The Lori Clarke Show

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Because your story is the conversation. The Lori Clarke Show is a space for honest stories and the art of becoming — where we talk about what life brings and what it reveals in us. Here, we explore the beauty and ache of being human — the moments that shape us, the questions that stay, and the quiet realizations that change everything. It’s not about fixing or striving; it’s about noticing, understanding, and learning how to move through it all with compassion. Every story matters. Every voice belongs. Welcome to The Art of Living.

  1. Jun 2

    Ep 103 When Life Doesn't Go as Planned: Infertility, Loss & Building Resilience | Dr. Marlene Duroseau

    What happens when you've done everything right - the education, the career, the planning, and your body still doesn't cooperate? In this deeply moving episode of The Lori Clarke Show, resilience expert, fertility health advocate, and organizational leadership doctorate Dr. Marlene C. Duroseau shares her 15-year journey through infertility, IVF, and the devastating loss of her daughter Angel at 22 weeks. This conversation is for anyone navigating grief, pregnancy loss, infertility struggles, or any season where life didn't unfold as expected. In this episode: Living with PCOS and unexplained infertility while building a career The emotional toll of "waiting for the right time" to start a family Surviving pregnancy loss and returning to work after grief How to support someone through infertility or infant loss (what NOT to say) Dr. Marlene's MCD Principles: Motivated, Courageous, Dynamic Building resilience one day — and one hour — at a time Trigger note: This episode contains themes of pregnancy loss, grief, and infertility. Please listen at your own pace. Connect with Dr. Marlene: MCDBE.com | LinkedIn | Instagram @MCDBE 00:32 – Introduction & content note  01:41 – Meet Dr. Marlene C. Duroseau  06:36 – The start of the infertility journey  12:06 – Years of treatment & losing herself  26:00 – IVF success — and unimaginable loss  30:12 – Grief, culture, and coming home  36:58 – Finding faith after loss  41:22 – Living in uncertainty & moving toward hope  51:36 – The MCD Principles  53:58 – Where to find Dr. Marlene

    57 min

  2. May 5

    Ep. 102 Binge Eating: Why It’s Not a Willpower Problem with Nan Saysana

    Are your cravings trying to tell you something? Most of us treat our relationship with food as a battle of willpower, but after 30 years in the "quicksand" of binge eating, Nan Saysana discovered a life-changing truth: the answer has nothing to do with diets or restriction. In this episode, Lori Clarke and Nan peel back the layers of secret eating and shame to reveal that cravings are actually messages from our emotions. When we move from being "furious" to "curious," the cycle begins to break. Inside the episode: The Willpower Myth: Why it runs out by evening and what to use instead. Hunger vs. Desire: Identifying the "missing steps" between the thought and the bite. The "DIFF" Method: A simple framework (Duration, Intensity, Frequency) to understand your patterns. The "Bakery Experiment": What mindful eating actually looks like in real life. Brain Safety: How Havening Techniques create a "mute button" for the brain’s alarm system. Whether you struggle with binge eating or simply feel disconnected from your body, this conversation offers a new set of tools to help you stop rearranging the chairs and start finding freedom.

    59 min

  3. Apr 28

    Ep 101: Breaking the Tape: How to Unlearn the Stories That Are Keeping You Small | Dr. LaNysha Adams

    What does it really mean to feel powerful — and why do so many of us keep looking for that power in the wrong places?In this episode, Lori sits down with Dr. LaNysha Adams, author of Me Power, to talk about what happens when someone else's words knock you off course — and how you find your way back to yourself.Dr. LaNysha opens up about growing up as the first in her family to attend college, the professor who told her she didn't fit the mold, and the two years she spent believing that voice over her own. Together, Lori and Dr. LaNysha explore the quiet conditioning most of us carry without ever questioning it — the beliefs we inherited, the survival mode we normalized, and the tapes we keep rewinding that were never ours to begin with.This conversation covers:• Why overworking is often survival mode in disguise• How legacy burdens get passed down like a tape on repeat• The 5 principles of Me Power — and how to actually put them into practice• A simple journaling exercise to reconnect with who you've always been• Why true empowerment starts from the inside, not the outsideIf you've ever let one rejection write your whole story, felt like you had to earn your worth, or forgotten who you were before life got loud — this one's for you.Pick up Me Power wherever books are sold.

