The Dope Black Chick

Kimberly Spidle
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The Dope Black Chick Podcast is a bold, unfiltered space for Black women over 40 navigating faith, mindset shifts, and life transitions. Hosted by Kimberly, this show dives deep into self-discovery, personal growth, and embracing a soft life with confidence and ease. Whether you're starting over, leveling up, or learning to let go, each episode delivers real talk, inspiration, and soul work to help you thrive in your next chapter. 🎧 Listen, grow, and reclaim your power! #MindsetShift #WomenOver40 #TheDopeBlackChick

  1. 12h ago

    Why Do You Want What You Want? | How to Discover What You Really Want in Life

    How do you know if the life you're chasing is actually the life you want? If you've been searching for your purpose, trying to find clarity, wondering what you really want in life, or working toward intentional living, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Dope Black Chick Podcast, Kimberly A. Spidle explores one of the most important questions you'll ever ask yourself: Why do you want what you want? Sometimes we think we want more money. A promotion. A relationship. A business. A new beginning. But often, those aren't the real desires. They're simply the vehicle for something much deeper. Inspired by the teachings of Ask and It Is Given, Kimberly unpacks how discovering the thing beneath the thing can transform the way you make decisions, pursue goals, and create a life that feels aligned instead of performative. ✔️ How to discover what you really want in life ✔️ Why finding your purpose starts with understanding your true desires ✔️ The hidden emotions driving your biggest goals ✔️ How intentional living creates greater peace and fulfillment ✔️ Why chasing success doesn't always create happiness ✔️ The difference between external achievement and internal alignment ✔️ How self-awareness changes the way you make decisions This episode is perfect if you're searching for: finding your purposehow to find your passionintentional livingpersonal growthself-discoverycreating a life you lovefinding yourself againmindset shiftsemotional healingpurpose-driven livingAsk and It Is GivenAbraham Hickslife alignmentBlack women personal developmentResources Mentioned:📖 Ask and It Is Given by Esther & Jerry Hicks If today's conversation resonated with you, download my free Come Back to Yourself: 5-Day Reset and begin reconnecting with who you are—one intentional step at a time. https://bit.ly/comebacktoyourself5 🎙️ If this episode encouraged you, follow The Dope Black Chick Podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop chasing what they think they should want and start discovering what truly aligns with who they are.

  2. Jul 8

    You Don't Have to Stay Consistent. You Just Have to Come Back. | Returning to Yourself After Grief, Loss & Life Changes

    In this episode, Kimberly A. Spidle shares her heartfelt journey of navigating loss, grief, and the importance of embracing pauses in life and business. She offers practical insights on how to trust the process, remain consistent through seasons of change, and come back stronger. Key Topics: The significance of understanding life's seasons and natural rhythmsRethinking traditional notions of consistency and pausesThe power of allowing and trusting in life's transition processesHow grief and reflection foster creativity and growthPractical tools: the Come Back to Yourself five-day resetThe importance of self-compassion during challenging seasonsHow to return to yourself without guilt or shameThe role of faith, energy, and trust in navigating transitionsInsights from the book Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry HicksStories of support, love, and resilience within family and business Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Kimberly shares her recent life updates and why she paused 02:11 - Embracing peace in difficult times and shifting perspectives on consistency 03:36 - The misconception of constant productivity and natural seasons of growth 06:29 - Redefining consistency: trees, tides, and heartbeat as examples of rhythm 08:25 - The importance of taking pauses without guilt or shame 09:53 - Recognizing that coming back is part of true consistency 11:14 - Insights from Ask and It Is Given on grief, transition, and allowing 12:43 - The power of allowing vs. forcing in life's transitions 14:36 - Trusting the process: energy, transition, and your place in life’s rhythm 16:31 - When you realize you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be 17:29 - The creative power of grief, reflection, and silence 18:38 - Movie recommendation: Everything Everywhere All at Once 20:47 - Invitation to the Come Back to Yourself five-day reset 21:15 - Encouragement: You can always return, and consistency is understanding who you are 22:27 - Final thoughts: Be gentle with yourself and honor your season of pause 23:02 - Closing words: Coming back to yourself is always worth it Resources & Links: Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks⁠⁠Come Back to Yourself Five-Day Reset⁠⁠Celebration Spiritual Center⁠ Connect with Kimberly: Instagram⁠⁠Website⁠

