Hearts Entwined Podcast

Lyn Smith
  • 5.0 (4)
  • Relationships
  • Updated Weekly

Love, Dating & Relationship support, guidance, advice and tips with Lyn Smith – The Queen of HEARTS. Lyn cares and personally understands what it’s like to have suffered sexual violence (in her teens) and how that negatively affected her personal relationships; she subsequently turned all that around and now has a lasting healthy relationship which is full of passion, intimacy and fulfilment. If you’ve ever had: *Unhealthy relationships full of drama and conflicts *Unfulfilling relationships where there has been little or no passion or *Real healthy passion in a relationship and want to know how you can you re-ignite the flame Lyn’s been there and is here to help you heal past hurts, traumas and heartbreak and attract/ create the healthy deep loving relationship you truly want and deserve. She’s on a mission to make a positive global impact in reducing divorce, domestic violence & suicide. So if you want real, healthy passion, intimacy and fulfilment in your love life and are open to listening to the wisdom of some controversial truths about relationships delivered in Lyn’s easy to understand – makes a lot of sense – style, then we invite you to listen the 'HEARTS Entwined’ podcast….

  1. Finding Flow: From Survival to Abundance - Lyn Smith & Christy Whitman

    3d ago

    Finding Flow: From Survival to Abundance - Lyn Smith & Christy Whitman

    Lyn talks to spiritual teacher and best-selling author Christy Whitman to explore the transformational journey from survival to fulfillment.  Christy shares her personal awakening from depression to spiritual clarity, unpacking how hidden, repetitive negative thoughts dictate our reality. Together, they discuss the dynamics of energy flow, providing listeners with practical, somatic tools such as head-and-neck release and visualisation exercises, to dissolve the cycles of fear, lack, worry and doubt, and ultimately tune into a sustainable energy of gratitude and abundance. KEY TAKEAWAYS Moving out of survival mode requires acknowledging that negative thoughts are not absolute truths, but rather malleable energies that we have the power to stop and transform. Our bodies possess an energetic valve at the base of the head and spine that, when consciously released, can instantly soothe the nervous system and clear stress out of the body. Authentic abundance cannot be faked with disconnected positive affirmations; instead, it is built incrementally by leaning into realistic, better-feeling thoughts that slowly positively shift our self-identity. Cultivating a constant, daily dialogue of gratitude for what is present in the "now" is the most direct pathway to matching the universal energy frequency of a consistant flow state. BEST MOMENTS "You create your own reality... You’re either repelling things from you or attracting things to you based on the way you think."  "We're either thinking thoughts of what we want, which feel expansive and life-giving... or we're thinking thoughts of lack or limitation that are constrictive and restrictive."  "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, that's why today is called the present because it's a gift."  "We all think that, 'Oh, when in the future I have this, then I'll feel ...,' and we're projecting and postponing our life force energy out into the future when the only place and only time we can ever feel is in our now." ABOUT THE GUEST - Christy Whitman - Spiritual Teacher/ Author 2 x NYT bestselling author of The Flow Factor: How to Master Your Energy and Enter a State of Flow. Website - https://www.watchyourwords.com ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    35 min
  2. Desires: Resolving The Differences Between Men & Women - Lyn Smith & Fran Frye

    May 28

    Desires: Resolving The Differences Between Men & Women - Lyn Smith & Fran Frye

    Lyn sits down with sex counselor Fran Frye to dismantle the common misconceptions surrounding male and female sexual desires. Drawing from her personal journey as a rape survivor turned advocate, Fran offers a profound look into the world of problematic sexual behaviours and the distinct frameworks of spontaneous desire versus responsive desire. KEY TAKEAWAYS Men more frequently experience spontaneous desire (instantly ready out of the blue), while women often experience responsive desire, which requires warmth, curiosity, and lead-up to activate. A vital piece of anatomical education is that vaginal lubrication is a natural physiological preparation for penetration, but it does not automatically mean a woman is psychologically turned on or ready for sex. To combat boredom and explore novelty safely, couples can utilise a "yes, no, maybe" list online or via social media to find creative, mutually comfortable ways to connect/ spice things up. Rather than viewing it as a mere tool for performance, men naturally seek emotional connection through their sexuality; understanding the erotic nervous system is crucial for male emotional regulation and well-being. BEST MOMENTS "We are not dildos. We aren't meant to just be erect and expected to be ready to quote-on-quote perform. There is some lead-up and connection that is required." "Women often find themselves bored in sex faster than men do... I find that it’s the sex that they're having is what they're bored with." "A regulated man is safer than any weapon we sell in the name of protection, and I find that sex and regulation is very important to the betterment of men." "Communication is lubrication." ABOUT THE GUEST - Fran Frye – Sex Educator, Counsellor & Clinician Fran Frye focus's on supporting men as they unpack their sexuality within a patriarchal culture that often labels them as dangerous, defective, or emotionally closed off. She helps dismantle these narratives through curiosity, empathy and practical tools that foster healthier relationships with the body, partners and self, helping them build greater empathy, emotional depth, and responsibility in their intimate lives. Website - https://www.franfrye.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/franfryecounseling/ YouTube -  https://www.youtube.com/@franfryecounseling ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    29 min
  3. Healing Sexual Trauma - Lyn Smith & Erika Shershun