    59 min

  4. Mar 9

    Ep 100 Part 6| Finding Our Way Home: The “Jailbreak” Moment

    “Who were you before the world told you who you should be?” In this milestone 100th episode of The Lori Clarke Show, we conclude the 6-part Shame Out Loud series. This finale explores the "Child and Woman" split and the long, slow walk back to ourselves after a lifetime of silence. Host Lori Clarke is joined by a specialized panel to discuss why "talk therapy" isn't always enough to move a nervous system out of a functional freeze, and what happens when the body finally decides it is time to be heard. Our Expert Panel Includes: Lori Clarke: Writer and digital creator sharing the "Jailbreak" moment of reclaiming identity after childhood sexual assault and family gaslighting. Tammy Valicenti: Psychotherapist and EMDR specialist (founder of transformsolution.com) providing a clinical lens on parts work, attunement, and co-regulation. Petra Brunnbauer: Mind-body coach and chronic stress expert (creator of The Jōrni Podcast) discussing the vagus nerve and the "shock" of recognizing dissociation in the mirror. Annie Trainor: Sharing her personal reflections on the physical release of movement and the journey from performative living to authentic presence. In this episode, we explore: The Somatic Turning Point: Why Lori’s body "cracked open" after a decade of silence, leading to physical illness and eventually, a jailbreak into her own truth. The Cardboard Sword Metaphor: A deep dive into the moment we stop fighting the world and start "scooping in" the younger parts of ourselves we once had to reject. Intergenerational Shame: How to discern between your own feelings and the "introjects" the voices of harm we inherit to realize what shame is "not yours." Functional Freeze & The Vagus Nerve: Petra shares the "micro-moments" of healing that allowed her to breathe deeply for the first time in years. The Challenge of Receiving: Why survivors often find it harder to receive love than to give it, and how to stay "afloat" when vulnerability feels like danger.

    1h 33m

  5. Mar 3

    Ep. 99 | Shame Out Loud Part 5: The Truth We Swallow to Keep the Peace

    What if the story you’ve been telling about what hurt you, the compassionate one, the one that makes everyone comfortable, isn't actually true? In Part 5 of the Shame Out Loud series, host Lori Clarke moves beyond "tidy" storytelling. We often manage our trauma narratives to keep them safe for the room, but in doing so, we lose the part of ourselves that knows the truth. Lori is joined by co-host Tammy Valicenti and guest Annie Trainor, a clinical social worker with a deep background in the Boston juvenile justice system. Together, they explore the complex "hamster wheel" of harm, accountability, and the courage it takes to stop rationalizing and start listening. In this episode, we explore: The Compassion Trap: Why we often defend the people who hurt us before we defend ourselves. Explanation vs. Excuse: Annie shares insights from her work with both victims and perpetrators on why the "hurt people hurt people" narrative requires accountability. The Silence of the Forest: What it means to be silenced—not just told to be quiet, but shaped by a world that made your truth inconvenient. The "Warrior Queen": Recognizing the moment you stop "pleasing" to stay safe and start trusting your own inner sight. This isn’t a tidy conversation, but it is a necessary one. If you’ve ever swallowed your truth to keep the peace, there is a way through the forest. It starts here. 09:25 — Welcome + framing the conversation 09:57 — Annie introduces herself and her work 10:35 — Reaction to Child and Woman; resonance and bravery 12:18 — Self-blame, shame, and the forest as internalized harm 14:27 — Rationalizing harm and neglecting self 15:41 — Naming the shift: refusing to excuse violence 16:49 — Rage, accountability, and the place of compassion 18:30 — Annie’s work in juvenile justice and community care 20:10 — “We are more than the worst thing we’ve done” 22:52 — Victim–perpetrator insight: explanation vs. excuse 24:07 — Safety, weapons, and societal mislabeling 27:26 — Hypervigilance, catastrophizing, and survival strategies 29:29 — Silencing, dissociation, and non-verbal protection 31:02 — Tammy on being silenced (overt + covert) 33:10 — Lori on not being believed and community exclusion 35:36 — Responsibility as the difference between bypass and healing 38:37 — Trust, vulnerability, and connection 40:35 — Children, modeling vulnerability, and repair 43:25 — The power of repair and closing reflections 44:13 — Transition to next guest and next conversation

