Dating Intelligence the Podcast

Christopher Louis/ Natalie Stavola
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Most relationship podcasts tell you what you want to hear. This one tells you what you need to know. International dating coach Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola — actress, producer, and international transformation coach — bring unmatched chemistry and zero tolerance for surface-level answers to the conversations that actually shape your love life. From first dates to long-term commitment, from self-sabotage to real transformation, Dating Intelligence covers every stage of the journey with expert guests, raw honesty, and the kind of insight that makes you rethink everything. Unfiltered. Unapologetic. Nothing is off limits.

  1. Jul 14

    Confidence Is Your Best Profile: Dating, Energy & Authenticity

    Natalie Stavola and Christopher Louis dive into what really creates attraction in today's digital world—and it's not the perfect photo or carefully curated profile. From dating app pictures and social media filters to confidence, presence, and self-worth, they explore how authenticity becomes your greatest advantage. They share personal stories, practical strategies, and mindset shifts for building genuine confidence, overcoming self-doubt, handling rejection with resilience, and showing up as your most authentic self. You'll also learn why your energy matters, how presence changes the way others experience you, and simple techniques to instantly access greater confidence in everyday life. Whether you're navigating dating apps, building stronger relationships, or working on personal growth, this conversation offers actionable insights to help you stop performing and start attracting from a place of authenticity.  Keywords: dating profiles, authenticity, self-confidence, social media, photos, self-image, dating apps, inner work, self-love, digital dating confidence, energy, presence, self-worth, relationships, personal growth, mindset, authenticity, rejection, success Key Topics The importance of authentic photos on dating apps How social media influences self-perception The role of inner confidence in dating success Tips for taking genuine and flattering photos The impact of editing and filters on self-image The role of self-confidence in social interactions How energy and mindset influence attraction Techniques to switch on confidence instantly Handling rejection without losing self-worth The importance of presence and authenticity in success Takeaways Confidence is a skill that fluctuates and can be learned.  Energy and mindset directly impact how others perceive us. Practicing presence helps in reducing anxiety and increasing authenticity. Reframing rejection as a growth opportunity boosts resilience. Being true to your emotions accelerates personal and relational growth. Sound Bites "You look how you look like who you look like." "iPhones distort your face." "Confidence is a skill set." Chapters 00:00 – Introduction and Personal Stories 01:55 – The Reality of Bathroom Selfies and Profile Photos 04:01 – The Evolution of Self-Perception and Photos 06:02 – The Skill of Taking Good Photos and Posing 09:01 – Authenticity vs. Filters and FaceTune 12:03 – The Impact of Social Media and Editing Apps 15:06 – Inner Confidence and Self-Love in Dating 17:54 – The Future of Video Profiles and Authenticity  21:07 – Rejection, Self-Worth, and Inner Work 24:01 – The Power of Self-Perception and Belief Systems 28:02 – The Fluctuation of Confidence and How to Manage It 30:08 – Techniques to Instantly Switch on Confidence 35:12 – Handling Rejection and Maintaining Self-Worth 40:42 – The Power of Presence and Authenticity 44:59 – Using Energy to Attract Success and Love 50:35 – Overcoming Childhood Programming and Limiting Beliefs 55:01 – Practical Tips for Staying Present in Daily Life 1:00:00 – The Role of Inner Work in Personal Transformation 1:05:02 – Celebrating Small Wins and Building Confidence 1:10:02 – The Importance of Self-Compassion and Forgiveness Sponsor: If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/dating Hosts info: Natalie Stavola - Instagram Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com Christopher Louis - Instagram Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/

