The Open Bedroom Podcast

The Open Bedroom Podcast
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Welcome to the world of open desire, honest conversations, and relationships designed on purpose. I’m Jennifer, a certified sex and relationship coach, and this podcast is a space for curious couples and throuples who want more—more connection, more pleasure, and more freedom to define love on their own terms. Here we explore open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy with depth, nuance, and zero shame. We talk about navigating online dating in open relationships (yes, Tinder, Bumble, Feeld), creating customized relationship dynamics that actually work.

  1. Jul 28

    Ep#225: Everyone Has Herpes with Nurse Amber

    Today I'm chatting with Nurse Amber, a board-certified women's health nurse practitioner, to discuss sexual health and STIs. We cover the prevalence and stigma of herpes, common STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea, testing frequency, and prevention methods including PrEP and DoxyPEP. Our conversation also addresses female health concerns such as UTIs, bacterial vaginosis, and pelvic floor health, as well as men's sexual health topics. Nurse Amber emphasizes open communication, regular testing, and finding a sex-positive healthcare provider. Understanding Herpes Transmission (00:02:11) Discussion on HSV-1 and HSV-2, how both can be transmitted genitally or orally, and why blood testing has limited utility. Most Common STIs (00:08:18) Chlamydia, gonorrhea, and trichomonas are identified as the most common STIs seen in clinical practice, with chlamydia being most frequent. Symptoms of Common STIs (00:08:50) A description of potential STI symptoms in people with vaginas and penises, noting that 50% of cases are asymptomatic. What is Trichomonas? (00:10:02) An explanation of trichomonas, a common parasitic STI that often causes no symptoms but can cause severe inflammation. Long-Term Risks of Untreated STIs (00:11:50) Untreated bacterial STIs can lead to serious complications like Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID), chronic pain, and impaired fertility. STI Incubation Periods (00:14:39) Genital STIs are detectable 1-2 weeks post-exposure, while blood-borne infections like HIV and syphilis can take 1-3 months. How to Disclose an STI to a Partner (00:15:53) Advice on having a direct conversation with partners about a positive STI test and the need for mutual treatment. STI Testing Frequency (00:17:19) Recommendations for testing frequency based on sexual activity, ranging from every 6-12 months to every 2-3 months for active individuals. PrEP and DoxyPEP Explained (00:21:49) An overview of PrEP for HIV prevention and DoxyPEP, a post-exposure prophylaxis to reduce the risk of bacterial STIs. Syphilis is Not Gone (00:26:47) Syphilis, known as "the great pretender," is still prevalent and can have sneaky symptoms, making regular screening important. The Current State of HIV (00:29:00) HIV is now a highly treatable chronic condition, and transmission rates are much lower than for other STIs like Hepatitis C. What to Ask For at the Gynecologist (00:31:59) Clarifying that a pelvic exam is not always a Pap smear and what specific STI tests patients should request. The Importance of Triple Testing (00:37:23) Why testing genital, oral, and rectal sites is crucial for a comprehensive screening, as infections can exist in one area. Myth-Busting: Partner Testing (00:42:04) Debunking the myth that if one partner tests negative, the other is also clear. Each person needs individual testing. Vaginal Health and Hygiene (00:44:01) Advice on maintaining vaginal health, emphasizing that vaginas are self-cleaning and harsh soaps or douching should be avoided. Squirting and Prolapse (00:50:31)Explaining that squirting is largely urine and discussing bladder prolapse, a common condition that can cause stress incontinence. Pelvic Floor Health (00:54:39) How to maintain pelvic floor health through exercises like Pilates and yoga, which can improve sex and prevent incontinence. Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) (00:58:16) A discussion on the benefits and considerations of HRT for perimenopausal symptoms, cautioning against unproven testing methods. When Men Should See a Doctor (01:02:54) An overview of symptoms like itching, discharge, pain, or sores that should prompt a person with a penis to seek medical care. Finding a Sex-Positive Provider (01:17:29) The importance of finding a healthcare provider you can be open with about your sexual health for accurate testing and treatment. Follow The Open Bedroom: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

