The Millennium Counseling Center Podcast

Millennium Counseling Center
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Welcome to the Millennium Counseling Center Podcast! As one of the leading counseling centers in Chicago, our goal is to help people rise above shame and pain to reach heights they never thought were possible. In this podcast we will help people find a way out of the bondage of self-hate, shame and pain often caused by addiction, mental illness and trauma. We believe that with hard work and dedication, people can reclaim the hope that these diseases insidiously strip away. Come celebrate healing, hope, and recovery with us. Hope is yours, it’s time to soar.

  1. 50m ago

    Saying What Matters 12 | Between Acceptance and Resistance

    Some things are ours to accept. Others ask us to speak up. In this unscripted episode of Saying What Matters, Oren Matteson and Rahsaan Nurullah follow a conversation that quickly turns to acceptance. Oren talks openly about two things he struggles to accept: that he doesn’t always have the right answers, and that life is finite. Rahsaan asks how those moments feel in the body, what Oren does to find safety, and what it costs to rush past difficult feelings instead of staying with them. The conversation then turns to the tension between accepting what is and resisting what feels wrong. Rahsaan explains how a value hierarchy shapes what people tolerate and what they stand up for. Oren reflects on resisting his family’s move to the suburbs and what it taught him about identity, flexibility, and humility. The episode closes with a look at the silence men often keep when others cross a line, and why speaking up begins with noticing what happens in the body. Key Discussion Points from Between Acceptance and Resistance Facing the things that are hardest to accept Noticing fear and powerlessness as they show up in the body Finding safety before turning toward what feels overwhelming How anxiety comes from anticipating risk that isn’t present Why resistance is often where the suffering lives Balancing acceptance with standing up for what feels wrong How a value hierarchy shapes what we tolerate and what we fight for Why identity and familiarity make change hard to accept Approaching others with humility and curiosity instead of judgment What silence costs when we witness something we’re not okay with Related Episodes: Finding Compassion Without Erasing the Pain Knowing When Something Needs to Change Teaching Your Partner How to Treat You Listening to Understand, Not to Respond What the Body Remembers From Childhood Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 12 | Between Acceptance and Resistance appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

  2. 1d ago

    Saying What Matters 11 | Living by What You Value

    You can climb the ladder, check every box, and still feel disconnected from yourself. In this episode of Saying What Matters, Rahsaan Nurullah talks about leaving a corporate career driven by burnout and an old fear of financial insecurity. He explains how he rebuilt his life around what actually makes him feel alive: service, connection, and inner work. Oren Matteson asks the question many listeners will have. How do you live this way while still keeping a job, staying in one place, and providing for the people who depend on you? Oren and Rahsaan explore how clarity about your values changes how you spend your time, why being “asleep at the wheel” can cost more than we realize, and how the body signals what is and isn’t working. Oren shares how connection is his strongest source of meaning, and how he uses his own irritation with others as a mirror for growth. The two also discuss the pull toward “more” and why peace, presence, and a smaller world can be the most fulfilling choice. Key Discussion Points from Living by What You Value How a drive for success can grow out of an old trauma response Recognizing burnout as feeling empty even in good moments Telling apart what you were taught to want from what you actually want Why getting clear on your values can change the direction of your life Living in both worlds while keeping a traditional job and routine Moving out of autopilot and paying attention to what drives your choices Using frustration with others as a mirror for personal growth How honesty and authenticity create immediate connection Questioning the belief that more always equals more Choosing peace as a priority Related Episodes: Knowing When Something Needs to Change Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck The Body Knows Before the Mind Does What the Body Remembers From Childhood Saying What Matters in a Relationship Listening to Understand, Not to Respond Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 11 | Living by What You Value appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