  2. Jun 30

    The Truth About Marriage: Why We Choose the Wrong Partners! feat. Jamie Lynn

    In this episode of Dating Intelligence, hosts Christopher and Natalie explore the complex landscape of love, marriage, and self-discovery. Featuring therapist Jamie Lynn, they delve into societal pressures, the evolving mindset around marriage, and how personal growth influences relationship choices. Whether you're contemplating marriage or navigating love at any age, this conversation offers clarity and fresh perspectives. Main Topics Explored: Societal expectations and the role of marriage as a status symbol The differences in mindset about marriage for younger vs. older adults The impact of childhood conditioning and trauma on relationship choices How love differs from attachment and trauma bonds Practical advice on having honest conversations about marriage expectations The influence of cultural standards on women's perceptions of worth Navigating pressure from family and society to marry The significance of self-love and authenticity in partnership Benefits and challenges of marrying young vs. later in life Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and banter between hosts 01:13 - Guest introduction and conversation about her background 02:42 - Perspective on marriage and societal conditioning 04:21 - The influence of childhood and societal programming 06:05 - The importance of authentic connection over societal approval 09:10 - Why many women marry for status, not love 11:52 - Differences in marriage mindset across life stages 14:21 - Risks and benefits of marrying young vs. later in life 16:36 - Love versus attachment—key distinctions 18:08 - Traditional roles in marriage and personal preferences 21:01 - The impact of trauma bonds and soul connection 23:32 - Gender differences in marriage pressure 27:14 - How to approach relationship conversations early 30:20 - The importance of alignment and shared values 33:23 - Feeding into societal narratives and real self-awareness 36:52 - Women's wiring for companionship and relationship fulfillment 38:45 - Self-love as a foundation for healthy partnerships 41:16 - Pros and cons of getting married young 45:17 - The significance of family lineage and cultural expectations 46:21 - Jamie Lynn's experience with Australian family 48:01 - Connecting with the guests and closing remarks Guest links:  Jamie Lynn- Instagram Pinkpill Therapy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/pinkpilltherapy Hosts info:  Natalie Stavola - Instagram Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com   Christopher Louis - Instagram  Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/   Whether you're single, dating, or considering marriage, this episode encourages you to reflect on your worth, values, and the true indicators of a fulfilling relationship.

  3. Jun 16

    "Loving Out Loud: Inside The Poly Couple's Comedy, Chaos, and Real Talk on Non-Monogamy"

    Dana and Daniel built a viral comedy series out of their real polyamorous relationship — and the result is funnier, messier, and more honest than most people expect. On this episode, Natalie and Christopher sit down with the duo behind The Poly Couple to talk about what actually happens when you turn your love life into content: the boundaries that hold it together, the jealousy that has to be worked through (not avoided), and the friendship that makes the whole thing possible. This isn't a polyamory 101 lecture. It's a real conversation about communication under pressure, what ethical non-monogamy looks like day-to-day, and why authenticity — on camera and off — is the only thing that actually works. In this episode: The evolution of their web series inspired by true events and their journey into filmmaking What polyamory truly means: loving more than one person in diverse ways The importance of communication, trust, and boundaries in ethical non-monogamy How to introduce poly concepts to a partner and navigate difficult conversations The role of jealousy: a natural indicator of care and trust issues Personal boundaries, including scheduling and respectful communication The humorous side of poly life: clips from their series and real-life anecdotes The ongoing challenges and lessons learned in maintaining multiple relationships How their long-term friendship and collaboration strengthen their relationship storytelling The significance of authenticity and emotional truth in their content creation Timestamps:  00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Exploring humor and honesty in polyamory 00:21 - Introducing Dana and Daniel, creators of a viral poly series 03:42 - What is polyamory? Definitions and misconceptions 05:15 - How they discovered polyamory and its inspiration from historical tour stories 07:24 - The realities and challenges of opening up a relationship 08:49 - The importance of trust and communication in navigating poly environments 11:17 - Differentiating between genuine polyamory and misused labels 13:08 - The cathartic process of writing and filming personal stories 15:40 - The emotionalDepth of the series and learning from mistakes 17:31 - Handling jealousy and red flags in relationships 20:24 - Managing insecurities and trust issues with partners 23:52 - Setting boundaries: transparency and respecting each other's space 28:22 - How they organize their busy schedules and maintain trust 31:31 - Life filming the series: balancing creativity with daily life 33:36 - How long they've been friends and collaborators 34:41 - Resources and social platforms where you can follow Dana, Daniel, and the  Series Resources & Links: Sponsors:  J4L  Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/uK4nXo  J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/    Poly Couple Info:  [Dana and the Wolf - YouTube](https://youtube.com/channel/ DanaandtheWolf) Connect with Dana and Daniel: @danaandthewolf  (I THINK ALL OF THEIR HANDLES ARE DANA AND THE WOLF        ELECTRICNOW - TT - @electricnow / INSTA - @electricnowtv / TWITTER - @electricnowtv        ELECTRIC ENTERTAINMENT TT - @electricentertainment / INSTA - @electricentertainmentofficial  / TWITTER - @electricEnt1       DEAN DEVLIN - TT - @DDEVLINJR / INSTA - @officialdeandevlin/ TWITTER - @dean_devlin Air Date: The episode drops June 16th at 4am PST  Follow their series for more real, raw, and hilarious insights into polyamory Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/   Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/  Special thanks to the hosts and their engaging questions. Stay connected, stay truthful, and keep exploring the complexities of modern love.

