The Undone

The Undone

When you’re in your 20s, everything feels complicated. Which is where The Undone comes in, a show about navigating the “adult” world without a GPS, friendship, love, sex, personal politics, and... air fryers. Meet Emily and Lucy. They work at Mamamia and they live together in the inner city. They spend their days trying to work out how to turn the oven on, why their dating lives are such garbage fires, and why sometimes their tiny daily struggles seem just as insurmountable as the world’s biggest problems. Every week on The Undone they’ll be sharing dating stories and talking about the biggest issue in their world, because... nothing is simple in your 20s.

  1. 03/02/2022

    Bye B*tches! Farewelling The Undone

    After 67 episodes (14 recorded from home) The Undone is coming to an end. In this final episode, Lucy and Em reminisce on some of their favourite memories, from the funniest to the most important. But don't worry, Lucy and Em aren't going anywhere. You can follow them on Instagram at @emilyvernem and @lucymneville to keep up with what they're up to. Thank you to all our listeners for tuning in every week, submitting dating diary stories and confessions, and being a part of the show. We'll miss you. THE END BITSTo listen to all the episodes mentioned in today's episode click here. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Audio Producer:  Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.au Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    25 min
  2. 02/23/2022

    Pegging, Vaginismus & An Important Announcement

    'Pegging', Thanks to Married At First Sight (MAFS) is currently trending in google searches. But don't worry, we've got you sorted and we're going to save you that google search. So what is pegging and how do you start the conversation with a sexual partner around it?  Also, Em gets vulnerable with us and shares more on her vaginismus PLUS a Dating Diary of her very own. Was Em 'love bombed?'.  THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson & Rose Kerr Audio Producer: Leah Porges Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.au Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    25 min
  3. 02/16/2022

    A Guide To Sex On Your Period

    When you're on your period, is sex off the table for you? Or are you extra horny? There should be no stigma around period sex, but it can be daunting. So, Lucy has put together a bunch of tips to make that time of the month extra pleasurable, as well as clear up some misconceptions. Also, Em and Lucy answer a listener dilemma from someone who's (smaller) friend called themselves 'fat' and wants them to understand why this hurt. PLUS we read a listener's Dating Diary about a drunken date that ended with a serious dose of the ick. THE END BITS GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Audio Producer: Ian Camilleri Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.au Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    19 min
  4. 02/09/2022

    Ex-Boyfriends & Discriminatory Beauty Salons

    This week we thought Lucy hijacked our confessions form (which you can submit to here). But it turns out the fear of running into your ex is so much more common than we thought.  And, a worthy and necessary tone shift: Em shares a story about famous Australian-Indian actor Pallavi Sharda's recent upsetting experience after being told by a hair removal salon that she had too much hair on her face and that the women working at the salon felt uncomfortable working on her. Em gives us tips on how you can be an ally and help people of colour feel accepted in Australia... The End Bits  Need extra support right now? Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636. Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. If you want to share your dating story email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to podcast@mamamia.com.au  This episode was produced by Emma Gillespie Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    22 min
  5. 02/02/2022

    A Beginners Guide To Dating Apps

    Have you ever used a dating app? While a lot of us have, some people are just getting on them for the first time (or re-downloading them). Emily and guest host Emma Gillespie discuss how to create an authentic profile, the red flags to watch out for and what to expect from the people on them. Also, guest host Emma NEEDS to talk about an article she read recently, written by an intern in New York who was pursued by a very famous man...and whether a relationship with such a huge power imbalance can work. PLUS Emily recounts a dating experience where she was love-bombed to the extreme, and unfortunately Emma can relate. THE END BITS Read The Movie Star and Me by Domenica Feraud. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Emma Gillespie and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.au Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    28 min
  6. 01/26/2022

    Can I Date My Bestie's Brother?

    Emily has brought her own Dating Dilemma to this episode of The Undone, after she matched with a friend's brother on a dating app. She wants to know, is it ever ok to date your bestie's brother, or is it asking for trouble? Also, these days it's pretty standard procedure to split the bill after the first date. But considering that the wage gap in Australia still exists, and the cost that goes into going on a date if you're a woman- is that actually fair? Plus we read a Dating Diary from someone who was asked out by a man with a very strange request... Don't worry, we found out exactly why! THE END BITS Click here to write to your local MP about the Uluru Statement from the Heart. GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.au Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    25 min
  7. 01/19/2022

    How To Fight With Your Friends

    You've probably heard of your Love Language, but what about your Argument Style? According to this article, knowing how you argue could be the key to a happy relationship. Em and Luce break down the six styles PLUS how to have a healthy fight with the people in your life that you care about. Also, according to TikTok, "Twee" is back (if you don't know what that is, think Peter Pan collars, bangs and moustaches on everything), but is there a dark side to this returning trend? Plus, we read a dating diary story from a listener whose date ended with the most common bodily fluid we get told about on The Undone (and it's not the one you think). THE END BITS If you or someone you know is struggling with disordered eating, please visit The Butterfly Foundation or call 1800 33 4673 RECOMMENDATIONS:  Watch Cheer Season 2 on Netflix GET IN TOUCH: Feedback? We’re listening! Call the pod phone on 02 8999 9386 or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  Click here to sign up to Em's newsletter The Lonely Girls Guide. CREDITS: Host: Lucy Neville and Emily Vernem Producer: Emmeline Peterson Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Just by by reading our articles or listening to our podcasts, you’re helping to fund girls in schools in some of the most disadvantaged countries in the world - through our partnership with Room to Read. We’re currently funding 300 girls in school every day and our aim is to get to 1,000. Find out more at mamamia.com.au Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    22 min

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When you’re in your 20s, everything feels complicated. Which is where The Undone comes in, a show about navigating the “adult” world without a GPS, friendship, love, sex, personal politics, and... air fryers. Meet Emily and Lucy. They work at Mamamia and they live together in the inner city. They spend their days trying to work out how to turn the oven on, why their dating lives are such garbage fires, and why sometimes their tiny daily struggles seem just as insurmountable as the world’s biggest problems. Every week on The Undone they’ll be sharing dating stories and talking about the biggest issue in their world, because... nothing is simple in your 20s.

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