The Hard Or Soft Show

The Hard Or Soft Show

Tahoe and Loon speaks to people in the sex community about things men like and don't like about sex in an effort to learn, educate and broaden mens horizons around exploring themselves and their partners desires, wants, and needs.

  1. 4d ago

    Porn Star Confessions: Nat TurnHer Talks Sex, Race and Industry Secrets

    Nut Navy ROLLLLLLL CAAALLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!! Is bigger always better? Do porn stars really have unlimited stamina? And what REALLY happens when the cameras stop rolling? 👀 This week on Hard Or Soft, Tahoe, Yesssterday, Courtney, and the crew welcome adult film star Nat Turn Her for an unfiltered conversation about sex, size, performance anxiety, and the realities of working in the adult entertainment industry. Nat kicks things off by explaining the unexpected challenges of being well-endowed and why paying attention to a woman’s reactions matters more than size alone. Can people tell when someone is being satisfied in the bedroom? Is there really such a thing as “good p***y”? And why have some of Nat’s friends completely frozen up when given the opportunity to sleep with adult film stars? 😩 We also pull back the curtain on one of the biggest myths about male porn stars: that they’re always ready to perform. Nat reveals why even professional performers sometimes struggle with erections on set, the extreme enhancements some men rely on, and why his own unusually high sex drive has always made him feel different. Then things get WILD. We explore the concept of “free use”, whether men could actually keep up with a woman who wanted unlimited sexual access, having sex in front of friends, public encounters, and what it’s like being hired to satisfy another man’s wife. Nat even shares stories about sneaking in intimate moments during a jail visit and some of the craziest places he’s ever had sex. But the conversation goes deeper than the bedroom. Nat opens up about how he entered the porn industry, why he initially kept his career a secret from his friends, and the controversial historical reference behind his stage name. We also discuss race, gender, discrimination, and the unspoken hierarchy within the adult film industry—including how being a Black male performer can influence opportunities, pay, and career advancement. Plus, Nat reveals the wildest scene he’s ever filmed and shares behind-the-scenes stories you won’t believe. Sex, race, performance pressure, industry secrets, and plenty of laughs. This is one Hard Or Soft conversation you don’t want to miss! 🎙️ Hard Or Soft Podcast — Real conversations about sex, relationships, intimacy, and everything people are afraid to say out loud. Socials: Nat @NatTurnHer88 on Instagram Watch the podcast @AnotherPhuckinPodcast on youtube! Courtney @Courtney_Shav on Instagram Tahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Ads: Load Boost Head To LoadBoost.com and use code HardorSoft for 10% off!!! GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow      #HardOrSoftPodcast #NatTurnHer #SexAndRelationships

  2. Oct 28

    BoyFriend D*ck vs GirlFriend Vagina And Kelly G Wants TO Be A DOMME???

