Perfection Hangover

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Perfection Hangover is a podcast for high‑capacity midlife women dealing with perfectionism, burnout, divorce, co‑parenting, blended families, and career pivots. Each week, host Melissa Blevins shares real‑life stories about starting over after divorce, high‑conflict co‑parenting, blended family challenges, midlife career changes, sobriety, body image, and faith—plus simple “First 15” habits to help you stop people‑pleasing, set boundaries, and give your best energy to the people who actually matter. If you’re a high‑capacity woman in your 30s, 40s, or 50s who looks successful on paper but feels exhausted, unseen, or stuck in survival mode, this show will help you surrender perfection, heal people‑pleasing, and reinvent midlife on your own terms. Pull up a chair—there’s a seat for you in the Perfection Hangover Circle.

  1. 1d ago

    017: I Can Do It Myself: When Your Perfectionism Gets in the Way of Letting Others Help

    You ask for help, then catch yourself saying, “Never mind. I’ll do it.” Sound familiar? In this episode, Melissa Blevins explores how perfectionism can make it hard to let others contribute at home and at work. We’re talking about the difference between something being wrong and simply being different—and how to give useful feedback without taking the whole job back. Learn one small way to practice accepting help while keeping reasonable expectations. Want to recognize your own perfectionism patterns? Take the Archetype Quiz: ARCHETYPE QUIZ

  2. Oct 4

    016: When Everyone Thinks You Can Handle It

    Have you ever said yes while already knowing you didn’t have the energy to follow through? In this episode, I share how I accepted a volunteer leadership role at my church while juggling work, kids, and a difficult home life. I knew I didn’t want to take it on, but I worried about what people would think if I declined—especially in a community where I already struggled to feel like I belonged. We’re talking about people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the pressure to be the woman everyone can count on. You’ll hear practical ways to pause before committing, consider the full cost of a yes, and communicate your limits without explaining every private detail of your life. One question to take with you: “If I knew these people would still value me after I said no, would I say yes?” Ready to explore your own patterns? Download my free Archetype Guide and discover six perfectionism archetypes you may recognize in yourself. Get the free guide: https://perfectionhangover.com/quiz

  3. Sep 27

    015: Waiting to Be Finished Before You Let Yourself Be Seen

    What if you’re waiting to feel completely healed, confident, or qualified before you let yourself be seen?   In this episode, I’m sharing how that pattern shows up in my life—from posting the highlight reel after divorce while privately struggling, to moving between a book, a keynote, and this podcast without consistently sharing the work I care about.   I’m also admitting something uncomfortable: posting less hasn’t made my desire for validation disappear.   We’ll explore how to recognize when preparation becomes delay, share honestly while keeping parts of your life private, and take one useful step while you’re still growing.   Finish this sentence with me: “I keep waiting until I’m _____ before I let myself _____.”

  4. Aug 29

    014 I Didn’t Know I Had Daddy Issues

    What if the patterns you've spent years trying to change aren't random at all? I didn't know I had a father wound. I knew my dad wasn't around much growing up. I knew I'd spent years looking for love in the wrong places. I knew I'd become fiercely independent, highly capable, and really good at being the one who could handle everything. What I didn't know was how connected those things might be. In this episode of Perfection Hangover, I'm sharing a realization that surfaced while writing my book: how a little girl who desperately wanted her father to choose her became a woman who chased being chosen through men, relationships, achievement, perfectionism, fixing, and proving. We talk about absent fathers, “daddy issues,” grooming, unhealthy relationships, rock bottom, and the difference between blaming our past and finally understanding what it taught us to believe about ourselves. I'm not telling this story because I have it all figured out. I'm telling it because, for the first time, the pieces are clicking. And if you've ever wondered why you work so hard to be successful, useful, needed, strong—or impossible to leave—this conversation might connect a few pieces for you, too. ⚠️ CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussions of childhood physical abuse, sexual assault of a minor, domestic violence, substance abuse, suicidal ideation, and a suicide attempt. Please prioritize your mental health and listen when you feel emotionally prepared. Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 This is Perfection Hangover. Surrender Perfection. Embrace Transformation.