    Ep#225: Everyone Has Herpes with Nurse Amber

  2. Jul 21

    Ep#224: Can You Still Cheat in an Open Relationship? with Mindy Glover

    Today I'm sitting down with therapist and relationship coach Mindy Glover to talk about infidelity and open relationships. We explore why infidelity causes such deep pain, the importance of clearly defining boundaries, and how assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. Mindy introduces me to the concept of "blue brain" versus "red brain" decision-making, and explains why agreements are hard to maintain when we’re emotional or aroused. We also discuss transparency in open relationships and how to heal after boundary violations. Mindy shares a personal "infidelity story" exercise that couples can use to understand their triggers and build healthier, more authentic relationships. Mindy's Fascination with Infidelity (01:37) Mindy explains her lifelong fascination with infidelity, viewing it as a powerful, often deal-breaking force in relationships. Why Infidelity is a Deal Breaker (04:09) Infidelity shatters the illusion of security and the belief that you truly know your partner, causing immense pain. The Problem with Monogamy's Assumptions (07:06) Couples often assume they share the same definition of infidelity, which sets them up for misunderstanding and failure. How People Protect Themselves from Infidelity (08:42) Mindy discusses different strategies people use to avoid infidelity, including control, delusion, and exploring open relationships. Blue Brain vs. Red Brain in Relationships (11:06) Neuroscience explains how we make calm, logical decisions (blue brain) but different, aroused decisions (red brain), causing conflict. The Inevitability of Mistakes and Reporting Issues (14:08) Because of our "red brain," mistakes are inevitable, leading to a "reporting problem" in open relationships due to shame. Honoring Individual Relationship Containers (17:18) The discussion explores the complexity of honoring privacy and boundaries within each separate relationship in a polyamorous dynamic. The Beauty and Challenge of Showing Different Parts of Yourself (20:38) Open relationships allow different parts of one's personality to emerge, which can be both beautiful and challenging for partners. The Concept of "Poly Bypassing" (24:42) Mindy introduces "poly bypassing," where individuals suppress real feelings like jealousy to appear enlightened, similar to spiritual bypassing. How to Start the Conversation About Infidelity (27:00) Mindy suggests couples write their own "infidelity story" to understand their personal history, fears, and triggers around cheating. The Illusion of Control Through Rules (30:27) Couples create rules to feel in control, but the real issue is often the lack of prior agreement, not the act itself. Navigating Ruptures and Hurt Feelings (36:50) When hurt occurs, it's crucial to have tools and containers to vent, process, and lean into the conflict. Containing Your "Parts" (39:06) Instead of containing parts of yourself, Mindy suggests getting curious about them and understanding why they emerge. How Mindy Presents in Her Own Dating Life (42:04) Mindy explains she avoids leading with theories and instead focuses on showing up authentically and playfully in relationships. How to Connect with Mindy (44:42) Mindy shares her Instagram handle, website, and information about her therapy practice, coaching, and upcoming workshops. A Final Thought on Relationships (47:38) Mindy encourages listeners to shift from wanting to know everything their partner will do to being excited by the unknown. Follow Mindy: https://www.instagram.com/mindglowmagic/ Mindy's Upcoming Live Masterclass: https://www.mindglowmagic.com/ Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

    Ep#224: Can You Still Cheat in an Open Relationship? with Mindy Glover

  3. Jul 15

    Ep#223: Avoiding the Roommate Syndrome with Coach Kevin Anthony

    Today I'm sit down with certified sexologist and relationship coach Kevin Anthony to explore mismatched libido in relationships. We discuss key causes including hormonal changes, performance anxiety, emotional resentment, and the natural fading of new relationship energy. Kevin shares practical strategies for maintaining intimacy, such as daily physical connection, showering together, and intentional date nights. Our conversation also covers spontaneous versus responsive desire, creating safe spaces for honest communication, and the differences between therapy and coaching. Kevin also introduces his Intimacy Mastery app and various coaching programs. Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 15 years he has worked with men, women, and couples to have the relationships of their dreams, and the best sex of their lives! He is also the host of "The Love Lab Podcast", creator of the popular YouTube channel Kevin Anthony Coaching, and creator of the popular online course series "Power and Mastery" as well as other online courses for both men and women. Follow Kevin: https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com/https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@Kevinanthonycoachinghttps://www.facebook.com/kevinanthonycoachinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinanthonycoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@kevinanthonycoaching The Love Lab Podcast Follow The Open Bedroom: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

