Be A Better Parent | For Every Child It Takes A Village... The Same Goes For Every Parent!

Celia Kibler
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Being a parent is hard—in fact, it’s quite the adventure! For every child it takes a village, the same goes for every parent! We all need questions answered, and we need to know stuff we don’t even know we need to know. Welcome to the Be A Better Parent Podcast, your essential resource for valuable advice and information that relates to you and your kids. Join Celia Kibler, Family & Relationship Empowerment Coach & Author of RAISING HAPPY TODDLERS, with over 40 years of mom & professional experience. Celia offers the best advice that NO ONE ELSE GIVES YOU about raising kids in today's world.

  1. 5d ago

    S9E28 (EP 206): Are You Parenting Your Child or Your Childhood? Breaking generational cycles with Dr. Kalyani Gopal

    Have you ever heard yourself say something to your child and suddenly thought, “Oh my gosh… I sound just like my mom or dad.” Maybe it’s the way you respond when you’re frustrated, discipline your child, handle conflict, or think about what a “good” parent should be. Sometimes, the patterns we bring into parenting started long before we ever had children. In this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast, Celia Kibler welcomes Dr. Kalyani Gopal, a clinical psychologist with more than 35 years of experience working with families. Together, they explore how our childhood experiences, family relationships, and deeply held beliefs can influence the way we parent—and how unhealthy patterns can sometimes be passed from one generation to the next. Because our children learn from more than what we tell them. They watch how we communicate, handle emotions, respond to conflict, and treat the people around us. And sometimes, without realizing it, we repeat the very patterns we once promised ourselves we would never repeat. In this episode, you’ll hear: How childhood experiences can shape the way we parentWhy we sometimes repeat behaviors we swore we’d never useHow unhealthy family patterns can continue across generationsHow triggers can cause us to fall back into familiar responsesWhy awareness is the first step toward changing unhealthy patternsHow social media can influence our beliefs about parentingWhy asking for help and learning new skills is a strength One of the most important reminders from this conversation is that you may have inherited certain patterns, but you don’t have to pass them on. Breaking a generational cycle isn't about blaming your parents or becoming a perfect parent. It’s about recognizing what you carry from your past and learning to respond differently when those old patterns are triggered. Dr. Gopal reminds parents that none of us come with a manual. We’re all learning, and asking for support is nothing to be ashamed of. If you’ve ever recognized pieces of your own childhood showing up in your parenting, wondered why certain situations trigger strong reactions, or want to create healthier patterns for your children, this episode offers insight, compassion, and hope. As you listen, ask yourself: Am I parenting the child in front of me, or am I sometimes parenting from the childhood I experienced? To learn more about Dr. Kalyani Gopal and her work, visit SafeCHR.org. 📖 Get Dr. Gopal’s book/workbook: Strong Roots, Safe Wings To stay connected with Celia Kibler, visit BeABetterParent.com and explore the Be A Better Parent app and other parenting resources. Visit TimeForSkool.com and take the Parenting Success Snapshot. This quick assessment will help you better understand your family’s unique strengths and challenges so you can begin identifying the parenting shifts that may create the greatest impact. You don’t have to be perfect to break a cycle. You just have to become aware of it—and be willing to choose something different.

  2. Aug 23

    S9E27 (EP 205): Inherited, But Not Inevitable: Breaking the Cycles That Hurt Families With Ama K. KariKari Esq.

