Helping Families Be Happy

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With help from guest authors, experts, and community and business leaders, the Familius Helping Families Be Happy podcast explores topics and issues that connect families to the nine habits of a happy family: love, play, learn, work, talk, heal, read, eat, and laugh together.

  1. 18h ago

    Finding Hope After Suicide Loss with Author Lisa Sugarman

    Finding Hope After Suicide Loss In this powerful episode, host Christopher Robbins speaks with Lisa Sugarman, author, mental health advocate, and three-time suicide loss survivor. Lisa shares her profound journey of discovering at age 45 that her father—whom she believed died of a heart attack when she was 10—actually died by suicide. The conversation explores how language shapes stigma around suicide, the importance of direct communication when someone may be experiencing suicidal ideation, and Lisa's work as a crisis counselor with The Trevor Project. Lisa discusses her creation of the Help Hub, a comprehensive digital resource connecting people to trauma-informed support tailored to specific communities, and emphasizes that surviving means choosing to stay, finding meaning, and using one's pain to help others feel less alone.  Lisa shares insights from her latest book, Surviving: Finding Hope After Suicide Loss. Episode Highlights 00:03:45: Lisa reveals learning the truth about her father's suicide 35 years after his death during a random family conversation, fundamentally reshaping her understanding of his life and her own grief journey. 00:08:20: Discussion of the Help Hub's creation out of necessity to provide centralized, community-specific mental health resources in one accessible digital space for people in crisis. 00:12:15: Lisa explains why language matters: using "died by suicide" instead of "committed suicide" removes stigma tied to crime and sin, restoring dignity to those who struggled with mental illness. 00:16:40: Christopher shares his own experience asking a child directly about self-harm and suicide ideation, validating Lisa's emphasis on direct, honest communication as potentially life-saving. 00:22:05: Lisa describes her four years as a crisis counselor with The Trevor Project, the largest LGBTQ crisis hotline for at-risk youth, and how it shaped her understanding that hope exists in small moments of human connection. 00:28:30: Lisa emphasizes the power of storytelling in breaking silence around painful experiences, allowing others to feel less alone and realize they're not the only ones dealing with grief, loss, and mental illness. 00:35:15: Discussion of sitting with grief rather than rushing through it—grief is not linear and doesn't pass, but weaves into our psyche as something we learn to carry while honoring what we've lost. Key Takeaways Language profoundly shapes how we understand and stigmatize mental illness; replacing "committed suicide" with "died by suicide" restores dignity and removes associations with crime and sin. When someone may be experiencing suicidal ideation, showing up, staying present, and asking directly—"Are you thinking of taking your life?"—is more helpful than finding perfect words or trying to fix the situation. Sharing our painful stories breaks silence, helps others feel less alone, and redistributes the emotional weight we carry, making healing possible through human connection rather than isolation. Grief is not linear and doesn't end; healing comes from sitting with pain intentionally, honoring what we've lost, and learning to carry grief as part of our ongoing story. Technology like the Help Hub bridges digital access to resources with real human connection, recognizing that while platforms open doors, people walking through them together is what creates healing. Quotable Moments "Learning that didn't actually shift the story. It really just blew up and reshaped my entire life." "You would never judge or stigmatize someone who was killed in a car crash or who died of heart failure. But we do that with people who suffer from mental illness." "The most important thing that you can do is just to show up, just to show up and to stay with that person. We don't have to find the perfect words." "Hope doesn't have to be big and loud. It can be just getting through the next 10 minutes or the next day. And sometimes it's just one person listening without judging." "The real strength is actually in showing your vulnerability and being open and honest." "Grief is not something that you move through on a timeline. It's not linear the way maybe we think it is, or maybe we wish it could be. It's just something that we learn to carry." "Surviving means using everything that I personally have been through to help somebody else feel less alone and that they can find hope and that they can move forward."

