Being the Best Version of Yourself

Dr. Carey Heller
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Wish you could be happier? More productive? Relax better? Dr. Carey Heller's podcast focuses on tackling a variety of issues including organization, procrastination, ADHD, executive function limitations, and anxiety to help you be the best version of yourself that you can be.

  1. Anxious & ADHD Couples: Beyond the Battle Over Loading the Dishwasher

    May 13

    Anxious & ADHD Couples: Beyond the Battle Over Loading the Dishwasher

    Why the "Dishwasher Battle" is Actually About Anxiety and ADHD In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Elana Hoffman to dissect a phenomenon every neurodiverse couple knows too well: the explosive argument over a simple chore. Whether it's a stack of plates or an overflowing laundry basket, Dr. Hoffman explains that these "surface arguments" are rarely about the mess. Instead, they are a clash of two different nervous systems trying to find safety. For the anxious partner, order equals security. For the ADHD partner, executive dysfunction can make that order feel impossible to maintain—leading to a cycle of resentment and shame. Inside this conversation: The Neurodiverse Disconnect: Why the anxious partner interprets ADHD "forgetfulness" as a lack of love or respect. The Pursuit of Safety: How a messy environment triggers a "fight or flight" response in anxious brains. The Partnership Test: Moving away from the "parent-child" dynamic and back toward being true life partners. Dr. Hoffman’s Core Question: Are you feeling loved, connected, and intimate—or are you just managing a roommate? ------------------------------- Dr. Elana Hoffman is a licensed Clinical Psychologist whose work sits at the intersection of neurodivergence and relationships — helping ADHD and neurodivergent adults understand how their wiring shapes the way they love, communicate, and connect. She's the founder of a national telehealth practice licensed across 40+ states through Psypact, where she works with clients navigating everything from partnership dynamics to major life transitions, with a particular focus on divorce. Elana is also the host of Talk Relationship to Me, a podcast exploring the psychology behind how we relate — and the author of So, Your Wife Left You… Now What? She's passionate about helping neurodivergent people stop pathologizing themselves and start building relationships that actually work for their brains. Website: https://www.drelanahoffman.com/ Instagram: @dr.elanahoffman ----------------------------------------------- HOST Dr. Carey Heller is a licensed psychologist and founding partner of Heller Psychology Group based in Bethesda, Maryland. He specializes in the evaluation and treatment of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), executive function issues, learning disabilities, and related items including anxiety. Dr. Heller serves on the National CHADD board as the chair of the EAB and as the chapter coordinator for the Montgomery County, Maryland CHADD chapter.

    25 min
  2. ADHD Success Strategies: Regulating Your Nervous System & Boosting Productivity

    Apr 30

    ADHD Success Strategies: Regulating Your Nervous System & Boosting Productivity

    High performance with ADHD isn't about working harder—it’s about working with your brain. Performance coach Chloe joins Dr. Carey Heller to share her ultimate toolkit for ADHD management. Whether you’re dealing with time blindness, procrastination, or sensory overwhelm, this episode provides actionable advice you can start using today. Learn why a regulated nervous system is the key to accessing flow states and how simple lifestyle changes—like evening wind-down routines and high-protein meals—can stabilize your mood and focus. Key Highlights: The 2-Minute Rule: How to get through daunting tasks when you’re frozen. Biohacking ADHD: The role of nutrients. Digital Wellness: Strategies for Inbox Zero and minimizing screen time. Mindset Shifts: Reframing ADHD as a creative gift rather than a deficit. Don’t just manage your symptoms—learn how to thrive. Subscribe for more episodes on becoming the best version of yourself! ------------------------------ Learn more about Chloe Chloe Deutscher is a performance coach specializing in nervous system regulation and ADHD. With a background in chemical engineering and biology, and a decade in biotech and strategy, she blends science with practical tools to help people rewire how they think, feel, and perform.After overcoming severe anxiety, panic attacks, and ADHD-related burnout herself, Chloe developed a framework that’s helped hundreds of clients regain focus, energy, and emotional control.Today, she works with clients worldwide, leads a global audience of over 300,000, and runs her signature program, Neuromagnetic, helping people move beyond coping and retrain their brain and nervous system to access their potential and build deeply fulfilling lives.Follow her on social media @chloegoesinward on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. --------------------- Learn more about Dr. Carey Heller Dr. Heller is a licensed psychologist based in Bethesda, Maryland who specializes in ADHD and executive functioning. He is somewhat unique in his approach, blending traditional therapy with practical ADHD/EF coaching. He works with kids, teens, and adults. Dr. Heller is actively involved in the ADHD community, serving on the CHADD board at the chapter and national level. Learn more: https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/dr-carey-heller/ https://linktr.ee/Hellerpsych https://linktr.ee/ADHD_Assist - Check out Dr. Heller's free and low cost AI planning tools and Notion templates.

