UnBroken: Safe Place For Male Survivors Podcast:

Thomas Edward
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Adult men rising above our childhood, adolescent or adult sexual abuse trauma experiences

  1. 1379: Faith Under Fire

    4d ago

    1379: Faith Under Fire

    In “Faith Under Fire,” we explore what happens when childhood sexual abuse occurs inside religious settings or “godly homes,” where authority, obedience, and shame are spiritualized. This episode breaks down how trauma merges faith cues with threat cues, why prayer can trigger panic, and how meaning-making pathways in the brain get distorted by spiritual betrayal. You’ll learn a practical strategy to gently reframe unsafe beliefs, rebuild internal safety, and reclaim spirituality without forcing theology. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free! YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

    58 min
  2. 1378: The Self-Sabotage Loop Part 2

    May 28

    1378: The Self-Sabotage Loop Part 2

    Why do male survivors destroy things when life starts going well? Coach T moves into part two of self-sabotaging loop: The self-fulfilling prophecy identity loop How shame becomes destiny A second collapse arc for Shamus The moment childhood trauma connects to adult sabotage With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free! YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

    37 min
  3. 1377: The Self-Sabotage Loop Part 1

    May 15

    1377: The Self-Sabotage Loop Part 1

    Why do male survivors destroy things when life starts going well? In this episode, Coach T introduces the self-sabotage loop as a nervous system response — not a character flaw.  Through the story of Shamus — a composite of real survivor experiences — this episode walks you step-by-step through the internal loop that leads from stability… to collapse. From calm… to chaos. From progress… back to shame. You’ll hear: Why self-sabotage doesn’t start with destruction — it starts with discomfort How childhood sexual trauma wires the body to fear safety, closeness, and success The steps self-sabotage loop most men don’t even realize they’re running How ADHD and trauma together can accelerate impulsive collapse What’s actually happening in the nervous system when someone says, “I just lost control” This episode is essential listening for: Male survivors trying to understand their own patterns Practitioners, coaches, and professionals working with men in recovery Anyone who has ever asked, “Why do I keep doing this when things start going well?” If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep doing this?” — this is where it starts. Because once you see the loop… you can interrupt it.   With you in this, Carry Less. Live Free YouTube Channel: (if you want the visual chart for this podcast listen on YouTube Channel)   Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

    46 min

  4. May 1

    1376: “I’m Afraid He Might Be Acting Out… (Living with a male survivor Part 3)

    Something feels off… but you don’t know how to address it. This segment explores the fear of secrecy, acting out, or disconnection—and how trauma, shame, and coping behaviors can show up in ways that are hard to name. With you in this, Carry Less. Live Free YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

    38 min

  5. Apr 17

    1375: I Feel Like I’m Walking on Eggshells (Living with a male survivor Pt 2)

    So you're living with or interacting with a loved one who is a male survivor. You start noticing: You start adjusting your tone, your timing… yourself. You're changing in the relationship. You inadvertently start to experience some of the same things.  This segment explores how unpredictability creates hyper-awareness in partners—and how slowly losing your natural way of being can happen without you even realizing it. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free! YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

    46 min

  6. Apr 3

    1374: We Get Close… And Then He Pulls Away- (Living with a Male Survivor Pt.1)

    Living with a male survivor. Closeness shows up—and then disappears. This segment breaks down the confusing moment where connection turns into distance, and why a male survivor’s nervous system can’t always stay in intimacy—even when he wants to.   With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free! YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

    36 min

  7. Feb 26

    1358 Rage in Silence

    This episode unpacks the silent, explosive, misunderstood anger that male survivors carry for decades. Through Andrew’s story, we explore how childhood sexual abuse traps emotional energy, disrupts identity, and creates adult anger patterns that feel unpredictable and shame-inducing.  If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here. With you in this, Carry Less.  Live Free! YouTube Channel:  Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com   Ready to give it a try: Life by Your Design

    57 min

  8. Feb 12

    1357 Can I Trust Anyone?

    Jamal grew up believing isolation was strength. After being abused by a respected male figure and repeatedly misunderstood in therapy, trust became a threat rather than a human need. In this episode, we explore how childhood sexual abuse rewires the brain to equate closeness with danger—especially in Black men raised to be silent, self-sufficient, and unbreakable. We unpack why independence can be a trauma response, not maturity, and how healing begins with safe proximity, cultural resonance, and nervous system recalibration—not forced vulnerability. This isn't a conversation about “opening up.” It's about learning to exist around people without preparing for harm. With you in this, Coach Thomas Edward Carry Less.  Live Free! YouTube Channel:  Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com Ready to give it a try: Life by Your Design

    55 min
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