    22 min

  2. Jun 3

    Call Your Father with Author Tracy C. Gold

    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins welcomes author Tracy C. Gold to discuss her picture books "Call Your Mother" and "Call Your Father." Tracy shares insights from writing these books, which celebrate the importance of staying connected with parents across generations. The conversation explores how to avoid stereotypes about parental roles, emphasizing that fathers are equally capable of nurturing, comforting, and caring for children. Christopher and Tracy discuss the reality of modern parenting, including how different children have different communication styles—some call frequently, others prefer texting or memes—and how grandparents play vital roles in family support systems. The episode highlights the privilege of maintaining parent-child connections throughout life and the bittersweet reality of watching children grow and leave home. Episode Highlights 00:00:45: Introduction of Tracy C. Gold, author of children's books including "Call Your Father" and "Call Your Mother," which inspire connections between families and nature. 00:03:15: Tracy explains the origin of "Call Your Mother" from a family joke where her grandfather would tell her father to call his mother, sparking the book series idea. 00:05:30: Discussion of intentionally avoiding stereotypes in the books—showing fathers performing all childcare duties including newborn care, potty training, and emotional support. 00:08:45: Christopher shares his personal experience with nine children, noting that communication styles vary greatly—some call daily, others text memes or never contact him. 00:12:00: Tracy emphasizes that the books celebrate fathers comforting children through failure, handling bathroom emergencies, and addressing bullying—roles traditionally attributed to mothers. 00:14:30: Discussion of intentionally not showing a partner in the books to avoid depicting one parent as idle and to represent diverse family structures (single parents, military families, same-sex couples). 00:17:45: Tracy reveals her favorite humorous moments are the "potty pages" that get big laughs from children during readings. 00:19:30: Christopher reflects on the 36-year parenting journey with his wife Michelle, emphasizing equal partnership in all household and childcare responsibilities. Key Takeaways Fathers are equally capable of all aspects of childcare and emotional support—challenge stereotypes by expecting and allowing dads to nurture, comfort, and guide children through life's challenges. Connection with parents takes many forms; not all children call frequently, but texting, memes, and group chats are equally valid ways to maintain relationships and stay connected. Parental partnership requires intentional effort and shared responsibility across all tasks—cooking, cleaning, diaper changing, and emotional support should not fall disproportionately on one parent. Grandparents are valuable family assets who can provide essential childcare support and intergenerational connection when parents allow their involvement. Representation in children's literature matters; books should reflect diverse family structures and show parents of all types succeeding in their roles. Quotable Moments "I really wanted to show that dads can do everything that moms can do, except for some biological things, perhaps, and that we should support them to do that." "Change the diaper. Yeah. Do the vacuuming. I don't know if a woman can find anything more sexy than a man vacuuming the floor." "You've succeeded as a parent when they're able to" [leave home]. "I have succeeded if you put down these books and you call your mom, your dad, or anybody who's served that role for you in your life." "One step at a time, calling your parents. Every day you can make the world a happier place."

    19 min

  3. May 20

    Central Park: Adventures Through the Seasons with Cristina Ergunay

    Central Park: Adventures Through the Seasons Join host Christopher Robbins as he explores the magic of Central Park with librarian and author Christina Ergenay in this delightful episode about urban green spaces and seasonal adventures. Through discussion of Ergenay's beautifully illustrated children's book "Central Park: Adventures Through the Seasons," listeners will discover why urban parks are essential sanctuaries in bustling cities, how they combat anxiety and stress, and what families can gain from exploring nature together. This episode celebrates the importance of shared reading experiences, outdoor exploration, and the transformative power of green spaces in creating happier, healthier families. Key Takeaways Urban parks like Central Park serve as crucial reset spaces that lower blood pressure, boost mood, and provide relief from the stress and overstimulation of city life. Reading aloud together as a family - especially rhyming picture books - strengthens language development and creates meaningful bonding time while exploring nature through imagination. Cities that invest in maintaining green spaces contribute directly to the health and well-being of residents and visitors by providing accessible nature experiences regardless of age. Limiting screen time and encouraging park exploration can help address anxiety and stress challenges, particularly in young people struggling with the pressures of modern life. Central Park offers diverse experiences for all ages and interests, from frisbee in Sheep Meadow to birdwatching in the Ramble, making it a destination for every family member.  Quotable Moments "Urban parks really have that effect. And I think it's nice, especially to draw attention to Central Park, which is really such a favorite of mine." "Connecting with nature can really boost our mood and just by going for a walk, just by kind of quieting the sounds." "I really hope that families want to explore this park. It's just this amazing park." "I love the way he creates motion from illustrations. So whether it's a soft snow flurry or the flapping of butterfly wings, he really does such a beautiful job of capturing that kind of dynamic motion."

