Sit Down And Heal Podcast

Sit Down And Heal
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This podcast will cover topics related to your healing journey as it relates to dating and relationships.

  1. Jun 17

    Episode 27: The Little Boy Behind The Man | How Childhood Shame Shapes Men in Adulthood

    Why do some men struggle to express emotions, ask for help, or be vulnerable in relationships? The answer may have nothing to do with adulthood and everything to do with childhood. In this episode of the Sit Down & Heal Podcast, Coach Derrick explores how childhood shame impacts boys and follows them into adulthood. Many men learn early that their feelings are unacceptable, their vulnerability is weakness, and their worth is tied to performance rather than authenticity. As a result, the little boy who was criticized, ignored, embarrassed, or emotionally abandoned often grows into a man who hides behind logic, success, anger, independence, or silence. In this conversation, we discuss: • How childhood shame shapes adult behavior • Why some men struggle to communicate emotionally • The connection between success and unhealed wounds • Anger as a mask for deeper emotions • Why emotional vulnerability feels unsafe for many men • The impact of childhood wounds on relationships • How healing begins by understanding the boy behind the man This episode is part of our Men's Mental Health Month series and is dedicated to creating space for honest conversations about emotional health, healing, and personal growth. 🎙️ Sit Down & Heal Podcast with Coach Derrick 📱 Follow on TikTok: @sitdownandheal ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: @sitdownandheal 🎧 Available on all major podcast platforms. #MensMentalHealth #ChildhoodTrauma #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #HealingJourney #Relationships #SelfGrowth #SitDownAndHeal #CoachDerrick

    1h 19m
  2. Episode 26: Are You Dating Like a Baby? Signs Your Inner Child is in Control

    Jun 4

    Episode 26: Are You Dating Like a Baby? Signs Your Inner Child is in Control

    Are you tired of repeating the same painful patterns in your relationships despite being a successful adult? It might be because your inner child is actually the one in the driver's seat of your dating life. In this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derek explores the concept of dating like a baby and how childhood wounds dictate our romantic choices. Coach Derek explains that many people date from their wounds rather than their wisdom. Whether it is a fear of abandonment, a need for constant validation, or the habit of over-performing for love, these behaviors are often survival strategies developed in childhood. Throughout this deep dive, you will learn how to recognize when your inner child is triggered and how to bring your adult self back into control. The episode covers the dangers of confusing intensity with intimacy and why so many of us fall for potential instead of reality. You will also discover how to stop testing your partners and start communicating directly. Coach Derek shares insights on how predators and narcissists target these childlike vulnerabilities and why a structured healing journey is the only way to break the cycle. By the end of this video, you will have a better understanding of how to regulate your nervous system and choose love from a place of value rather than a place of lack. Chapters 0:00 Welcome to the Sit Down and Heal Podcast 3:45 What it Means to Date Like a Baby 7:30 Dating from Wounds vs Dating from Wisdom 11:15 The Deep Fear of Abandonment 15:00 Cognitive Distortions and Relationship Stories 19:30 Why We Crave Familiarity Even When it Hurts 24:15 Emotional Monitoring and the People Pleasing Trap 28:45 The Habit of Over-Apologizing to Keep Peace 33:30 Adult Brain vs Inner Child Reactions 38:00 Needing Constant Reassurance to Function 42:45 Emotional Dysregulation and Adult Tantrums 47:15 Confusing Attention with Real Commitment 52:00 The Fantasy of Dating Someone's Potential 56:30 Auditioning for Respect and Over-Giving 1:01:00 Testing Your Partner vs Direct Communication 1:05:45 How to Bring Your Adult Self Back in Control 1:10:15 Why Predators Target the Inner Child 1:14:30 The Reboot Yourself Healing System 1:18:00 Closing and How to Start Your Healing Journey If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear this message. To learn more about private coaching, group sessions, or the healing curriculum, visit sitdownandheal.com today. #innerchild #healingjourney #datingadvice #relationshipgrowth #coachderek

    1h 19m
  3. Episode25:Mental Health Matters: Recognizing the Signs & Finding Support

    Jun 2

    Episode25:Mental Health Matters: Recognizing the Signs & Finding Support

    In Episode 4 of our Mental Health series, we continue the conversation around emotional wellness, mental health challenges, and the importance of seeking support when life feels overwhelming.This episode encourages open dialogue, reduces stigma, and reminds viewers that they are not alone. Whether you are navigating stress, anxiety, depression, or supporting someone you care about, taking the first step toward help can make a meaningful difference.In this episode, we explore:Recognizing when mental health support may be neededThe importance of talking openly and honestlyHow stigma can prevent people from getting helpEncouragement for anyone facing emotional challengesYour mental health matters. Reach out, speak up, and know that support is available.Disclaimer: This video is for awareness and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. If you or someone you know is in crisis, contact a mental health professional or emergency support service immediately.#MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #EmotionalWellness #EndTheStigma #MentalHealthSupport #SelfCare #Wellbeing

    54 min
  4. Episode 24: Your Trauma Is Talking Louder Than Your Heart

    Jun 2

    Episode 24: Your Trauma Is Talking Louder Than Your Heart

    Sometimes the way we love, respond, shut down, chase, overthink, or pull away is not coming from our heart — it is coming from unhealed pain.In this episode of Mental Health & Love, Coach Derrick breaks down how unresolved trauma can influence the way you show up in dating and relationships. You may think you are protecting yourself, but sometimes your trauma is making decisions before your healed self ever gets a chance to speak.This conversation will help you recognize when your reactions are rooted in fear, abandonment wounds, rejection, emotional neglect, or past relationship pain. Healing does not mean you will never be triggered. It means learning how to pause, reflect, and stop letting old wounds control new connections.If you are on your healing journey and trying to love in a healthier way, this episode is for you.Hosted by Coach DerrickSit Down & Heal CoachingSubscribe for more conversations about healing, relationships, childhood wounds, emotional growth, and learning how to love from a healed place.#MentalHealthAndLove #HealingJourney #RelationshipTrauma #InnerChildHealing #CoachDerrick