    35 min

  3. Apr 22

    The Diamond Standard: Fostering Engagement, Fun, and Success in Youth Sports

    How to Make Youth Sports Fun: Coaching Tips with Kevin McKeown Are youth sports becoming too intense? In this episode of Being the Best Version of Yourself, Dr. Carey Heller (@CareyhellerPsy.D./CoachCarey_ADHD_Sports) sits down with viral youth baseball coach Kevin McKeown (@Coachdadlifefl) to discuss how to bring the joy back to the diamond. Whether you are a volunteer coach or a sports parent, this episode is packed with actionable strategies to improve team spirit, manage player engagement, and teach lifelong lessons through the game. We dive deep into the topics every youth sports family faces: Rec vs. Travel Ball: When is the right time to move to a higher-level team? The "Bench" Problem: Creative ways to keep kids focused in the outfield and on the bench. Effective Communication: How coaches can better manage parent expectations and boundaries. Coach Self-Care: Avoiding burnout as a volunteer coach. ADHD in Sports: Balancing fundamentals with high-energy engagement. Whether you're looking for better practice plans or ways to build resilience in young athletes, Coach Kevin’s real-world experience paired with Dr. Heller's professional expertise offers a roadmap for a successful season. Instagram: Follow Kevin at @Coachdadlifefl for coaching tips. Resources: Check out Kevin’s downloadable practice plans for youth baseball. Dr. Heller is a licensed psychologist based in Bethesda, Maryland (serving 40+ states virtually) specializing in ADHD and executive functioning. As a multisport coach himself, he helps kids and teens thrive on and off the field. Follow Dr. Heller: @CoachCarey_ADHD_Sports/@CareyhellerPsy.D | Website Masterclass: Game On with Coach Carey – A Psychologist's playbook for coaching kids with ADHD. Limited Time Sale: Use code DA6ZZWQ to get the course for only $16.00!

    46 min

  4. Mar 5

    Mastering Family Schedules with Simplicity

    In this episode, Dr. Carey Heller is joined by special guest Lauren Eckert from Life Solved Coaching. She shares practical strategies for parents to organize their lives and manage their children's activities effectively. Topics include simplifying systems, family meetings, shared calendars, and leveraging technology to reduce mental load. key topics Managing parental overwhelmEffective family communication and planningUsing technology to organize family activities Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Guest Background 01:34 Parents' Overwhelm and Mental Load 04:37 Importance of Simplifying Systems 09:06 Minimizing Decision Fatigue 14:42 Weekly Family Meetings 17:50 Using Shared Calendars and Tech Tools 20:57 Involving Kids in Organization 26:54 Prioritizing Self-Management for Parents 33:14 Building Family Autonomy and Routine 34:17 Resources and Final Tips keywords: parenting, organization, family management, time management, family calendar, mental load, executive function, parenting tips, family routines, technology in parenting ------ Lauren Eckert https://www.lifesolvedcoaching.com/ https://www.instagram.com/life.solved Carey Heller https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/ https://www.instagram.com/Carey_heller_Psy.D.