    10 min

  4. May 6

    A Walk in the Forest with Cathy Goldberg Fishman

    A Walk in the Forest with Cathy Goldberg Fishman Host Christopher Robbins welcomes children's book author Cathy Goldberg Fishman to discuss her new book, A Walk in the Forest, which celebrates trees from around the world and their cultural significance. Fishman, a former teacher and bookstore owner, shares her thoughtful selection of representative trees for ten countries—including the sequoia for the United States, the banyan tree for India, the olive tree for Israel, the ginkgo for China, and the beech tree for the United Kingdom. Each tree was chosen to highlight both ecological importance and cultural meaning, while the book also teaches children to count from one to ten through beautiful illustrations by Melanie Hall. The conversation emphasizes that tree celebrations exist worldwide, demonstrating our shared global commitment to preserving forests and recognizing their vital role as planetary lungs and sources of cultural identity. Episode Highlights 00:02:15: Introduction of Cathy Goldberg Fishman and her background as a children's book author, former teacher, and owner of Eeyore's Tale bookstore. 00:04:30: Fishman explains her choice of the sequoia for the United States, influenced by her son's work on environmental issues at the Bipartisan Policy Center. 00:06:45: Discussion of the banyan tree for India, which uniquely grows roots down from branches to form new trunks, creating an upside-down appearance. 00:09:20: Exploration of the olive tree's significance for Israel, its role in Hanukkah traditions, and its symbolism of peace. 00:12:50: Detailed discussion of the ginkgo tree from China, called the "living fossil," with fan-shaped leaves that turn gold in fall. 00:15:30: Fishman's selection of the rubber tree for Brazil and its connection to rainforest preservation and the planet's ecological health. 00:18:45: Favorite illustration featuring the beech tree from the United Kingdom with children at a picnic, symbolizing friendship and inclusion. 00:21:00: Revelation that every country featured has its own tree celebration day, demonstrating universal recognition of trees' importance across cultures. Key Takeaways Trees serve as powerful cultural symbols and are celebrated worldwide through designated tree celebration days, showing shared global values across diverse nations. Children's literature can simultaneously educate on multiple levels—teaching about environmental conservation, cultural diversity, counting skills, and the importance of friendship and inclusion. Preserving forests, particularly rainforests like those in Brazil, is critical because they function as the planet's lungs and support biodiversity and human survival. Individual trees possess unique characteristics worth celebrating: the sequoia's size, the ginkgo's ancient lineage, the banyan's architectural uniqueness, and the beech's sheltering capacity. One person's awareness and action—whether planting a tree on Arbor Day or choosing to feature endangered species in literature—can inspire global consciousness about environmental stewardship. Quotable Moments "I chose the sequoia. I was going to go with another one, but then I talked with my son, who is very involved in environmental issues through the Bipartisan Policy Center in Washington, D.C. And he said, Mom, we just talked about the sequoia and how endangered it is." "The ginkgo tree is sometimes called the living fossil, and it's one of the oldest tree species in the whole world." "Every country I've chosen has their own tree celebration, whether it's in July or January or October or November, the countries have tree celebrations. And the reason I think this is important is because it shows us that we all have things in common, that all over the world, trees are important and all over the world, they should be celebrated."

