Family Meeting

Thomas Osterkamp
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The Family Meeting Podcast is a podcast all about family relationships. Our goal is to help you have the family dynamic that you have always wanted. Thomas and Lysandra invite you to be a part of their family. They pull back the curtain on their family life to share practical tips and advice on everything from marriage, parenting, sex, and everything in between. For helpful posts, videos, podcast show notes, or to book them to speak at your next event, go to www.familymeeting.org.

  1. 2d ago

    FMP 315: How Hard Conversations Can Heal Family Relationships

    Is there a conversation you know you need to have with someone in your family, but you keep putting it off? Maybe there's unresolved hurt between you and a parent. Tension with a sibling. A boundary that needs to be established. Something was said that you can't seem to get past. Or maybe everyone in the family knows there's a problem, but nobody wants to be the person who brings it up. Avoiding the conversation might feel easier, but silence doesn't always create peace. In Episode 315 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp talk about navigating difficult family relationships and why having the hard conversation you've been avoiding can sometimes be exactly what the relationship needs. Hard conversations can be uncomfortable. You may worry about hurting someone's feelings, being misunderstood, creating conflict, or making the relationship worse. But unresolved issues don't necessarily disappear because nobody talks about them. When difficult conversations are approached with honesty, humility, grace, and a genuine desire to understand each other, they can create an opportunity for healing and a healthier relationship. In this episode, we discuss: Why we avoid difficult conversations with family members. How unresolved issues can damage family relationships. Knowing when an issue needs to be addressed. How to start a hard conversation without immediately creating defensiveness.  Why listening is as important as explaining your perspective. How honest conversations can lead to healthier family relationships. You cannot control how the other person responds. But you can control how you approach the conversation. Go into it ready to listen, not simply to prove your point. Take responsibility for your part. Ask questions. Be specific about what happened. Listen to their perspective. Clarify misunderstandings. Decide what needs to change moving forward. And remember, the goal of a hard conversation shouldn't be to win. The goal should be greater honesty, understanding, and, when possible, a healthier relationship. Sometimes the relationship you want is waiting on the other side of a conversation you don't want to have. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our The Hard Conversation Planner. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 315: How Hard Conversations Can Heal Family Relationships

  2. Sep 30

    FMP 314: Why Roughhousing With Your Kids Is Good for Them

    Is wrestling with your kids actually good for them? The tackling. The chasing. The wrestling matches on the living room floor. The pillow fights. The laughter that eventually ends with somebody yelling, "Do it again!" It might look like you're simply having fun, but healthy physical play can also create opportunities for connection, trust, boundaries, self-control, and quality time between parents and children. In Episode 314 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp talk about the positive impact roughhousing and wrestling can have on the parent-child relationship and why parents shouldn't underestimate the importance of getting on the floor and playing with their kids. In this episode, we discuss: How roughhousing can strengthen the parent-child relationship. Why physical play can create connection and build trust. How wrestling gives kids opportunities to practice self-control. Teaching children to recognize and respect physical boundaries. Why kids need positive interactions with parents that aren't centered on correction. How to make roughhousing safe, appropriate, and fun. Healthy roughhousing also gives parents an opportunity to teach something important: there are boundaries even when you're having fun. When someone says stop, you stop. When someone gets hurt, you check on them. You learn how much force is appropriate. You pay attention to whether the other person is still having fun. You learn that being stronger doesn't give you permission to ignore someone else's boundaries. And sometimes the biggest benefit is much simpler. Your kids get YOU. They get your attention. Your laughter. Your energy. Your affection. Your time. Parenting can easily become a constant stream of instructions. Get dressed. Do your homework. Clean your room. Stop doing that. Get ready for bed. Your kids need you to lead them and correct them, but they also need to know that you genuinely enjoy being with them. Sometimes building a stronger relationship with your child means putting down your phone, getting on the floor, and playing with them. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our The Parent-Child Connection Challenge. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 314: Why Roughhousing With Your Kids Is Good for Them

  3. Sep 23

    FMP 313: Our Daughter Got Married!

    One of the Osterkamp girls got married! Episode 313 of the Family Meeting Podcast is a special wedding episode, and we're bringing you behind the scenes of the wedding with stories, pictures, videos, and moments you didn't get to see. And this Family Meeting has a very special guest joining us, the new Mrs. Corey Bowman! What is it really like when your daughter gets married? How does it feel when she no longer lives at home? What happens when Mom is also the wedding planner? How do you navigate all the decisions, family relationships, in-laws, stress, unexpected problems, and emotions that come with wedding week? We're talking about all of it. In this episode, we discuss: What it was like having Mom serve as the wedding planner. How we navigated the seemingly endless wedding decisions. Including the in-laws in the wedding preparations. Our favorite, most stressful, and unexpected moments from the wedding. How our family is adjusting now that Kathryne doesn't live at home anymore. The honeymoon and what it was like for the family when the newlyweds left. We're also sharing behind-the-scenes pictures and videos from the wedding, giving you a closer look at some of the moments we're talking about throughout the episode. There were incredible moments we'll never forget, stressful moments we'd probably rather forget, things that didn't go according to plan, and some special gifts from God that made the wedding day even more meaningful. And then there's the part nobody talks about enough. The wedding ends. Your daughter leaves for her honeymoon. She doesn't come back home to her old bedroom. The family dynamic changes, and everyone has to adjust to a new normal. This episode is a celebration of marriage, family, change, and one very special week in the life of our family. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our How to Handle Family Relationships During a Stressful Wedding Week. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 313: Our Daughter Got Married!

