feel the mess

Phoebe Allen
  • 5.0 (13)
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Bridging the gap between what we see and what we feel. Follow the life of Phoebe where she shares all real life experiences and the lessons learned along the way, including but certainly not limited to her love life, her career, and the relationships in between. Life beyond a filter, just the real person. Follow phoebe: @phoebsallen

Episodes

  1. 05/05/2021

    12 stop worrying and ask for what you want

    Phoebe, in a big way, asks for what she wants... and listen to the whole story to see if she got her answer.  Asking for what you want is hard enough without the added pressure of worrying about what the other person is going to say, and to that she says, who cares.  Ask for what you want and deeply believe you deserve it, because you do.  Phoebe also shares her story on meeting ski boys 'best friend,' and it is one you will not want to miss.

    39 min

  2. 04/07/2021

    11 where it all started: boyfriend #1

    I give you BOYFRIEND NUMBER 1.  We would not be where we are today without the firsts... and my firsts started with boyfriend #1.  I am grateful to say that after 10 years we are still friends and I would not want my first guest to be anyone else than boyfriend #1.  From dating in high school we make our way here today to almost grown adults.  Boyfriend #1 let me ask him the hard hitting questions like the perspective of a breakup from the male side, why men ghost, when is it ok to have sex while dating someone new, and most importantly what are the messy parts of life you learned the most from?  I guarantee you enjoy this conversation.

    51 min
  3. 10 the EX, the gaslighting, the recovery

    03/31/2021

    10 the EX, the gaslighting, the recovery

    without further ado... I give you: the details behind the ex.  Are you going through a breakup?  Are you having a hard time moving on?  This is 1000% for you.  Phoebe shares all the ins and outs of what went down in her last relationship.  You will learn the good, the yummy, the bad, the worse, the gaslighting and so on.  No one can teach you to be in a relationship, and no one can put themselves in your shoes.  I deeply believe that you have to live through moments to learn what you want and need out of a relationship.  My letter to the ex would say: thank you to everything you taught me, I genuinely wish you the best, thank you for helping me realize what I deserve.

    40 min

  4. 03/24/2021

    09 feel the butterflies

    we are FEELING the feels and deep in the butterflies.  We are, as one would say, HOOKED.  Listen to what Phoebe's dating life has been up to and why she hysterically cried holding a toothbrush. All good things though and we are working on our patience and how to let life come to us

    23 min

  5. 03/10/2021

    08 found myself in a hopeless place

    WELL it has been one full year of the good old Q aka quarantine and Phoebe shares what she gained this past year and what she will hold on to from relationship knowledge to a full blown obsession with sweatpants.  DM her @phoebsallen to share what you gained.  And we ended with some nice messy questions like what to do when the magic fades from a relationship?

    19 min

  6. 03/02/2021

    07 I want someone to send memes to

    Two topics discussed:  1. Phoebe shares the best life advice she ever gave (and uses every day) and 2. she dives into how you should get comfortable being uncomfortable dating.  And really how to move on from your ex that you still talk to every day and when it is time to wipe the slate clean.

    28 min

  7. 02/24/2021

    06 feelings... meet anxiety

    Phoebe answers all your cliffhanging questions on if Peter Pow finally made a move to kiss her... and then she dives in to two important subjects.  1. How she became so open and vulnerable and that it is STILL hard sometimes.  And 2. how she deals with anxiety.  Hot hot hot topic of the past year and we all have anxiety so lets be open about It. sing it LOUD playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4wE06PsEptwT6pdygNEgf1?si=D3yQruRhQS2mvO47Zb-7WQ

    28 min

  8. 02/17/2021

    05 be like Goldilocks and find your perfect porridge

    and by porridge I mean significant other... Phoebe deep dives into all things dating.  How to be vulnerable, how to be yourself, how to listen to your butterflies, and why ghosting suckkkkks.  You'll of course hear some updates on Peter Pow and a public apology to Flower Boy.

    23 min

  9. 02/12/2021

    04 find what you love and run with it

    Anyone else peak in high school, gain 15 pounds in college, and then graduate and think WTF IS LIFE?!  Cool yeah, me too... Phoebe talks you through all of her career life experiences (thus far) and shares her insight on how to keep growing when life shuts the door on you.  Starting with part time jobs and growing into her full on passion job now and all the in between.

    30 min

  10. 02/03/2021

    03 you look like a problem

    Phoebe shares what each relationship has taught her, the good and the bad... She shares her dream person and how she is manifesting the f**k out of him as we speak.  And as promised, all the dating one liners that have made her LOL and some tips on what she does and does not reply to.

    29 min

  11. 01/29/2021

    02 am I being courted?

    Doing a deep dive into flower boy and sharing a date story straight out of a rom com.  Learning that you don't have to enjoy being alone, you just have to love yourself.  And talking about how I learned to truly put myself first.

    31 min

  12. 01/20/2021

    01 follow the red flags... oh and you are a damn pot of gold

    Do you like drama? Well, you are in for a treat this first episode.  Feel the Mess is about feeling and sharing the hard things in life and not just the perfect moments, and what is truly one of the messiest part of life?  Yup... Dating.  I share an outrageous story that I guarantee you will not want to put your phone down and it all starts with sliding into the DM's.  But don't worry I do happen to learn from these experiences and I share with you my process, lessons learned, and my thoughts on ending out 2020 with a bang.  Oh and a brand new life mantra that I hope you make your own.

    28 min
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Bridging the gap between what we see and what we feel. Follow the life of Phoebe where she shares all real life experiences and the lessons learned along the way, including but certainly not limited to her love life, her career, and the relationships in between. Life beyond a filter, just the real person. Follow phoebe: @phoebsallen

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  • Creator
    Phoebe Allen
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Phoebe Allen