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Andie and Duckie
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Dive into dating, sex, and relationships with two newly-single Gen X pals Duckie and Andie (pseudonyms borrowed from the classic 80s movie Pretty In Pink) as they dish the dirt and delights of dating and how it’s radically transformed since the 80s and 90s. These graduates from the school of life tackle topics like pandemic booty-calls, threesomes, gender fluidity, sex positivity, polyamory, and kink culture while offering honest, unsolicited advice on everything to do with life and love in these modern times.

  1. 12/08/2021

    Love Languages

    Do you know your Love Language? Do you have to match with people who speak your love language? What do you do when the person you’re into has a different love language than you? Andie and Duckie speak different love languages and together share their best tips for loving and communicating with partners.  Show links  The original book about the 5 Love Language https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X Understanding the 5 languages (in case you don’t want to do the book) https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-5-love-languages-explained How to deal if you and your partner don’t speak the same language https://www.bustle.com/articles/161169-how-to-cope-when-you-your-partner-have-different-love-languages Share your thoughts, questions, feedback, and dating frustrations: genexpod@gmail.com Follow GenEx Podcast: www.twitter.com/GenerationExPod www.instagram.com/GenExPod

    40 min

  2. 11/23/2021 · BONUS

    QUICKIE: FWB

    What if you catch the feels for your Friend With Benefits (FWB) and want to turn them into a "real" relationship? Also: Andie thinks there's really no such thing as a FWB.

    10 min

  3. 11/16/2021

    Just One Dick Forever?!?

    After a long-term relationship ends, some of us fear commitment. Divorce forever shatters the illusion of “til death do us part” so is fear of commitment simply a more realistic perspective on love and relationships or are we just wounded and suffering from commitment phobia? Is it possible to be in a committed relationship and still maintain autonomy and freedom? What even qualifies as is long-term, post-divorce? Andie and Duckie tackle their own commitment issues and explore the fact that post-divorce they’ve both gravitated towards relationship structures that are not strictly monogamous. Has this helped? Can ethically non-monogamous or monogamish relationships be considered commitments? Show Links WebMD’s definition of Commitment Phobia in case you think you have a real phobia! https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/commitment-phobia-symptoms-signs Alternatives to Monogamy in case the idea of only being with one person freaks you out but you still find yourself wanting to develop beyond casually dating someone. https://sexualbeing.org/blog/8-relationship-alternatives-to-monogamy/ The quote Andie shared: “The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person–without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.” – Osho (This guy was the founder of the Rajneesh Movement and was a problematic mystic with a lot of radical ideas BUT his thoughts about love are pretty cool. https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/1432084-being-in-love-how-to-love-with-awareness-and-relate-without-fear

    36 min

  4. 11/03/2021 · BONUS

    QUICKIE: Cuffing Season

    What is Cuffing Season and why does it suck? Who do you bring to your office holiday party, especially if you're newly dating or poly? Andie and Duckie have thoughts.

    9 min

  5. 11/03/2021

    Kinky Lovers

    Does your sex life and fantasies fall outside the normative ideas of vanilla sex? Where do you fall on the kink spectrum? Andie and Duckie spill the tea about kink compatibility and their own experiments in kinkville — from choking, to BDSM, to cuckolding, fetishes, water sports, age play, and more. The good news is that getting kinky the bedroom can have multiple benefits for your sex life, your relationships, and even your mental health outside the bedroom. If you haven’t had the opportunity to fully explore your kinks yet, there’s not better time to incorporate kinks into your dating life. Show Links: 1 in 5 of Your Friends Is Getting Kinky — Should You Be Too? - Healthline A to Z Kinks and Fetishes - The Bad Girls Bible Kink Test - a quiz that helps you map out your own kinky side 7 Best Kink Dating Apps - Dating XP Lorals oral for women without the skin-to-skin contact Skyn Condoms - Andie + Duckie’s fav, but feel free to send samples of other condoms to change our minds ;-)