  4. Jun 3

    The Invisible Reason You Keep Attracting the Wrong Person! feat. Stefanie Truino

    You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've done the work — or at least you think you have. So why does the same relationship keep showing up with a different face?  In this episode, Christopher and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with energy healer Stefanie Truino to explore what traditional self-help can't reach: the energetic and subconscious layers driving your love life from underneath. They break down how emotional blockages get lodged in the body, why cord attachments to past partners keep you energetically tethered long after the relationship ends, and how tools like Reiki, astrology, and the Akashic Records can reveal the patterns you've been too close to see. This isn't woo. This is the part of the work most people skip — and why they stay stuck. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Current Events 02:59 Exploring Dating Dynamics and New Partnerships 05:52 Introducing Energy Healing and Its Impact 08:53 Understanding Emotional Blockages in Relationships 11:59 Skepticism and the Healing Process 14:58 Reprogramming Thought Forms for Better Relationships 18:45 Exploring Inner Child Healing 21:31 The Role of Intuition in Healing 24:18 Energy Cleansing Techniques 25:32 Understanding Cords of Attachment 30:08 Navigating Energy Drain in Social Situations 33:49 The Dynamics of Social Interactions 34:45 Astrology and Personal Validation 36:50 The Influence of Astrology on Life Decisions 39:05 Understanding Personal Patterns Through Astrology 41:01 Exploring the Akashic Records 43:22 Starting Your Healing Journey Sponsors: J4L Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/click?pid=239&offer_id=15&sub1=June2 J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/ Christopher Louis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

  5. May 20

    "Boundaries, Blind Spots & Better Love"

    Modern dating has a noise problem — reality TV selling fairy tales, apps reducing attraction to a swipe, and social media quietly eroding how we see ourselves and what we expect from love. In this episode, Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola cut through all of it. They get into why most people enter relationships still carrying the wreckage of the last one, how blurry boundaries masquerade as flexibility until everything falls apart, and what emotional intelligence actually looks like in real-time — not in theory. They also break down what shows like Love Is Blind and Age of Attraction get right, get wrong, and what they unintentionally reveal about how desperate most people are for genuine connection. If you've been wondering why the same patterns keep showing up with different people, this episode is the answer you didn't know you were looking for. Key Topics The importance of boundaries in relationships Healing from past relationships and self-growth Strategies for effective communication and vulnerability The importance of patience and self-awareness in relationships Insights into popular dating shows like Love is Blind and Age of Attraction The impact of social media and media on self-esteem and dating The role of emotional intelligence and authenticity in love Strategies for personal growth and healthy relationships Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Dating Intelligence 02:55 Exploring Intentional Dating and Matchmaking 05:34 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 12:55 Conscious Uncoupling and Healing 18:28 Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth 20:53 Harnessing Anger for Growth 23:05 The Dynamics of Relationship Conflicts 25:46 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships 27:07 The Importance of Communication and Journaling 29:00 Navigating New Partnerships 32:15 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Patience 36:03 Reality TV and Relationship Dynamics 42:08 Insecurity and Gaslighting in Relationships 44:01 Dating Shows: Love is Blind vs. Age of Attraction 44:49 Navigating Breakups and Dating as a Coach 46:36 The Dynamics of Age in Dating 48:55 The Importance of Depth in Relationships 52:14 Healing and Growth in Modern Relationships 54:43 Feminism and Chivalry in Dating 58:56 The Rat Race of Toxic Relationships Sponsors:  Web link: https://trk.pdt.im/uK4nXo J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/  Christopher Louis:  Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/ Men.tality:  https://www.datingmentality.com/ Natalie Stavola:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