    May 14

    Healing Sexual Trauma - Lyn Smith & Erika Shershun

    Lyn welcomes licensed therapist and somatic trauma specialist Erika Shershun for an illuminating conversation on healing & recovering from sexual trauma.  Drawing from her own 17-year healing journey, Erika demystifies complex concepts like Polyvagal Theory (understanding the relationship between the nervous system and our emotions) and the body’s innate "flight, fight or freeze" responses, explaining how trauma physically embeds itself in the nervous system long after the event. KEY TAKEAWAYS Trauma isn't just a mental hurdle; it’s a physical state where the nervous system remains stuck in a defensive response of flight, fight, or freeze. The nervous system decides to enter a protective state (such as freezing) faster than the conscious brain can think, often as a primal survival mechanism. "Talk therapy" often falls short because it ignores the physical patterns of constriction and numbness that trauma leaves in the body. Recovery involves learning to gently transmute trauma by shifting between nervous system states, moving away from chronic hyper-vigilance and back toward a felt sense of safety. BEST MOMENTS "The realisation came to me about 17 years into therapy. I realised just how much the trauma stays in the body until it's integrated." "Your nervous system has a wisdom. It took you to a freeze state because it knew it was your best chance of survival." "If you only work with a persons thoughts, the patterns of movement and constriction are still taking place in the body; you're not really integrating the trauma." "Healing is no longer getting triggered by the trauma and having the symptoms clear up that are clearly associated with it." ABOUT THE GUEST - Erika Shershun - Somatic Psychotherapist Erika Shershun, MA, LMFT, is a somatic psychotherapist who specializes in helping trauma survivors reclaim the life they were meant to live. She’s the author of the Healing Sexual Trauma Guided Journal: Writing and Somatic Practices to Help You Process, Heal, and Feel Safe. Websites: https://healingsexualtrauma.com/ https://erikashershuntherapy.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    30 min

  4. Apr 30

    Premature Ejaculation: A New Innovative Solution - Lyn Smith & Jeff Abraham

    Lyn sits down with Jeff Abraham, the CEO of Promescent, to discuss a new innovative solution to premature ejaculation, plus the intricacies of sexual wellness and intimacy.  Jeff shares his unconventional journey from semiconductor engineering to sexual wellness and provides deep insights into common intimacy issues like premature ejaculation and the arousal gap between partners. The conversation highlights the critical role of communication and education in overcoming the shame often associated with sexual health and the importance of creating a judgment-free environment to encourage deeper connection and a more fulfilling intimate life. KEY TAKEAWAYS On average, men last about 5 minutes and 42 seconds during intercourse, while women may need about 18 minutes to reach climax, making it important to find ways to bridge this gap. Open, honest, and non-judgmental communication about sexual needs and preferences is the most essential tool for any couple to enhance their intimate relationship. Injecting anxiety into intimacy only makes a problem worse; using products like delay sprays can help men focus on their partner rather than their own performance. There should be no shame in seeking help or using products to improve sexual wellness, just as one would not feel guilty for seeking treatment for any other health condition. BEST MOMENTS "I tell people that I probably took the most circuitous route in the history of sexual wellness to become the CEO of a sexual wellness company." "Anxiety and intimacy are two completely separate emotions and they should never interact. Injecting anxiety into intimacy only makes it worse, not better." "Communication is probably the best tool in any lover's tool bag because no matter how good the physical aspect of intimacy is, if you're not communicating, things might not be as good for your partner." "Why don't we spend as much time and energy keeping that person by having the best intimacy you can have as we do attracting that person?" ABOUT THE GUEST - Jeff Abraham - Sexual Wellness Authority Jeff Abraham has over 10 years of experience in the sexual wellness industry as both an expert and entrepreneur. Jeff is the CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness brand focused on making intimacy solutions more accessible and effective. After discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert, Jeff invested in the product and became the majority owner, launching the company’s flagship Delay Spray. Email - jeff.abraham@promescent.comWebsite - https://www.promescent.com/LYN15 ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    36 min
  5. Incest: How To Heal & Survive - Lyn Smith & Darlene Lekowski

