Follow Guest: John Patrick Morgan LinkedIn - Twitter - Facebook - Instagram Personal Website - Business Website Follow Host: Craig Capurso LinkedIn - Twitter - Facebook - Instagram Show transcript: All right, guys, so welcome to my battle plan. John. It's one of these things where I kind of look on the Internet a little bit and I dabble and see different people that kind of have a message that I like to share or at least just kind of bring people on and have good conversations. And you seem like one of those people that could do that. And so I'm not really exactly sure what it was that prompted me to follow you, but you gave me a very good return message and I thought it was phenomenal. I dug a little deeper and saw this is kind of like your thing. So John, tell people kind of a little bit about who you are. I know that you're in the coaching business. Speaker 1 · 00:43 And I have some quotes from you that I took off that I'm going to read. And I'm going to say the essence of my life's work, my purpose is to serve the one person in front of me right here in the right now to see them fully, love them deeply and create what they are making and having a meaningful difference in them. So tell me a little bit in our audience who's listening today, who is John? Who is John Patrick Morgan? Speaker 2 · 01:08 Yeah, thanks for reading that. Yeah, that was one of those things that like just like in a moment of kind of meditative journaling and presence with like, the question is, like, what are the purpose of my life? It just was like crystal clear that's it. When you boil everything down and always has been, it goes back to being my memory. When you read that, where it starts is like being a little kid, taking apart my mom and dad's vcr with a screwdriver and then putting it back together. I've always been interested in just like, how things work. And then that turned inward as I got older and started to be aware that my brain is a vcr, like my mind and my behavior. And I love people, I just love relationships, I love human beings. Speaker 2 · 01:53 And so everybody's a vcr in that kind of way. And if I can take them apart and put them back together in a way that has the tracking work, remember that the tracking and vidi vhs, so the screen is clear, then I just love that. And so whether it's creating myself with clear tracking or creating another person to have clear tracking, that's my joy. There's other aspects of me too. I call it being a champion. I just love being the absolute best that I can be. I love competition, I love winning, but not to have power over others because I'm afraid I'm not enough, but because I love pushing everybody forward. Let's get that tracking even clearer. If I beat you, then we're both going to grow. If I can inspire you to stay engaged in that competition. Speaker 2 · 02:46 And so for me, being a champion means being the best, but it also means being in the sense of a king or queen's champion, like really being a champion for another person, really going to battle to use the name of your podcast, for them against whatever it is in them that's getting in the way of them being their best. And so that combined with that kind of like, how does this work? How can I take it apart and put it back together has just driven me and everything that I've done. I had a number of different businesses prior to this, personal development industry business now that I've had for 15 years. But at the core of all of it is conversation as the medium like dialogue between me and another person to create something in the world, in them and in the world. Speaker 1 · 03:27 So yeah, that's great. And as you're listening, John and I are in similar spaces where we're in the fulfillment business of taking somebody who's struggling with something in the world. The line that I read earlier was actually in response to receiving spam messages on LinkedIn, which I thought was and he said, maybe we're just all looking at this a different way. And you actually called that out. It's like, we're just not looking at this way. But if you take the opportunity that someone had contacted you, a marketing message that you receive is negative in spam as somebody trying to do something. And if you have a way to possibly help them in something you're doing, maybe you don't have to buy with the product, but maybe you can offer a speaking gig. Speaker 1 · 04:07 Example that was talked about, you mentioned, and this person was trying to sell me tickets to some event, and you're like, Well, I should be who went speaking at that event? And I thought that was such a unique way to think about it. Where does that come from? Speaker 2 · 04:18 Well, there's two layers to it, actually. Man, thanks for calling that out. That was from ways back. But the first layer of receiving spam is the idea that somebody out there is doing something to me. And so anybody that's getting spam in a way that it's bothering them at all is in a place of victimhood the circumstance and they're creating that. It's like this person is doing something to me by sending this unsolicited thing. It's a whole bunch of meaning and language. And so first and foremost, I always want to be free from any of that s***. And so you could be free from it by not accommodating it by getting a really good spam filter, or you could be free from it from not having this story that's a problem for you. And that's where I began. Speaker 2 · 05:02 So once I'm free from that mattering and what happens is then love happens, because then you suddenly look out at the world and you can see everybody's innocence. And I just saw that everybody is sending me these messages, unsolicited, quote unquote messages, which is still a victimhood frame, but it's like they're sending me a message, right. And I wasn't judging it, and I wasn't p***** off about it. I wasn't annoyed by it. I saw with their innocence, I was like, oh. Then I could see that they're another human being trying to do something, trying to get somewhere in the world. Funny that's what I help people do. And so the second order insight when you're free, when you're coming from a place of love, is always one of service, and it's always generative, and it's always creative. Speaker 2 · 05:45 So that came from that space, and it was the idea. So anytime I get an email from somebody now, it's not like, oh, what the h***? It's like, oh, what are they trying to do? How can I help them? Speaker 1 · 05:54 That's right. Speaker 2 · 05:55 It might not be to give them my money, but sometimes it is. Believe it or not, I've hired more people that have cold outreach to me than I think most people probably do, because I'm just open and I listen, and I'm like, this dude, this woman can actually help. And I've had some great business relationships with people that literally, you might say, spammed me. Speaker 1 · 06:16 That's funny. I like that. And it's all perception. I say that we always have a story, and I'm not sure how you go about your coaching and your clients, but I really like to dig into a past. Right. And so I want to do that with you a little bit today. You're living in maui. You got ohana on your hat right now for the listeners that can't see us. Speaker 2 · 06:37 Do you know what that means? Oh, you do? Awesome, man. Speaker 1 · 06:40 My daughter says that to me all the time. She watches I forget what show it was. There's like, an alien that is in hawaii. She remembers it all the time, and she says it all the time, so I still picked up. Right. She can love this episode. But where does that come from for you? Where do you derive your roots? You said rhode island really quickly, before we jumped on air is where home was. Talk to me a little bit about. Speaker 2 · 07:03 How I grew up. Yeah, I grew up in rhode island, in the suburb like place called warwick, which is 20 minutes from providence, the capital. We had a forest in our backyard, and I would go out in the morning and play outside all day and come in when it got dark, and I would be gone out exploring in the forest. And it was a beautiful childhood. We had a boat. I mean, I don't know if most people don't know this, but rhode island has more coastline than california because of all the islands. And so the boating culture there is a phenomenal. People come from around the world to sail in newport, rhode island. So that was a big part of my life growing up on the water. Yeah. Speaker 2 · 07:43 And then I went to university in my home state and then I studied abroad and then it's like, wow, then the world was my oyster and so I left in my twenty s and I've went back to visit a few times but the rest of my life has been spread around the world, so but family. But you mentioned the word. Ohana, and family. I guess I'll speak to that too. I just have always been and am still really close with both of my parents. I know how blessed I am having worked with a lot of men and women who didn't have the upbringing that I had to be able to have a mother that loves you unconditionally and a father that is there to be a role model and to teach you. Speaker 2 · 08:24 I was blessed and I had that and I know that those experiences are a big part of what I source from in my coaching. I've got my mother and father photos on my wall. I have a row of some mentors on my wall in my studio here. My mom and dad are at the top, not without challenges, heartbreaking when they divorced when I was 15. So there's certainly some stuff but for the most part I had a loving upbringing with mentorship and so I'm just living that out now as a father myself. And so family was a big thing for me and is central in my life. And when I was walking down the street here in mau