    Because the patterns we inherit from our families can shape us but they don't have to define what happens next. Have you ever looked at something happening in your relationship or family and thought, “Where did this come from?” Sometimes the answer reaches much further back than we realize. The way we handle conflict. The way we communicate. The way we respond to anger, silence, or emotional pain. So much of what feels normal to us can come from what we experienced growing up. In this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast, Celia Kibler welcomes Ama K. Karikari, Esq. back to the conversation to explore how generational cycles of dysfunction, unhealthy relationships, and abuse can continue from one generation to the next and, most importantly, how we can begin breaking those cycles. Because children don't just learn from what we tell them. They learn from what they see every day. The relationships they witness can become their baseline for what feels normal, even when that “normal” isn't healthy. In this honest and deeply personal conversation, Celia and Ama talk about the experiences that can shape our relationship patterns, why we sometimes recreate dynamics we promised ourselves we'd never repeat, and what it takes to become aware of those patterns before passing them on to our children. In this episode, you'll hear: How childhood experiences can shape what we accept and tolerate in adult relationshipsWhy the relationship dynamics children witness can become their definition of “normal”How yelling, emotional withdrawal, and the silent treatment can affect both partners and childrenWhy we may unknowingly recreate familiar relationship patterns—even when we consciously want something differentHow becoming aware of your own history can help you understand the patterns showing up in your relationshipsWhy breaking generational cycles starts with recognizing what was once considered normalHow parents can begin creating healthier relationship patterns for the next generationOne of the most powerful reminders in this episode: What you inherited may have shaped you, but it doesn't have to determine what you pass on. Breaking a cycle doesn't mean blaming your parents. It doesn't mean pretending the past didn't happen. And it doesn't mean you have to change everything overnight. It starts with awareness. When you understand where your patterns come from, you can begin making different choices and those choices can create a very different experience for your children. Because the way we treat one another becomes part of what our children learn about relationships. And changing that pattern can be one of the most meaningful things we do for the generations that come after us. If you've ever wondered why certain patterns keep showing up in your relationships, or you're determined to give your children a healthier emotional foundation than the one you may have experienced, this episode offers an honest conversation filled with insight, personal experience, and hope. Tune in to this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast and remember: inherited doesn't mean inevitable. To learn more about Ama K. Karikari, Esq. and her work supporting women healing from toxic relationships and abuse, visit www.amakkarikari.com/soaring-sisters-circle Ama also offers a free call for those looking for support. To stay connected with Celia Kibler, visit BeABetterParent.com and explore the Be A Better Parent app and other parenting resources designed to help you create a calmer, more connected family. Visit TimeForSkool.com and take the Parenting Success Snapshot. This quick assessment will help you better understand your family’s unique strengths and challenges so you can begin identifying the parenting shifts that may create the greatest impact. You don't have to repeat what came before you. You can be the one who starts something different.

    S9E27 (EP 205): Inherited, But Not Inevitable: Breaking the Cycles That Hurt Families With Ama K. KariKari Esq.

  3. Aug 16

    S9E26 (EP 204): The Dad Effect: The Powerful Role Fathers Play in a Child’s Life With Dr. Ben

    Have you ever wondered just how much a father’s presence can shape a child’s life? Fathers play a powerful role in the emotional, social, and personal development of their children but being an involved dad isn't always about having all the answers or getting everything right. In this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast, Celia Kibler sits down with Dr. Ben to talk about the unique impact fathers can have on their children and why showing up, staying connected, and being actively involved can make such a meaningful difference. Because children don't just need parents who provide for them. They need parents who are present. They need connection. They need encouragement. And they need to know that their dads are there for them through the everyday moments as well as the big ones. In this thoughtful and encouraging conversation, Celia and Dr. Ben explore what father involvement can look like in real life and why the small, consistent ways dads connect with their children can have a lasting impact. In this episode, you'll hear: Why a father's presence can have such a meaningful impact on a child's developmentWhat being an involved father really looks like beyond simply providing for a familyHow everyday moments can strengthen the bond between fathers and their childrenWhy children benefit from having dads who are emotionally present and engagedHow fathers can build stronger connections through listening, encouragement, and shared experiencesWhy showing up consistently matters more than trying to be a perfect parentHow the relationship between fathers and children can continue to influence them as they growOne of the most important reminders in this episode: You don't have to be a perfect dad to make a powerful difference in your child's life. You just have to keep showing up. That doesn't mean every day will go smoothly. It doesn't mean you'll always know what to say. And it definitely doesn't mean you won't make mistakes. It means being willing to connect, listen, learn, and be present. Because some of the moments that seem small to us can become the memories and experiences our children carry with them for years. If you're a dad, raising children alongside a dad, or simply want to better understand the important role fathers can play in a child's life, this conversation offers thoughtful insights and encouragement for creating stronger family connections. Take a listen to this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast and discover why the Dad Effect can be so powerful—and how being present today can help shape your child's tomorrow. To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent. You can also connect with Dr. Ben through the resources shared in this episode and continue exploring ways to support healthy, connected families. And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It offers on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence right when you need it most.