    Ep#223: Avoiding the Roommate Syndrome with Coach Kevin Anthony

  4. Jul 7

    EP#222: The Truth About STI Risk, Testing & Sexual Health with Robert Johnson

    Today I’m joined by Robert Johnson, founder of Shameless Care, a telehealth company focused on sexual health, STI testing, and sexual wellness medications. After a missed STI diagnosis changed his life, Robert built Shameless Care to challenge outdated sexual health practices and bring more transparency, better education, and better access to care. We’re diving into the truth about STI testing, modern Telehealth, and why so many people are still getting bad information about sex. Website: https://shamelesscare.com/ Instagram: @shamelesscareofficial YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shamelesscareofficial Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/ Use code “OPENBEDROOM” for $15 off at shamelesscare.com Robert's Personal Story (00:01:52) Robert shares his story of a missed oral gonorrhea diagnosis, which inspired him to create Shameless Care. The Problem with Incomplete Testing (00:03:02) Robert explains how his doctors were uninformed about throat swabs and the high prevalence of asymptomatic oral gonorrhea. Normalizing STIs and Testing Frequency (00:05:30) Jen asks about normalizing STI testing, how often people should get tested, and the stigma surrounding STIs. STI Rates and Demographics (00:07:47) Robert discusses high national STI rates, like chlamydia in young women, compared to the lower rates among his educated customers. The Importance of Thorough Testing (00:10:50) Robert emphasizes that testing thoroughly (all sites) is more critical than testing frequently but incompletely. Why Doctors Don't Test Thoroughly (00:12:49) Robert explains that the lack of thorough testing is a systemic issue due to physicians' lack of specialized knowledge. How to Get a Proper STI Test (00:16:36) Robert advises on how to ask your doctor for a full panel or use a telehealth service like Shameless Care. The At-Home Testing Process (00:19:08) Robert describes the at-home kit, how to collect samples (throat, anal swabs), and the low sample rejection rate. The Myth of Being "Clean" (00:21:59) The host and guest discuss the common but inaccurate dating profile claim of being "clean" from STIs. How Often Should You Get Tested? (00:23:39) Robert explains that testing frequency is personal and depends on resources, lifestyle, and number of partners. Addressing Shame and Discretion in Healthcare (00:26:26) Jen shares experiences of shame from doctors, and Robert explains how telehealth offers a discreet and non-judgmental alternative. The Future of Telehealth (00:29:14) Robert discusses the convenience, speed, and accessibility of telehealth for specialty medications and common health issues like UTIs. STI Prevention with DoxyPEP (00:33:38) Robert introduces DoxyPEP, an antibiotic taken after sex to significantly reduce the risk of gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. Sexual Wellness Medications Offered (00:37:12) Robert details other products available, like topical creams for female arousal and ED medications, without mandatory subscriptions. Common STI Testing Misconceptions (00:39:10) Robert debunks two myths: that a partner's negative test represents your status, and that a recent test is worthless. The Mental Benefit of Testing (00:43:34) Robert and Jen discuss how knowledge and regular testing reduce anxiety, leading to more enjoyable and worry-free sex. How to Use Shameless Care (00:46:49) Robert provides instructions on how to use the website and offers a discount code for the podcast listeners.

