13 episodes

A podcast about losing my mother, and talking to others who have also lost their mothers...and not just in death. I promise it will be funny too.

I Swear On My Mother’s Grave Dana Black

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 116 Ratings

A podcast about losing my mother, and talking to others who have also lost their mothers...and not just in death. I promise it will be funny too.

    Suzi

    Suzi

    Today’s guest is Suzi Pond. We recorded this conversation one year ago, on Mother’s Day 2020. It was my first interview for this project/podcast. I didn’t know yet what this was going to be, but I knew I needed to talk to one of my oldest friends first, who just happened to be an editor, and someone who had lost her mother when she was just 13 years old. Suzi also loved my mother, and my mother loved her. From her car in a field in Maine, we spoke about divorce, death, raising children without a mother to guide you, how both of our mothers died alone, and what a gift it is to simply ask your grieving friends questions about their loved ones. 
    Check out our website, www.mothersgravepod.com, to find Behind the Scenes images from this episode, and many pictures of Suzi and I from the 24 years we have known each other. 
    Episode 12 - Suzi transcript 
    I Swear on My Mother’s Grave is edited and produced by Redbird Media Group
    Logo and graphic design by Meredith Montgomery
    Theme music by Matt Chapman
    Website by Na’toria Marketing & Design
    Come follow us on Instagram. 
    Thanks to Danny Bravman, Heather Bodie, Lora Nicole, Jill Wolf, Courtney, Rioux, Jonathan Baude and all my friends for your love and support. And thanks to all of you for listening, subscribing, reaching out, rating and sharing this podcast with others. 

    • 59 min
    Halley

    Halley

    Today’s guest is Halley Mayo. She lost her mother when she and her twin brother were just 4 years old. In this episode, Halley expresses how she doesn’t know her life without grief and doesn’t understand why she is still crying…over a woman she didn’t even know. She talks about how grateful she is to her step-mother, who is actually her mother’s cousin, for choosing to be a mother when she didn’t have to. And we talk about a tape. A tape her mother recorded for her two children in the last weeks of her life. A tape that Halley didn’t hear for many years after her death, and which you will get to hear now...30 years after her death.

    Check out our website, www.mothersgravepod.com, to find Behind the Scenes images from this episode, and to learn how you can support The Willard Walker Hospice Home.

    Episode 11 - Halley transcript

    I Swear on My Mother’s Grave is edited and produced by Redbird Media Group

    Logo and graphic design by Meredith Montgomery

    Theme music by Matt Chapman

    Website by Na’toria Marketing & Design

    Thanks to Tyler Meredith for the introduction to Halley, Danny Bravman, Heather Bodie, Lora Nicole, Jill Wolf, Jonathan Baude and all my friends for your love and support.

    And thanks to all of YOU for listening, sharing, and subscribing. Come follow us on Instagram.

    • 58 min
    Daisy

    Daisy

    Today’s guest is Daisy Salto. Daisy is currently 16 years old, grew up in Chicago with her 4 siblings, and lost her mom when she was just 8 years old. She remembers watching Curious George with her mother and, even though she didn’t speak English, her mother thought that monkey was hilarious. In this episode, Daisy and I talk about learning what addiction was through the actions of our mothers, how trauma ages you, whether or not either one of us wants kids, and how Mother’s Day is just...well, it’s complicated. Check out our website, www.mothersgravepod.com, to find Behind the Scenes images from this episode, and to learn how you can support Hearts to Art.

    Episode 10 - Daisy transcript

    I Swear on My Mother’s Grave is edited and produced by Redbird Media Group

    Logo and graphic design by Meredith Montgomery

    Theme music by Matt Chapman

    Website by Na’toria Marketing & Design

    Thanks to Sarah Illiatovitch-Goldman for the introduction to Daisy, Danny Bravman, Heather Bodie, Lora Nicole, Jill Wolf, Jonathan Baude and all my friends for your love and support.

    Come follow us on Instagram.

    Thanks for listening.