    S9E26 (EP 204): The Dad Effect: The Powerful Role Fathers Play in a Child’s Life With Dr. Ben

  4. Aug 2

    S9E25 (EP 203): Stop Guessing: A Better Way to Parent

    Because you don’t need more parenting tips you need to know what will make the biggest difference for your family. Have you ever finished another parenting book, listened to another podcast, or watched another parenting video and thought: “Why do I still feel like I’m making this up as I go?” You’re not alone. Parents today have access to more information than ever before. There are endless tips, opinions, strategies, and experts telling us what to do. But when every situation comes with a different answer, parenting can start to feel overwhelming, confusing, and impossible to get right. In this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast, Celia Kibler shares why more information isn’t always the answer and why the right advice at the wrong time may not create the change your family needs. Because parenting isn’t about learning 50 new techniques. It’s about discovering the one shift that can help move your family forward. Every family has strengths. Every family has challenges. And every family has its own unique puzzle to put together. In this encouraging and practical episode, Celia explains how identifying the core issue behind recurring challenges can help parents move beyond temporary fixes and create meaningful, lasting change. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why collecting more parenting tips doesn’t always lead to better resultsHow to identify the challenges that may be creating stress, conflict, and overwhelm in your homeWhy treating the symptoms without addressing the core issue can keep the same problems coming backHow small, intentional shifts can lead to more cooperation, calmer mornings, and less yellingWhy consistency and follow-through are essential for building trust and respectHow giving more attention to positive choices can encourage children to repeat those behaviorsWhy parenting is less about being perfect and more about being intentional and preparedHow understanding your family’s unique strengths and challenges can help you choose the right next step One of the most important reminders in this episode: You are not 50 parenting tips away from a better family. You may be just one meaningful shift away. That doesn’t mean parenting will suddenly become easy. It doesn’t mean there will never be frustration, overwhelm, or difficult days. And it definitely doesn’t mean you have to become a perfect parent. It means you can stop guessing. You can learn what your family needs most. And you can build a strong, successful foundation one step at a time. Because you shouldn’t have to spend your parenting journey simply trying to survive. Your family deserves the opportunity to thrive. And when parents feel empowered and prepared, they can create calmer homes, stronger relationships, more cooperation, and the kind of connection children carry with them into adulthood. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by conflicting parenting advice or wondering what you should focus on first, this episode will help you look beyond quick fixes and begin finding a clearer path forward. Take a listen and remember: you don’t have to know every parenting trick. You just need the right support, the right tools, and a clear understanding of what to do next. Ready to discover where your family is already winning, where you may be feeling challenged, and what might be missing? Visit TimeForSkool.com and take the Parenting Success Snapshot. This quick assessment will help you better understand your family’s unique strengths and challenges so you can begin identifying the parenting shifts that may create the greatest impact. You can also connect with Celia and explore more parenting support at BeABetterParent.com, including practical resources, the Be A Better Parent app, and a supportive community designed to help you create a calmer, more connected, and happier home. You don’t have to do this alone. You don’t have to keep guessing. You can take the next step with greater clarity, confidence, and hope.

    S9E25 (EP 203): Stop Guessing: A Better Way to Parent

  5. Jul 19

    S9E24 (EP 202): Navigating Autism with Confidence: What Every Parent Should Know to Help Their Child Thrive

    Because every autistic child deserves to be understood, supported, and celebrated for who they are. Receiving an autism diagnosis or even wondering whether your child may be autistic can bring a mix of emotions. You may feel overwhelmed, uncertain, or worried about what comes next. You're not alone. The good news is that autism isn't something to fear. With understanding, support, and the right tools, autistic children can thrive in their own unique ways. In this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast, Celia Kibler welcomes a special guest to explore what every parent should know about raising and supporting a child on the autism spectrum. Together, they offer practical guidance, encouragement, and evidence-based insights to help parents move forward with greater confidence and compassion. Because every child deserves to feel seen, accepted, and empowered to reach their full potential. In this thoughtful conversation, you'll learn how to better understand your child's unique strengths and challenges, build stronger communication, and create an environment where they can flourish at home, at school, and in everyday life. In this episode, you'll learn: What autism really is and what it isn'tEarly signs parents should be aware of and why early support mattersHow to better understand your child's unique strengths, sensory needs, and communication stylePractical strategies for supporting emotional regulation and everyday routinesWays to advocate confidently for your child at school and in the communityHow to foster independence while meeting your child where they areWhy celebrating your child's differences is one of the greatest gifts you can give them One of the biggest reminders in this episode: Your child's diagnosis does not define their future. It doesn't limit who they can become. And it certainly doesn't change how deeply they deserve to be loved, respected, and understood. Every child develops at their own pace. Every child has unique gifts. And with patience, support, and the right resources, your child can build confidence, meaningful relationships, and a life filled with possibility. If you've recently received an autism diagnosis, are looking for practical parenting guidance, or simply want to better understand how to support an autistic child, this episode offers compassionate advice, expert insights, and real hope for the journey ahead. Take a listen, and discover how small shifts in understanding can make a lifelong difference for your child and your family. To learn more about Celia Kibler's parenting resources, visit BeABetterParent.com, explore the Be A Better Parent App, and join a supportive community of parents committed to raising confident, connected, and resilient children. To learn more from our guest and discover additional autism resources, visit Navigating Autism at navigatingautism.com, where you'll find guidance, support, and practical tools to help your child thrive.

