Hearts Entwined Podcast

Lyn Smith

Love, Dating & Relationship support, guidance, advice and tips with Lyn Smith – The Queen of HEARTS. Lyn cares and personally understands what it’s like to have suffered sexual violence (in her teens) and how that negatively affected her personal relationships; she subsequently turned all that around and now has a lasting healthy relationship which is full of passion, intimacy and fulfilment. If you’ve ever had: *Unhealthy relationships full of drama and conflicts *Unfulfilling relationships where there has been little or no passion or *Real healthy passion in a relationship and want to know how you can you re-ignite the flame Lyn’s been there and is here to help you heal past hurts, traumas and heartbreak and attract/ create the healthy deep loving relationship you truly want and deserve. She’s on a mission to make a positive global impact in reducing divorce, domestic violence & suicide. So if you want real, healthy passion, intimacy and fulfilment in your love life and are open to listening to the wisdom of some controversial truths about relationships delivered in Lyn’s easy to understand – makes a lot of sense – style, then we invite you to listen the 'HEARTS Entwined’ podcast….

  1. 2d ago

    What If Chemistry Hides Familiar Pain? with Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides

    Lyn is joined by psychologist Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides to examine the psychological undercurrents of intense romantic attraction. Drawing on decades of developmental attachment research and clinical practice, Dr. Lukeides unpacks how early childhood caregiving dynamics shape adult partnership choices, often driving people to mistake the familiar friction of past emotional wounds for true romantic sparks. The discussion explores the push-and-pull between anxious and avoidant attachment styles, provides practical insight into breaking unconscious relationship cycles, and emphasises why identifying the exact dynamic you want day-to-day matters far more than obsessing over surface-level traits. KEY TAKEAWAYS Attachment styles formed between infants and primary caregivers track longitudinally into adulthood, deeply shaping how individuals select and relate to romantic partners. People with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles are routinely drawn to one another, sparking an intense cycle of mutual attraction followed by repulsion. Intense "chemistry" is often an unconscious attempt to re-enact and resolve unmet emotional needs or unavailable dynamics experienced in childhood. Choosing a healthy long-term partnership requires focusing on the daily operational dynamic of the relationship rather than relying solely on charismatic traits or reactive passions. BEST MOMENTS "It very much reminded me of what Freud would say about relationships, which is that we repeat to repair." "If I think I'm the problem, then I'm the red flag—I'm just going to try and make myself green and work on myself, which means that I'm not actually constructing the boundaries." "Even if you win... you're reinforcing that yes, it was your fault. So even mastery is a loss here." "Love yourselves as if your life depends on it, because it does." ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    What If Chemistry Hides Familiar Pain? with Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides
  2. Sep 3

    Couples Therapy: Navigating Conflict, Infidelity & Healthy Communication - Lyn Smith & Keith Jordan

    Lyn sits down with licensed clinical social worker and couples therapist Keith Jordan to explore what it truly takes to reconcile and sustain romantic partnerships. Drawing on four decades of mental health experience, Keith breaks down common relationship pitfalls—from communication breakdowns and infidelity to escalating retaliations—and offers actionable strategies to diffuse tension before it completely destroys trust.  Together, they unpack why active listening must replace defensiveness, how setting personal boundaries differs from controlling your partner, and why shedding rigid "shoulds" opens the door to genuine emotional growth. KEY TAKEAWAYS True active listening requires giving your partner full, uninterrupted attention rather than formulating a mental rebuttal while they speak. Establishing boundaries should focus on identifying and expressing your own core needs rather than attempting to dictate what your partner should or should not do. Take turns speaking/ listening - limit to 60 seconds to prevent overwhelming monologues which allows each partner to clarify meaning rather than make defensive assumptions. Overcoming defensiveness begins when individuals realise that conflicts are not an attack on their character, instead it's opening the door for constructive problem-solving over blame. BEST MOMENTS "Listen to what they're saying from their point of view rather than preparing your rebuttal to what they're saying."  "A lot of argument... happens even though people are actually in agreement, but they don't realise that they are."  "Defensiveness often is... a reaction based on the person trying to assert that they're a good person, as if they're being accused of not being the right kind of person..."  "Concepts of what how things should be, you know, the world doesn't really operate according to should. It's a man-made construct, it's not really a spiritual concept at all." ABOUT THE GUEST - Keith Jordan - Licensed Clinical Social Worker Keith Jordan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 40 years of experience in psychotherapy, relationship counseling, and trauma-informed mental health care. Throughout his career, he has worked extensively with individuals and couples navigating trauma, emotional disconnection, intimacy challenges, and relationship repair. Websites: Private practice https://www.keithjordanlcsw.com/ Resources for couples therapists https://www.ctadeliveryllc.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    Couples Therapy: Navigating Conflict, Infidelity & Healthy Communication - Lyn Smith & Keith Jordan
  3. Jul 23

