The Healing You Method with Gloria Lybecker

Gloria Lybecker
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Join Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue as they explore the transformative power of The Healing You Method, a unique approach to personal growth and emotional healing. In each episode, they share insights, practical tools, and inspiring stories that guide you on a journey to reconnect with your true self, break free from limiting patterns, and embrace a life filled with love, compassion, and purpose. Whether you're seeking deeper self-awareness, struggling with life's challenges, or simply curious about the path to inner peace, this podcast offers wisdom and support to help you heal and thrive. Tune in and discover how The Healing You Method can empower you to live your most authentic life.

  1. 5h ago

    Ep. 355 | Belonging Without Self-Betrayal: Creating Relationships That Can Hold the Real You

    Can we belong without betraying ourselves? Many of us learned early that belonging required adaptation: reading the room, softening what we felt, or becoming who the relationship seemed to need us to be. Those strategies may have helped us stay connected once. As adults, they can leave us wondering whether we are loved for who we are or for how well we perform a role. In this episode, Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue are joined by Katherine Q. Revoir, a spiritual counselor and teacher of relational neuroscience at the Center for Richer Living, whose work brings together resonant language, neuroscience and family constellations. Together they explore how childhood adaptations like people-pleasing, over-functioning and being the "good" one can be understood as intelligent relational strategies rather than personal defects, and what becomes possible when we meet them with understanding instead of judgment. Katherine shares her perspective on the family "rulebook for belonging" and how guilt can keep us inside it, what secure attachment can feel like for an adult, including the balance she calls linkage and differentiation, and what repair can look like when a relationship has room for it. The conversation also looks at how to notice when a relationship may be asking you to leave yourself, why discomfort can accompany healthy growth and does not automatically mean a relationship is unsafe, and how to begin telling the difference between that discomfort and the distress of ongoing self-betrayal. They explore family loyalties, how family constellations can point to where a pattern began, and a simple practice for the moment you feel yourself about to say yes when something inside says no: giving yourself time before you answer. Next week: Episode 356, When Belonging Makes Room for the Real You: Boundaries, Grief and Relationships That Can Grow. Learn more about Katherine's work at richerliving.org. Subscribe to The Healing You Method for future episodes, and explore Gloria's work at GloriaLybecker.com.

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  3. Oct 14

    Ep. 354. When Your Boundary Changes the Relationship: Grieving the Role You Used to Play

    A boundary doesn't only change what you will or won't do. It can change the role you have been playing in the relationship, and the grief that follows is often hard to name, especially when no one has left. In this episode, Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue explore what can happen after a boundary holds: the role of the one who always says yes, keeps the peace, or never seems to need anything, and why a relationship organized around that pattern may not know how to reorganize around the person you are becoming. They talk about how a boundary can feel sudden to the other person when it has been forming inside for a long time, and why listening to your quieter no earlier can help. Gloria and Gail look at what there may be to grieve: the closeness you thought you had, the person you hoped someone would become, the old identity of being the one who was always needed, and the time spent not fully present with yourself. They also talk about how relief, sadness, guilt, anger and love can be present together, why disappointment is not the same as harm, and the difference between taking responsibility for how you spoke and withdrawing the boundary itself. Near the end, they explore how to stay with yourself while a relationship finds its new shape: looking for patterns instead of judging a relationship by one uncomfortable conversation, asking whether you can remain a whole person in it, keeping the boundary simple, and making your next choice from connection with yourself instead of the urgency to restore someone else's comfort. Next week: Belonging Without Self-Betrayal, with Katherine Revoir. Subscribe to The Healing You Method for future episodes, and explore Gloria's work at GloriaLybecker.com.

  4. Oct 7

    Ep. 353. What Happens After You Say No: Staying With Yourself Through Guilt and Pushback

    Saying no is only half the work. What happens afterward — the guilt, the second-guessing, the urge to explain — is where staying in relationship with yourself really gets tested. In this episode, Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue explore what happens in the moments after a boundary: the pull to soften what was said, the fear of having hurt or disappointed someone, and the pushback that can follow when someone questions, negotiates with, or tries to talk you out of your no. Gloria and Gail draw a distinction between two kinds of guilt — the guilt that arises when we've acted against our own values or caused harm that calls for repair, and the guilt that simply signals we've broken an old relational rule. They talk about the difference between relief and alignment, between harming someone and disappointing them, and why agreement was never what made a boundary valid in the first place. They also explore how to repair the way a boundary was delivered without reversing the boundary itself, and the grief that can surface when a relationship changes because you no longer show up the way you used to. Near the end, Gloria and Gail offer a five-step practice for staying with yourself after a no: pause, name what's happening in your body, return to the truth beneath the boundary, discern whether repair is needed, and choose your next response from a grounded, connected place. Subscribe to The Healing You Method for future episodes, and explore Gloria's work at GloriaLybecker.com.