    14 min

  5. Apr 15

    The Grandparenting Blueprint with NYT #1 Author Richard Eyre

    In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Christopher Robbins interviews New York Times bestselling author Richard Eyre about his latest book, "The Grandparenting Blueprint." Richard, a father of nine with 34 grandchildren, shares his insights on modern grandparenting and the importance of teaching life lessons to grandchildren. The conversation explores the "12 secrets" Richard has developed to pass on to his grandchildren at different ages, covering topics like joy, choices, popularity, money management, and decision-making. Richard emphasizes the critical balance grandparents must strike between being involved and supportive while respecting that parents are ultimately in charge, advocating for proactive grandparenting that can profoundly impact future generations. Episode Highlights 00:00:15: Christopher welcomes listeners to the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and introduces himself as co-founder of Famis, husband, father of nine, author, fly fisherman, and backpacker based in California's central valley. 00:00:15: Richard Eyre is introduced as a New York Times number one bestselling author with more than 50 books in print who speaks to audiences in over 60 countries and now focuses on grandparenting and three-generation family management. 00:01:16: Christopher explains that the podcast aligns with the Famis 10 Habits of Happy Families and directs listeners to the Habit Hub blog and YouTube channel for more resources. 00:01:16: Richard welcomes the opportunity to discuss grandparenting with a fellow father of nine, noting the difference in their grandchildren count—Christopher has two while Richard has 34. 00:02:20: Christopher asks Richard why "The Grandparenting Blueprint" is so important to him and what motivated him to share his experiences. 00:02:58: Richard explains that writers do their best work when writing about current experiences in their lives, and grandparenting is now his daily reality with abundant material. 00:02:58: Richard describes how grandparenting is becoming a science similar to how parenting evolved, with people actively seeking knowledge on how to be effective grandparents. 00:04:00: Richard notes that grandparenting used to be something that just happened to people, but now it's becoming intentional as people realize they may be grandparents for 40 years. 00:04:50: Christopher begins to discuss the 12 secrets organized by age groups (8, 10, 12, 14, 16, 18) that Richard shares in his book. 00:05:18: Richard explains the book has two parts—the first covers the basics of grandparenting using the TEAM approach acronym, while the second part presents the secrets. 00:06:13: Richard details the TEAM approach: Trunk (connecting family branches), Ear (listening to grandkids), Assembler (gathering family together), and Match (matching funds rather than just giving money). 00:07:07: Richard shares how calling principles "secrets" captured his grandchildren's attention far better than presenting them as lectures or lessons. 00:07:54: Richard reveals that the grandchildren contributed to the book by sharing their reactions and perspectives on each secret at a family reunion. 00:08:49: Christopher lists all 12 secrets: joy, leadership, choices, popularity, the single tree, magic words, faith, transforming, money and work, the ring of truth, weekly planning, and advanced decision making. 00:09:03: Christopher focuses on the secret about choices, relating it to his own teaching that people are free to choose but not free from consequences. 00:09:37: Richard explains there are two types of choices—those that can be made in advance (like decisions about drugs, smoking, drinking) and those that cannot (like who to marry or what career to pursue). 00:10:31: Richard describes how he has grandchildren make lists of decisions they can make in advance before facing crisis moments. 00:11:24: Richard explains the process for big decisions that can't be made in advance, involving thinking, analyzing, meditating, seeking advice, and pondering for confirmation before finalizing. 00:12:11: Richard shares that he had to get permission from his grandchildren at a family reunion to share the secrets in a book. 00:12:32: Christopher jokes about the Eyre family wanting a competitive advantage, and Richard responds that the grandkids agreed but wanted part of the royalties. 00:12:45: Christopher highlights the popularity secret for 10-12 year olds: good popularity comes frombeing nice to everyone and lasts, while bad popularity comes from only being nice to certain people and doesn't last. 00:14:03: Richard explains why ages 10-12 are critical for this message, as it's when girls become clique- ish and boys face bullying issues in middle school. 00:14:03: Richard shares how grandchildren have memorized the secrets and how he has used small bribes to encourage memorization. 