    You Don't Have to Stay Consistent. You Just Have to Come Back. | Returning to Yourself After Grief, Loss & Life Changes

  3. May 27

    The Cost of Silence: Myesha Chaney on Marriage, Identity, and Becoming

    What happens when you build a life that looks like everything — and still lose yourself inside it? In Episode 710, Kimberly sits down with Myesha Chaney, author of the memoir Honest, for a raw and grounded conversation about identity loss in marriage, the quiet cost of silence, and what it takes to finally tell yourself the truth. This one is for every woman who has been performing her life instead of living it. SHOW NOTES: In this conversation we talk about: What it feels like to lose an identity you built your whole life aroundThe moment she realized who she had been was no longer who she wasWhat nobody tells you about rebuilding after everything falls apartWhat silence actually costs us — and what telling the truth can set freeThis episode is for the woman who has been performing okay. The one who built the right life and still feels like something is missing. The one who is ready to come home to herself. Links mentioned in this episode: Myesha Chaney's memoir "Honest" → https://amzn.to/4upMjfDMyesha's website → https://www.myeshachaney.com/Myesha's Instagram → @myeshachaneyJoin the Come Back to Yourself Reset (FREE 5-day email reset) → bit.ly/comebacktoyourself5The Becoming Circle → https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlistThe Dope Black Chick on Instagram → @thedopeblackchickEpisode Tags: mental health, identity, Black women, healing, divorce, rebuilding, memoir, faith, becoming, self-discovery

  4. May 13

    The Most Dangerous Thing a Black Woman Can Do Is Heal | Black Women, Mental Health & Reclaiming Your Power

    This Mental Health Awareness Month, we're not recounting the weight. You already know the weight. This episode is about what becomes possible when you heal. Because here's what I've come to understand — a Black woman who knows she is enough, who is no longer available to shrink, perform, or seek validation from a world that was never going to give it anyway — that woman is dangerous. In the best possible way. In this episode, we're having the conversation that goes deeper than survival. We're talking about healing as reclamation. As power. As the most radical thing a Black woman can do in a world that profits from her exhaustion. I'm also sharing something personal — a realization that honestly rearranged me. That the self-sufficiency I once saw as a flaw was actually the fullest expression of who I am. That I was never lacking anything. I just hadn't healed enough yet to trust what was already inside me. When that shifts — when you stop seeking from a place of lack and start attracting from a place of overflow — everything changes. This episode is for the woman who is tired of being strong for everyone else. The one who has been seeking something she couldn't name. The one who is ready to stop managing her power and start moving in it. You were never the problem. You were always the power. What we cover in this episode: Why the world has a vested interest in Black women staying exhaustedHow healing gives you back the truth about who you always wereWhy self-sufficiency isn't loneliness — it's wholenessThe shift from seeking to attracting — and what changes when you make itWhat it means to be so rooted in yourself that nothing external can shake itThis episode is for you if:You're done surviving and ready to reclaim. You've been performing strength for so long you've forgotten what it feels like to just be. Or you're on the other side of your healing and finally starting to understand what it unlocked. Ready to go deeper? The Becoming Circle membership is where women doing this exact work come together — not to be fixed, but to be fully seen and fully unleashed. Click HERE. Connect with Kimberly:www.thedopeblackchick.com IG: @thedopeblackchick Email: hello@thedopeblackchick.com

    The Most Dangerous Thing a Black Woman Can Do Is Heal | Black Women, Mental Health & Reclaiming Your Power

  5. Apr 29

    You’re Bruised But Not Broken | How to Keep Going When Life Hits Hard

    This is a Rewind. And it's intentional. Episode 61 — "Bruised But Not Broken" — was first released in January 2020. But the revelation at the center of it doesn't have an expiration date. In this episode, Isis shares a word she received from the Creator: Nothing I've ever made has broken. Not bent. Not damaged. Broken. In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're bringing this one back — because some truths need to be heard more than once. If you're in the middle of a hard season right now, this episode is for you. New to the show? This is a great place to start. 🔗 Ready to do the work?The Becoming Circle is a membership community for women navigating identity, healing, and becoming. This is your safe space to just be: https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlist/