    34 min

  5. Jan 21

    The Parent-Teacher Partnership: Navigating ADHD in the Classroom Together

    In this episode, Dr. Carey Heller and Dr. David Palmiter discuss strategies for parents to effectively navigate the challenges of raising children with ADHD, particularly in school settings. They emphasize the importance of collaboration between parents and teachers, focusing on the strengths of the child, and the need for open communication. The conversation also highlights the significance of early intervention and the role of mental health professionals in supporting children’s development. Practical tips for parents are shared, along with insights into the power dynamics in educational settings and the necessity of recognizing hidden struggles in children. If you like this podcast, please like it, follow us, and share it with a friend who would benefit. --------- More about Dr. David Palmiter Website: www.helpingfamilies.com Blog: www.hecticparents.com YouTube: www.kidsandcouples.com X: @DrPalmiter ---- More about Dr. Carey Heller  **Website:https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/  **YouTube: @Hellerpsychology   **Instagram: Hellerpsych/Carey_heller_Psy.d ** Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HellerPsychology  ** Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/HellerPsychology  Articles: https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/heller-psychology-resources/dr-hellers-published-articles/ Courses, digital downloads, books: https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/heller-psychology-resources/heller-time-management-planning-tools/

    29 min

  6. Jan 12

    Raising Humans, Not Resumes: A Parent’s Guide to Managing Geographic Pressures for Success

    In this episode of the Being the Best Version of Yourself podcast, host Dr. Carey Heller is joined by psychotherapist Ethan Ulanow to discuss the pressures faced by children and teens in the D.C. area as well as those by their parents. They emphasize the importance of validation and acknowledgment of these pressures to the extent the child experiences them, the balance between extracurricular activities and academic demands, and the need for open communication between parents and children to understand individual needs and interests. ------ Connect with Carey Heller, Psy.D. https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/ Connect with Ethan Ulanow, LCSW-C https://www.ethanulanow.com/

    28 min

  7. 12/15/2025

    Application FINALE & Future Prep: Your College Senior Roadmap

    In this episode, Dr. Carey Heller is joined by special guest Matt Douglas. Matt is a college consultant and teen mentor as well as the author of Unlocking College Admissions: Your Step-By-Step Workbook For Finding The Right College And Getting In⁠. The two discuss what to expect and do at this point in the college process and tips for navigating the rest of senior year. As part of this, the focus turns to executive function skills and how to help teens/young adults build these up using senior year as a trial run of college to help ease the transition. You likely focus a lot on helping your child get into college. Now, you also need to help them to be able to be successful once they are there. There's a lot you can do in the next several months to help them prepare. --------- Matt Douglas is a former teacher and school administrator turned college consultant, teen and young-adult mentor, and the author of Unlocking College Admissions: Your Step-By-Step Workbook For Finding The Right College And Getting In. You can learn more about his services and background at unlockingcollegeadmissions.com, www.lifecoachingsd.com or via @unlocking.college on social media. Dr. Carey Heller is a licensed psychologist specializing in ADHD and executive function issues. He provides psychotherapy, ADHD/executive function coaching (often together with therapy), and evaluations for ADHD & learning disabilities. Dr. Heller also runs an executive functioning boot camp, which is a two hour 1:1 intensive individualized session to help people jump start or fine tune EF skills and systems. https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/adhd-executive-functioning/ 📌 Stay Connected ** Tap the link in bio for more resources!   **Website:https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/  **YouTube: @Hellerpsychology   **Instagram: Hellerpsych ** Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HellerPsychology  ** Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/HellerPsychology  Articles: https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/heller-psychology-resources/dr-hellers-published-articles/ Courses, digital downloads, books: https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/heller-psychology-resources/heller-time-management-planning-tools/ Disclaimer: This video is intended for educational purposes only, is not therapy, and should not replace guidance from professionals with whom you work.