00:15:06: Christopher moves to the money and work secret for age 16, which teaches that work is a blessing and money is a means, not an end. 00:15:54: Richard emphasizes the importance of teaching that there's no free lunch and the need to work for what you get. 00:16:45: Richard stresses the importance of not overstepping boundaries with adult children by criticizing their parenting approaches to money and work. 00:17:44: Richard describes the grandparents' bank concept where grandchildren can deposit money and earn generous interest to learn about saving. 00:17:44: Richard explains the 10-20-70 principle: give away 10%, save 20%, and use 70% for living expenses. 00:18:43: Richard shares that with parental permission, he takes 16-year-old grandchildren to open Schwab accounts to begin real investing. 00:19:11: Christopher emphasizes that you don't need to be wealthy to be a decent investor, sharing his own experience of starting with $25 per paycheck in a 401k. 00:20:13: Richard explains how he opens custodial Roth IRA accounts for grandchildren at 16 and matches whatever they contribute to encourage saving. 00:20:33: Christopher asks how to navigate the reality that grandchildren have parents who may have different values and viewpoints. 00:21:36: Richard advises taking parents to dinner monthly or quarterly to ask how grandparents can help while acknowledging parents are in charge. 00:21:36: Richard describes the five facet review process: asking parents about grandchildren's physical, mental, social, emotional, and spiritual development. 00:22:46: Richard emphasizes that establishing a supportive rather than takeover relationship deepens connections with adult children and increases time with grandchildren. 00:23:27: Christopher shares a powerful story about his grandfather taking him to Hawaii for two weeks when he was 12 and his grandfather was 92. 00:24:10: Christopher describes how his grandfather asked him about what type of person he wanted to marry, which profoundly influenced his dating and marriage choices. 00:25:08: Richard amplifies Christopher's point about the social distance between grandparents and grandchildren allowing for instant trust and better listening. 00:25:08: Richard encourages grandparents to be proactive rather than retiring from family involvement, as it makes a real difference in grandchildren's lives. 00:25:19: Christopher asks where listeners can find Richard online, and Richard directs them to valuesparenting.com. 00:25:37: Christopher concludes by thanking Richard and providing publication details for "The Grandparenting Blueprint," available March 2026 from Familius. Key Takeaways Grandparenting is evolving from something that just happens to an intentional practice requiring knowledge and skills, especially as people may be grandparents for 40 years or more. The TEAM approach provides a framework for effective grandparenting: be the Trunk connecting family, the Ear listening attentively, the Assembler gathering everyone together, and Match funds rather than simply giving money. Teaching life principles as "secrets" rather than lectures captures children's attention and makes them more receptive to learning important values. There are two types of choices: those that can be decided in advance (like avoiding drugs or drinking) and major life decisions (like marriage or career) that require careful thought, analysis, and confirmation. Good popularity comes from being nice to everyone and lasts, while bad popularity from being selective doesn't last—a critical lesson for 10-12 year olds facing cliques and bullying. Teaching financial literacy early through concepts like a grandparents' bank, the 10-20-70 principle, and custodial investment accounts prepares grandchildren for financial independence. Grandparents must respect that parents are in charge by regularly consulting with them, asking how to help, and never overstepping boundaries or criticizing parenting choices. The social distance between grandparents and grandchildren allows for unique trust and listening opportunities that parents may not have due to daily responsibilities. One-on-one time between grandparents and grandchildren creates lasting memories and profound influences that children remember throughout their lives. Proactive grandparenting involvement rather than retirement from family life makes a significant difference in grandchildren's development and future success. Quotable Moments "I think all writers, certainly in my case it's true, do their best work when they're writing about something, that they're actually doing something that's current in their own lives." "Grandparenting is sort of where parenting was maybe 50 years ago. I mean, it, it's, it's just becoming a thing...they've realized that they may be grandparents for 40 years." "The minute I put the word secrets on it, hey, I gotta take, I got a couple of secrets for you. At least I had their attention." "You are free to choose whatever you want, but once you choose, you are no longer free of the consequences, which follow and co

