The Catholic Coaching Podcast

Erin and Matt Ingold

When we encountered New Age philosophies in Life Coaching that ran counter to our Christian beliefs, we decided to take the best practices of Life Coaching and infuse them with the rich traditions of our Catholic Faith. We're Matt and Erin Ingold, Catholic coaches and the founders of Metanoia Catholic, our Catholic Life Coaching Company. Join us as we share practical coaching tips to being transformed by the renewing of your mind so that you can be free to discover and choose your greatest calling in life.

  1. 301. Stop Winning Arguments In Your Head! How to FACE Your Anger

    3d ago

    301. Stop Winning Arguments In Your Head! How to FACE Your Anger

    Have you ever used the "Ostrich Approach" to a difficult relationship, hid from a hard conversation, and ended up winning 50 different imaginary arguments inside your own head? Welcome back to The Catholic Coaching Podcast! In Episode 301, Matt and Erin are diving deeper into our conflict resolution series. Last week, we introduced the PACE framework (Pause, Assume Goodwill, Clarify, Engage). But the big question is: What actually happens inside that very first step—the Pause? Sometimes we abuse the pause to stew in resentment, or we skip it entirely and react out of unregulated emotion. To fix this, we are introducing a powerful new tool in this episode: The FACE Framework. When anger shows up, it's easy to give it a bad rap. But drawing from St. Thomas Aquinas and Catechism #1767, we unpack how anger is actually a morally neutral, complex passion made of two hidden components: Sorrow and Hope. To process your anger cleanly before reason kicks in, you have to FACE it: F – Find the Sorrow: What is the good thing you love that you perceive is being threatened or harmed? A – Assess the Story: Is your narrative a court-of-law fact, or are you editorializing? C – Challenge the Narrative: What fruits are you getting from this story, and how could the opposite be true? E – Examine the Hope: What do you want your anger to actually accomplish? (Restoring justice vs. seeking punishment). We walk through a highly relatable "Odd Couple" college roommate scenario featuring Brian (a highly ordered Melancholic) and Andy (a carefree Sanguine) to show RAs, ministry leaders, and coaches exactly how to accompany someone through a heated moment without falling into "story fondling." Whether you’re dealing with a difficult coworker, a spouse, or navigating campus ministry, learning to purify your anger will completely transform your relationships. Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    46 min
  2. 300. The Catholic Guide to Conflict Resolution (That Actually Works)

    Jun 10

    300. The Catholic Guide to Conflict Resolution (That Actually Works)

    Have you ever walked away from a heated argument filled with regret, wishing you had handled things differently? Or maybe you’re someone who avoids conflict entirely, hoping it will just magically disappear? Welcome back to The Catholic Coaching Podcast! In this episode, Matt and Erin kick off an intensive series on healthy, holy conflict resolution. They introduce a powerful 4-part framework called PACE: Pause: Regulate yourself spiritually and emotionally before reacting. • Assume Goodwill: Drop the victim mindset and reframe your toxic internal narratives. • Clarify: Separate the raw facts from the stories you tell yourself. • Engage Toward Unity: Move past trying to "win" the argument and instead pursue mutual communion. Pulling wisdom from St. Thomas Aquinas and Catechism #1731, they explore how mastering your Internal Locus of Control allows you to claim your personal freedom, set clean boundaries, and see conflict not as a bug in relationships, but as a direct milestone toward Heaven. Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    55 min
  3. Jun 3

    299. Virtue Over Vanity: A Catholic Guide to Fitness & Nutrition with Chase Crouse

    Have you ever felt like your fitness goals are walking a tightrope between vanity on one side and neglecting your health on the other? In this episode of The Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt sits down with Chase Crouse, co-founder of HiPurO Fit, to uncover a Theology of the Body-inspired approach to fitness and nutrition. Moving past secular fitness culture's obsession with endless "optimization" and look-at-me aesthetics, Chase re-frames physical discipline through the lens of St. John Paul II: pursuing self-mastery so that we can fully live out our vocations. We discuss: • The origin of HiPurO Fit and why Chase walked away from secular gym sales tactics. • How JP2's "Law of Gift" applies to what we eat and how we train ("You cannot give what you don't have"). • Balancing physical sleep and recovery with spiritual devotions (and why you shouldn't try to be a monk if you're in an active vocation!). • The Catholic approach to nutrition: avoiding diet extremes and focusing on human integration. • The hilarious (and inspiring) story of a priest who literally got "too ripped" for his vestments. • The "Mustard Seed" approach to starting your health journey when you're at zero. If you are a parent, professional, or ministry leader struggling to find the energy to serve the people you love, this episode will help you shift from shame to a beautifully ordered view of the body God gave you. Connect with Chase & HiPurO Fit: Website & Free Trial: https://www.hypurofit.org/ Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    53 min
  4. 298. Why 85% of Catholic Kids Leave the Faith (And How to Stop It) with Dr. Greg Popcak

    May 27

    298. Why 85% of Catholic Kids Leave the Faith (And How to Stop It) with Dr. Greg Popcak

    Why are 85% to 90% of Catholic kids walking away from the Church as adults—and what are the rare 15% of successful families doing differently?  In this episode of The Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt sits down with Catholic psychologist, author, and EWTN radio host Dr. Greg Popcak to look at the groundbreaking research surrounding the "Liturgy of Domestic Church Life."  If you've ever felt like your parenting is reduced to a "toolbox of manipulation techniques" to force external compliance, this conversation is the breath of fresh air you need. Dr. Greg breaks down how families can transition from behavior-focused parenting to a deeply relational, Trinitarian model that emphasizes warmth, mutual self-giving, and mentorship.  We cover: 👉 The shocking age when most kids actually lose their faith (hint: it's much earlier than college). 👉 Why behaviorism fails the Christian view of the human person. 👉 The "Three-Bucket Water Wheel" analogy of the Trinity applied to your household. 👉 How the Liturgy of Domestic Church Life acts as a powerful counter to clericalism. 👉 Practical ways to navigate modern parenting dilemmas like teenagers and social media. Whether your children are toddlers, teenagers, or independent adults, this episode provides a life-changing framework to transform your home into a thriving domestic church. 📌 SHOW NOTES & LINKS: • Read the original White Paper on the 12 Habits: https://lead.metanoiacatholic.com/leadership-guide-download-thank-you • Download the Catholic HOM (Households on Mission) App: https://catholichom.com • Connect with Dr. Greg Popcak: https://catholiccounselors.com Don't forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and leave a review! Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    56 min
  5. 297. How to Change Your Desires (A Catholic Guide to Habit Change)

