65 episodes

Sextras is a podcast about sex, dating, relationships and all the extras. Best friends Honey Jane Wyatt and Maria Jose Hayaux du Tilly paint a candid picture of relationships and dating in their 20s, from sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt (and learning). Typical episodes go from heavy discussions about whether they're difficult to love to cringing at sex stories from their listeners and each other. Listen in to hear two girls talking about all the details of their sex and love lives, and to maybe learn something along the way. To get involved, follow Sextras on Instagram (@sextraspodcast) and Facebook (Sextras Podcast), email (sextraspodcast@gmail.com) or submit anonymous confessions to www.sextraspodcast.com.
Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt and Maria Jose Hayaux du Tilly
Produced by Mable Productions
Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 8 Ratings

Sextras is a podcast about sex, dating, relationships and all the extras. Best friends Honey Jane Wyatt and Maria Jose Hayaux du Tilly paint a candid picture of relationships and dating in their 20s, from sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt (and learning). Typical episodes go from heavy discussions about whether they're difficult to love to cringing at sex stories from their listeners and each other. Listen in to hear two girls talking about all the details of their sex and love lives, and to maybe learn something along the way. To get involved, follow Sextras on Instagram (@sextraspodcast) and Facebook (Sextras Podcast), email (sextraspodcast@gmail.com) or submit anonymous confessions to www.sextraspodcast.com.
Hosted by Honey Jane Wyatt and Maria Jose Hayaux du Tilly
Produced by Mable Productions
Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    To Date or Not To Date in Your 20s

    To Date or Not To Date in Your 20s

    This week we ask ourselves ‘should you date in your 20s?’ For some, getting deeper into our 20s means getting further into our long term relationships, and for others being single. We discuss whether there’s really a right way to live your twenties: single or dating.
    We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our followers whether they care more about freedom or finding love in their 20s; whether they’d rather meet the person they’re going to end up with now or live out the rest of their 20s single; and hear more of their thoughts about this dilemma.
    We decide that there isn’t really an answer to this question, but we wanted to examine it more closely because so many people our age feel like they shouldn’t date in their 20s to fulfil an idea that is sold to us of what our 20s should look like; indeed many people end relationships for this very reason: they feel as if dating in your 20s is pointless if you’re unlikely to end up with the person, and that you might as well embrace your freedom.
    Navigating dating in your 20s can be difficult, but we think that in the end, it comes down to whether you think you should date for fun, or for experience, rather than for the end result. As long as you’re happier in a situation than you are on the flip side, you should stick with it, and it might ultimately be good for you to make some dating mistakes in your 20s.
    We wish you all the best of luck! We know dating in your 20s isn’t always the most fun, especially when you have to begin to consider whether you’re ready to commit to the person you’ve been dating throughout uni going in to the real world, but we’re always here if you need any tips or at least want to make yourselves feel better by hearing about our mistakes and poor judgement.
    If you enjoyed the episode, or if it resonated with you in some way, we’d love to hear from you. You can contact us (and find more content) on Instagram @sextraspodcast; Sextras Podcast on Facebook, YouTube and Geneva; www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com. Leave us a rating/review and we’ll see you next week!!
    Produced by Mable Productions
    Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    • 46 min
    Dressing For The Male Gaze

    Dressing For The Male Gaze

    Can you escape the male gaze, even if you try? This week we discuss the dynamics of dressing for the male gaze, or attempting not to, and how it’s difficult to not dress for the male gaze, particularly when you’re dating men but also if you want to look or feel attractive at all. We touch on why the male gaze is harmful, beauty standards and how the male gaze has been repackaged through social media.
    We begin the episode with discussing terms we use to describe our appearance, unpacking the differences within them and how these are a product of the male gaze and our internalised male gaze as women. We then move on to a segment where we ask our listeners what they want to wear when they want to look sexy, to get an idea of what we’re calling the ‘sexy consensus’ (ie. what everyone’s shared idea of ‘sexy’ clothing is), which unsurprisingly involves a lot of black, red, and underwear.
    Then we give our own personal feelings about dressing for the male gaze, and what we wear when we want to look ‘sexy’ or ‘attractive.’ We grapple with the idea that we might never be able to escape the male gaze, and that denying the fact that everything we do is in some ways a product of, or scrutinised by, the male gaze in society. We also try to dive into the concept of ‘the main character’ and ‘romanticising your life’ to explain why these concepts might be a little bit problematic when we think about the male gaze and how women, under it, constantly picture themselves and what they’re doing by how it might appear to others.
    Ultimately, we don’t have an answer about how to deal with the male gaze, or how to escape it, but we think having some awareness of how we describe beauty and how we ourselves interact with the gaze when getting dressed, particularly for dates, is important.
    We also want to acknowledge that we can only give our own experiences with the male gaze, and often when we talk about beauty standards it is within a white and heteronormative framework, which we know brings us an enormous amount of privilege. If you have any personal experience or opinions on the male gaze and how it affects you, we would love to hear about it, however similar or different to our own experience.
    You can contact us and find more content on our Instagram @sextrapodcast, Facebook (Sextras Podcast, website: www.sextraspodcast.com, or email us on sextraspodcast@gmail.com. Please subscribe and leave us a rating wherever you listen to podcasts, we’ll see you next week!
    Produced by Mable Productions
    Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    • 50 min
    Body Confidence and Dating ft. Amelia