    When Does Attraction Become An Unhealthy Trap? - Lyn Smith & Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards

    Lyn welcomes spiritual counsellor Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards to discuss his deeply personal book, The Venus Flytrap. Stephen opens up about his journey through a tumultuous three-year relationship with a beautiful yet manipulative partner, exploring how even experienced relationship experts can attract/ fall into toxic dynamics when weakened by burnout or unresolved past trauma. Rather than viewing himself as a victim, Stephen shares how shifting his mindset to see every challenge as a mirror, allowed him to release unhealthy attachments, heal childhood patterns, and embrace true vulnerability as a pathway to emotional freedom. KEY TAKEAWAYS Toxic relationships often stem from underlying childhood patterns rather than simple relationship issues. Unhealthy attachments occur when we confuse external items or relationships with our personal identity. Viewing difficult experiences as happening for us rather than to us prevents us from adopting a victim mindset. True power and emotional freedom come from being vulnerable and releasing the fear of what others think. BEST MOMENTS "You don't have a relationship problem, you have a pattern problem."  "Everything is a mirror... She was mirroring back to me pieces of myself that I'd given away over the course of my life or I hadn't embraced or hadn't accepted as part of myself, so that I could heal them."  "When you're attached, you think it's part of who you are—that it's part of your identity."  "Vulnerable is a power, not something to fear, because when you can be vulnerable... it gives you freedom that you can't get any other way." ABOUT THE GUEST - Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards is an international speaker, author, and spiritual counselor with a PhD in Spiritual Counseling. Originally from Blackpool, UK, and now based in Florida, he combines decades of business experience with expertise in personal transformation and emotional growth. Author of The Venus Fly Trap, a raw memoir exploring power, obsession, vulnerability, and reinvention, Dr. Edwards draws on his own journey from high-pressure business success, heartbreak, and identity collapse to guide others toward self-awareness, authenticity, and alignment of mind, body, and spirit. Today, he helps individuals break destructive patterns, rebuild self-worth, and live with clarity and purpose, inspiring audiences to embrace truth, confront discomfort, and reclaim their authentic selves. Website: https://vft23.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_sapereaude/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seemiracles/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vft23_official?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61575468609762X: https://x.com/Stephen_Edwardz ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    When Does Attraction Become An Unhealthy Trap? - Lyn Smith & Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards
  4. Jun 25

    Feeling Disconnected: How To Reconnect & Achieve Personal Fulfillment - Lyn Smith & Nancy Ho

    Lyn sits down with transformation coach and life strategist Nancy Ho to unpack the mysterious "inner void"—that heavy, unfulfilling numbness that high achievers often experience even when life looks great on the outside. Nancy shares how this loss of zest is rarely tied to a single adult event, but is instead a slow buildup rooted in subtle childhood misunderstandings and subconscious perceptions. Through a fascinating deep-dive process combining conversation and hypnotherapy, Nancy explains how bringing the conscious and subconscious minds together can clear up these inner miscommunications, allowing listeners to rewrite their self-beliefs, embrace their natural emotions, and safely navigate grief, vulnerability, and transformation. KEY TAKEAWAYS Unfulfillment and low energy are often the result of a slow emotional buildup over time rather than a single negative adult event. The root cause of adult imposter syndrome or an inner void usually stems from the way we subjectively interpreted events or comparisons during our childhood. True healing occurs when the conscious and subconscious minds align to clear up deep-seated emotional miscommunications. Moving forward effectively requires redefining our habits and learning to accept natural human emotions, like grief and vulnerability, without dwelling on them. BEST MOMENTS "They are waking up to just something’s not right and they can’t even put their finger there... it’s like our pulse is more or less starting to flatline rather than beat in a good, healthy rhythm." "Whatever happened as an adult is a trigger. It’s not the cause of it. The root cause is usually as a child... it doesn't mean that we have to come from a violent or bad childhood." "People don’t always remember what we say, but they always remember how they feel... similarly, this subconscious-conscious thing is how we feel about ourselves." "Stop focusing on things we cannot control, and focus on the things we can control... control what we can control, don’t try to control what we cannot control." ABOUT THE GUEST - Nancy Ho - Author & Transformative Coach Nancy Ho is an internationally recognized thought leader on “The Paradox of Success” who has spent 26 years helping more than 10,000 high achieving professionals navigate the hidden burdens of success and reconnect with their personal fulfilment. Website - https://www.nancyho.co ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    Feeling Disconnected: How To Reconnect & Achieve Personal Fulfillment - Lyn Smith & Nancy Ho
  5. Jun 11