    26 min

  6. Apr 1

    The Art of the Sneaker with Andrew Dutton

    In this episode, we sit down with Andrew Dutton, a middle school digital media teacher, photographer, and sneaker enthusiast with over 400,000 Instagram followers. Andrew shares his journey from childhood basketball player captivated by athletic footwear to becoming a recognized sneaker photographer and collector. He discusses how he integrates his passion for sneakers into his teaching, using them as conversation starters and creative assignments for his students. The conversation explores the intersection of art, fashion, and function in sneaker culture, as well as Andrew's process for balancing his professional life, family responsibilities, and creative pursuits. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest Andrew Dutton, a photographer and middle school digital media teacher who has built a following of over 400,000 on Instagram through sneaker photography. 00:01:49: Andrew thanks Christopher for having him on the podcast. 00:01:52: Christopher discusses his own limited knowledge of sneakers, mentioning Chuck Taylor Converse sneakers from his youth and a recent experience unknowingly purchasing Hokas. 00:02:15: Andrew responds that original Chuck Taylor sneakers would probably be worth something nice today. 00:02:23: Christopher shares his story about buying Hoka sneakers without realizing their brand significance until a fashion-conscious friend pointed it out. 00:03:01: Andrew explains how his love of sneakers began with childhood basketball, watching NBA players on ESPN, and receiving Eastbay catalogs in the mail where his parents would order shoes. 00:03:50: Andrew describes keeping those Eastbay magazines and dreaming about Air Jordan shoes that were too expensive for his family, and how wearing cool basketball shoes after the season made him feel important. 00:04:37: Andrew discusses how the feeling of wearing special shoes has stayed with him into adulthood, now viewing sneakers as wearable art created through collaborative design processes. 00:05:43: Christopher asks when Andrew transitioned from viewing sneakers as products to seeing them as art. 00:05:55: Andrew explains that after college and entering teaching, he began questioning his desire for footwear more deeply and appreciating the artistic process, including hand-sketched designs of early Michael Jordan shoes. 00:07:08: Christopher asks about Andrew wearing different shoes every day as a middle school teacher and how it has become a focal point in his classroom. 00:07:22: Andrew confirms he wears his extensive sneaker collection to class as part of being authentic to himself, using shoes as conversation starters to build relationships and trust with students. 00:08:09: Christopher inquires whether Andrew uses shoes to teach specific principles. 00:08:16: Andrew describes a signature assignment where students design their own dream shoe after mastering Adobe Illustrator and Photoshop, encouraging them to tell personal stories through footwear design. 00:09:32: Christopher praises Andrew for inspiring creative thinking in the next generation and asks about his Instagram account with over 400,000 followers 00:09:55: Andrew explains that his Instagram journey began during the pandemic when he couldn't spend time with friends who shared his interest in sneakers, combining his existing photography passion with his love of footwear. 00:10:40: Andrew details how boredom during COVID led him to experiment with photographing shoes using his camera rather than just taking phone snapshots, combining two passions into a never-ending creative process. 00:11:30: Christopher poses a financial question about how Andrew budgets for purchasing so many shoes on a teacher's salary. 00:11:37: Andrew explains his approach of buying and selling shoes over years of patient collecting, advising that no sneaker is worth going into debt for and describing a carousel system of funding new purchases through sales. 00:12:20: Christopher asks how Andrew balances teaching, parenting two young children, and his sneaker passion. 00:12:31: Andrew describes his routine of working during the day, spending time with family after school, and then unwinding in his basement studio taking pictures after the kids are in bed.  00:13:10: Christopher asks for Andrew's advice to people wanting to lean into their creative passions. 00:13:38: Andrew advises not being afraid of failure, explaining that learning is a process of figuring out what works and doesn't work, and encouraging people to enjoy the creative process rather than expecting immediate mastery. 00:14:31: Christopher asks about Andrew's favorite pair of sneakers 00:14:38: Andrew explains that his favorite changes constantly with new releases, but the Air Jordan 2 model holds special significance as the first signature Jordan shoe he could afford as a junior or senior in high school. 00:15:32: Christopher asks where listeners can find Andrew online 00:15:52: Andrew directs people to his Instagram account at Ad double Sneaks and mentions having a YouTube channel though he's not active there. 00:16:07: Christopher concludes the podcast by thanking Famis for support, encouraging listeners to subscribe and leave reviews, and promoting Andrew's book "The Art of the Sneaker: Form and Function through the Lens of a Collector" Key Takeaways Passion can evolve from childhood interests into meaningful adult pursuits that combine multiple skills and interests, as Andrew's love of basketball footwear developed into professional photography and teaching. Authenticity in professional settings, such as bringing personal interests into the classroom, can be a powerful tool for building relationships and engaging students in creative learning Creative hobbies can be financially sustainable through strategic buying and selling, rather than requiring unlimited resources or going into debt. The key to pursuing creative passions is overcoming fear of failure and embracing the learning process, understanding that mastery takes time and experimentation. Sneakers represent more than functional footwear—they embody design artistry, cultural significance, personal expression, and storytelling through material choices, colors, and collaborative creative processes. Work-life balance is achievable by intentionally scheduling creative time as a form of personal rejuvenation, rather than viewing hobbies as competing with family responsibilities. Quotable Moments "I don't wanna separate who I am from what I'm teaching, so like, I'm gonna be myself, whether, you know, I'm talking to you on a podcast or whether I run into you in the grocery store or whether I'm teaching kids in the classroom, I'm, I wanna be myself all the time." "No sneakers worth going into debt for, so please don't do that." "My unwind time and my mind freeing activity is just taking pictures." "Don't be afraid of failing, because I feel like that's the biggest hurdle that people have to get over is if you start something and you do what you're creatively pursuing and you think that it's not good quality or it doesn't meet whatever standard that you have in your mind, you're just starting. It's okay." "Learning's not an easy process. It's a process of figuring out what works and what doesn't work. And if you can learn to enjoy that process, then your creativity will just continue to blossom because you're having fun figuring things out."

