Healing For Love

Dr Gemma Gladstone
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Healing for Love A podcast for anyone who wants to heal their schemas, shift their patterns and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life. Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone - dating & relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and Advanced Schema Therapists, Trainer/Supervisor. This podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds and start rewriting your Love Template.If you’ve ever felt stuck in familiar dynamics like seeking approval, fearing abandonment, dating narcissists or losing yourself in relationships, you’re not alone. Healing for Love is a space for self-reflection, emotional insight and practical encouragement.  Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice and build relationships that support who you truly are.This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole and more herself - in love and in life.

  1. May 31

    142. Why Dating Feels So Confusing: The Three Voices That Show Up On Every Date

    Send Gemma a message Have you ever left a date feeling completely conflicted?  Part of you feels excited. Part of you feels anxious.  Part of you wants to see them again. And part of you feels relieved it's over. In this episode, I explore why dating can feel so confusing and how different parts of ourselves can interpret the exact same situation in very different ways. Drawing on concepts from Schema Therapy, I introduce three key voices that often show up when we're dating.  You'll learn how old wounds such as abandonment, emotional deprivation, defectiveness and people-pleasing patterns can quietly influence attraction, decision-making and relationship choices. I also explore common dating coping modes including Most importantly, we'll look at how to strengthen the Wise Self - the part of you that can step back, gather information, spot red flags, honour boundaries and make healthier relationship decisions. In this episode you'll learn: Why dating can feel so confusing at timesHow vulnerable parts of us influence attractionThe role of coping modes in dating and relationshipsWhy familiarity can be mistaken for compatibilityHow schema chemistry can override good judgementThe questions your Wise Self needs to be askingHow to recognise who is currently "holding the microphone"Why healthy dating involves learning to date from wisdom rather than from your woundResources Mentioned: Love Wisely Foundations Love Wisely Group Coaching Program Dating Profile Check-Up 1:1 Coaching with Dr Gemma Gladstone Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    33 min

  2. May 21

    141. The Early Signs of Control in Relationships - Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

    Send Gemma a message In this episode of Healing for Love, Dr. Gemma Gladstone explores the early warning signs of controlling, narcissistic and potentially coercive relationship dynamics - particularly the subtle behaviours that many women dismiss, minimise or explain away in the beginning. This episode is not about blame. It is about prevention, awareness and learning to trust yourself earlier. Gemma breaks down:  why some controlling behaviours can initially look like care or protection  how love bombing and boundary crossing often work together  the subtle ways controlling people gradually erode your autonomy  why narcissistic and coercively controlling individuals struggle to tolerate your individuality and separateness  how early manipulation often appears through “small” interactions  why boundary creeping, guilt, criticism and emotional pressure matter  the connection between control, entitlement and coercive dynamics  why many women ignore or override their early instincts  the importance of recognising what gets in the way of leaving early  how schemas such as abandonment, emotional deprivation, subjugation and self-sacrifice can keep women stuck in unhealthy dynamics Gemma also discusses:  emotional manipulation  intrusive behaviour disguised as care  isolation tactics  shame sensitivity and rage reactions  dependency-building behaviours  subtle control around appearance, friendships and daily choices  the psychological function of coercive control Most importantly, this episode highlights why early recognition matters. The sooner unhealthy dynamics are recognised, the easier it becomes to protect your sense of self, your wellbeing and your future. In this episode:  What coercive control actually is  Why control often begins subtly  The difference between care and control  Early signs of dangerous relationship dynamics  Boundary crossing and “boundary creep”  Why love bombing can feel confusing  How controlling partners gradually isolate women  Why healthy partners tolerate difference and autonomy  How schemas can interfere with self-protection  Why taking relationships slowly matters Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    1h 3m