    EP#222: The Truth About STI Risk, Testing & Sexual Health with Robert Johnson

  5. Jul 1

    EP#221: Fully Charged: Primal Sex with Melissa Louise

    In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back Melissa Louise, a certified erotic blueprint coach, to explore "fully charged primal sex." We dive into the biological and evolutionary roots of male and female sexuality, including why men are naturally silent during sex, how prolactin causes post-ejaculation sleepiness, and why women have greater orgasmic capacity. Melissa also explains sperm competition, menstrual health, and sexual transmutation techniques for men. She introduces her six-week program, Fully Charged, designed to help men build sexual stamina, emotional depth, and deeper partner connection. What is Primal Sex? (00:03:02) Melissa Louise defines primal sex, linking it to survival instincts, our subconscious brain, and deep, raw hunger and desire. Why Men are Silent During Sex (00:05:41) An evolutionary explanation for why men are naturally silent during sex to avoid predators and competition from other males. The Role of Prolactin in Men (00:09:07) Discussion on the hormone prolactin, which makes men sleepy after ejaculation to prevent conflict with subsequent partners for the woman. Female Vocalization and Orgasms (00:10:01) Women are wired to be vocal and have multiple orgasms to attract more partners during their short fertility window. The Egg Chooses the Sperm (00:15:34) Melissa explains that the egg selects the fittest sperm from multiple partners, challenging the idea of sperm choosing the egg. Societal Views on Multiple Partners (00:19:31) A discussion on modern cultural narratives around sexual ownership versus historical community-based lovemaking and the nature of jealousy. Why Women Need More Sex Than Men (00:24:00) Women have a higher orgasmic capacity than men, suggesting their biological need for sex is greater than culturally believed. The Impact of Modern Life on Women's Health (00:25:29) How modern stress and societal pressures negatively affect women's menstrual cycles and lead to a difficult menopause experience. The Power of the Menstrual Cycle (00:30:14) Exploring the spiritual and biological power of menstruation, including DMT release and its historical significance in tribal communities. The Female Orgasmic Experience (00:37:43) The hosts discuss the intense, high-like feeling women experience from multiple orgasms, which is linked to DMT release. How Men Can Have Non-Refractory Orgasms (00:40:37) Melissa reveals that men can experience continuous, non-refractory orgasms through prostate stimulation, similar to a woman's G-spot orgasm. Building a Man's Capacity for Pleasure (00:43:18) Men can be trained to hold more pleasure and separate orgasm from ejaculation, leading to better health and business success. Introduction to the "Fully Charged" Program (00:46:17) Melissa introduces her live training program for men, designed to teach them how to control ejaculation and enhance pleasure. What the "Fully Charged" Program Covers (00:55:29) A detailed breakdown of the six-week program, including practical techniques, shadow work, and learning about female arousal maps. Follow Melissa Louise: WEBSITE FULLY CHARGED SUbstack INstagram "The Seminal Spirits" are the fire sung by poets having been stolen from the gods by Prometheus. Pierre Louis Moreau The Earthly Venus. Semen is the most fined & noblest part of the whole human frame containing in itself the whole nature & complexion of every part of the body : or in other words, being the essence of man. Nicolas Venette 17th Century physician, sexologist & writer.

    EP#221: Fully Charged: Primal Sex with Melissa Louise

  6. Jun 22

    EP#220: Kink Curious With Faith Laux

    Today I'm welcoming somatic sex and relationship coach Faith Laux, who shares how her stage four colon cancer diagnosis inspired her to explore kink as a healing practice. Faith explains that kinky play doesn’t require sexual partners, discusses the importance of negotiation and communication, and introduces the five erotic blueprints: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter. She also guides us on how to begin honest conversations with partners about unexplored desires, emphasizing self-acceptance and vulnerability as essential first steps. Follow Faith + Info on the Erotic Blueprints and her live course! Erotic Blueprint affiliate link: https://theblueprintbreakthrough.net/?oprid=18956&ref=330933 EARLY BIRD code for Kink Curious: EARLYBIRD Kink Curious website Follow The Open Bedroom: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

    EP#220: Kink Curious With Faith Laux

  7. Jun 17

    EP#219: Why Women Don't Want Nice Guys With Marni Kinrys

    Today I'm speaking with Marni Kinrys, founder of the Wing Girl Method, about why being a "nice guy" often kills attraction. Marni explains the crucial difference between being "nice" (passive, conflict-avoidant) and being a "good man" (confident, assertive, emotionally intelligent). We discuss how societal conditioning creates insecurity in men, how emotional disconnection kills desire in relationships, and how men can rebuild attraction through consistent support and playful flirtation. Marni also introduces her "F Formula" program, designed to help men develop authentic confidence and flirting skills. MARNI KINRYS is the founder of The Wing Girl Method, host of the Ask Women Podcast, designer of the F-Formula, and an award-winning female dating coach for men ages 25-85 at every stage of dating and relationships, who’s spent the last decade helping hundreds of thousands of men stop being Mr. Nice Guy and start being Mr. Holy Sh*t, I Want Him! With more than 50 digital programs, monthly online masterclasses, 150 million YouTube views and 1,300,000 subscribers to her channel, Marni Your Personal Wing Girl, Marni is known for her blunt, no “fluff” approach and honest insider tips, tools and advice on what women really want vs. what they say they want. The Difference Between "Nice" and "Good" (00:03:10) Marnie explains that "nice" often means boring and passive, while a "good" man is confident, assertive, and sexually expressive. The Origins of the "Nice Guy" (00:05:06) The discussion explores how early female influences, like mothers or teachers, and societal pressures can train men to be overly passive. Modern Pressures on Men (00:07:05) Marnie and Jen discuss how movements like #MeToo have created confusion for men, making them unsure how to act around women. The Importance of Emotional Intelligence (00:13:59) A man who can be masculine while also understanding communication and holding space for a woman's emotions is incredibly attractive. The "Soap" Argument: Understanding Triggers (00:19:53) Jen shares a story about an argument over soap, highlighting how small issues can trigger deeper feelings of inadequacy and mental load. How to See Beyond the Argument (00:25:44) Marnie explains how she coaches men to understand the real emotions behind a woman's complaints, like exhaustion or feeling overwhelmed. Revitalizing a Sexless Marriage (00:30:40) The conversation shifts to why wives lose sexual interest, linking it to feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported by their partners. Baby Steps to Reconnection (00:33:50) Marnie offers practical, small steps for men to rebuild connection and trust, starting with consistent communication and taking on responsibilities. What Men Really Want (00:38:02) Men come to Marnie to learn how to attract women, which involves shedding the "nice guy" mask and becoming comfortable with themselves. Follow Marni: WingGirlMethod.com Facebook Instagram TikTok Twitter YouTube LinkedIn Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