  4. Sep 16

    FMP 312: Are You Punishing Your Spouse for Someone Else's Mistakes?

    Is your spouse paying for something they never did? Sometimes your reaction to your husband or wife has less to do with what is happening in your marriage today and more to do with something that happened in your past. A parent who constantly criticized you. A previous relationship filled with betrayal. Someone who abandoned you. A childhood where conflict never felt safe. Those experiences can influence how you interpret your spouse's words, actions, motives, and mistakes. This is called transference, and it can create serious problems in a marriage. In Episode 312 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp discuss what transference looks like in marriage and how unresolved experiences from your past can affect the way you respond to your spouse today. You may assume your spouse is rejecting you when they simply need space. You may become defensive when they offer feedback because criticism meant something very different in your past. You may struggle to trust a faithful spouse because someone else betrayed you. You may have a huge reaction to a small disagreement because it triggers emotions connected to something much bigger. In this episode, we discuss: What transference looks like in marriage. How past relationships can influence present reactions. Why childhood experiences can create emotional triggers in your marriage. How to recognize when your reaction is bigger than the current situation. The difference between responding to your spouse and reacting to your past. Practical ways to stop making your spouse pay for someone else's mistakes. One of the most important questions you can learn to ask during conflict is: "Am I responding to what my spouse actually did, or am I responding to what this reminds me of?" Your feelings may be real, but your interpretation of what is happening may not always be accurate. Recognizing transference doesn't mean ignoring legitimate problems in your marriage or excusing unhealthy behavior. It means learning to evaluate your spouse based on who they actually are and what they actually did instead of assigning them the motives, intentions, or failures of someone from your past. Your spouse shouldn't have to keep fighting battles against people who aren't even in your marriage. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our Is This About You...or My Past? Transference Self-Check. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 312: Are You Punishing Your Spouse for Someone Else's Mistakes?

  5. Sep 9

    FMP 311: How to Help Your Child Overcome Fear of the Unknown

    What do you do when your child is afraid of something that hasn't even happened yet? A new school. Moving to a new place. Trying out for a team. Going to college. Meeting new people. Changes in the family. Sometimes the biggest fears our kids face aren't about what IS happening. They're about what MIGHT happen. In Episode 311 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp discuss how parents can help children face the fear of the unknown without dismissing their feelings, feeding their anxiety, or teaching them to avoid everything that makes them uncomfortable. Fear often grows in uncertainty. As parents, our job isn't to guarantee our children that everything will work out exactly the way they want. We need to help them develop the confidence, resilience, and faith necessary to face situations when they don't know what will happen next. In this episode, we discuss: How to help your child identify what they're actually afraid of. The difference between preparing your child and feeding their fear. Helping kids separate what they know from what they imagine might happen. Why constantly rescuing kids from uncomfortable situations can work against them. Practical ways to build courage, confidence, and resilience in your child. How faith can help children face uncertainty and fear. Your child will face situations you cannot control. You won't always be able to remove uncertainty. You won't always know what's coming next. And eventually, your child will face situations without you standing beside them. The goal isn't to raise children who never feel afraid. The goal is to raise children who know what to do when they ARE afraid. Instead of always removing the scary thing, help your child learn how to face it. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our Facing the Unknown: A Parent and Child Conversation Guide. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 311: How to Help Your Child Overcome Fear of the Unknown