  6. May 6

    7 Secrets to a Lasting Marriage! feat. Dr. Mario Sacasa

    In this episode, Christopher and Dr. Mario Sacasa, a relationship expert blending faith, psychology, and strategy, shares insights on maintaining healthy relationships, effective communication, and the importance of emotional connection. Discover practical tips for couples at any stage to strengthen their bond and avoid common pitfalls. Chapters 00:00 The Importance of Time in Dating 05:00 Drifting in Relationships 10:05 Communication and Vulnerability 15:03 Building Emotional Connection 20:03 The Role of Trust in Relationships 27:34 The Relationship as the Client 30:12 Navigating Communication in Counseling 36:22 Understanding Relationship Dynamics 38:06 Establishing Healthy Communication from the Start 43:23 Managing Conflict and Timeouts 48:39 The Importance of Seeking Help Early   Dr. Mario Sacasa links: Resources Dr. Mario Sacasa's Podcast - Always Hope Attachment Theory - Sue Johnson Relationship Counseling Services weblink: https://www.drmariosacasa.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@drmariosacasa Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmariosacasa Sponsor:  No Such Thing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-such-thing/id1780210954 Men.tality : https://www.datingmentality.com/ Christopher Louis:  https://dating-intelligence.com/ Instagram: @fetchsport

  7. Apr 21

    How Self Awareness Transforms Your Love Life! feat. Ana Christian

    What if the biggest reason your relationships aren't working… is something you're not fully seeing? In this episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with relationship coach Ana Lea Christian to explore how self-awareness directly shapes your love life—who you're attracted to, how you show up, and why certain patterns keep repeating. Ana works with high-achieving men and women to break toxic cycles, rebuild confidence, and create relationships that feel both safe and deeply fulfilling. In this conversation, she shares how emotional intelligence, authenticity, and inner work are the real keys to attracting aligned partners. From understanding attachment styles to recognizing red flags early, this episode gives you the clarity to stop repeating old patterns—and start creating something different. If you've ever felt stuck in your dating life or questioned why you keep attracting the same outcomes, this episode will shift your perspective completely. ⸻ 🔑 In This Episode:     •    How self-awareness impacts attraction and relationship choices     •    Why you keep repeating the same patterns in dating     •    How to recognize and break toxic cycles     •    The role of emotional intelligence in healthy relationships     •    Understanding attachment styles and how they affect you     •    How to build confidence and attract aligned partners     •    What it takes to create a relationship that feels safe and alive ⸻ 🧠 Topics Covered: dating advice, relationships, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, toxic patterns, attachment styles, confidence, self-love, personal growth, red flags, modern dating ⸻ ⏱ Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates 02:49 The Importance of Boredom and Self-Reflection 05:41 Introducing Ana Lea Christian 08:49 The Dangers of Leading with Assets in Dating 11:32 Understanding High-Value Relationships 14:26 From Performance to Authenticity 17:22 Healing Childhood Patterns & Self-Worth 20:15 The Seven Pillars of Relationship Coaching 22:15 Navigating First Dates: The Art of Connection 29:05 Red Flags & Relationship Patterns 41:39 Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships 47:24 Finding Alignment in New Relationships 49:00 Understanding Dating Dynamics 51:56 Recognizing Red Flags 52:53 Healing from Toxic Relationships 55:53 The Importance of Self-Work 59:35 Attachment Styles Explained 01:01:53 Attracting Aligned Partners 01:04:45 The Role of Honesty in Relationships ⸻ 🎙 Guest: Ana Lea Christian 💻 https://analeacoaching.com 📸 Instagram: @ana__lea__ 🎵 TikTok: @ana__lea__ ⸻ 📲 Follow and Connect Christopher Louis - @fetchsport Natalie Stavola - @nataliestavola Dating Intelligence - dating-intelligence.com Sponsors: Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