    EP#219: Why Women Don't Want Nice Guys With Marni Kinrys

  8. Jun 9

    EP#218: Why You’re Not Getting a 2nd Date

    In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, My husband Scott and I discuss why people often don't get a second date, identifying 5 problematic dater archetypes: Chatty Cathy, Negative Nancy, Pillow Princess, Boring Brenda, and Free Date Fran. Our central message is simple: show genuine curiosity about your date. We emphasize that mutual engagement, both conversationally and intimately, is essential for meaningful connection, and that self-awareness is key to improving your dating life. Why You're Not Getting a Second Date (00:01:16) Jen and Scott introduce the central theme: why people often don't get called back for a second date. The Self-Absorbed Dater (00:03:32) Scott shares a story about a woman from his past who talked endlessly about herself without ever asking about him. Giving Feedback to Bad Daters (00:09:30) The hosts discuss the dilemma of whether to give direct, compassionate feedback to people after a bad date. The Common Theme: Lack of Reciprocity (00:10:09) Scott describes the recurring pattern of dates who talk at them for hours without showing any curiosity about their lives. Frustration with Self-Centered Dates (00:14:25) Jen expresses her exhaustion and frustration with the consistent lack of reciprocal engagement from the people they date. Archetype 1: Chatty Cathy (00:17:33) Jen introduces the first archetype of a bad dater: the person who talks nonstop and never asks any questions. Archetype 2: Negative Nancy (00:18:07) The hosts discuss the second archetype, using a recent date who complained constantly and ran up a large bill. Archetype 3: The Pillow Princess (00:20:09) Jen describes a selfish sexual partner who expects to receive pleasure without reciprocating, tying it to the same problematic date. Archetype 4: Boring Brenda (00:26:34) The hosts discuss dates who are uninteresting, lack hobbies or identity, and have a flat, disengaged emotional affect. Reasons for Poor Dating Behavior (00:28:38) Scott explores potential reasons for these behaviors, such as self-absorption, nervousness, or a simple lack of conversational skills. The Importance of Meaningful Connection (00:30:31) Scott explains his approach to dating, which involves seeking genuine connection and understanding who a person truly is. Asking Deeper Questions (00:34:16) The hosts share insightful questions they ask on dates to encourage deeper conversation and reveal a person's character. Becoming an Interesting Person (00:39:08) Jen advises listeners who might be "boring" to develop hobbies and interests before re-entering the dating scene. Aligning Your Profile with Your Goals (00:41:29) The hosts discuss the importance of ensuring your dating profile accurately reflects what you are actually looking for in a partner. Archetype 5: Free Date Franny (00:48:19) Jen introduces the final archetype: the person who seems to only want a free meal or night out. Final Thoughts on Self-Awareness (00:51:10) Scott concludes that having self-awareness and showing genuine curiosity in others is crucial for successful and fulfilling dating experiences. Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

    EP#218: Why You’re Not Getting a 2nd Date
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Welcome to the world of open desire, honest conversations, and relationships designed on purpose. I’m Jennifer, a certified sex and relationship coach, and this podcast is a space for curious couples and throuples who want more—more connection, more pleasure, and more freedom to define love on their own terms. Here we explore open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy with depth, nuance, and zero shame. We talk about navigating online dating in open relationships (yes, Tinder, Bumble, Feeld), creating customized relationship dynamics that actually work.

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  • Creator
    The Open Bedroom Podcast
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    224
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    Explicit
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