    Finding Flow: From Survival to Abundance - Lyn Smith & Christy Whitman

    Lyn talks to spiritual teacher and best-selling author Christy Whitman to explore the transformational journey from survival to fulfillment.  Christy shares her personal awakening from depression to spiritual clarity, unpacking how hidden, repetitive negative thoughts dictate our reality. Together, they discuss the dynamics of energy flow, providing listeners with practical, somatic tools such as head-and-neck release and visualisation exercises, to dissolve the cycles of fear, lack, worry and doubt, and ultimately tune into a sustainable energy of gratitude and abundance. KEY TAKEAWAYS Moving out of survival mode requires acknowledging that negative thoughts are not absolute truths, but rather malleable energies that we have the power to stop and transform. Our bodies possess an energetic valve at the base of the head and spine that, when consciously released, can instantly soothe the nervous system and clear stress out of the body. Authentic abundance cannot be faked with disconnected positive affirmations; instead, it is built incrementally by leaning into realistic, better-feeling thoughts that slowly positively shift our self-identity. Cultivating a constant, daily dialogue of gratitude for what is present in the "now" is the most direct pathway to matching the universal energy frequency of a consistant flow state. BEST MOMENTS "You create your own reality... You’re either repelling things from you or attracting things to you based on the way you think."  "We're either thinking thoughts of what we want, which feel expansive and life-giving... or we're thinking thoughts of lack or limitation that are constrictive and restrictive."  "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, that's why today is called the present because it's a gift."  "We all think that, 'Oh, when in the future I have this, then I'll feel ...,' and we're projecting and postponing our life force energy out into the future when the only place and only time we can ever feel is in our now." ABOUT THE GUEST - Christy Whitman - Spiritual Teacher/ Author 2 x NYT bestselling author of The Flow Factor: How to Master Your Energy and Enter a State of Flow. Website - https://www.watchyourwords.com ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    Finding Flow: From Survival to Abundance - Lyn Smith & Christy Whitman
  6. May 28

    Desires: Resolving The Differences Between Men & Women - Lyn Smith & Fran Frye

    Lyn sits down with sex counselor Fran Frye to dismantle the common misconceptions surrounding male and female sexual desires. Drawing from her personal journey as a rape survivor turned advocate, Fran offers a profound look into the world of problematic sexual behaviours and the distinct frameworks of spontaneous desire versus responsive desire. KEY TAKEAWAYS Men more frequently experience spontaneous desire (instantly ready out of the blue), while women often experience responsive desire, which requires warmth, curiosity, and lead-up to activate. A vital piece of anatomical education is that vaginal lubrication is a natural physiological preparation for penetration, but it does not automatically mean a woman is psychologically turned on or ready for sex. To combat boredom and explore novelty safely, couples can utilise a "yes, no, maybe" list online or via social media to find creative, mutually comfortable ways to connect/ spice things up. Rather than viewing it as a mere tool for performance, men naturally seek emotional connection through their sexuality; understanding the erotic nervous system is crucial for male emotional regulation and well-being. BEST MOMENTS "We are not dildos. We aren't meant to just be erect and expected to be ready to quote-on-quote perform. There is some lead-up and connection that is required." "Women often find themselves bored in sex faster than men do... I find that it’s the sex that they're having is what they're bored with." "A regulated man is safer than any weapon we sell in the name of protection, and I find that sex and regulation is very important to the betterment of men." "Communication is lubrication." ABOUT THE GUEST - Fran Frye – Sex Educator, Counsellor & Clinician Fran Frye focus's on supporting men as they unpack their sexuality within a patriarchal culture that often labels them as dangerous, defective, or emotionally closed off. She helps dismantle these narratives through curiosity, empathy and practical tools that foster healthier relationships with the body, partners and self, helping them build greater empathy, emotional depth, and responsibility in their intimate lives. Website - https://www.franfrye.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/franfryecounseling/ YouTube -  https://www.youtube.com/@franfryecounseling ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    Desires: Resolving The Differences Between Men & Women - Lyn Smith & Fran Frye
  7. May 14