  3. May 6

    140. People Pleasing in Relationships - The Psychology Behind Why You Put Others First

    Send Gemma a message EXCITING NEWS - Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind program and receive early access benefits Why do some people constantly put others first, struggle to say no, worry excessively about upsetting people, or feel guilty for prioritising themselves? In this episode of Healing for Love, Dr. Gemma Gladstone explores the deeper psychology behind people pleasing through a schema therapy lens. This is not simply about being “too nice.” People pleasing is often a learned survival strategy rooted in early relational experiences, attachment dynamics, fear, guilt, conditional acceptance and coping styles developed in childhood. Gemma unpacks:  What people pleasing actually is  Why it develops  The difference between self-sacrifice, subjugation and approval-seeking  Why guilt and fear often drive people pleasing behaviours  How early family dynamics shape self-suppression  Why some women struggle to set boundaries or speak up in relationships  The connection between people pleasing and emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners  How schemas influence dating, relationships and self-trust  Why people pleasing is often linked to survival, safety and connection  Small practical steps to begin changing these patterns This episode also explores:  Self-sacrifice schema  Subjugation schema  Approval-seeking schema  Abandonment dynamics  Conditional parenting  Coping modes and “dating personas”  The importance of reconnecting with your own needs, preferences and authenticity If you often:  Put other people’s needs ahead of your own  Feel guilty saying no  Worry excessively about upsetting others  Need reassurance before making decisions  Stay quiet to avoid conflict  Feel anxious expressing yourself  Struggle with boundaries in dating or relationships …this episode will likely resonate deeply. Mentioned in this episode Gemma also shares details about her upcoming self-study program: Love Wisely Foundations (coming soon!) - a schema-informed relationship program designed to help women understand and rewrite unhealthy relationship patterns and “love template.” Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    46 min

  4. Apr 28

    139. Dating Apps: Why They Feel So Hard and How to Navigate Them

    Send Gemma a message Dating apps can feel like a bit of a horror show at times. But underneath the frustration, the confusion and the endless swiping… there’s something much deeper going on. In this episode, I explore how your schemas - particularly abandonment, defectiveness, emotional deprivation and people-pleasing patterns - can shape:  Who you feel drawn to  What you tolerate  And why you might ignore your own instincts I also walk you through a more grounded, intentional way to approach dating apps - not as “dating platforms,” but simply as introduction tools. Because real dating doesn’t happen on the app.  It happens in real life. Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    51 min

  5. Apr 7

    138. The Love Paradox: Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner - And How to Break the Cycle

    Send Gemma a message This episode is a special one - I’m sharing the audio from a recent live masterclass where I walk you through the deeper psychological patterns that drive attraction, and why insight alone often isn’t enough to change them. If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or self-absorbed partners - even when you know better - this episode will help you understand why. I explore what’s happening beneath the surface, and what it actually takes to begin shifting these patterns from the inside out.  What you’ll learn  Why high chemistry is not always a sign of compatibility  The “love paradox” - wanting one thing, but being pulled toward something very different  How your early schemas (core emotional patterns) shape who you’re drawn to  What schema chemistry is and why attraction can feel so compelling - even when it’s not right for you  The role of people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and loss of voice in dating  Why “just date more” or “choose better” doesn’t solve the problem  The key stages involved in breaking long-standing relationship patterns  How to begin rewriting your “love template” so you can move toward emotionally available partners This episode is for you if…  You keep finding yourself in similar relationship dynamics  You’ve dated emotionally unavailable or avoidant men  You struggle to trust yourself in dating  You tend to over-give, over-accommodate, or lose yourself in relationships  You’re ready to understand why this keeps happening - and start doing things differently These patterns are not random - they are shaped by deeper, often unconscious processes. And once you understand them, you can begin to shift them. Want to go deeper? If this episode resonates, I also share more about my Love Wisely group coaching program inside this training. It’s a 12-week experience designed to help you:  Understand your patterns clearly  Work with your schemas  Build self-trust  And begin relating in a way that supports the kind of relationship you actually want  Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    1h 36m

  6. Mar 17

    137. 10 Healthy Dating Rules for Women Who Tend to Over-Give

    Send Gemma a message If dating tends to bring up anxiety, self-doubt, people-pleasing, or the urge to lose yourself in someone else, this episode is for you. In this practical episode, I’m speaking directly to women who tend to be very giving, very empathic, and very accommodating in relationships, but who often struggle to stay connected to themselves while dating. If you have a history of subjugation, self-sacrifice, under-entitlement, loose boundaries, or worrying too much about being “too much” or “too needy,” dating can quickly become stressful and confusing. You may find yourself focusing more on whether the other person likes you than on how you actually feel. In this episode, I walk you through 10 clear dating rules to help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more self-protective in the early stages of dating, without becoming closed off or guarded. This is about dating in a way that helps you stay connected to your own needs, your own feelings, and your own experience. In this episode, I cover: Why meeting early in real life is better than building a false sense of connection through endless textingWhy first dates should be short, simple, and low pressureThe importance of putting a time boundary around early datesWhy alcohol can make it harder to stay connected to your instincts and boundariesWhy you do not need to extend a date unless you genuinely want toWhy it is healthy to directly say you’d like to see someone again if that is true for youWhy it matters to keep your life running normally when you meet someone newWhy rushing physical intimacy can create attachment before real compatibility is clearHow to think about chemistry more wisely, especially if you have a pattern of schema chemistryWhy the most important question after a date is not “Did they like me?” but “How did I feel?”Key themes in this episode: This episode explores how schemas such as subjugation, self-sacrifice, abandonment, emotional deprivation, and under-entitlement can quietly shape the dating process. It also highlights a more grounded and emotionally healthy approach to dating: Dating is data. Rather than treating every date like a test of your worth, this episode encourages you to slow down, gather information, notice how you feel, and assess whether the other person is truly right for you. If this episode resonated: If you’ve been enjoying the podcast, I’d be so grateful if you left a quick review on Apple Podcasts. It really does help more women find the show. And if this episode made you think of someone in your life, feel free to share it with them. Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    44 min