    17 min

  7. Mar 18

    Celebrating Independent Book Publishing with Lee Wind of the IBPA

    In this episode, Christopher Robbins speaks with Lee Wind, Chief Content Officer for the Independent Book Publishers Association (IBPA), about the vital role independent publishing plays in bringing diverse voices and stories to readers. They discuss IBPA's history and mission, the advantages of mission-driven publishing over purely profit-driven models, and how independent publishers create communities around their content. The conversation also addresses the concerning trend of book banning and censorship, and IBPA's innovative "We Are Stronger Than Censorship" program that buys and donates two books for everyone book challenged. Lee provides valuable advice for aspiring authors and publishers, emphasizing the importance of professional development and community collaboration in the independent publishing world. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher Robbins introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and himself as co-founder of Familius, husband, father of nine, author, and various outdoor enthusiast based in California's Central Valley. 00:00:59: Introduction of guest Lee Wind as Chief Content Officer for the Independent Book Publishers Association (IBPA), the largest trade association for publishers in the United States. 00:01:13: Lee's personal mission described as writing books that would have changed his life as a gay Jewish kid and teen, including his award-winning non-fiction books "No Way They Were Gay" and "The Gender Binary Is a Big Lie." 00:01:35: Discussion of the "We Are Stronger Than Censorship" program that buys and donates two books to offset every one book challenged, run by IBPA with the American Library Institute and over 75 industry partners. 00:01:59: Lee expresses enthusiasm about joining the podcast to discuss book publishing. 00:02:12: Christopher shares his history with IBPA, having served on the board and participated in strategy that helped the organization grow. 00:02:34: Lee explains IBPA's origins in 1983 when about a dozen Southern California publishers pooled resources to send one representative to a major New York trade show. 00:03:27: Discussion of how IBPA has evolved while maintaining its core mission of advocacy, education, and tools for success to level the playing field for independent publishers. 00:04:15: Lee emphasizes the importance of independent publishing to prevent four or five corporations from deciding what everyone reads, highlighting the diverse and mission-driven approaches of independent publishers. 00:05:21: Christopher encourages the audience to explore independent books, music, and film as sources of exceptional content. 00:05:35: Christopher shares a personal memory of Jan Nathan, IBPA's founder, inviting him to dinner in 1990 and being welcoming and encouraging to him as a young industry newcomer. 00:06:20: Lee discusses how mission-driven independent publishers differ from corporate publishers focused solely on financial bottom lines, using examples like Patagonia and Just Us Books. 00:06:53: Christopher compares this to Familius's philosophy that revenue is simply fuel for the mission. 00:07:26: Lee explains how independent publishers understand the power of community and niche markets better than corporate publishers, with four out of five books in bookstores from corporate publishers but that fifth book representing hundreds of different independent voices. 00:08:38: Discussion of the advantages of direct-to-consumer sales for publishers vs. sales through major retailers like Amazon, where publishers don't own the customer relationship. 00:09:31: Lee cites Brandon Sanderson's successful Kickstarter campaign as an example of authors leveraging their platform and community. 00:09:45: Christopher mentions that Brandon Sanderson teaches at his alma mater BYU and that his niece has been one of Sanderson's test readers. 00:09:56: Lee shares that some of Brandon Sanderson's BYU lectures on topics like world building are available on YouTube. 00:10:15: Christopher discusses how Famis provides value to nearly 50,000 engaged subscribers through biweekly free content about helping families be happy. 00:10:45: Christopher acknowledges the highly competitive nature of the book industry, particularly regarding physical shelf space where getting one book on a shelf means removing another. 00:11:14: Lee shares IBPA's motto "helping each other achieve and succeed" and explains that bookstore sales are actually a small portion of most publishers' revenue. 00:12:09: Discussion of how quality books naturally generate word-of-mouth marketing and how AI- generated content makes quality even more important. 00:12:48: Christopher introduces the topic of book banning and censorship through Famis's book "Down with Lime Books," expressing his discouragement with how some have weaponized religion to deny people their own voice. 00:13:59: Lee agrees that while parents should have input into what their own children read, they shouldn't control what other people's children read. 00:14:53: Lee explains that book banning creates a chilling effect that makes schools and libraries afraid to bring in diverse books, resulting in sales drops of up to 50% for some independent publishers focused on marginalized voices. 00:15:55: Lee provides the example of "Everywhere Babies" illustrated by Marla Frazee, which depicts diverse families including same-sex parents and has been called pornography despite being innocent family scenes. 00:17:02: Christopher simply states "love your neighbor" as his religious perspective on book banning. 00:17:08: Lee describes meeting with Dr. Tessel Magnusson and creating the offensive strategy of buying and donating two books to offset every one book challenge. 00:18:10: Christopher shares that he always recommends aspiring authors get involved with IBPA to help them succeed. 00:18:35: Lee explains that IBPA helps people become professional publishers, with membership including about 1,200 authors who publish their own work and 2,000 independent companies of various sizes. 00:19:35: Lee directs people to his personal website at LeeWind.org and IBPA's website at ibpa-online.org. 00:20:04: Christopher concludes by thanking Familius for supporting the podcast and encouraging listeners to subscribe, leave reviews, and choose independent books for their next reading adventure. Key Takeaways Independent publishing is essential for maintaining diversity in what people read, preventing a handful of corporations from controlling all published content. Mission-driven publishing creates different outcomes than purely profit-driven publishing, allowing publishers to maintain control over their values and production methods. Building a community around your content and selling directly to consumers creates stronger relationships and more sustainable success than relying solely on major retailers. Book banning is not about the content of specific books but rather an attempt to create a chilling effect that erases diverse identities and perspectives from libraries and schools. Quality content will ultimately win out even in an age of AI-generated material, as authentic books generate word-of-mouth recommendations that drive long-term success. The "We Are Stronger Than Censorship" program demonstrates how the publishing community can go on offense against book banning by buying and donating two books for every 1 book challenged. Aspiring authors and publishers should join professional organizations like IBPA for business guidance while also developing their craft through specialized groups like the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators. Independent publishers understand niche markets better than corporate publishers, creating content that serves specific communities rather than trying to appeal to the broadest possible audience. Quotable Moments "The idea of only four or five corporations deciding what everyone reads is a really terrible idea." "If the bottom line is financial, it's a very different outcome than if the bottom line is a mission, a vision for our to make our world a better place through books." "The revenue that we generate is simply fuel for the mission." "The magic of it is that if you have a community, if you have a niche and or niche and you're publishing books that are what those people really want, then that's sort of the recipe for success." "We have a motto at IBPA, it's helping each other achieve and succeed." "In this age of AI slop that we are on the cusp of, it's nice to know that quality will win out." "The idea that I should be able to control what your kids read is really wrong." "They're attacking books because books help people have empathy and I think that empathy is in short supply these days." "Love your neighbor." "We don't have to just sit back and let this ridiculousness continue. We can fight back"