  5. Jul 29

    013 Why We Haven't Introduced Our Kids After 2 Years of Dating

    Two and a half years. A real, committed, serious relationship. And our kids have never met. Not because we're not ready. Because when you're co-parenting with someone who is high conflict, introducing the person you love isn't a milestone — it's a target. In this episode, I'm getting honest about what it actually looks like to date someone with kids when the other parent is still at war. The compartmentalized double life. The two years of being kept invisible — not out of shame, but out of protection. The four-and-a-half-hour meeting with his ex-wife that left me with real hope — and the weeks that followed that took it all away. I also take it back to where I started: growing up in a blended family where my mom's answer to everything was rip the Band-Aid. New relationship, new kids, new family — fast. And why I refuse to do it that way. If you're navigating a high-conflict co-parenting situation, loving someone whose ex makes peace feel impossible, or just sitting in the painful in-between wondering if it ever gets easier — this episode is for you. Healing isn't linear. And neither is this.

  6. Jun 1

    012 You're Not "Too Much" - You're Just Exhausted

    Have you ever been told you’re “too loud,” “too intense,” or “too much”? As high-capacity women, we learn early on to weaponize our drive. We channel that “too muchness” into our careers, our businesses, and our to-do lists. We become the Engine—the one who keeps everyone else’s world turning without dropping a single ball. On paper, you are crushing it. But when the laptop closes and the performance mask comes off, what is left? In this episode, we are pulling back the curtain on the silent epidemic facing high-achieving women: the structural exhaustion of the Perfection Hangover. We’re diving deep into the exact moment we trade our authentic power for corporate validation, and the heavy tax our families pay for our burnout. If you are tired of bringing your "A-Game" to an inbox that will never be empty, and handing the "leftovers" of your time, patience, and energy to your kids and yourself... this conversation is your permission slip to stop performing. Inside this episode, we discuss: The Validation Loop: Why it’s easier to chase "claps" from a company that would replace you tomorrow than it is to sit in the quiet spaces of your own home. The "Ghost Mom" Syndrome: How working from home allows us to be physically present but emotionally a thousand miles away from our kids. The Energy Audit: How to spot the "energy thieves" in your social circle who require you to defend your values instead of being loved for them. The 5-Minute Pivot: A tactical, zero-friction strategy to shed the "Work Mask" before you walk through your front door. Grab a hot drink, lock the bathroom door if you have to, and let’s talk about how to stop giving your prime rib to the world and your scraps to the people who actually matter.

  7. Apr 26

    011 Part 2: Why My PIP Felt So Much Bigger Than Work

    In this episode, I share why my performance improvement plan at work felt so much heavier than a simple review. It pressed on old wounds from childhood, rock‑bottom moments, and a lifetime of feeling like I was always on “emotional probation.” If you’ve ever had work feedback trigger way more shame than makes sense, this conversation will help you see the deeper story underneath—and start to loosen its grip. ⚠️ CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussions of childhood physical abuse, sexual assault of a minor, domestic violence, and a suicide attempt. Please prioritize your mental health and listen when you feel emotionally prepared. Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

  8. Apr 18

    010 From PIP to Promotion: The Brutal Price of Quick Success

    How I went from “one step from fired” to promoted in six months—and why it almost cost me everything that mattered. In this episode of Perfection Hangover, I share the real story of how I went from a performance improvement plan at work to a promotion in just six months—and the brutal price I paid for that quick success. I’ll take you behind the scenes of my divorce, selling the house I thought I’d keep forever, a failed move into sales, and the moment I was told I had 90 days to “get it together” or lose my job. Then I’ll tell you how I turned things around, got promoted, and quietly burned myself out trying to be the fixer for everyone. If you’ve ever looked like you were winning on paper while your nervous system, family, and purpose were quietly on fire, this one’s for you.

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Perfection Hangover is a podcast for high‑capacity midlife women dealing with perfectionism, burnout, divorce, co‑parenting, blended families, and career pivots. Each week, host Melissa Blevins shares real‑life stories about starting over after divorce, high‑conflict co‑parenting, blended family challenges, midlife career changes, sobriety, body image, and faith—plus simple “First 15” habits to help you stop people‑pleasing, set boundaries, and give your best energy to the people who actually matter. If you’re a high‑capacity woman in your 30s, 40s, or 50s who looks successful on paper but feels exhausted, unseen, or stuck in survival mode, this show will help you surrender perfection, heal people‑pleasing, and reinvent midlife on your own terms. Pull up a chair—there’s a seat for you in the Perfection Hangover Circle.

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  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
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    Explicit
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