The Trouble with Sex

The Trouble With Sex

Relationship & Sex Therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson gets up close and personal with leading, sex-positive experts and influencers to examine hot topics and answer your questions about pleasure, sexuality, relationships and the most forbidden aspects of the human experience. 

  1. 6D AGO

    Passion & Presence

    Dr. Tammy talks with experiential and sex therapist Maci Daye about how to use mindfulness and the methods of Hakomi Therapy to break away from past experiences and patterns to help avoid reenacting them in our current relationships and sex lives.   GUEST BIO:  Maci Daye is a force in the world of mindful somatic therapy. She’s a Licensed Professional Counselor, an AASECT-certified Sex Therapist, and a Certified Hakomi Therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience. Her background spans university counseling, social services, and government work, supported by graduate degrees from Harvard University and Georgia State University, plus advanced Somatic Experiencing training developed by Peter Levine. Maci is also a faculty member at the Hakomi Institute and a Mentor Trainer for Hakomi Mallorca, where she trains therapists in the art of mindful somatic psychotherapy. She’s the author of Passion and Presence: A Couple’s Guide to Awakened Intimacy and Mindful Sex and leads transformative couples’ retreats and professional trainings in Mindful Couples Sex Therapy. Her mission is simple and powerful: to help individuals and couples live more connected, vibrant lives by claiming their desires and expressing their deepest gifts. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    56 min
  2. FEB 9

    Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships

    Dr. Tammy talks with therapist and Autism Specialist, Kory Andreas, about what neurodivergence really means, how it shapes our connections, and how broadening our awareness can deepen the bonds with those we love. GUEST BIO:  Kory Andreas is a Clinical Social Worker, Autism Specialist, and late-diagnosed Autistic adult who works exclusively with Neurodivergent adults and couples. After two decades as a School Social Worker, she is now in private practice, offering diagnostic assessments and therapy grounded in the lived experience and “practice-based evidence” of late diagnosed Autistic adults.  Kory’s work with individuals, couples, as well as training clinicians, dives into the messy, often-overlooked realities of high-masking Autism, especially in women and gender-diverse adults who are frequently misunderstood or missed entirely. Kory’s goal is to better support Neurodivergent clients and help late-diagnosed Autistic adults feel less alone. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    52 min
  3. JAN 23

    Love By Design

    Dr. Tammy sits down with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh to discuss the challenges of modern relationships, the difference between sexual chemistry and harmony, desire vs attraction, and her new book - Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to build a lifetime of love. GUEST BIO:  Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is an award-winning social psychologist, TED Speaker, global thought leader. Her mission is nothing less than world peace, built one relationship at a time. She ahs advised governments around the world, UN agencies, leading universities, and Fortune 500 companies, helping people navigate intimacy, leadership, and culture with clarity and compassion. She’s the author of the acclaimed book Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love. Her work spans more than 40 countries and has been featured on NPR, the BBC, ABC, CNN, CNBC, The New York Times, The Times, and USA Today. A true trailblazer, Sara has shaped the field of relational science and earned honors from the British Council, the BBC World Service, Pfizer, and AASECT for her innovation and professional impact. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    54 min
  4. JAN 12

    Regulating Your Nervous System Through Resilience Informed Therapy

    Dr. Tammy talks with Dr. Arielle Schwartz about Resilience Informed Therapy, Polyvagal Theory and how connecting to your body can rewire your nervous system to help heal from trauma and deeper connection with ourselves and those we love. GUEST BIO Renowned speaker, author, and esteemed clinical psychologist, Dr. Arielle Schwartz has been widely recognized for her research and clinical advancements in trauma treatment, which have shaped the landscape of trauma recovery and elevated the standard of care all across therapeutic settings. Dr. Schwartz promotes a strength-based, embodied approach to trauma recovery that emphasizes self-driven healing to facilitate post-traumatic growth. Drawing on the principles of EMDR, somatic psychology, mindfulness-based therapies, and relational psychotherapy, she developed Resilience Informed Therapy—an integrative model of care for facilitating recovery from childhood trauma, PTSD, complex-PTSD and Dissociation. Dr. Schwartz has been teaching therapeutic yoga since 2008, and she is the author of Therapeutic Yoga for Trauma Recovery, a widely referenced guide to applied Polyvagal Theory for trauma recovery. She has also authored numerous books covering extensive research and guiding techniques in trauma treatment. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    43 min
  5. 12/19/2025