    S9E24 (EP 202): Navigating Autism with Confidence: What Every Parent Should Know to Help Their Child Thrive

  6. Jul 9

    S9E23 (EP 201): When Your Partner Stops Speaking: The Hidden Harm of the Silent Treatment

    Because silence isn't always peaceful and sometimes the deepest wounds come from the words left unsaid. Have you ever found yourself in a disagreement with your partner, only to be met with complete silence? No conversation. No explanation. Just distance. Whether you've experienced the silent treatment or caught yourself using it, this episode shines a light on a relationship pattern that can quietly erode trust, communication, and emotional safety. In this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast, Celia Kibler explores the hidden impact of the silent treatment why it happens, what it communicates to the people we love, and how it can affect not only our relationships with our partners but also the emotional environment our children grow up in. Because healthy relationships aren't built by avoiding conflict. They're built by learning how to move through conflict with honesty, respect, and connection. In this thoughtful and compassionate episode, Celia explains the difference between taking a healthy pause to regulate your emotions and using silence as a form of punishment or control. She also shares practical ways to rebuild communication, repair emotional disconnection, and model healthier conflict resolution for your family. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the silent treatment can feel so painful and emotionally damagingThe difference between taking space to calm down and shutting someone outHow emotional withdrawal impacts trust, connection, and relationship securityWhy unresolved conflict affects the entire family—including your childrenHealthy ways to communicate when emotions are running highPractical steps for reconnecting after disagreements with empathy and respectHow modeling healthy conflict resolution teaches children emotional resilience and stronger relationships One of the most important reminders in this episode: Healthy relationships aren't conflict-free they're built on repair, communication, and emotional safety. That doesn't mean every disagreement will be easy. It doesn't mean you'll always say the perfect thing. And it definitely doesn't mean you have to ignore difficult emotions. It means learning to stay connected, even when conversations are hard. Because children aren't just listening to what we say. They're watching how we treat one another. And the way we handle conflict today helps shape how they'll approach relationships tomorrow. If you've ever struggled with communication in your relationship, felt hurt by emotional withdrawal, or wanted healthier ways to navigate conflict without damaging connection, this episode offers practical guidance, compassionate insight, and encouragement for moving forward. Take a listen, and discover how small changes in the way we communicate can strengthen our relationships, deepen trust, and create a more peaceful home for everyone. To learn more about Celia Kibler's parenting and relationship resources, visit BeABetterParent.com, explore the Be A Better Parent App, and join a supportive community of parents committed to creating calmer, more connected families.

    S9E23 (EP 201): When Your Partner Stops Speaking: The Hidden Harm of the Silent Treatment

  7. Jun 21

    S9E22 (Mini-Series EP 10): Conditional Love: Humanity’s Favorite Parenting Mistake

    How shame, withdrawal, and approval-based parenting quietly affect self-worth. Have you ever found yourself saying things like, "I'm disappointed in you," giving your child the silent treatment after a difficult moment, or withholding affection until they apologized or behaved differently? Most parents have. Not because we don't love our children. But because many of us were raised with the belief that approval, affection, and connection should be earned. And without realizing it, we can sometimes pass those same messages on to our own kids. In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Miniseries, Celia Kibler and Dr. Kailey Buller explore one of the most common and often unintentional parenting mistakes: conditional love. Because every child needs guidance, accountability, and boundaries. But they also need to know that their worth is never tied to their behavior, achievements, mistakes, or ability to meet our expectations. In this honest and thought-provoking conversation, Celia and Dr. Kailey unpack how shame, withdrawal, criticism, and approval-based parenting can quietly shape a child's sense of self. They also discuss what it looks like to hold children accountable while still communicating unconditional love, safety, and belonging. In this episode, you'll hear: What conditional love looks like in everyday parenting momentsHow shame differs from healthy accountability and disciplineWhy children need to feel loved even when their behavior needs correctingThe lasting impact of approval-based parenting on confidence and self-worthHow withdrawal, criticism, and emotional distance can affect parent-child relationshipsWhy mistakes are opportunities for learning—not evidence of a child's valuePractical ways to set boundaries without using shame or guiltHow to build stronger emotional safety and connection within your familyOne of the most powerful reminders in this episode: A child's behavior may need correction, but their worth never does. That doesn't mean there should be no consequences. It doesn't mean lowering expectations. And it definitely doesn't mean letting children do whatever they want. It means separating who your child is from what your child does. Because children who know they are loved even when they struggle, fail, or make mistakes develop the confidence to learn, grow, and take responsibility for their actions. And children who feel emotionally safe are far more likely to come to us when they need support the most. If you've ever wondered whether your discipline approach is building connection or creating distance, or if you're trying to break parenting patterns you experienced growing up, this episode offers practical insights and compassionate reminders that can help you parent with greater clarity and confidence. Tune in to this episode of Raising Eyebrows your weekly dose of sanity in a world full of parenting noise. We're so glad you're here. To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent. You can also connect with Dr. Kailey Buller at @vitalswithdrbuller for thoughtful, evidence-based support around motherhood, family health, and raising children with confidence. And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It offers on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence right when you need it most.