    Apr 16

    Incest: How To Heal & Survive - Lyn Smith & Darlene Lekowski

    Keeping a secret for fifty years is a heavy burden to carry, but eventually, even the most tightly sealed boxes begin to leak. Darlene Lekowski joins the show to share her raw, powerful journey of surviving years of sibling sexual assault and the incredible courage it took to confront her past. We dive deep into the reality of "shattering the silence," as Darlene discusses the 2021 catalyst that exploded her trauma and led to a high-stakes courtroom battle for the truth. This conversation explores how childhood survival tactics shape adult lives and why Darlene believes reclaiming your narrative is the only way to truly heal. From navigating CPTSD to finding community, Darlene’s story is a roadmap for anyone ready to move from silence to having a voice and speaking your truth. Discover why the shame was never yours to carry and how letting go can finally make you whole. KEY TAKEAWAYS The Myth of the Closed Box: Trauma suppressed in childhood eventually "leaks" or explodes, often requiring a confrontation/ release to find genuine peace. Shame Belongs to the Perpetrator: Survivors often carry a burden of guilt that isn't theirs; healing begins by letting go of that shame. Justice is an Inside Job: While legal validation is powerful, true healing comes from within and isn't dependent on an seeing justice/ remorse from the perpetrator. The Power of Community: Confiding in trusted family/ friends or finding specialised survivor organizations provides the vital support & validation needed to break isolation. Forgiving Yourself First: Acceptance and self-love are the most critical steps in moving from a "victim" mindset to becoming a "thriver". BEST MOMENTS "I had the Darlene that was in the box that didn't want to deal with the trauma... but boxes leak." "The shame was never ours to carry, but we do. And we have to shed ourselves of the shame." "Winning the trial... didn't heal a thing. I really had to flip the narrative around in order to set myself free." "I love the expression that our mess becomes our message." "You can't always control what happened to you, but you can control what you do with it." ABOUT THE GUEST Darlene Lekowski - Author, Speaker, Advocate &Survivor Forced to hide the secret of her childhood trauma for more than fifty years, Darlene is now speaking out. Her message is one of resiliency and healing, and her intention is to use her voice to help others find theirs. Website - https://darlene-lekowski.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/darlenelekowski/?hl=en Facebook  - https://www.facebook.com/darlenelekowski ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    33 min
  6. What's Your Path To Self-Love? - Lyn Smith & Meghann Dawson

    Apr 2

    What's Your Path To Self-Love? - Lyn Smith & Meghann Dawson

    Lyn welcomes transformational coach Meghann Dawson to discuss the journey to self-love. Meghann shares her personal story of overcoming severe trauma, including an abusive upbringing and health challenges which led her on a path to healing.  She also emphasises the importance of recognising and differentiating between your inner critic (from your head) and your true intuitive voice (from your heart), encouraging listeners to embrace their imperfections and define their own version of what success means to them. KEY TAKEAWAYS It's crucial to differentiate between the inner critic, which often brings feelings of shame and inadequacy, and the deeper intuitive inner voice that provides clarity and guidance. Cultivating stillness and self-awareness can help in recognising your intuitive inner voice. The concept of the un-perfect level up emphasises that life doesn't have to be perfect. Instead of striving for an ideal defined by others, individuals should define their own version of what success and fulfilment looks/ feels like to them. Opening up about personal struggles and experiences can encourage deeper connections with others. Sharing vulnerabilities often leads to mutual understanding and support, breaking the cycle of shame. The journey of self-love and healing is ongoing. Regularly checking in with yourself, examining past experiences without judgment, and being open to new healing modalities are essential for personal growth. BEST MOMENTS "For me, that inner voice just felt like a strong, deep knowing direction that I hadn't really gotten before. It said, you need to do better. It's time to do better." "When we chase that kind of perfection, we're just in a losing game. We're on the hamster wheel of life and we're never going to reach the destination we're striving for." "The journey of life never stops. The lessons never stop. However, when we build resolve in ourselves, we have the tools to navigate challenges in a way that leads us to grow even further." "There's no such thing as being perfect, is there? Because we can always do better. But it's just knowing that you don't have to beat yourself up if you're not already doing better." ABOUT THE GUEST - Meghann Dawson - Transformation Coach, AuthorMeghann was born premature to an incredible teenage mom, a severe infection spread through her body within days of her birth, settling into her joints and leaving lasting damage she would carry for a lifetime. Pain wasn’t something Meghann learned later. It was something she knew from the beginning. And for a long time, so was the feeling that she had to earn love, prove her worth, and become someone in order to be chosen. Website - https://www.meghanndawson.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/meghanndawson/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/meghann.dawson ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    33 min
  7. What Is Your Relationship Block? Lyn Smith & Dr Tara Perry