  7. Mar 11

    136. What If Your Partner Struggles With Emotional Intimacy? - Listener Q&A

    Send Gemma a message In this episode of Healing for Love, I respond to a thoughtful question from a listener who describes a relationship that is supportive and stable - yet something important is missing. Her partner is kind, affectionate, and easy to live with. But when it comes to emotional conversations, he rarely initiates them. Over time, she has begun to feel emotionally alone in the relationship. This is a surprisingly common dynamic. Many people find themselves in relationships where their partner cares deeply but struggles with emotional expression or emotional dialogue. The question then becomes: is this simply a difference in style, or does it signal something deeper about compatibility and emotional needs? In this episode, I explore how to think about this situation from both perspectives. We discuss: Why emotional intimacy matters in long term relationshipsThe difference between low emotional dialogue and true emotional neglectHow early experiences can shape someone’s emotional styleThe role schemas can play in how we interpret our needs in relationshipsWhy feeling like a “burden” when expressing needs is often an important clueHow to distinguish between lack of skill and lack of motivation in a partnerQuestions you can ask yourself to clarify what you truly need in a relationshipHow to communicate emotional needs in a constructive and specific waySometimes the most important shift is moving away from the question: “How do I change my partner?” And instead asking: “What kind of emotional life do I want to live in my relationship?” If you’ve ever found yourself wondering whether your emotional needs are “too much,” this episode will give you a thoughtful framework for understanding what’s really going on. Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    34 min

  8. Mar 9

    135. How Can I Heal from Relationship Regret?

    Send Gemma a message Hey, if you'd like to reduce your chances of future relationship regret, then come to my free live training: Join here Have you ever looked back on a past relationship and thought: Why did I stay so long? Why didn’t I see the signs earlier? If only I had done something differently… Relationship regret can be incredibly painful. Many people find themselves stuck replaying the past, analysing every decision and blaming themselves for how things turned out. But in this episode, I explain why this mental loop is not actually helping us heal. In psychology, the “should have, could have, would have” pattern is known as counterfactual thinking. It’s a form of rumination where the mind tries to solve an unsolvable problem - the past. And while it feels like we are trying to understand what happened, what is often happening underneath is emotional avoidance. Beneath regret there is usually something much more vulnerable: Grief. Grief about the relationship. Grief about what we hoped it would be. Grief about the loss of the future we imagined. In this episode, I explore: Why regret often keeps us stuck in ruminationThe psychology of counterfactual thinkingWhy self-blame is so common after difficult relationshipsHow rumination can block emotional healingThe grief that often sits underneath regretWhy painful relationships are not “wasted time”How our schemas influence what we tolerate in relationshipsHow to shift from self-blame to insight and growthSimple ways to respond differently when regret arisesI also look at an important reframe: Relationships are often our greatest teachers. Even the painful ones can reveal important truths about our emotional needs, our patterns, and the schemas that shape our relationship choices. When we approach our past with compassion rather than self-blame, we open the door to healing and to making wiser choices in the future. If this episode resonates with you Many of the women who join my Love Wisely program come with this same question: "Why did I end up in relationships like that?" Inside the program we explore the deeper psychological patterns behind attraction, schemas, and relationship choices - and how to create healthier relationships going forward. You can learn more about Love Wisely on my website. Support the show 😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY   Connect with Me  📩hello@drgemmagladstone.com  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching 🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏 Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here

    37 min
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Healing for Love A podcast for anyone who wants to heal their schemas, shift their patterns and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life. Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone - dating & relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and Advanced Schema Therapists, Trainer/Supervisor. This podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds and start rewriting your Love Template.If you’ve ever felt stuck in familiar dynamics like seeking approval, fearing abandonment, dating narcissists or losing yourself in relationships, you’re not alone. Healing for Love is a space for self-reflection, emotional insight and practical encouragement.  Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice and build relationships that support who you truly are.This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole and more herself - in love and in life.

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  • Creator
    Dr Gemma Gladstone
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    141
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Healing For Love
  • Show Website
    Healing For Love

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