    Nut Navy ROLLLLL CAALLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!! Kelly G of The Kelly G Show joins Tahoe, Yesssterday, and Courtney for one of the funniest and most unexpectedly revealing episodes of Hard Or Soft yet! We kick things off discussing our recent Hard Or Soft photo shoot before diving into Kelly’s dating preferences, whether she’s naturally dominant or submissive, and a surprise phone call to Rabbit to see if the two might actually be compatible! Then things get interesting when we ask: What exactly is “boyfriend d*ck”? Is it about size, emotional connection, or how a woman feels about her partner? And is there such a thing as “girlfriend vagina”? Plus, would you consider a man thoughtful or suspicious if you visited his home and discovered bonnets, pads, and other feminine products waiting for guests? Kelly opens up about dating younger men, why she believes older men are better lovers, and a recent encounter with a man who expressed interest in pegging. The conversation turns into an exploration of sexual preferences, masculinity, and whether certain bedroom activities should determine someone’s sexuality. But the biggest revelation comes when Kelly reveals she’s considering meeting with Mistress Marley to explore becoming a professional dominatrix! Despite admitting she currently has little interest in intercourse, Kelly discusses her curiosity about BDSM, dominance, and discovering new forms of intimacy. Tahoe even surprises her with her very own bedroom toy! The crew also gets into anal pleasure, unusual adult entertainment genres, sex dolls, why some women enjoy watching men pleasure themselves, and how c**k rings can enhance certain bedroom experiences. Meanwhile, Tahoe discovers he’s apparently been missing out on the benefits of incognito mode! 😂 And of course, Yesssterday continues his search for BBW women across different cultures. We close things out with our signature segments: 🔥 Courtney’s Kink of the Week — Another exploration into the world of kink. 😳 Yesssterday’s Confession of the Week — A woman admits her boyfriend unknowingly washed himself with the SAME washcloth her side dude had just used to clean up after sex! 😂 Tahoe’s Tweets of the Week — The internet never disappoints! From dating and sexual compatibility to BDSM, bedroom preferences, and outrageous relationship confessions, this episode has everything you’ve come to expect from Hard Or Soft! Socials: Kelly @TheKellyGShow on Instagram Courtney @Courtney_Shav on Instagram Tahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Ads: Drive Boost Head TO VB.Health and use code HardorSoft for 10% off!!! GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow     #HardOrSoft #SexualWellness #RelationshipAdvice #HardOrSoftShow #Punisher #Cassie #Diddy #MensSexualHealth   Subscribe, leave a comment, and tell us: Would you date someone who has no interest in intercourse but enjoys other forms of intimacy? #HardOrSoftPodcast #KellyG #Relationships

  3. Oct 21

    Punisher Tells ALL: Cassie, Diddy, Freak Offs & the Truth About His Penile Implant

    Nut Navy ROLLLL CAALLLLL!!!!!!! This week on The Hard or Soft Show, we welcome Punisher, the male exotic dancer and former escort whose involvement with Cassie Ventura and Sean “Diddy” Combs became part of one of the most talked-about scandals in entertainment. Punisher opens up about his relationship with Cassie, how they first connected, Diddy’s alleged involvement, and what unfolded during their approximately two-and-a-half-year arrangement. He shares his perspective on the motivations behind their encounters, whether he believed Cassie was being coerced, and some of the unusual sexual experiences he witnessed.  But there’s much more to Punisher’s story than the headlines.  He gets candid about using sexual performance enhancements, developing erectile dysfunction, and ultimately undergoing penile implant surgery. We discuss male sexual health, sensitivity, nerve regeneration, and the emotional challenges men face when their sexual performance changes.  Punisher also reveals how discovering his girlfriend had cheated on him with another male escort sent him into a dark period of his life, and how that experience inspired him to become a lifestyle coach helping men navigate relationship trauma and sexual health struggles.  Meanwhile, Tahoe kicks things off with a hilarious male grooming session, dyeing his beard, applying eye patches, and giving himself a facial treatment while testing Kapture, an app that connects creators with videographers who shoot and edit their content. Other topics include: How women can tell men they need better hygiene without embarrassing themWhy Tahoe used to attend Punisher’s male stripper partiesCourtney questioning whether therapy should come before penile implant surgeryLearning how to date your partner again after years togetherA Black content creator claiming that sleeping with a Black man would be “selling her soul”Why society celebrates men who have sex with large numbers of womenFrom celebrity scandals and bedroom confessions to men’s mental health, sexual performance, and relationship recovery, this episode goes places you won’t expect.  Welcome to Hard or Soft, where no conversation is off limits. Socials: Punisher @GetPunished on Instagram Join his community at YourHardReset.com and get his products at ThePunisherPack.com Courtney @Courtney_Shav on Instagram Tahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Ads: SoakingWet Visit SoakingWet.com and use HardorSoft for 10% off!!! GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow     #HardOrSoft #SexualWellness #RelationshipAdvice #HardOrSoftShow #Punisher #Cassie #Diddy #MensSexualHealth