    38 min

  8. 12/11/2025

    Stop Starting Over: Master Your Executive Functioning for Sustainable Weight Loss & Habit Success

    Join Dr. Heller and special guest Megan Gaul, a certified weight loss coach who successfully lost and maintained a 100-pound weight loss since 2018.In this insightful episode, Megan shares her personal journey and expert advice on how to sustain weight loss by focusing on your relationship with food and overcoming common challenges like time management, organization, and executive dysfunction.🔑 Key Takeaways:The Power of Acknowledgment: The crucial first step to making lasting changes is acknowledging that an issue exists and prioritizing your health.Long-Term Sustainability: Why temporary, high-effort diets (like cutting out carbs completely) often lead to weight regain, and how to create sustainable routines.Overcoming Resistance to Routine: Strategies for people who feel overwhelmed or resistant to adding new tasks to their busy schedules. Megan emphasizes focusing on one small, easy change at a time to build momentum.Movement Snacks: Creative ways to incorporate physical activity throughout a busy workday, including desk ellipticals, walking pads, and "movement snacks" to increase your total daily energy expenditure without needing a dedicated, intense hour-long workout.The Importance of Tracking: How food journaling, whether through an app or a physical journal, helps maintain mindfulness and accountability for your eating habits.Simplifying Your Schedule: Tips on identifying and eliminating "superfluous" tasks—especially for those with people-pleasing tendencies—to free up mental and physical energy for your health goals.If you struggle with maintaining weight loss or finding the time to prioritize your well-being, this episode provides practical, sustainable strategies you can implement today!Subscribe to  @HellerPsychology  for more videos.------------------------------Connect with Megan:Bio: Megan Gaul is an educator-turned-coach from Staten Island, New York. She embarked on her own 100-lb weight-loss journey in 2018. Maintaining that weight-loss was the experience she needed to articulate the 4-pillar philosophy of Partake 1-1 Tailored Weight Loss Coaching: "Start small to make it stick. Keep food neutral at all costs. Practice your missing skills. Downshift your habits when needed." Since 2021, she's coached high-achieving women who struggle with self trust to achieve lasting weight-loss that actually feels peaceful.Coaching Diagnostic Call: lnk.bio/partake_foodie Instagram: instagram.com/partake_foodie Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/partake.foodie/reels/ Mailing list: partakemealplanning.com/jointheclub-------Connect with Dr. Carey HellerDr. Heller is a licensed psychologist based in Bethesda, Maryland. He specializes in ADHD and executive function issues helping kids, teens, and adults to be better organized, improve time management, be less stressed, and thrive in life. 📌 Stay Connected **Website:https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/ **YouTube: @Hellerpsychology **Instagram: Hellerpsych & Carey_Heller_Psy.d** Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HellerPsychology ** Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/HellerPsychology Articles: https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/heller-psychology-resources/dr-hellers-published-articles/Courses, digital downloads, books: https://hellerpsychologygroup.com/heller-psychology-resources/heller-time-management-planning-tools/ Disclaimer: This video is intended for educational purposes only, is not therapy, and should not replace guidance from professionals with whom you work. #ExecutiveFunctioning #SustainableWeightLoss #HealthyHabits #ADHDandWeightLoss #HabitBuilding #MentalHealthMatters #WeightLossJourney #TimeManagementTips #ProductivityHacks #OvercomingProcrastination #WeightLossMotivation #NonScaleVictories #BodyPositivity #MindfulEating #MovementSnacks #RoutineBuilding #GoalSetting #HealthCoaching #SelfCareStrategies #PrioritizeYourself

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Wish you could be happier? More productive? Relax better? Dr. Carey Heller's podcast focuses on tackling a variety of issues including organization, procrastination, ADHD, executive function limitations, and anxiety to help you be the best version of yourself that you can be.

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