  3. Aug 11

    Saying What Matters 10 | What the Body Remembers From Childhood

    The body can hold onto experiences long after the mind has moved forward. In this episode of Saying What Matters, Rahsaan Nurullah guides Oren Matteson through a somatic healing exercise involving breathwork, body awareness, visualization, and connection with his younger self. What begins as a feeling of dizziness leads Oren back to childhood experiences of isolation, uncertainty, and the fear of being fully seen. Oren and Rahsaan discuss what the body remembers from childhood and how old protective responses can continue operating in adulthood. They explore the meaning we attach to difficult experiences, why trauma affects people differently, and how awareness can create enough space to respond intentionally instead of automatically repeating an old pattern. Key Discussion Points from What the Body Remembers From Childhood Using breathwork and body scanning to notice physical sensations Connecting present discomfort to experiences from childhood The need to feel seen, valued, and accepted Why being visible can trigger fear of judgment or criticism How the body creates protective responses during childhood Recognizing when old survival patterns are still running in adulthood Creating space between an automatic reaction and an intentional response Why trauma is shaped by personal meaning, not only by what happened Practicing compassion for the different ways people experience the same event Related Episodes: When a Father is Not Fully Present Growing Up Without Praise Finding Compassion Without Erasing the Pain Knowing When Something Needs to Change  Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck The Body Knows Before the Mind Does Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 10 | What the Body Remembers From Childhood appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

  4. Aug 5

    Saying What Matters 9 | Teaching Your Partner How to Treat You

    What you do not say in a relationship can still teach someone how to treat you. In this episode of Saying What Matters, Oren Matteson and Rahsaan Nurullah continue their conversation about relationships, communication, and the ways couples learn each other over time. Oren talks about the idea that partners need an “instructional manual” for how to show up for each other, and why silence can unintentionally normalize behavior that does not feel right. Oren and Rahsaan also explore the difference between immediate communication and needing time to reflect before speaking. They discuss emotional processing, judgment, perspective, grace, and the need to understand yourself before asking someone else to understand you. The conversation ends with a simple listening exercise that can help partners slow down, hear each other more clearly, and create more space for what actually matters. Key Discussion Points from Teaching Your Partner How to Treat You Why partners need to learn how to show up for each other How silence can normalize behavior that does not feel right The importance of naming needs instead of expecting someone to guess Different communication styles inside a relationship Why some people need time to process before speaking Separating judgment from what is actually bothering you Understanding that two people can see the same situation differently Giving others the grace and space you would want for yourself A simple listening exercise for practicing presence and reflection Related Episodes: When a Father is Not Fully Present Growing Up Without Praise Finding Compassion Without Erasing the Pain Knowing When Something Needs to Change  Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck The Body Knows Before the Mind Does Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 9 | Teaching Your Partner How to Treat You appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

  5. Aug 4

    Saying What Matters 8 | Listening to Understand, Not to Respond

    Being heard can change what becomes possible in a relationship. In this episode of Saying What Matters, Oren Matteson and Rahsaan Nurullah continue their conversation about men, relationships, emotional safety, and the pressure many men feel to “man up” instead of speaking honestly. They talk about the old models men inherit from fathers, culture, and society, and how those models can leave men disconnected, angry, or unsure how to ask for support. Rahsaan reflects on the biggest change he has made in relationships: learning to truly listen. He shares how couples therapy helped him recognize that he was often communicating what he thought someone else could hear, rather than what he actually needed. Together, Oren and Rahsaan discuss how listening to understand, instead of listening to respond, can create space, reduce conflict, and help both people feel seen. Key Discussion Points from Learning to Listen in Relationships Why some men struggle to speak outside of traditional roles How inherited ideas of masculinity can keep men silent The difference between carrying pain and moving through it Why men are being asked to evolve in relationships How communication can break down when people talk past each other The skill of listening to understand instead of listening to respond What becomes possible when both partners feel heard Creating space for your partner’s full experience, not just your own Related Episodes: When a Father is Not Fully Present Growing Up Without Praise Finding Compassion Without Erasing the Pain Knowing When Something Needs to Change  Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck The Body Knows Before the Mind Does Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 8 | Listening to Understand, Not to Respond appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