    59 min
  5. Episode 23: Dating with Anxiety? How to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Love Life

    Jun 2

    Episode 23: Dating with Anxiety? How to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Love Life

    Do you find yourself overanalyzing every text message or waiting for the other shoe to drop in your relationship? You are not alone, but that anxiety might be a smoke signal that attracts the wrong people. In this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derek explores the deep connection between mental health and your love life during Mental Health Awareness Month.We often think anxiety is just about panic attacks, but in dating, it frequently shows up as hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and a constant need for reassurance. Coach Derek breaks down how these behaviors are actually your inner child trying to protect you from old abandonment wounds. When you react to a trigger at a level ten for a level two situation, you are likely responding to your past, not your present partner.Throughout this video, you will learn how to identify the anxiety cycle and stop creating the very instability you fear. We discuss why overthinking is an attempt to control uncertainty and how predators can sense that frantic energy from a mile away. It is time to stop filling in the blanks with fear and start using tools like grounding and emotional regulation to find peace.Key topics include the difference between emotional instability and awareness, how to communicate your needs without spiraling, and why healing is a continuous process of evolution. Whether you are single and navigating the dating pool or currently in a relationship, this episode provides the roadmap to move from fear-based reactions to logical, healthy connections.Chapters0:00 Intro to Sit Down and Heal2:45 Mental Health and Your Love Life5:15 Defining Relationship Anxiety8:30 How Anxiety Sabotages Connection12:00 The Narcissist and People Pleaser Dynamic15:45 Overthinking and Cognitive Distortion19:15 The Psychology of Texting and Reassurance23:30 Signals Your Behavior Sends to Others27:00 Scanning for Danger and Empath Wounds31:15 Identifying Your Core Relationship Fears35:00 The Vicious Cycle of Relationship Anxiety39:30 Confirming Your Own Bias in Dating43:15 Emotional Instability vs Awareness47:00 Choosing Communication Over Spiraling51:30 Practical Tools to Regulate Your System55:00 Managing Blind Spots in Your Healing58:30 Why Healing is an Ongoing Journey1:00:42 End of EpisodeReady to take the next step in your journey? Visit sitdownheal.com to explore coaching options, workshops, and resources tailored to your personal growth. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on healing and relationships.#mentalhealth #datingadvice #healingjourney #anxiety #relationships

    1h 1m
  6. Episide 22: How Your Mental Health Shows Up in Your Relationship

    Jun 2

    Episide 22: How Your Mental Health Shows Up in Your Relationship

    Ever wonder why the same conflicts keep following you from one relationship to the next? It is time to look under the hood and realize that your mental health is playing a much bigger role in your love life than you might think. In this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derek kicks off Mental Health Awareness Month by exploring how our internal state shapes our external connections.We dive deep into the reality that no one enters a relationship as a blank slate. Instead, we bring our childhood wounds, survival modes, and unaddressed trauma into our partnerships. Coach Derek explains the difference between healthy emotional needs and toxic dependency, highlighting how overthinking and the constant need for reassurance can drain a relationship. You will learn about trauma filters, cognitive distortions, and why we often project our internal instability onto our partners.Throughout the video, we discuss how survival mode and emotional monitoring can lead to a cycle of conflict that has nothing to do with the actual issue at hand. This episode is a call to slow down, build self-awareness, and stop the cycle of repeating the same painful patterns. Whether you are single or in a long term partnership, understanding your mental health is the first step toward building a love that lasts.Chapters0:00 Intro to Mental Health and Love3:15 You Are Not a Blank Slate6:40 Your Emotional Baseline and Day to Day Stress10:20 The Filter of Trauma and Cognitive Distortions14:10 How Coping Mechanisms Impact Your Partner18:50 Overthinking and Monitoring Patterns23:30 Needing Constant Reassurance28:15 The Trap of Seeking Safety from Strangers33:05 Emotional Shutdown and Avoidant Behaviors37:45 Functioning vs Really Knowing Yourself42:20 Healthy Needs vs Emotional Dependency47:10 Projection and Taking Accountability51:30 How to Start Your Healing Journey54:30 Video EndIf you are ready to stop the cycle and start your healing journey, make sure to subscribe and join us every Tuesday at 7:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time for more insights. Reach out for coaching if you are ready to do the deep work and become the best version of yourself.#mentalhealth #healingjourney #relationships #selfawareness #coachderek

    54 min
  7. Episode 21: Your Dating Habits While In Survival Mode

    Apr 23

    Episode 21: Your Dating Habits While In Survival Mode

    Ghosting. Detachment. Low effort. Entertaining people you don’t even like… These aren’t random behaviors—they’re survival mode patterns. In this episode, we break down how burnout is shaping your dating habits and why you’re showing up in ways that don’t reflect what you actually want. ⚠️ You don’t have a dating problem… you have a capacity problem.

    45 min

  8. Apr 23

    Episode 20: You're Not Guarded, You're Exhausted

    You keep saying you’re “protecting your peace”… but what if you’re just tired?In this episode of Love in Survival Mode, we break down the difference between healthy boundaries and emotional burnout—and how exhaustion is quietly sabotaging your dating life.If dating feels draining, conversations feel like work, and you’ve lost the energy to connect… this episode is for you.💡 You’re not broken. You’re just operating in survival mode.

    58 min
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This podcast will cover topics related to your healing journey as it relates to dating and relationships.

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  • Creator
    Sit Down And Heal
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    28
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Sit Down And Heal
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