    Body Confidence and Dating ft. Amelia

    This week we’re joined by our lovely friend Amelia, to discuss body confidence and dating.
    We begin the episode with a segment where we hear something our listeners like about their body, to get us into the mood of body positivity. Then, Amelia tells us about her experience of dating as a plus sized woman and dealing with body confidence. She explains that bigger women can sometimes be fetishised when dating, and that her body confidence issues in the past have come from dating people who haven’t appreciated her body or treated her kindly. This happened in one past relationship in particular, which we touch on, before hearing a bit about how Amelia has come to accept her body and celebrate it. She tells us how dating women has helped a lot with her body image, as she can see how features she has disliked on herself are attractive on someone else, which is affirming.
    We hope you enjoy the episode!
    You can find more of Amelia on Instagram @meels0nwhee1s, and more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook at Sextras Podcast, our website www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com. Please send us your artwork, writing or sexy confessions, and don’t forget to subscribe. We’ll see you next Tuesday!
    Produced by Mable Productions
    Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    • 57 min
    Reflecting On The New Year

    Reflecting On The New Year

    Happy New Year Sextras babies!!! We hope you had the most wonderful holiday celebrating with all your loved ones and wish you a wonderful 2022!
    We thought we’d do another New Year’s episode, continuing the tradition from our episode ‘Let’s Keep Trying In 2021’ last year, to reflect on everything we achieved in 2021 and what our goals are for the new year. We all had a tough year in 2021, so here’s to a better 2022, to being kinder to ourselves and spending more time with our loved ones.
    We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our listeners ‘What are your resolutions for the new year?’ before reflecting on the new year and what it brings, plus what we did last year. We then move on to our resolutions for the new year and set ourselves sex, dating, and self care goals and challenges for 2022.
    A lot can happen in a year, so we encourage you all to set goals for your own dating and sex lives (and other aspects of your life, too!) so you can hold yourself accountable and live your life to the fullest in 2022.
    Please don’t be shy about sending us your resolutions for 2022, or anything creative you’ve done that we think we might like and can feature on the website (this can include writing, drawings, songs, or anything you like). You can get in touch with us and find more of us at www.sextraspodcast.com, on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook at Sextras Podcast or email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com.
    Thank you to Manscaped for sponsoring this episode. Get 20% @manscaped + Free Shipping with promo code SEXTRAS20 at MANSCAPED.com! #ad #manscapedpod
    Produced by Mable Productions
    Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    • 37 min
    How BPD Affects Relationships, Identity and Queerness

    How BPD Affects Relationships, Identity and Queerness

    This week we speak to our wonderful guest Kabir about their experience with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and how BPD affects relationships. We also discuss being queer, how this relates to having BPD and what their experience was like growing up.
    We begin by hearing how BPD affects Kabir’s daily life, and what BPD feels like, before getting into how Kabir’s relationships have been formulated and impacted by having BPD and being queer. We hear a little bit about what dating with BPD has looked like for Kabir, and they tell us that casual dating with BPD can be difficult, and how embracing their queerness has been instrumental in learning to know and love themself for who they truly are.
    Growing up with any type of mental illness or personality disorder can be difficult, and it can be made more difficult when you’re very visibly queer, especially as a brown person in a predominantly white, straight, and rich circle of West London. Kabir tells us about how their embodiment of queerness growing up was somewhat protective, and how this impacted their relationships with those around them. Ultimately, though, we agree that being queer is more empowering than anything else, and we wouldn’t have it any other way, before ending by hearing what Kabir wants their relationships to look like going forwards.
    Thank you so much to Kabir for being our first guest in our studio, and for sharing your story. It was a pleasure to have you.
    You can listen to them on Back From The Borderline here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/gender-identity-sexuality-abusive-parents-with-no/id1576242501?i=1000533250805
    or find them on Instagram @kabir_khurana,
    and as always you can find more of us on
    Instagram @sextraspodcast,
    Facebook at Sextras Podcast,
    at www.sextraspodcast.com and
    on YouTube at Sextras Podcast.
    We can’t wait to see you next week!
    Produced by Mable Productions
    Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    • 1 hr 15 min
    Should I Date Someone Older?

    Should I Date Someone Older?

    This week we discuss everything related to age difference when dating, wondering if it’s ok to date someone older than you and establishing a rule about dating age differences at the end.
    We begin the episode by hearing how much older and younger our listeners would go when dating, and read out some moments where you’ve really noticed the age difference in your relationships.
    Then we move on to discussing our own experiences with dating people different ages to us- we discuss how young and old we’d date and sleep with. Young girls in particular often want to date someone older than them, for reasons which we discuss, but there are a lot of issues that can arise from dating someone older, so we ask when it is ok to date someone older and how to stop young people wanting to date someone older, plus how to recognise when older people’s motives are wrong in wanting to date them.
    We hope you enjoy the episode. Stay safe and remember if someone much older wants to date you, it might be a little bit weird!!
    You can find more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook (Sextras Podcast), and our website www.sextraspodcast.com. You can email us on sextraspodcast@gmail.com.
    Produced by Mable Productions
    Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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    • 1 hr

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8 Ratings

8 Ratings

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I love this podcast, everything from the topics to the episode layout to the guests to the way it can be relaxed and funny yet it can address issues in a serious manner to everything in between! The way they talk really makes you feel in your comfort zone as if you're talking to someone who gets you. I love that the hosts are young and in college, unlike basically every other podcaster on sex and relationships, so they are geared towards my own age group, yet anybody can listen to it due to the inclusiveness of the podcast, which is what I enjoy. On top of that, it is very educational and they spread so much positivity and offer such incredible advice that it has changed the way that I view and act in the world regarding sex and relationships and quite honestly just life in general. Every Tuesday I can't wait for their episode to come out and I'm sad that it's over, but I'm left just fulfilled enough that I can manage waiting another week. This podcast IS A MUST! I highly recommend it.

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