  4. Oct 14

    Why Women Fake it: What Ppl Get Wrong About Sex & Pleasure Feat @Doc_Izzy

    Nut Navy ROLLLLL CAAALLLLL!!!!!!!!! Are men really satisfying women in the bedroom, or are they just assuming they are? Why do so many women struggle to climax during sex, and how do you tell your partner they’re not getting the job done? This week on The Hard or Soft Show, we’re joined by special guest @doc_izzy for a hilarious, revealing, and surprisingly educational conversation about sexual pleasure, intimacy, communication, and what men STILL don’t understand about women. Things get interesting immediately when Doc Izzy reveals what she was doing when Tahoe reached out to invite her onto the show! From there, we explore the different parts of the body that crave sexual attention and how understanding your partner’s pleasure can completely change your sex life.  Tahoe opens up about how maturity has changed his approach to intimacy, shifting his focus toward making sure women enjoy themselves and actually reach climax. But that raises some important questions:  When did women realize they were supposed to climax during sex?When did men realize women’s orgasms were just as important as their own?How do you tell a man he’s not satisfying you without destroying his confidence?Can putting on a little performance in the bedroom help create the reaction you want?Why is emotional safety so important to a woman’s sexual confidence and willingness to explore her desires? We also get into role-playing in relationships, and despite admitting he’s TERRIBLE at it, Tahoe accepts a challenge to surprise his fiancée! Then the conversation takes a serious turn as we discuss the Cornell 7 case, the importance of recognizing subtle sexual pressure, and why men need to hold their friends accountable when they see toxic behavior toward women. How can men create environments where women feel genuinely safe, respected, and free to express themselves? And of course, it wouldn’t be Hard or Soft without our signature segments!  🔥 Courtney’s Kink of the Week — Exploring another side of the kink world. 🔥 Tahoe’s Tweets of the Week — The internet gives us plenty to talk about. 🔥 Yesssterday’s Confessions — You never know what he’s going to admit next! 🔥 The Urban DICKtionary — Tahoe introduces another innocent-sounding word with a VERY adult meaning. And trust us, our Load Boost this week is absolutely CRAZY! From orgasms and sexual compatibility to role-playing, consent, emotional safety, and bedroom confidence, this episode has something for everybody.  Tap in with Tahoe, Yesssterday, Courtney, and Doc Izzy for another wild episode of The Hard or Soft Show! Question of the week: Would you rather your partner tell you that you’re not satisfying them, or fake it to protect your feelings? Socials: Doc Izzy @Doc_Izzy on Instagram Courtney @Courtney_Shav on Instagram Tahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Ads: LoadBoost Visit Loadboost.com and use HardorSoft for 10% off!!! GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow     #HardOrSoft #SexualWellness #RelationshipAdvice

  5. Oct 1

    When They're Used To Something BIGGER 😳 I Sex, Intimacy and Compatibility

    Nut Navy ROLLLLL CAAALLLLLLLL!!!!! This week on Hard or Soft, Tahoe, Courtney and Yesssterday are back — and somehow we go from Tahoe finding out his daughter is sexually active to wondering why MEN don’t have their own version of an OB/GYN. 😭 First, we get into love and vulnerability. Have you ever wanted to say “I love you” but stopped yourself? Even worse…have you ever finally said it and gotten NOTHING back?! We also talk about the little nonsexual things your partner does that inexplicably turn you on and the different ways people experience intimacy. Are you kinky, sensual, energetic, sexual — or a shapeshifter who needs a little bit of everything depending on the person and the moment? Then things get complicated.  Have you ever found your mind wandering to somebody else while you’re being intimate with your partner? What happens when memories from a previous relationship still influence your current experiences? And what exactly is a sexual yearner? We also get into sexual compatibility and the insecurity that can come with dating someone who’s accustomed to something…different than what you’re working with. 😭  Then a woman asks an unexpectedly legitimate question: Why don’t men have a “dick doctor”? Women routinely see OB/GYNs, so where are men supposed to go with questions about sexual and reproductive health? And why are so many men reluctant to go to the doctor in the first place? PLUS — could the entire Hard or Soft / Nut Navy crew be taking a group trip to Hedonism?! 👀 We’ve also got Tweets of the Week, a new entry into the Urban DICKtionary, Courtney’s Kink of the Week, and Yesssterday returns with a Confession of the Week that might be one of the WILDEST we’ve gotten yet. And of course, we finish with The Hard & The Soft: THE HARD: Eye contact and connection during intimacy. 👀 THE SOFT: Ladies…presentation matters. 😂 Love, fantasies, intimacy, sexual compatibility, men’s health and entirely too much information.  Welcome back to Hard or Soft. Socials: Courtney @Courtney_Shav on Instagram Tahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Visit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor. Ads: GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