    Mar 19

    What Is Your Relationship Block? Lyn Smith & Dr Tara Perry

    Lyn welcomes Dr. Tara Perry, a specialist in hypnotherapy and Chinese medicine, to discuss the deep-seated blocks that prevent people from achieving healthy, fulfilling relationships.  Dr. Perry explains how the subconscious mind often holds onto childhood imprints such as the people-pleaser response which can lead to anxiety, poor boundaries, and ill health - even chronic physical pain. KEY TAKEAWAYS Traditional talk therapy can take decades because it operates on a conscious level, whereas hypnotherapy targets the subconscious "command central" to resolve unconcious blocks predictably and quickly. Many relationship issues stem from "fawning" (people-pleasing), a trauma response that depletes the individual’s energy and eventually breeds resentment in the relationship. Emotional trauma and subconscious stress often manifest as physical ailments, such as migraines, neck tension or even chronic pain. The conscious mind is the rider, but the subconscious is the elephant; real change only happens when the "elephant" is programmed to move in the same direction as the "rider". BEST MOMENTS "We’re never at our best if we’re reacting to triggers in our past." "You’re already hypnotised [by past impressions]. The good news is that you can go back in... and make that upgrade." "If you're pointing the finger at somebody else, remember you've got three fingers pointed back at yourself." "True love starts with opening our hearts." ABOUT THE GUEST Dr. Tara Perry – Hypnotherapist, Acupuncture & Chinese Medicine For over 25 years, Dr. Tara has successfully assisted first responders, celebrities, entrepreneurs, teachers, doctors, Olympians, moms, dads, teens and even children quickly achieve a higher quality of life emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually faster and more deeply than they thought possible. Website - https://consulttara.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drtaraperry/?hl=enPodcast - https://nextlevelhealing.transistor.fm ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    27 min
  8. Polarity: How To Attract Healthy Masculine Men - Lyn Smith

    Mar 5

    Polarity: How To Attract Healthy Masculine Men - Lyn Smith

    Lyn looks of how to create healthy polarity in relationships, emphasising the importance for women to understand and embody healthy feminine energy, she shares how many women struggle with their femininity and how the impact of past traumas can effect their energy which can then negatively impact their relationships.  She encourages women to focus on self-love and healing, as well as to explore what makes them feel feminine, whether through personal style or self-care practices and highlights the significance of the energy they bring into their relationships, urging women to reflect on whether they are operating from a place of fear or love KEY TAKEAWAYS Creating healthy polarity in relationships is essential, as it involves recognising and embodying both healthy feminine and masculine traits. To attract fulfilling relationships, it's crucial to work on healing and self-love, addressing past traumas and childhood wounds that may be negatively affecting current relationships. Healthy feminine traits include nurturing, compassion, receiving, vulnerability and collaboration. Each woman can express her femininity in different ways, whether through energy, mindset, appearance, clothing, or personal style. While tapping into healthy masculine energy can be appropriate for women in certain situations (like dealing with a threat or participating in competitive sports), it's important to balance this with healthy feminine energy to attract healthy masculine partners. BEST MOMENTS "Creating healthy polarity is about understanding yourself and spending time with yourself to heal any past traumas or childhood wounds that may have currently affected your relationships." "If you can't love and appreciate yourself, you're going to be exuding that sort of energy and you're probably going to be attracting people that reinforce whatever those negatives are that you dislike about yourself." "If we're not attracting the type of men that we want, it's often because we're defaulting into the masculine energy role too often." "Unhealthy feminine energy, being needy or desperate, is going to attract an unhealthy masculine man who's going to either take advantage of that or not be attracted to that energy for very long." ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method lyn@hearts-entwined.com This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

    11 min
See All (335)

5
out of 5
4 Ratings

About

Love, Dating & Relationship support, guidance, advice and tips with Lyn Smith – The Queen of HEARTS. Lyn cares and personally understands what it’s like to have suffered sexual violence (in her teens) and how that negatively affected her personal relationships; she subsequently turned all that around and now has a lasting healthy relationship which is full of passion, intimacy and fulfilment. If you’ve ever had: *Unhealthy relationships full of drama and conflicts *Unfulfilling relationships where there has been little or no passion or *Real healthy passion in a relationship and want to know how you can you re-ignite the flame Lyn’s been there and is here to help you heal past hurts, traumas and heartbreak and attract/ create the healthy deep loving relationship you truly want and deserve. She’s on a mission to make a positive global impact in reducing divorce, domestic violence & suicide. So if you want real, healthy passion, intimacy and fulfilment in your love life and are open to listening to the wisdom of some controversial truths about relationships delivered in Lyn’s easy to understand – makes a lot of sense – style, then we invite you to listen the 'HEARTS Entwined’ podcast….

Information

  • Creator
    Lyn Smith
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2026
  • Episodes
    335
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Lyn Smith