    S9E22 (Mini-Series EP 10): Conditional Love: Humanity’s Favorite Parenting Mistake

  8. Jun 14

    S9E21 (Mini-Series EP 09): The Radical Idea of Letting Kids Be Kids

    Mud puddles, imagination, movement, messes… and why it all matters. Have you ever watched your child jump into a mud puddle, build an elaborate imaginary world, climb higher than you expected, or spend hours creating games out of things that weren't even toys? If so, you've witnessed something powerful. Because what looks like "just play" is actually some of the most important work of childhood. In a world filled with packed schedules, screens, structured activities, and pressure to constantly achieve, it can be easy to forget something simple: Kids need space to be kids. In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Miniseries, Celia Kibler and Dr. Kailey Buller explore why play, imagination, movement, exploration, and even a little messiness are essential parts of healthy child development. Because play isn't a distraction from learning. It's learning. It's how children develop creativity, confidence, resilience, problem-solving skills, and trust in their own abilities. In this thoughtful and encouraging conversation, Celia and Dr. Kailey unpack why modern parenting culture often makes us feel like we need to supervise, structure, and optimize every moment and why giving children more opportunities for unstructured play may actually be one of the greatest gifts we can offer them. In this episode, you'll hear: Why play is one of the most important tools for healthy childhood developmentHow imagination, creativity, and pretend play help children make sense of the worldWhy movement, exploration, and hands-on experiences are critical for learningWhat "risky play" really means—and why it isn't the same as unsafe playHow children build confidence by testing limits and solving problems on their ownWhy boredom can actually spark creativity and independenceThe difference between protecting children and overprotecting themSimple ways to create more opportunities for free play in everyday lifeOne of the most powerful reminders in this episode: Children don't need every moment planned, managed, or optimized. They need room to explore, imagine, create, and discover who they are. That doesn't mean ignoring safety. It doesn't mean letting chaos take over. And it definitely doesn't mean stepping away from your role as a parent. It means trusting that childhood itself has value. Because mud puddles teach lessons. Imagination builds skills. Movement strengthens minds and bodies. And sometimes the moments that look the least productive are the ones helping our children grow the most. If you've ever worried about giving your child enough freedom, struggled to balance safety with independence, or wondered whether unstructured play really matters, this episode offers practical insights and reassuring reminders that can help you approach parenting with greater confidence. Tune in to this episode of Raising Eyebrows your weekly dose of sanity in a world full of parenting noise. We're so glad you're here. To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent. You can also connect with Dr. Kailey Buller at @vitalswithdrbuller for thoughtful, evidence-based support around motherhood, family health, and raising children with confidence. And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It offers on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence right when you need it most.

    S9E21 (Mini-Series EP 09): The Radical Idea of Letting Kids Be Kids
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Being a parent is hard—in fact, it’s quite the adventure! For every child it takes a village, the same goes for every parent! We all need questions answered, and we need to know stuff we don’t even know we need to know. Welcome to the Be A Better Parent Podcast, your essential resource for valuable advice and information that relates to you and your kids. Join Celia Kibler, Family & Relationship Empowerment Coach & Author of RAISING HAPPY TODDLERS, with over 40 years of mom & professional experience. Celia offers the best advice that NO ONE ELSE GIVES YOU about raising kids in today's world.

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