  8. Apr 7

    Dating After Divorce: How to Rebuild Yourself & Attract the Right Partner! feat. Kristine Krishnan

    What if divorce wasn't the end… but your biggest opportunity to rebuild your life and relationships the right way? In this episode of Dating Intelligence, host Christopher Louis and guest divorce coach, Kristine Krishnan break down the reality of dating after divorce—what actually works, what holds people back, and how to move forward with clarity, confidence, and emotional maturity. They explore how to rebuild trust, rediscover your identity, and stop carrying old relationship patterns into new connections. From navigating dating apps to balancing healing with putting yourself back out there, this episode gives you the tools to date with intention—not fear. If you're starting over or questioning your approach to dating, this conversation will help you shift from survival mode into power and clarity. ⸻  In This Episode:     •    How to rebuild yourself after divorce     •    Why emotional maturity is the key to better relationships     •    How to stop repeating old patterns in dating     •    The balance between healing and putting yourself back out there     •    How to trust again after being hurt     •    Navigating dating apps with clarity and confidence     •    Why self-reflection changes everything ⸻ Chapters:  00:00 Investing in Relationships: A New Approach 01:15 New Year, New Beginnings: Setting Intentions 02:30 Emotional Maturity and Conscious Connection 03:56 Reinventing Yourself After Divorce 05:24 Navigating Life Post-Divorce 07:15 Overcoming Fear and Embracing Change 09:10 The Weight of Baggage: Moving Forward 10:38 Self-Reflection: The Key to Healing 11:53 The Role of Coaching in Divorce Recovery 13:12 January: The Month of Divorce 14:08 Moving Forward: Tips for Life After Divorce 15:06 Taking Time for Self-Assessment 17:03 Healing vs. Dating: Finding Balance 19:12 The Importance of Journaling 20:38 Gratitude and Growth: A Positive Outlook 22:32 Rediscovering Your Identity 23:20 The Challenge of Being Alone 24:14 Understanding Values in Relationships 25:34 The Unique Challenges for Women Post-Divorce 27:00 Men's Perspective: The Struggles After Divorce 28:21 The Importance of Support Systems 29:38 Navigating the Dating Scene After Divorce 30:59 The Role of Dating Apps in Modern Relationships 32:22 Accountability in Relationships 34:18 Trusting Again: From Guarded to Grounded 36:38 Healing vs. Hiding: Emotional Availability 39:49 Adapting to Online Dating 42:35 Authenticity vs. Perfection in Dating 44:28 Building Trust in New Relationships 46:11 The Importance of Communication 49:12 Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability 51:31 Truth or Honesty: A Game for Connection 54:45 Final Thoughts: Moving Forward with Intention ⸻ Kristine Krishnan  webpage - https://www.coachkristine.com/ ⸻ Christopher Louis- https://www.instagram.com/fetchsport?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Natalie Stavola- https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Dating Intelligence- https://dating-intelligence.com YouTube- https://youtube.com/@DatingIntelligencethePodcast?si=Fr2amnYP8nqd4h2x ⸻ Sponsor: Mentality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

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Most relationship podcasts tell you what you want to hear. This one tells you what you need to know. International dating coach Christopher Louis and co-host Natalie Stavola — actress, producer, and international transformation coach — bring unmatched chemistry and zero tolerance for surface-level answers to the conversations that actually shape your love life. From first dates to long-term commitment, from self-sabotage to real transformation, Dating Intelligence covers every stage of the journey with expert guests, raw honesty, and the kind of insight that makes you rethink everything. Unfiltered. Unapologetic. Nothing is off limits.

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  • Creator
    Christopher Louis/ Natalie Stavola
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    149
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2022 Dating Intelligence the Podcast
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