    Men: Communication, Same-Sex Marriage and the Complexities of Masculinity

    Dr. Tammy talks with relationship therapist, podcaster, and author Rick Miller, about how men communicate, what masculinity means for both queer and straight men,  and why open relationships are an old school concept - if not the norm in the gay world. OUR GUEST Rick Miller is a practicing psychotherapist and founder and executive director of Gay Sons And Mothers. Rick co-hosts of the podcast Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You. His TEDx talk, The Mother Factor, grew out of his work with his nonprofit, which shares worldwide narratives of gay men and their mothers to support LGBTQ+ training and awareness. Rick is also the executive producer of the documentary film, “Mom, I Have Something to Tell You”.  He is a frequent speaker at conferences for a myriad of academic and professional organizations and author of three books. He writes a regular column for Psychology Today.  FREE OFFER!  Want to re-ignite your sex life? Start your Erotic Recovery with Dr. Tammy's Six Weeks to Erotic Recovery for Singles e-book.  Email drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com, and we will send you your free e-book! DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    1h 5m
  6. 12/04/2025

    Healing Relationships After Trauma

    Dr. Tammy talks with Dr. Kate Truitt about her healing journey after a devastating car accident. Together, they explore fear, intimacy, expectations, and how gentle touch can help create a safe space while igniting connection and intimacy with your partner after a traumatic experience. OUR GUEST Dr. Kate Truitt is an esteemed clinical psychologist and neuroscientist - globally recognized for her trauma, stress, and resilience expertise. As founder of the Truitt Institute, Dr. Truitt integrates cutting-edge neuroscience into mental health training and seminars. She also leads Dr. Kate Truitt & Associates and serves as CEO of both the Amy Research Foundation and the Trauma Counseling Center of Los Angeles. An essential part of the Goldie Hawn Foundation’s MindUP Scientific Advisory Committee, Dr. Truitt passionately advocates for mental health literacy and empowerment. As the international bestselling author of Healing in Your Hands and Keep Breathing, Dr. Truitt is dedicated to advancing the treatment of trauma and stress disorders, making significant strides in destigmatizing mental health and fostering resilience worldwide. FREE OFFER!  Want to re-ignite your sex life? Start your Erotic Recovery with Dr. Tammy's Six Weeks to Erotic Recovery for Singles e-book.  Email drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com, and we will send you your free e-book! DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    58 min
  7. 11/13/2025

    Reignite Your Desire

    Has stress in your life killed your mojo? Do you feel disconnected from pleasure or your partner? Dr. Tammy sits down with sex therapist and host of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali, to discuss how trauma and stress reshape desire, and how to reclaim your sensuality and erotic connection with your partner. OUR GUEST  Dr. Nazanin Moali is a Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Nazanin Moali is a sex and relationship expert who helps individuals and couples improve their sex lives to achieve passionate connections with their partners. Her top rated Sexology Podcast has over an impressive 500 episodes. Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Dr. Moali launched a similar, highly-rated podcast in Farsi in 2016. She has extensive training in treatment of eating disorders and addiction from some of the nation’s leading experts. She is a published researcher who regularly speaks at major universities and international conferences. She is also a media advisor for local television shows. FREE OFFER!  Want to re-ignite your sex life? Start your Erotic Recovery with Dr. Tammy's Six Weeks to Erotic Recovery for Singles e-book.  Email drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com, and we will send you your free e-book! DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    56 min
  8. 10/30/2025

    How Resource Tapping & EMDR Based Treatments Help Heal Trauma

    Dr. Tammy shares the trauma of her recent assault with the leading expert on EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Resource Tapping, Dr. Laurel Parnell. Together they explore how these therapies can rewire the brain to help heal trauma, restore balance and improve relationships. OUR GUEST Laurel Parnell, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and Executive Director of the Parnell Institute and co-director of the non-profit Trauma Assistance Program International (TAP-IN). One of the world’s leading experts on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), she is the originator of the EMDR-related therapies Attachment-Focused EMDR and Resource Tapping. Since 1995 she has trained thousands of clinicians in EMDR both nationally and internationally.  Dr. Parnell is the author of several books and demonstration videos on EMDR, including, Attachment-Focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma, (W.W. Norton, 2013), A Therapist’s Guide to EMDR (W.W. Norton, 2007),  Rewiring the Addicted Brain with EMDR-Based Treatment (W.W. Norton, 2020), and Tapping In (Sounds True. 2008). Dr. Parnell has served on the faculty of the California Institute for Integral Studies and John F. Kennedy University.  Considered a master clinician, Dr. Parnell brings a client-centered attachment-focused approach to the work and emphasizes the importance of a compassionate, safe, therapeutic relationship. She sees the adaptation of protocols and procedures according to the psychological, emotional, cultural, and developmental needs of the individual client as essential. Dr. Parnell is informed by research in contemporary neuroscience and uses a holistic approach to healing trauma that focuses on the integration of body, mind, and spirit.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.   THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY! To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy. Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

    57 min
4.8
out of 5
60 Ratings

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Relationship & Sex Therapist Dr. Tammy Nelson gets up close and personal with leading, sex-positive experts and influencers to examine hot topics and answer your questions about pleasure, sexuality, relationships and the most forbidden aspects of the human experience. 

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