    • 39 min
    Lucy

    Lucy

    Today’s guest is Lucy Sandy. Lucy was born and raised in Houston, Texas by two immigrant parents from Sierra Leone: Mommy and Daddy, as they are affectionately called. In this episode, as Lucy approached the 10-year anniversary of her mom’s death, we talked about how it's time to acknowledge that your parents weren't perfect, the challenges of being raised in the shadow of two cultures, and the pressure of being a good Black daughter and a good Black woman. Oh, and I get honest around my shame in calling my mom a bitch. Check out our website, www.mothersgravepod.com, to find Behind the Scenes images from this episode, and to learn how you can support March of Dimes, an organization important to Lucy’s mother.

    Episode 9 - Lucy transcript

    I Swear on My Mother’s Grave is edited and produced by Redbird Media Group

    Logo and graphic design by Meredith Montgomery

    Theme music by Matt Chapman

    Website by Na’toria Marketing & Design

    Come follow us on Instagram.

    Thanks for listening.

    • 53 min
    Jess

    Jess

    Today’s guest is Jess Jones. She used to be an agent (one of my agents, to be exact!) and is now the Center Director for The Kaufherr Center in Chicago, which supports professional and emerging performing artists seeking opportunity within the entertainment industry. In this episode, we talk about faith, bringing your children to your childhood home, how her mom spent her life leading others through grief, even when she was grieving...and the innate goodness within us all. I will also admit to being a part of my church’s handbell choir in my youth, for all to hear. Check out our website, www.mothersgravepod.com, to find Behind the Scenes images from this episode, and to learn how you can support Grief Share, an organization that Jess’ mother worked with and believed in during her lifetime.

    Episode 8 - Jess transcript

    I Swear on My Mother’s Grave is edited and produced by Redbird Media Group

    Logo and graphic design by Meredith Montgomery

    Theme music by Matt Chapman

    Website by Na’toria Marketing & Design

    Come follow us on Instagram.

    Thanks for listening.

    • 55 min
    Xander

    Xander

    Today’s guest is Xander Krohn. He is a writer, teacher, and lover of a good suit. In this episode, we talk about how he attended a good old-fashioned Texas summer camp for over 10 years during his childhood, how you can miss your mom’s southern idioms even if she is still living, and that being a “highly functioning trans person with a bank account, a life, and a schedule” is the best kind of self-love. Check out our website, www.mothersgravepod.com, to find Behind the Scenes images from this episode, and to learn how you can support YEPP and 2nd Story, two organizations that are important to Xander.

    Episode 7 - Xander transcript

    I Swear on My Mother’s Grave is edited and produced by Redbird Media Group

    Logo and graphic design by Meredith Montgomery

    Theme music by Matt Chapman

    Website by Na’toria Marketing & Design

    Come follow us on Instagram.

    Thanks for listening.

    • 1 hr 2 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
116 Ratings

116 Ratings

M. Cain ,

Frank, funny, comforting

The conversations between Dana and her companions are intimate and warm, comforting and provocative. They inspire me to re-examine my history and relationship with my late mother, and to ponder what I might find in that exploration to enrich my ties to her. What about her do I miss? What do I remember about her relationship to my grandmother? What do I want to impress on my daughter before she inevitably loses me? A great podcast, made better by Dana’s voice and truth-seeking.

Reviewtacular ,

Funny, Insightful, Catharsis after Catharsis

These conversations are hitting me where I LIVE! Dana is a terrific interviewer, allowing the conversations to unfold but not meander. Spend time with these people talking about that formative relationship that shapes who we are in this world.

Thelioninwinter ,

Always Captivating, Every Time

Every time I listen to Dana Black's amazing podcast I Swear on My Mother's Grave I tell myself that I should spread the word. Today's the day. From the show description:

"My mom died in her sleep in 2016, on a Saturday, about 2 hours before I was set to perform on another stage in Chicago. And this podcast is my way of talking about her death with other people in my life, other people who have lost their mothers—and I don’t just mean in death. There are lots of ways to lose a mother.”

I’m fortunate to have seen Dana onstage. She is honest and funny and raw as an actor; the conversations she has with others who've lost their mothers to death or circumstance are no different. She and her guests discuss loss, grief coming in sideways, addictions, estrangement, gender, and being human - through the lens, and sometimes in the shadow, of the loss of a mother.

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