  6. Sep 2

    FMP 310: Sex Killers - 5 Things That Are Killing Intimacy in Your Marriage

    What is killing the sexual intimacy in your marriage? For many couples, intimacy doesn't disappear overnight. It slowly gets pushed aside. Resentment builds. Schedules get packed. Phones get more attention. Conflict goes unresolved. Emotional connection begins to disappear. And eventually, what happens outside the bedroom starts affecting what happens inside it. In Episode 310 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp discuss five common sex killers that can damage physical and emotional intimacy in marriage: bitterness, busyness, technology, unresolved conflict, and emotional neglect. In this episode, we discuss: How bitterness and resentment affect sexual intimacy. Why busyness can slowly push your marriage to the bottom of your priorities. How phones, screens, and technology compete for your spouse's attention. Why unresolved conflict often follows couples into the bedroom. How emotional neglect creates physical distance. Practical ways to protect and rebuild intimacy in your marriage. A healthy sex life isn't only about what happens in the bedroom. How you speak to each other matters. How you handle conflict matters. How much attention you give each other matters. Whether your spouse feels emotionally connected to you matters. If physical intimacy has become difficult, infrequent, or nonexistent in your marriage, don't only focus on sex. Look for what may be happening underneath the surface. What is creating distance between you? What resentment hasn't been addressed? What conflict hasn't been resolved? What has become more important than your relationship? And when was the last time your spouse genuinely felt pursued by you? Whether you're currently struggling with sexual intimacy or simply want to protect the connection you already have, this episode will help you identify some of the biggest threats to intimacy and begin doing something about them. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our Marriage Intimacy Killers Assessment. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 310: Sex Killers - 5 Things That Are Killing Intimacy in Your Marriage

  7. Aug 26

    FMP 309: How to Forgive Yourself After Failing Your Spouse

    Have you ever looked back at something you said or did to your spouse and thought, "I don't know if I'll ever forgive myself"? Maybe you lost your temper. Maybe you lied. Maybe you were unfaithful. Maybe you neglected your marriage or made a decision that deeply hurt the person you promised to love. Your spouse has forgiven you. God has forgiven you. But you still can't seem to forgive yourself. In Episode 309 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp talk about how to move beyond guilt and shame after failing your spouse and how to embrace the forgiveness and grace Christ offers. There is a difference between taking responsibility for what you did and allowing what you did to define who you are. Genuine repentance acknowledges the seriousness of our failures, but shame can keep us trapped in mistakes that God has already forgiven. In this episode, we discuss: Why you may struggle to forgive yourself even after receiving forgiveness. The difference between conviction and condemnation. How guilt and shame from your past can continue hurting your marriage today. Why accepting God's grace doesn't mean minimizing what you did. How to take responsibility without allowing failure to become your identity. Practical steps for rebuilding trust after hurting your spouse. How repentance should lead to change rather than endless shame. Biblical truth about forgiveness, grace, healing, and new beginnings. How to move forward after you've seriously failed your spouse. What it looks like to receive the forgiveness Christ offers. Your worst mistake doesn't have to become your identity. You can't change what happened yesterday. You can take responsibility for it. You can repent. You can seek forgiveness. You can make restitution where necessary. You can learn from what happened. And by God's grace, you can become a different spouse moving forward. If you've confessed your sin and received God's forgiveness but continue punishing yourself for what you've done, this conversation is for you. Whether your failure happened recently or years ago, Episode 309 will help you confront shame, accept forgiveness, pursue healing, and move forward with humility and a renewed commitment to love your spouse well. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our Moving Beyond Guilt: A Biblical Guide to Accepting God's Forgiveness. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 309: How to Forgive Yourself After Failing Your Spouse

  8. Aug 19

    FMP 308: Teaching Your Kids to Think Biblically

    Your kids are being discipled every day. Movies. Music. YouTube. TikTok. Social media. Influencers. Television. Video games. Friends. Culture. Every message they consume has the potential to shape what they believe about truth, relationships, sexuality, identity, success, morality, and God. The answer isn't simply keeping your children away from every message you disagree with. You need to teach them how to evaluate those messages for themselves. In Episode 308 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp discuss how parents can teach their children to filter the messages they receive through the truth of Scripture. Instead of only asking, "Is this appropriate for my child?" Christian parents also need to teach their children to ask, "Is this true?" We talk about how to use movies, television, music, social media, and other forms of entertainment as opportunities for discipleship. Your children need to learn how to recognize the worldview behind the message, compare it with what Scripture teaches, reject what is false, and hold on to what is true. In this episode, we discuss: Why parents need to help children develop biblical discernment. How media and entertainment influence your child's worldview. Teaching kids to recognize the message behind the entertainment. How to compare cultural messages with biblical truth. Why simply banning media doesn't teach discernment. Using movies, music, and social media to start meaningful conversations. Helping children develop a biblical worldview. Preparing your kids to evaluate messages when you aren't there to do it for them. You won't always be standing beside your children when they encounter a message that conflicts with Scripture. The goal is to raise children who know God's Word well enough to recognize what is true, identify what is false, and make wise decisions for themselves. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our The Biblical Media Filter: 10 Questions Every Family Should Ask. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting

    FMP 308: Teaching Your Kids to Think Biblically
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The Family Meeting Podcast is a podcast all about family relationships. Our goal is to help you have the family dynamic that you have always wanted. Thomas and Lysandra invite you to be a part of their family. They pull back the curtain on their family life to share practical tips and advice on everything from marriage, parenting, sex, and everything in between. For helpful posts, videos, podcast show notes, or to book them to speak at your next event, go to www.familymeeting.org.

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  • Creator
    Thomas Osterkamp
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    315
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2020 Thomas Osterkamp
  • Show Website
    Family Meeting

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