  6. Sep 23

    How To Ride, Survive a Bad Sex Life And Keep The Spark Alive Feat @FantasyFitnessMD

    Nut Navy ROLLLLLL CAAALLLLLL!!!!! This week on Hard or Soft, we’re joined by Toni (@fantasyfitnessmd) of Fantasy Fitness, and somehow we manage to turn relationship advice, sexual chemistry and riding lessons into one completely unhinged conversation. 😂 We start with something every long-term couple eventually has to deal with: How do you keep conflict from destroying the sexual attraction you have for your partner? And what happens when you’re with somebody whose sex drive is MUCH higher than yours? Then Toni tells us the unbelievable story of why TWO of her boyfriends decided to break up with her after they went to jail. Apparently incarceration had them doing some serious relationship reflection. 😂  From there, Toni explains how casually teaching friends bedroom techniques eventually turned into an actual Fantasy Fitness class, why people sign up, and what they’re hoping to learn. We also talk about building anticipation with your partner throughout the day, mismatched sexual desire, how much recovery time people really need between rounds, and whether bad sex is enough reason to GHOST somebody afterward. The crew also imagines what would happen if we all became OnlyFans creators and had to choose our own niche. Plus, there’s a new use for Meta glasses that nobody at Meta had in mind, Yesssterday introduces us to another one of his…creative techniques, and Tahoe has to answer for possibly ruining his friend’s experience by deciding to join the festivities. Toni also talks about the confidence and motivations that shaped her approach to intimacy, while the crew gets into communication, boundaries and what partners actually enjoy in the bedroom.  A listener writes in to tell us about a “little” obsession of his..  And of course, Courtney is back with Kink of the Week. Relationship problems, sexual confidence, Fantasy Fitness, questionable decisions and entirely too much information.  Welcome back to Hard or Soft. Socials: Toni @FantasyFitnessMD on Instagram Head to www.RidingForRookies.com to book a slot at one of Toni's Riding classes Courtney @Courtney_Shav on Instagram Tahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Visit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor. Ads: Drive Boost Go to VB.Health and use code HARDORSOFT for 10% off GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

