Than Filing Taxes?), and the shame spiral of arguing (Yes, You Can Still Lose a Fight in Your 40s!). We’ll unpack civic duty, grief, apologizing, and the delicate balance of managing time without feeling like you’re constantly failing an invisible test. And of course, we’ll get real about the things that make adulthood straight-up weird: why is sleep suddenly a competitive sport? Why does gift-giving induce a full-blown identity crisis? And why does every conversation about homeownership involve so much sighing? This season, Pete and Tommy are back to do what they do best: explore the emotional absurdity of being human. Because if adulthood is just a long series of pop quizzes, we might as well laugh about it together.

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