    21 min

  8. Mar 4

    See Your Children in the Stars with Kelly Conroy

    In this episode, host Christopher Robbins welcomes Kelly Conroy, a picture book writer and poet who is the cousin of Jan and Stan Berenstain, creators of the Berenstain Bears. Kelly discusses her new children's board book "I See You in the Stars," which explores the twelve signs of the zodiac in a fun, educational way for families. The conversation delves into how Kelly was inspired to create a rhyming guide to help people memorize the zodiac signs, similar to learning the 50 states alphabetically. Kelly shares fascinating astronomical facts about how the zodiac constellations work, including the surprising detail that you cannot see your own birth constellation during your zodiac period because the sun blocks it from Earth's view. The episode emphasizes learning together as a family and finding positive attributes in each zodiac sign to build self-esteem and connection to the universe. Episode Highlights 00:00:10: Christopher introduces the Helping Families Be Happy podcast and welcomes guest, Kelly Conroy, a picture book writer who is 50% silly fun-loving kid and 50% analytical former actuary, and cousin to the creators of the Berenstain Bears. 00:01:39: Kelly thanks Christopher for having her on the podcast. 00:01:40: Christopher asks Kelly about the inspiration behind her children's book "I See You in the Stars," which explores the signs of the zodiac. 00:01:53: Kelly explains she's always been fascinated by stars, astronomy, and astrology from a place of curiosity rather than expertise, and was inspired by a song that helps people memorize all 50 states alphabetically to create a similar rhyming system for the zodiac signs. 00:02:33: Christopher shares that he used to know all 50 states but couldn't name all 12 zodiac symbols anymore, though he knows he's a Sagittarius and has noticed common traits among people with that sign. 00:02:56: Kelly humorously notes that Sagittarius was the hardest sign to find positive aspects for, describing them as strong-willed and focused on doing what they want, which are great qualities but not always easy for others, relating it to her oldest son who is also a Sagittarius. 00:03:18: Christopher agrees that every Sagittarius he's met is very strong-willed and finds ways to do what they want, though these traits can be tempered. 00:03:32: Kelly adds that Sagittarians are also honest and funny, which is what she focused on in the book. 00:03:37: Christopher asks Kelly to explain how she added descriptions and characteristics to make the zodiac rhyme work in her book. 00:03:53: Kelly describes her process of starting with just the signs, then adding details like describing Scorpio as having a "forceful tale," and eventually expanding to include symbols, positive characteristics, and seasons as readers wanted to know more about their signs. 00:04:35: Christopher asks Kelly to help explain where the zodiac sign symbols come from and what they represent. 00:04:49: Kelly explains that the zodiac starts with Aries on the first day of spring, and the way zodiac signs work is that the constellation is opposite the sun from Earth's standpoint, meaning it's the one you can't see during that period. 00:05:48: Christopher realizes and confirms with Kelly that during his birth month in November, he cannot see the Sagittarius constellation because the sun blocks it. 00:06:21: Kelly clarifies that while you can't see your constellation during your sign period, astrologers say "the sun is in Sagittarius" during that time. 00:06:34: Christopher finds this information really interesting and realizes most people probably didn't know this fact, which also explains the relationship between zodiac signs and seasons. 00:06:47: Kelly confirms that Sagittarius is a fall sign, with winter starting in December. 00:06:48: Christopher asks Kelly about the most interesting things she learned during her research about the zodiac or people's interest in their signs. 00:07:07: Kelly shares that more people were excited to learn about their signs than she expected, and if she left out details of any sign, someone with that sign would ask about it, noting that the book applies to everybody rather than having separate books for each sign. 00:07:53: Christopher asks for confirmation that Kelly said Sagittarians have a personality trait of being funny. 00:07:57: Kelly confirms that Sagittarians are honest and funny. 00:08:00: Christopher jokes that he knows a few Sagittarians who aren't funny at all but acknowledges he is funny so it works for him. 00:08:13: Kelly clarifies that astrology isn't a science like chemistry. 00:08:14: Christopher asks Kelly what sign she is. 00:08:16: Kelly reveals she's a Gemini, the twins, and explains they can have high and low emotions, describing herself as usually either hyper or asleep. 00:08:29: Christopher asks if Kelly has enough information to quickly go through each sign and give the key attribute for each. 00:08:39: Kelly goes through all twelve zodiac signs with their key attributes: Aries are purposeful, Taurus are loyal friends, Gemini are social and playful, Cancer are kind and caring, Leo are good at sharing and leading, Virgo are organized, Libra are balanced, Scorpio are forceful and strong-willed, Sagittarius are honest and funny, Capricorn are focused, Aquarius are studious, and Pisces are sympathetic. 00:09:55: Christopher asks Kelly which sign she would choose to be if she could pick any other than Gemini. 00:10:00: Kelly says she would choose Virgo because the Virgos she knows get stuff done and it would be nice to check more things off her to-do list. 00:10:11: Christopher notes that we can learn from everyone around us and adopt their good attributes while working to improve ourselves. 00:10:33: Kelly shares that her goal aligns with Familius's mission—she wants to make people smile and hopes the book gives people self-esteem and confidence, helping them see they're part of the universe and appreciate the good parts of themselves, their family, and friends. 00:11:05: Christopher notes this aligns with their mission to help families be happy no matter what kind of family they have, then asks where guests can find Kelly online. 00:11:14: Kelly shares that her website is kellyconroy.com and she's most active on Instagram @kellyconroybooks. 00:11:31: Christopher encourages everyone to pick up "I See You in the Stars" published by Familius releasing December 2025, thanks Familius for supporting the podcast, and asks listeners to subscribe and leave reviews, concluding that one zodiac sign at a time, we can make the world a happier place. Key Takeaways Zodiac constellations are positioned opposite the sun from Earth's perspective during their respective periods, meaning you cannot actually see your own birth constellation during your zodiac sign's time frame. The zodiac calendar begins with Aries on the first day of spring and progresses through the seasons, with each sign aligned to specific times of the year. While astrology isn't a hard science, exploring zodiac signs can be a fun way for families to learn together, build self-esteem, and appreciate positive personality traits in themselves and others. Creating educational content for children works best when it's accessible to everyone rather than segmented, and adding rhyme and rhythm helps with memorization and engagement. Teaching children about astronomy and their connection to the universe can help them develop confidence and a sense of belonging to something larger than themselves. Quotable Moments -"My goal in life is to make people smile." -"When I realized that Sagittarius and Aquarius rhyme, I knew I was gonna be able to pull it off." -"The constellation is opposite the sun from the standpoint of the earth at that time. So it's the one you can't see." -"More people were excited to learn about their signs than I thought they were." -"The whole universe is one universe, we're part of the universe. It's all the same matter, and it's just amazing and wonderful." -"One zodiac sign at a time. We can make the world a happier place."

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With help from guest authors, experts, and community and business leaders, the Familius Helping Families Be Happy podcast explores topics and issues that connect families to the nine habits of a happy family: love, play, learn, work, talk, heal, read, eat, and laugh together.

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    Familius
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    2020 - 2026
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