  5. Sep 30

    Ep. 352. What Healing Asks of Us: Relationship, Self-Trust, and the Courage to Keep Going

    What does healing ask of us when understanding our patterns is no longer enough? In this Integration Duo conversation, Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue gather the threads running through Episodes 348 to 351: healing as relationship and presence, the quiet ways healing itself can become another form of self-abandonment, the fear of disappointing others, and the courage to take the next honest step while fear and grief are still present. Together they explore the difference between understanding healing intellectually and living it relationally. Insight alone does not change a nervous system that learned belonging depended on being agreeable, helpful, quiet, and endlessly capable. What changes us is practice: noticing the moment we leave ourselves, meeting that moment without shame, and returning with honesty and care. That returning, again and again, is how self-trust is built. Gloria and Gail trace the four movements these episodes reveal, relationship and presence, recognizing self-abandonment, risking relational truth, and courageous aligned action, all held by one deeper question: Can I remain in relationship with myself here? Near the end, they offer a brief reflective practice with questions you can carry into your own life, including one small, honest, life-giving step you might take next. If you are somewhere between knowing your truth and living it, this conversation offers companionship for the next honest step.

  6. Sep 23

    EP 351 — Your Story Isn't Over: The Quiet Courage to Take the Next Step | The Healing You Method

    What do you do when life doesn't go back to the way it was? In this episode of The Healing You Method, Gail Donohue and I sit down with Rebekah Hansen for a deeply human conversation about grief, resilience, and choosing who we become when life changes us. Rebekah shares how losing both of her parents reshaped her understanding of resilience. Rather than "bouncing back" or pushing through, she learned to stop, rest, receive support, and trust that something good could still be possible. Together, we explore why grief and celebration can coexist, how to recognize what is truly ours to carry, and what becomes possible when we pause long enough to respond rather than react. Your story isn't over. Sometimes resilience is the quiet courage to take the next step. Subscribe to The Healing You Method for future episodes, and explore my work at GloriaLybecker.com.

  7. Sep 16

    EP 350 — The Fear of Disappointing Others: Why Knowing Your Truth Is Not Always Enough | The Healing You Method

    What happens when you know what is true for you, but living from that truth may disappoint someone you love? In this episode of The Healing You Method, my co-host Gail Donohue and I explore why knowing your truth does not automatically make it easy to act on it—especially in relationships where belonging has depended on accommodating, over-explaining, or setting yourself aside. We talk about the difference between disappointing someone and harming them, and why guilt does not always mean you have acted against your values. Sometimes guilt arises because you are interrupting an old, familiar pattern. We also explore the difference between selfishness, self-abandonment, and self-inclusion: selfishness says only my needs matter; self-abandonment says only your needs matter; and self-inclusion says your needs matter, and mine do too. Together, we consider how "pre-hearsing" a boundary can help prepare your nervous system for a difficult conversation, what to do when someone pushes back, and why another person's disappointment—while real—does not have to become punishment, coercion, or self-erasure. If this conversation supported you, subscribe to The Healing You Method for future episodes. Explore my work and current offerings at GloriaLybecker.com.

  8. Sep 9

    EP 349 — When Healing Becomes Another Way to Abandon Yourself | The Healing You Method

    What happens when healing itself quietly becomes another way of leaving ourselves? In this episode of The Healing You Method, my co-host Gail Donohue and I explore the subtle line between healing that brings us home to ourselves and healing that becomes another form of striving, performing, or trying to prove that we are finally enough. We talk about the difference between approaching ourselves with curiosity and treating ourselves as an ongoing improvement project. We also explore the old message many of us carry—that we must fix ourselves before we can belong—and how practices such as journaling, meditating, or seeking support can either deepen our relationship with ourselves or pull us further away. Together, we consider what healthy support feels like in the body, how we begin to give away our authority, and why discomfort is not always something to push through. Sometimes, it is meaningful information asking to be heard. This conversation is an invitation to let healing become a relationship with yourself—not another standard you must meet. If this episode supported you, share it with someone who may be ready to trust herself again. Explore my work and current offerings at GloriaLybecker.com.

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Join Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue as they explore the transformative power of The Healing You Method, a unique approach to personal growth and emotional healing. In each episode, they share insights, practical tools, and inspiring stories that guide you on a journey to reconnect with your true self, break free from limiting patterns, and embrace a life filled with love, compassion, and purpose. Whether you're seeking deeper self-awareness, struggling with life's challenges, or simply curious about the path to inner peace, this podcast offers wisdom and support to help you heal and thrive. Tune in and discover how The Healing You Method can empower you to live your most authentic life.

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