    Healing Sexual Trauma - Lyn Smith & Erika Shershun

    Lyn welcomes licensed therapist and somatic trauma specialist Erika Shershun for an illuminating conversation on healing & recovering from sexual trauma.  Drawing from her own 17-year healing journey, Erika demystifies complex concepts like Polyvagal Theory (understanding the relationship between the nervous system and our emotions) and the body’s innate "flight, fight or freeze" responses, explaining how trauma physically embeds itself in the nervous system long after the event. KEY TAKEAWAYS Trauma isn't just a mental hurdle; it’s a physical state where the nervous system remains stuck in a defensive response of flight, fight, or freeze. The nervous system decides to enter a protective state (such as freezing) faster than the conscious brain can think, often as a primal survival mechanism. "Talk therapy" often falls short because it ignores the physical patterns of constriction and numbness that trauma leaves in the body. Recovery involves learning to gently transmute trauma by shifting between nervous system states, moving away from chronic hyper-vigilance and back toward a felt sense of safety. BEST MOMENTS "The realisation came to me about 17 years into therapy. I realised just how much the trauma stays in the body until it's integrated." "Your nervous system has a wisdom. It took you to a freeze state because it knew it was your best chance of survival." "If you only work with a persons thoughts, the patterns of movement and constriction are still taking place in the body; you're not really integrating the trauma." "Healing is no longer getting triggered by the trauma and having the symptoms clear up that are clearly associated with it." ABOUT THE GUEST - Erika Shershun - Somatic Psychotherapist Erika Shershun, MA, LMFT, is a somatic psychotherapist who specializes in helping trauma survivors reclaim the life they were meant to live. She’s the author of the Healing Sexual Trauma Guided Journal: Writing and Somatic Practices to Help You Process, Heal, and Feel Safe. Websites: https://healingsexualtrauma.com/ https://erikashershuntherapy.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    Healing Sexual Trauma - Lyn Smith & Erika Shershun
  8. Apr 30

    Premature Ejaculation: A New Innovative Solution - Lyn Smith & Jeff Abraham

    Lyn sits down with Jeff Abraham, the CEO of Promescent, to discuss a new innovative solution to premature ejaculation, plus the intricacies of sexual wellness and intimacy.  Jeff shares his unconventional journey from semiconductor engineering to sexual wellness and provides deep insights into common intimacy issues like premature ejaculation and the arousal gap between partners. The conversation highlights the critical role of communication and education in overcoming the shame often associated with sexual health and the importance of creating a judgment-free environment to encourage deeper connection and a more fulfilling intimate life. KEY TAKEAWAYS On average, men last about 5 minutes and 42 seconds during intercourse, while women may need about 18 minutes to reach climax, making it important to find ways to bridge this gap. Open, honest, and non-judgmental communication about sexual needs and preferences is the most essential tool for any couple to enhance their intimate relationship. Injecting anxiety into intimacy only makes a problem worse; using products like delay sprays can help men focus on their partner rather than their own performance. There should be no shame in seeking help or using products to improve sexual wellness, just as one would not feel guilty for seeking treatment for any other health condition. BEST MOMENTS "I tell people that I probably took the most circuitous route in the history of sexual wellness to become the CEO of a sexual wellness company." "Anxiety and intimacy are two completely separate emotions and they should never interact. Injecting anxiety into intimacy only makes it worse, not better." "Communication is probably the best tool in any lover's tool bag because no matter how good the physical aspect of intimacy is, if you're not communicating, things might not be as good for your partner." "Why don't we spend as much time and energy keeping that person by having the best intimacy you can have as we do attracting that person?" ABOUT THE GUEST - Jeff Abraham - Sexual Wellness Authority Jeff Abraham has over 10 years of experience in the sexual wellness industry as both an expert and entrepreneur. Jeff is the CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness brand focused on making intimacy solutions more accessible and effective. After discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert, Jeff invested in the product and became the majority owner, launching the company’s flagship Delay Spray. Email - jeff.abraham@promescent.comWebsite - https://www.promescent.com/LYN15 ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

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Love, Dating & Relationship support, guidance, advice and tips with Lyn Smith – The Queen of HEARTS. Lyn cares and personally understands what it’s like to have suffered sexual violence (in her teens) and how that negatively affected her personal relationships; she subsequently turned all that around and now has a lasting healthy relationship which is full of passion, intimacy and fulfilment. If you’ve ever had: *Unhealthy relationships full of drama and conflicts *Unfulfilling relationships where there has been little or no passion or *Real healthy passion in a relationship and want to know how you can you re-ignite the flame Lyn’s been there and is here to help you heal past hurts, traumas and heartbreak and attract/ create the healthy deep loving relationship you truly want and deserve. She’s on a mission to make a positive global impact in reducing divorce, domestic violence & suicide. So if you want real, healthy passion, intimacy and fulfilment in your love life and are open to listening to the wisdom of some controversial truths about relationships delivered in Lyn’s easy to understand – makes a lot of sense – style, then we invite you to listen the 'HEARTS Entwined’ podcast….