From My Heart To Yours

Linda Vettrus-Nichols
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In this podcast you will find that fantasizing about the impossible is totally reasonable, striving for satisfaction is a must, and at the end of the day love and solid relationships are all that matter.

  1. 1d ago

    #4 Be Grateful with Carol Banens

    Carol Banens: “I am grateful for the gratitude journaling I have done for years. I am also grateful that I continued writing in that journal after my husband died. I did it every night, no matter what. I can remember sitting upstairs with my diary open thinking, 'what am I grateful for?' And I made sure I found something, whether it was my warm bed in the winter or the air conditioning in the summer.  Grief is about looking back and looking at loss. People tend not to live in the present moment. We're either worried and thinking about what went wrong, what we should have done or we are busy getting anxious about the future.  The wonderful thing about gratitude is that we can keep adding it into our day. This is when the joy of life returns.” Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Carol Banens.

  2. Sep 13

    #3 Relish People with Carol Banens

    Carol Banens: “Once you're in grief, and you've lost someone, you realize there's so much more that perhaps you could have done for them, listened to them, or asked of them. I'm a piano player. My dad was a surgeon and quite a good jazz pianist. He'd say, practice hymns and play chords, it will give you chord sequences. And of course, I never listened because he was my dad. After he'd gone, I ended up marrying a jazz pianist. That's when I realized, oh, my dad was right. If only I had done that. Did I learn from that? Not enough.  I relished my husband, but not as much as I could. I think we can always do more.  I didn't ask him to teach me a really groovy Happy Birthday. When you're at a birthday party and there’s a piano and people find out you can play piano they often say, "Can you play Happy Birthday?" And it's like, “No”. That's such a silly little thing. But it's one of those things I wonder about. That was Brian's skill. He was a musician. Why didn't I tap into that? Was it because I was always too busy?  I was too busy to smell the roses. I was working and looking after my mom. We don't know how long others will be with us or we with them. So, taking the time to appreciate who you have with you and why they're with you is important. If only we could hear that lesson before they are gone so that we can do it in advance.” Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Carol Banens.

  3. Sep 6

    #2 Be Kind with Carol Banens

    Carol Banens: “Being kind can mean so many different things. When it comes to grief, it doesn't mean trying to fix grief. Let's get that out there. Because you don't fix grief, you live through it. You get to work through it. In grief, being kind to yourself can be calling on a friend for a chat, monitoring the intensity of your grief, or journaling about your grief (what you’ve lost and what you still have). Being kind to others in grief is about remembering that they are on decision overload. They might not even know what they want or what they need. When my husband died, and before I could even think about mowing the lawn, my realtor sent over a lawn crew. This continued all summer. What a gift and a blessing. Talk about instilling gratitude! It took away a burden I didn’t even know I had. It was one less thing for me to think about. So when I think about being kind, sometimes it's the practical things that make all the difference in the world.”  Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Carol Banens.

  4. Aug 30

    #1 Enjoying Life with Carol Banens

    Carol Banens: “It doesn't matter how someone dies, grief is immense. We get to remember that fact. When my husband died, I pushed everything down so I could go back to work, so I could manage things, and it came back to bite me for not dealing with it. It's exhausting to put on a facade of 'I'm fine', if you're not. As soon as we start to have these conversations, as soon as we're with compassionate people who will sit with us and listen, let us put our head on their shoulder or go for a walk with us, it softens our grief. Community coming together is such a beautiful way of dealing with any sort of trouble because it allows us to see the connection between people.          It's so important to talk when you are ready to talk. Grief has to be witnessed, it has to be heard. And the more we talk about it, the more we stop resisting it and pushing it down.”  Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Carol Banens.

  5. Aug 23

    #4 Every Day is an Opportunity for Change with Iana J. Daniels

    Iana J. Daniels: “Every day is an opportunity for plenty of things, especially change. We are not perfect beings, we are not infallible, we are human. The world is not perfect. The game is rigged. You are going to make mistakes. Anyone who has decided they know how you should live your life, has no idea how to live their own. I was guilty of that as well.  One of my coaches called me out. She said, ‘You need to get rid of your instruction manual, the one for other people's lives’. I'm the eldest. In my mind, I had an instruction manual for how my youngest sister should live her life, because she was my responsibility. A day later, I was having a conversation with my mom and she said, ‘I know you feel like your babysitter is like your kid, but as your mother, I say, Let that go. She is an adult’. That was the day I realized that I had to allow my younger sisters to live their own lives.”  Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Iana J. Daniels.