  6. Aug 4

    Saying What Matters 7 | Saying What Matters in a Relationship

    Saying what matters means staying connected without losing yourself. In this episode of Saying What Matters, Oren Matteson and Rahsaan Nurullah talk about men, relationships, emotional regulation, and the old programming that shapes how men are taught to show up with women. They discuss traditional gender roles, the pressure to fix instead of listen, and the ways men can struggle when a partner expresses emotion. Oren reflects on the “happy wife, happy life” model he learned growing up and how it led him to overfunction in relationships instead of showing up as a separate person with his own wants, needs, and opinions. Together, Oren and Rahsaan explore why autonomy matters, how men can learn to hold space without disappearing, and why speaking honestly to your partner can change the entire relationship. Key Discussion Points from Saying What Matters in a Relationship How traditional gender roles still shape modern relationships Why men are often trained to fix instead of listen The emotional skills gap many men face in relationships What happens when a partner’s emotions feel like an attack Why “happy wife, happy life” can become a destructive model The difference between doing tasks and building connection Learning to stay autonomous inside a committed relationship Why saying what matters can reduce loneliness and emotional distress Related Episodes: When a Father is Not Fully Present Growing Up Without Praise Finding Compassion Without Erasing the Pain Knowing When Something Needs to Change  Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck The Body Knows Before the Mind Does Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 7 | Saying What Matters in a Relationship appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

  7. Jul 6

    Saying What Matters 6 | The Body Knows Before the Mind Does

    Real change does not happen by forcing someone into it. In this episode of Saying What Matters, Oren Matteson and Rahsaan Nurullah talk about presence, emotional work, and what it means to create enough safety for someone to say something they have never said out loud. Oren reflects on his role as a therapist and why trying too hard to fix or solve can get in the way of being fully present. Rahsaan shares how his own healing work has shaped the way he supports others, especially when someone is close to recognizing a pattern but still needs to arrive at it on their own. Together, they discuss the connection between the mind and body, the ways people are taught to ignore physical signals, and why listening to the body can become an important part of healing and change. Key Discussion Points from The Body Knows Before the Mind Does Why presence matters more than trying to fix someone How therapists and coaches hold space for deeper self-discovery The importance of letting people arrive at change on their own Why saying something out loud can reveal what has been hidden How the body gives signals before the mind fully understands them The damage caused by pushing through instead of listening inward Rebuilding trust between the mind and body Using breath, sensation, and body awareness as part of healing Related Episodes: When a Father is Not Fully Present Growing Up Without Praise Finding Compassion Without Erasing the Pain Knowing When Something Needs to Change  Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 6 | The Body Knows Before the Mind Does appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

  8. Jul 6

    Saying What Matters 5 | Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck

    Change often starts when something no longer feels right, even if you cannot explain why. In this episode of Saying What Matters, Oren Matteson and Rahsaan Nurullah continue their discussion about personal change, patience, and the patterns that shape how people respond to stress, relationships, and everyday life. Oren reflects on the ongoing lessons that keep showing up for him, especially around patience and the need to understand what is happening beneath the surface before forcing an outcome. Rahsaan talks about the people who come to him knowing that something feels off, but not always knowing what needs to change. He explains how old nervous system patterns can keep running long after they were first created, and why real change often means identifying the unmet needs, old programming, and childlike responses that still show up in adult life. Key Discussion Points from Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck Why patience can become an ongoing lesson in personal growth Learning to pause before forcing something to happen Recognizing that other people are having their own experience too Why successful people can still feel stuck, disconnected, or dissatisfied How old nervous system patterns can shape adult reactions The difference between knowing something needs to change and knowing what to change How unmet needs from the past can keep showing up in the present Reconnecting with the body to create safety and shift old programming Related Episodes: When a Father is Not Fully Present Growing Up Without Praise Finding Compassion Without Erasing the Pain Knowing When Something Needs to Change Connect with us: Millennium Counseling Center: Website Oren Matteson: Millennium | LinkedIn Rahsaan Nurullah: LinkedIn More about Millennium Counseling Center and our hosts: The Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago specializes in mental health services with a strong focus on various forms of addiction, including their premier program, 3A, which is targeted towards alcohol addiction. They offer various counseling methods, including one-on-one, couples, and group counseling, alongside an intensive treatment program emphasizing personalized attention, accountability, and acceptance. The post Saying What Matters 5 | Changing the Patterns That Keep You Stuck appeared first on Millennium Counseling Center.

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Welcome to the Millennium Counseling Center Podcast! As one of the leading counseling centers in Chicago, our goal is to help people rise above shame and pain to reach heights they never thought were possible. In this podcast we will help people find a way out of the bondage of self-hate, shame and pain often caused by addiction, mental illness and trauma. We believe that with hard work and dedication, people can reclaim the hope that these diseases insidiously strip away. Come celebrate healing, hope, and recovery with us. Hope is yours, it’s time to soar.

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