Raising Expectations with Pastor Joe Schofield, Stefanie and Dr Craig Thayer, Dr Paul Hall, and Ron Greer Fatherhood, Identity, and the Healing Power of Godly Mentorship Guest Teri Werner, Author of Train Wreck to Triumph Friends, Join us for a heartfelt discussion with Teri Werner, 'Raising Expectations' family member, as she shares her expertise in helping people overcome trauma and life's challenges, offering a message of hope and transformation. Special insights on what a Father is and means to us all! Teri, a renowned coach, author, and speaker, will inspire and uplift us with her gift of encouragement, alongside her husband Dave, a special witness for Jesus Christ. Pastor Joe Schofield Opens Raising Expectations In this episode of Raising Expectations, host Pastor Joe Schofield welcomes listeners and introduces the program’s faith-centered mission of raising expectations through Christ, family, freedom, finances, and encouragement. He notes that Stefanie Thayer and Dr. Craig Thayer are not present for this episode, while Dr. Paul Hall, Ron Greer, and Melba Schofield join the conversation. Pastor Joe also welcomes returning guest Teri Werner, describing her as part of the Raising Expectations family and highlighting her work as a transformative coach and author of Train Wreck to Triumph. Teri Werner Reflects on Father’s Day and God’s Loving Kindness Teri opens the main discussion by reflecting on the approaching Father’s Day season and the spiritual importance of fatherhood. She shares how deeply her own father shaped her understanding of God’s loving kindness, describing the biblical idea of loving kindness as covenant loyalty, mercy, forgiveness, grace, unconditional love, and steadfast affection. Teri explains that many women told her that getting to know her father helped them better understand the Heavenly Father, because he gave them a visible example of godly love, strength, and care. Fathers, Daughters, and the Formation of Identity A central theme of the episode is the powerful influence fathers have on daughters. Teri says daughters often see themselves, the world, and future relationships through the lens their fathers give them. If a father shows love, respect, attention, and honor, a daughter is more likely to expect those things from others. If he withholds them, she may become comfortable with neglect, disrespect, or emotional distance. Teri also discusses how girls who do not know their importance to their father by adolescence may later search for validation through overachievement, overproduction, or unhealthy relationships. Ron Greer on Fatherlessness and Social Breakdown Ron Greer responds by drawing on his years of ministry and research, including work with prison ministry and men’s discipleship. He says the absence of a biological father in the home is strongly connected to many social problems, including incarceration, gang involvement, school dropout rates, suicide risk, sexual assault, and cycles of family breakdown. Ron emphasizes that the damage of fatherlessness can continue across generations, affecting children, grandchildren, marriages, and spiritual identity. He argues that nothing is more important than a biological or godly father figure who reflects the character of the Heavenly Father. The Struggle to Understand God as Father The group also discusses how painful father experiences can make it difficult for people to understand God as a loving Father. Ron explains that when he trained people for prison ministry, he warned them to be careful using phrases like “loving Father,” because many inmates had no positive concept of fatherhood. To them, “father” could mean abandonment, hurt, harsh discipline, or distrust. Teri adds that hopelessness can enter when a person cannot trust an earthly father and then struggles to trust God. The conversation frames healing as a process of separating God’s true character from wounded earthly examples. Gender Identity, Masculinity, and the Family Dr. Paul Hall raises the question of gender identity and how it may connect to father absence, family confusion, and cultural instability. Ron responds that many identity struggles are tied to the lack of strong father figures and the destruction of biblical masculinity. He argues that Satan’s attack on manhood, marriage, and family begins in Genesis and continues today. The discussion also touches on feminism, the cultural shifts of the 1970s, abortion, the Ahab and Jezebel spirits, and the ways both men and women can abandon or distort their God-given roles. Teri stresses that these issues are not simply about blaming one gender, but about recognizing spiritual patterns that damage families. Mentorship, Spiritual Fathers, and Restoring Young Men and Women The conversation then turns toward solutions. Ron describes resources from Man in the Mirror, including tools for spiritual fathers, mentoring, and discipleship, designed to help older men pour wisdom into younger men. He says men do not need to be trained theologians to mentor; they simply need life experience, scars, humility, and willingness to be transparent. Teri asks how similar mentoring could be created for women, suggesting that women also need trusted guides who can help them grow in identity, faith, and emotional health. The group agrees that mentoring must be built on trust, transparency, and real engagement rather than lectures or shallow church activity. Churches, Leadership, and the Need for Relevance The hosts and guest also discuss the need for churches and denominations to become more engaged with real-life struggles rather than relying on old formats, dark stages, loud worship, institutional meetings, or surface-level programming. Teri argues that leadership is a skill requiring intentional study, engagement, and the ability to connect with people where they are. Ron adds that many pastors themselves grew up in an era affected by fatherlessness and may not have been trained in biblical manhood or discipleship. The group says churches need to return to making disciples, not merely drawing people into buildings, and must provide meaningful guidance for young men and women searching for significance. Transparency, Brokenness, and the Cross Near the end, Dr. Paul Hall points to brokenness and the necessity of the cross, saying people must understand that they were bought with a price and fiercely loved by Christ. Teri adds that real connection comes through emotional intimacy, trust, and transparency. She says people are changed when leaders are willing to be honest, vulnerable, and Christlike, not when they simply perform or try to be popular. Pastor Joe closes by emphasizing that painful experiences can become sources of strength, peace, and purpose when brought under Christ’s healing. He thanks Teri, Ron, Paul, and Melba, previews next week’s guest Brad Stine, and encourages listeners to lift their expectations to the Lord and trust Him for a cure rather than a temporary bandage.