  6. Aug 16

    #3 Everything is Temporary with Iana J. Daniels

    Iana J. Daniels: “When we realize that everything is temporary we begin to develop the fear of missing out (FOMO). Growing up in Guyana, there are two phrases that older people say all the time. As a young girl, I didn't quite understand it. I understood it more as I grew older. The first one is, ‘You know that you're getting older, when you have fewer friends’. And the other one I recall hearing was, ‘I’m tired. I’m ready’. My maternal grandmother lived until she was 104 so you can imagine how many times she used that phrase. As I got older, I realized what they meant. ‘I've lived a life. I feel complete, and I am fine. I am at peace with the world no matter what happens.’  In every situation and every experience, you learn something about you and you learn something about the world. So you still come out of a difficult time in your life with a lesson and a blessing.  We get to create and recreate our stories from our lessons and our blessings. We do that from our intuition. Like, something’s just not feeling right and that's okay, I can make a different decision.”  Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Iana J. Daniels.

  7. Aug 9

    #2 Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously with Iana J. Daniels

    Iana J. Daniels: “One of my supervisors said, ‘Iana, you take yourself so seriously, you don't have to. Smile a little bit. Everything does not have to be a problem to solve. With some things, you can just let them go’. I've always had laughter in my life. For a while, it was a coping mechanism, instead of crying. When I learned about belly laughing, I realized that's the type of laugh I do when I am truly happy or find something really, really funny. It's not the laugh I do when I'm trying to make myself enjoy something.  When it comes to suicide, we see things on social media how the person who had just ended their life by suicide was seen just the night before laughing at a party, seeming to be having a wonderful time.  There was a time in my life where if I wasn't doing something, I didn't feel productive or I felt something was wrong. Nowadays, some days are what I call a pajama day. I do nothing and I even stay in my PJs all day. I now watch the sunrise and the sunset. I often wonder how many more sunrises and sunsets I have left in my lifetime and how many of them will I miss? How many of those have I missed because I was too busy doing other things? So, sunrises and sunsets happen whether or not we pay attention to them. Watching them is a great way to slow down literally and metaphorically. I also remember to dance in the rain.” Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Iana J. Daniels.

  8. Aug 2

    #1 Life is a Journey with Iana J. Daniels

    Iana J. Daniels: “If you told me as a teenager sitting in Guyana, South America that I would be here talking to you on this platform, sharing parts of my journey, I would have said you're on some very good stuff.  There's a quote, I read one time, it said, 'Life is like a roller coaster, just hold on tight and enjoy the ride'. It was and I did hold on tight.  I also feel sure about the enjoyment part, even though there was a lot of trauma and shame early on in my life.  And like a roller coaster, it's been intense.  I even ended up in military service, in the US Army. That was one of those things that I did not have planned for me. I wanted nothing to do with military service. I was presented with an opportunity to have my student loans paid off, in addition to being able to have my graduate degree, as many of them as I wanted, subsidized, while at the same time making a living. Those three things for me came down to one word: independence. I gave them 21 years of my life when I only intended to give them the three that they needed. I wouldn't recommend anyone going to college to pay for college the way I did, because you introduce unnecessary suffering into your life.  I got through with a combination of student loans, credit cards, and a partial track scholarship.  Be prudent about any type of student loan.  Credit cards, definitely not as a student. During the first month of a new semester there's nothing but credit card companies at the student union. It’s easy to get into credit card debt, especially when you don’t have a job.”  Have a listen as I interview my special guest, Iana J. Daniels.

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In this podcast you will find that fantasizing about the impossible is totally reasonable, striving for satisfaction is a must, and at the end of the day love and solid relationships are all that matter.

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  • Creator
    Linda Vettrus-Nichols
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    161
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