    May 20

    297. How to Change Your Desires (A Catholic Guide to Habit Change)

    Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop—doing the exact things you want to stop doing, and failing to start the habits you actually want to build? In this final episode of our Discernment Series on the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin dive into the practical neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and Catholic theology (hello, St. Thomas Aquinas!) behind how to actually change and redirect your desires. Many of us feel stuck with our disordered attachments, but our minds are plastic and designed by God for virtue. Desire itself isn't the enemy; the secret is learning how to starve your lesser desires and intensify your desire for the highest goods. In this episode, Erin puts Matt in the hot seat for a raw, vulnerable live coaching session on overcoming his own desire for the esteem of others, shifting from a "slave mentality" to resting fully in the safety and security of God the Father's house. We break down a practical 6-step protocol to help you: • Identify and detach from disordered desires. • Interrupt the reward cycles and create distance from triggers (like social media or metrics). • Focus attention, build a new identity, and take small actions that rewrite your neural pathways. It’s time to stop fighting with willpower alone and start cooperating with God's grace to rewrite your habits from the inside out! Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    44 min
  6. 296. How to Know if a Desire Is From God

    May 12

    296. How to Know if a Desire Is From God

    How do you know if a desire is really from God? In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin continue their discernment series by diving into one of the most important spiritual questions: how to discern your desires. After exploring the idea that desires themselves are not bad, this episode walks through practical ways to evaluate where your desires are coming from, what emotional tone is fueling them, and whether they are leading you toward greater freedom and relationship with God. In this episode, we discuss: • How to discern whether a desire is from God • The difference between holy longing and desperation • Peaceful clarity vs anxious urgency • Ordered zeal vs chaotic striving • Why unexplored desires become dangerous • How attachment distorts discernment • The emotional “tone” behind desires • Why God is not afraid of what you want • How desires reveal deeper needs and longings • The importance of surrender in discernment • How to uncover the core desire beneath surface desires Jesus asks, “What do you seek?” That question is not meant to shame us. It is an invitation into relationship. Many of us either suppress our desires or chase them impulsively. But true discernment means bringing those desires honestly before the Lord and allowing Him to reveal what is underneath them. If you’ve ever struggled with confusion, emotional urgency, fear, attachment, or wondering whether your desires can be trusted, this episode will give you practical tools for discernment and deeper prayer. Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    45 min
  7. 295. Can you Change Your Desires?

    May 6

    295. Can you Change Your Desires?

    Can you actually change your desires? In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin continue their discernment series by exploring the role of desire in the spiritual life. Many Catholics feel suspicious of desire, as if wanting something automatically means it is selfish, disordered, or opposed to God’s will. But desire itself is not the enemy. Unexplored desire is often what keeps us stuck. In this episode, we discuss: * What desire actually is * Why desire is morally neutral * The difference between ordered and disordered desires * Why God is not afraid of what you want * How unexplored desires can lead us away from God * Why your desires are not fixed forever * How neuroplasticity helps explain changing desire * How attention, habit, identity, and contemplation shape what we want * Why bringing desire to the Lord can lead to freedom Jesus asks, “What do you seek?” That question is not meant to shame us. It is an invitation into deeper relationship, purification, and freedom. If you feel stuck, unmotivated, ashamed of what you want, or unsure how your desires fit into God’s will, this episode will help you begin bringing those desires into prayer. Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    49 min
  8. 294. How to Know If It's God's Voice or Your Own Thoughts

    Apr 29

    294. How to Know If It's God's Voice or Your Own Thoughts

    How do you know if something you receive in prayer is actually from God? In this episode of the Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Erin continue their discernment series by walking through how to test spiritual promptings, private revelations, interior movements, and words received in prayer. Building on the previous episode about prayer language, they explain how to bring what you receive back into dialogue with God, ask for interpretation, test the spirit, and look at the fruits over time. In this episode, we discuss: • How to discern God’s voice from your own thoughts • Why St. Paul tells us to “test every spirit” • How to avoid acting too quickly on strong spiritual experiences • The importance of tone, freedom, humility, and fruit • How to ask God for interpretation and application • Why good counsel matters in discernment • How to know whether a prompting leads to peace, charity, clarity, and deeper communion with God If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this God, me, or the enemy?” this episode will give you practical tools for discerning what you hear in prayer. Send us Fan Mail Support the show ____________________ ► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel! ► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer ► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz ► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU? ► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL! This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts. ► JOIN THE ACADEMY! Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership. ____________________ ► SUB...

    48 min
4.9
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When we encountered New Age philosophies in Life Coaching that ran counter to our Christian beliefs, we decided to take the best practices of Life Coaching and infuse them with the rich traditions of our Catholic Faith. We're Matt and Erin Ingold, Catholic coaches and the founders of Metanoia Catholic, our Catholic Life Coaching Company. Join us as we share practical coaching tips to being transformed by the renewing of your mind so that you can be free to discover and choose your greatest calling in life.

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