    52 min

  6. 09/28/2021

    Texting and Sexting

    Do you give good text? Even if you hate texting, it’s a required skill to navigate today’s dating world because if you don’t have a good texting game, most matches will fizzle out. Andie and Duckie share their best tactics for flirting and building connections so you can get off your phone and go on actual dates! From decent opening lines to practicing your flirty to dirty sexting so you can take the conversation into salacious territory and keep the banter going between dates without seeming overeager. Show Links: Slutbot is free tool that lets you practice talking dirty over text with a chatbot. Can you fall in love with someone via text? - Venngage Understanding the dynamics of texting in relationships - Very Well Mind Tinder’s Hot Takes - for a blind texting experience that lets you text before you match

    1h 10m

  7. 08/14/2021

    Super Swipeable

    Some people seem to be flooded with matches while other people get zilch. Are you one of those people who’s not getting enough attention? Andie and Duckie help you tune your dating profile like a pro! Get tips to make you super swipeable so that you are a hard YES for anyone lucky enough to see you in their feed. Which photos should you use in your dating profile? What should you write about yourself (and what to leave out) so that your dating profile catches the attention you want. Also: we review the dating app Open. Show notes and links Photo Dos and Don'ts Use your most attractive pics (Duh, but so many people miss this!) Primary photo has to be well-considered No group shots Don’t put hot people in your photos No silly filters (Bumble just added these, ugh!) You can only look goofy if you’re really hot Show your personality with active life shots (bathroom selfies = 💩) Include at least 1 full-body shot, flattering angle/light/clothes Smile, even a little (some people look angry and grim)  Show off your best feature (thirst trap) Text Dos and Don'ts Don’t lead with a list of don'ts (like we just did in this list! Listing your turn-offs is a turn-off). Lead with what you’re looking for instead Remember the 3 Ps - Positive, Punctuated, Personal  Don’t waste space saying things like “No Scammers” Duh! No cliches (partner-in-crime 🤮) It’s okay to be a grandma but that shouldn’t be your headline!  Saying “No Drama” = I AM DRAMA  Don’t emphasize characteristics that aren’t sexy (hard-working) - this isn’t LinkedIn! This week’s product review : Open Dating App Helpful links: 6 Tips For Writing The Perfect Online Dating Profile - Huffpost Instant Dealbreakers in Men's Dating Profiles  - Buzzfeed 7 Tips For Making Your Dating Profile Stand Out - AARP (cause you’re gonna need to be more eloquent when you’re working against gravity, hair loss, and all the other shit.)

    1h 8m

  8. 07/21/2021

    Intuition vs Anxiety

    How can you know if you're making good dating decisions? When should you trust your gut and when should you ignore it? After ending a long relationship you might wonder, should I still trust my instincts or are my feelings leading me astray? Anxiety and intuition often feel similar but they’re not the same. Andie and Duckie introduce their inner voices and decide which ones are worth actually listening to. Show note links: Anxiety or Intuition Quiz Confirmation Bias the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories. Rising Strong by Brene Browne - about bouncing back after bad stuff. “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie about investigating our thoughts and endin cycles of negative narration about the world around us. 20 Best Podcasts About Sex Positivity Thanks for including GenEx Podcast in your list Pretty Progresssive! Sexy Exes, tell us if you think we deserve to be on this list by subscribing to GenEx podcast :-D

    1h 3m
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Dive into dating, sex, and relationships with two newly-single Gen X pals Duckie and Andie (pseudonyms borrowed from the classic 80s movie Pretty In Pink) as they dish the dirt and delights of dating and how it’s radically transformed since the 80s and 90s. These graduates from the school of life tackle topics like pandemic booty-calls, threesomes, gender fluidity, sex positivity, polyamory, and kink culture while offering honest, unsolicited advice on everything to do with life and love in these modern times.

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  • Creator
    Andie and Duckie
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    20
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