    You’re Bruised But Not Broken | How to Keep Going When Life Hits Hard

  6. Apr 15

    Who Are You Without the Title? | Identity Crisis, Career Loss & Finding Yourself Again

    You did everything right. You built the career. You earned the title. You showed up, performed, and proved yourself — over and over again. And then one day, the structure was gone. Maybe you left. Maybe they left you. Maybe it happened so gradually you didn't notice until the silence hit. And in that silence came the question nobody warned you about: Who are you when the title is gone? In this episode, we're sitting with the identity loss that follows a corporate exit — the grief that doesn't make sense, the disorientation of losing a structure that was quietly holding your sense of self together, and the deeper truth underneath all of it. Because here's what I've come to understand: proving is what we do when we don't fully believe what God said about us. Corporate gave us a stage. A way to earn, perform, and demonstrate our worth. But you can spend an entire career proving something you were already given. And when the stage disappears? You find out real fast whether your identity was built on something solid — or something that could be taken away with a reorg. This episode also gets honest about the tension between the comfortable life and the called life — because a lot of us built something good and still felt the pull of something more aligned. Something that fit the actual us, not the version we performed for twenty years. The becoming that follows an exit isn't a crisis. It's an invitation. And this conversation is for every woman in that in-between — whether you just walked out, got let go, or you're still in it and already unraveling on the inside. You are not behind. You are not broken. You are becoming. What we cover in this episode: Why identity loss after a corporate exit hits harder than anyone warns youWhat proving really reveals about what we believe about ourselvesThe difference between the comfortable life and the called life — and the grief of choosing between themWhy the unraveling isn't the problem — it's the portalHow becoming is an arrival, not a crisisThis episode is for you if:You've recently left corporate — or been let go — and you're still trying to figure out who you are without the title. Or you're still in it, and something inside you is already shifting. Connect with Kimberly and the Dope Black Chick community:Becoming Membership: https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlist/ Instagram: @thedopeblackchick

  7. Apr 1

    It’s On You to Trust Yourself | The Permission Slip You’ve Been Waiting For

    The permission slip you've been waiting for? Nobody's bringing it to you. And this episode is about why. If you already know what you need to do — let go, rest, stop holding everything together — but you still can't make yourself do it, this isn't about information. It's about identity. You've been the strong one for so long that stopping feels like a betrayal. Of yourself. Of everyone counting on you. In this episode, we get honest about the gap between knowing and doing. We talk about how strength becomes a cage, why we've been conditioned to wait for outside permission, and what it actually looks like to surrender — not as a collapse, but as a choice. If you've been carrying something you were never meant to carry alone, this one is for you.

  8. Mar 6

    I'm Tired of Performing My Life

    In this episode of The Dope Black Chick Podcast, I’m getting honest about something many of us are feeling but rarely say out loud: the exhaustion of performative living. For years we’ve been told to optimize everything. Optimize your content. Optimize your brand. Optimize your life. But somewhere along the way… life started to feel like a performance. As a strategist and storyteller, I understand the value of intention and planning. But lately I’ve been asking a deeper question: What happens when strategy replaces authenticity? What happens when you stop living… and start performing? This conversation explores: • The pressure to perform in the age of algorithms • How social media turned self-expression into optimization • Why even strategic people get tired of strategizing • The difference between authentic living and performative culture • Returning to the joy of creating, sharing, and connecting This episode is a reset. Not a rejection of strategy — but a reminder that your life is not a marketing plan. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stop performing and start living. If you’ve ever felt like you’re curating your life instead of experiencing it… this conversation is for you.

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The Dope Black Chick Podcast is a bold, unfiltered space for Black women over 40 navigating faith, mindset shifts, and life transitions. Hosted by Kimberly, this show dives deep into self-discovery, personal growth, and embracing a soft life with confidence and ease. Whether you're starting over, leveling up, or learning to let go, each episode delivers real talk, inspiration, and soul work to help you thrive in your next chapter. 🎧 Listen, grow, and reclaim your power! #MindsetShift #WomenOver40 #TheDopeBlackChick

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  • Creator
    Kimberly Spidle
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    136
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Kimberly Spidle
  • Show Website
    The Dope Black Chick