  7. Sep 16

    BDSM, Kink & Open Relationships- The Rules Nobody Teaches You

    Nut Navy ROLLLLL CAAALLLLL!!!!!!! This week on Hard or Soft, we’re joined by Dre for a deep dive into BDSM, kink culture, play parties, relationships and the history behind a community that a lot of people participate in — but may not fully understand. And somehow we start with Dre explaining why he’s out here using BOXING GLOVES to massage booty. 😂   From there, Dre takes us into the world of rope and body suspension, explaining the different levels of suspension, why properly distributing someone’s weight matters, and what draws people to the experience in the first place. Then we get into the HISTORY.  Dre breaks down the roots of leather culture, BDSM and kink, including the influence of LGBTQ+ communities on the culture that exists today. We discuss why some longtime members of those communities are critical of a newer generation entering kink spaces, hosting events and adopting practices without learning the history, traditions and responsibilities that came before them. Then we bring everything back to relationships.  Tahoe and Dre explain why they’ve chosen not to sexually engage with attendees while they’re hosting play parties. We talk about the best way to tell your partner you’re interested in someone else at a party, what happens when your kinks DON’T match your partner’s, and how to respectfully approach a couple when you’re interested in connecting with one of them.  And then comes the conversation a lot of men aren’t prepared to have: How do men navigate their partners having other male partners? We get into jealousy, communication, boundaries, multiple relationship dynamics outside of a primary partnership, and whether wanting freedom for yourself means being prepared to give your partner that same freedom.  This isn’t just a conversation about what people do in kink spaces — it’s about understanding the culture, communication, consent and history behind them. Welcome back to Hard or Soft. Socials: Dre @BeatsByDre on Fetlife Go to @HausofBliss on Instagram for event details Courtney @Courtney_Shav on Instagram Tahoe @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Visit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor. Ads: Soaking Wet Go to SoakingWet.com and use code HARDORSOFT for 10% off GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

  8. Sep 9

    What Makes Someone REALLY Good In Bed? Confidence, Anxiety & Communication Feat @SkipFromBK

    Nut Navy ROLLLLLLL CALLLLLL!!!!!!!! This week on Hard or Soft, Courtney gets an unexpected business opportunity when a fan propositions her for feet pictures — and somehow that’s only the BEGINNING of where this episode goes.  We get into why American women seem to love British men, which leads Tahoe, Yesssterday and Skip to announce their upcoming trip to London to find out whether English women have that same energy for American men. Then we’re talking about what actually makes someone GOOD in the bedroom. How soon should you start discussing sex with someone you’re dating? Why do nerds have a reputation for being surprisingly great lovers? And could something as simple as being able to admit when you’re wrong actually make you better in bed?  We also have a real conversation about male performance anxiety and how anxiety can affect the way men physically show up in sexual and play-party environments. Skip opens up about how becoming part of the Hard or Soft / Nut Navy community has helped increase his confidence, and the crew discusses why some women can be so judgmental about men using sexual performance enhancements. Plus, we’re breaking down bedroom communication, sex positions that look like WAY more work than fun, Tahoe somehow ends up with Skip as his “astral penis,” and Skip tells us exactly what he likes — and doesn’t like — in the bedroom.  Courtney returns with Kink of the Week, Yesssterday has a brand-new listener confession, and Tahoe makes an important announcement regarding Loon’s departure from Hard or Soft. Funny, informative, vulnerable and completely inappropriate in all the ways you’ve come to expect from Hard or Soft. Welcome back to the Nut Navy. Socials: Skip @SkipFromBK on all socials Tahoe  @Tahoe_TV Twitter and Instagram Yessssterday @Yesssterday on Instagram and Twitter Visit our Patreon to see All visuals and listen to the show Ad free Visit www.rockhardgummies.net to purchase the new products for mens pleasure featuring the rock Hard Gummies new products, The JUICE and the Chocolate Thor. Ads: LoadBoost Visit Loadboost.com and use code HARDORSOFT to get 10% off GetTheButters  Visit GetTheButters.com/thehardorsoftshow to get 10% off your entire order and 1st subscription when you use code HARDORSOFTSHOW Visit our Official Secks Toy Sponsor Erotic Boudoir - @Erotic_boudoir Erotic-Boudoir.com (Use Code HARDORSOFT for 10% off) Patreon at www.patreon.com/thehardorsoftshow Email us at HardorSoftPod@gmail.com and send us messages on Instagram at @theHardOrSoftShow  Twitter @HardOrSoftShow

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Tahoe and Loon speaks to people in the sex community about things men like and don't like about sex in an effort to learn, educate and broaden mens horizons around exploring themselves and their partners desires, wants, and needs.

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    The Hard Or Soft Show
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
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