    47 min

  6. Feb 21

    #98 Part 4: Shame, Silence, and Survival

    Have you ever realized you’re living by a vow you don’t remember making? In Episode 98 of Shame Out Loud : Part 4 of our six-part series, Lori Clarke, co-host Tammy Valicenti, and guests Dr. Lara Barbir, and Carina Gosch explore what happens after the moment you start surviving instead of living. Together, they open the “inner forest” to talk about shame, self-betrayal, and the slow work of coming home without forcing the timeline.  You’ll also hear about the vows we make in the dark: I won’t feel this. I won’t need anyone. I’ll stay small to stay safe. And what it means to rewrite them into something truer, self-trust, agency, dignity, and a new way of belonging. If you’ve been carrying a story that was never yours to hold, consider this your reminder: the forest may be where you adapted… but it can also be where you return. (Gentle note: This episode includes discussion of trauma, sexual assault, shame, emotional neglect, and difficult family dynamics. Please listen with care and support as needed.) 00:00 – 08:08 — Series context + bringing the next guest into the circle 08:08 – 11:15 — Lara Barbir intro + mirror/dream resonance + “forest as diverse landscape” 11:15 – 14:30 — Forest as ecosystem; post-traumatic growth; meaning-making 14:30 – 18:55 — Teen depression diagnosis; emotional silence; coping patterns; being unseen 18:55 – 21:15 — “How did you find yourself?” early survival strategies; safety-seeking 21:15 – 30:45 —  Lori, Tammy, Lara, and Carina define their forests (emotional neglect, chaos, survival roles, returning to center) 30:45 – 38:10 — “Secrets we keep from ourselves”; repression lifting over time; somatic healing and remembrance 38:10 – 49:55 — Shame: how it shows up in body + behavior; unconditional love as catalyst; “we’re never done” 49:55 – 56:30 — The vows we make in the forest; rewriting vows; “in all things lead with love” 56:30 – 1:05:40 — Forgiveness reframed (self-forgiveness, dignity, not excusing harm) 1:05:40 – 1:16:30 — Returning to yourself; agency; acceptance of inner world; “I love you / you’re not alone” closing takeaways 1:16:30 – 1:25:00 — Off-mic wrap + “ancestors / possibilities are endless” closing energy

    1h 26m

  7. Feb 15

    #97 Part 3: Naming the Inner Landscape

    What if the parts of you that once kept you safe are now the very things keeping you stuck? In Shame Out Loud (Part 3), host Lori Clarke sits down with co-host Tammy Valicenti (EMDR specialist and founder of TransformSolution) and guest Carina Ghosh for a raw, soulful roundtable inspired by Lori’s creative writing piece Child and Woman (Episode 95). At the heart of this episode is a shared metaphor: the forest - the internal place where parts of us go to survive. Where fear lives. Where young selves still wait. Where old rules learned in silence continue to run the show. This conversation names what so many people feel but rarely say out loud: dissociation, survival patterns, parentification, emotional neglect, shame, the “not enough” story, and the long, embodied return to wholeness. Together, Lori, Tammy, and Carina explore how our bodies carry what our voices could not, and how healing isn’t about comparing wounds, but about telling the truth out loud with people who get it. You’ll hear about scattered parts, boundaries that finally hold, and a tender, radical truth woven throughout the conversation: It is a revolutionary act of self-love to say, "This ends with me." Question to sit with as you listen: Where are you still performing for safety, and what part of you is waiting to return home to yourself? This is Part 3 of a 6-part Shame Out Loud series. If this message resonates, you can purchase the writing companion on Lori’s website to explore the themes, reflections, and integration more deeply. 00:00–07:00 — Welcoming Karina & first reflections on Child and Woman 07:00–15:30 — Sensitivity, intuition, and navigating chaos 15:30–23:00 — The forest as a place of protection 23:00–30:00 — Scattered parts and emotional survival 30:00–38:00 — Moonlight, darkness, and feminine safety 38:00–46:00 — Creating inner refuge and the cottage metaphor 46:00–54:00 — Belonging, love, and coming home to self 54:00–1:05:00 — Reconnection, compassion, and closing reflections

    1h 24m

  8. Feb 8

    #96 Part 2: Entering The Forest

    What if the part of you that checks out, goes quiet, or keeps you on high alert… isn’t broken, just protecting you?This episode is Part Two of a six-part series exploring the reading Child and Woman. In this episode, Lori and psychotherapist Tammy Valicenti explore the forest: that inner place we retreat to when life has been too much. Together they name what protection can look like (silence, numbness, hyper-vigilance, control), how shame hijacks our inner dialogue, and why the simplest intervention can be the most powerful: “Hello, I hear you.” You’ll leave with a gentler map back to yourself, one that doesn’t require force, only curiosity.

    1h 10m
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Because your story is the conversation. The Lori Clarke Show is a space for honest stories and the art of becoming — where we talk about what life brings and what it reveals in us. Here, we explore the beauty and ache of being human — the moments that shape us, the questions that stay, and the quiet realizations that change everything. It’s not about fixing or striving; it’s about noticing, understanding, and learning how to move through it all with compassion. Every story matters. Every voice belongs. Welcome to The Art of Living.

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  • Creator
    Lori Clarke
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    103
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Lori Clarke
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    The Lori Clarke Show