Soft Weird

Paul Cram
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Soft Weird is a cozy campfire for the strange-hearted. Hosted by actor and artist Paul Cram, this podcast lives in the in-between—where queerness, grief, scent, creativity, identity, and vulnerability overlap with a hint of the uncanny. If you’ve ever felt both tender and haunted, this show is for you. Each episode offers intimate storytelling, offbeat reflections, and conversations that lean into the soft places most people rush past. You’ll hear about navigating masculinity, finding beauty in odd corners, and carrying the weird things that make us who we are. Unlike other podcasts that stay polished or distant, Soft Weird thrives on being raw, atmospheric, and deeply human. It’s less about answers and more about companionship in the questions. Many episodes feel like whispered secrets around a fire, where honesty can glow in the dark. Listeners come away with a sense of connection, comfort, and recognition. Pull up a seat. The fire’s warm, night’s long, and the stories are waiting.

  1. The Hierarchy Games | Who Decides Who’s “Out of Your League”? | 🍬 Soul Snack

    May 22

    The Hierarchy Games | Who Decides Who’s “Out of Your League”? | 🍬 Soul Snack

    May The Odds Be Ever In Your Favor In this episode, I’m talking about “leagues.”You know that invisible ranking system so many of us quietly absorb about who’s desirable, who’s “out of our league,” who’s winning, who’s chosen, and where we supposedly fall inside all of it. The conversation started after a friend reacted to … Read more "The Hierarchy Games | Who Decides Who’s “Out of Your League”? | 🍬 Soul Snack"

    16 min
  2. Making Room at the Table | A Message to Christian Families with Queer Loved Ones | 🍬 Soul Snack

    May 14

    Making Room at the Table | A Message to Christian Families with Queer Loved Ones | 🍬 Soul Snack

    Not a theology debate. Just an honest conversation about love, family, and making room at the table. A conversation for Christian families with queer loved ones. This episode explores the difference between being invited… and truly belonging. We talk about: Not a theology debate.Just an honest conversation about love, family, and making room at the … Read more "Making Room at the Table | A Message to Christian Families with Queer Loved Ones"

    12 min
  3. What a Buck-Naked Rugby Player Taught Me About Anxiety and Self-Regard | 🍬 Soul Snack

    May 10

    What a Buck-Naked Rugby Player Taught Me About Anxiety and Self-Regard | 🍬 Soul Snack

    A Hookup, a Rugby Player, and the Shame Script I’m Unlearning In this episode of Soft Weird, I talk about a night out at the Saloon that turned into something much deeper than a funny one night stand story. What started as chemistry with a very large rugby built man became an unexpected reflection on … Read more "What a Buck-Naked Rugby Player Taught Me About Anxiety and Self-Regard | 🍬 Soul Snack"

    12 min
  4. You Get a Life, Even If They Said It Was Sin | Queer Desire & Religious Shame

    Feb 19

    You Get a Life, Even If They Said It Was Sin | Queer Desire & Religious Shame

    I was raised in a world where wanting — wanting to be seen, touched and desired — was suspicious. I layered Lovely by Sarah Jessica Parker, Egyptian Musk by Nemat and Hypnotic Poison by Christian Dior — and realized something much bigger than fragrance. If you were a woman, you were “too much.”If you were … Read more "You Get a Life, Even If They Said It Was Sin | Queer Desire & Religious Shame"

    13 min
  5. You Don’t Have to Earn Peace This Holiday Season | 🍬 Soul Snack

    12/23/2025

    You Don’t Have to Earn Peace This Holiday Season | 🍬 Soul Snack

    The holidays can bring joy and grief at the same time—and for many of us, especially queer folks, family gatherings can stir up old wounds, complicated emotions, and a deep need for self-trust. [00:00–01:29] When the Holidays Feel Loud [01:29–02:29] You’re Allowed to Be Where You Are [02:29–04:39] What We Owe Each Other: The Pebs … Read more "You Don’t Have to Earn Peace This Holiday Season | 🍬 Soul Snack"

    16 min
  6. Quick Tip on Staying Centered in Holiday Chaos | 🍬 Soul Snack

    11/26/2025

    Quick Tip on Staying Centered in Holiday Chaos | 🍬 Soul Snack

    A lesson I learned from playing dodgeball with an incredible sapphic team. Ever feel like the world is spinning out of control? 🌀 In this episode, I share a lesson I learned from a queer dodgeball team — yes, dodgeball — about staying calm, moving with intention, and keeping your center even when everything around … Read more "Quick Tip on Staying Centered in Holiday Chaos | 🍬 Soul Snack"

    7 min
  7. That Damned Thing | 🌙 Storytime

    11/14/2025

    That Damned Thing | 🌙 Storytime

    A haunting tale that watches you back… and maybe wants more than you think. Step into the shadows with me as I narrate “That Damned Thing” by Ambrose Bierce — a razor-sharp, unsettling classic that’s been making readers squint into the dark since the 1890s. This story is: 👁️ Sinister and suspenseful ✍️ Wickedly clever … Read more "That Damned Thing — A Sinister, Spooky, and Possibly Queer Coded Narration | 🌙 Storytime"

    27 min
  8. The Empathy Exams Afterparty | 📚 Book Talk

    09/18/2025

    The Empathy Exams Afterparty | 📚 Book Talk

    Some essays slapped, some I skimmed—let’s unpack the highs, lows, and why it still sparked big questions. Good, Not Great (But Worth Talking About) Leslie Jamison’s The Empathy Exams is one of those essay collections that gets talked about a lot. But here’s the thing: for me, it was good—not great. Some chapters gripped me hard (the opening … Read more "The Empathy Exams Afterparty | 📚 Book Talk"

    5 min
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About

Soft Weird is a cozy campfire for the strange-hearted. Hosted by actor and artist Paul Cram, this podcast lives in the in-between—where queerness, grief, scent, creativity, identity, and vulnerability overlap with a hint of the uncanny. If you’ve ever felt both tender and haunted, this show is for you. Each episode offers intimate storytelling, offbeat reflections, and conversations that lean into the soft places most people rush past. You’ll hear about navigating masculinity, finding beauty in odd corners, and carrying the weird things that make us who we are. Unlike other podcasts that stay polished or distant, Soft Weird thrives on being raw, atmospheric, and deeply human. It’s less about answers and more about companionship in the questions. Many episodes feel like whispered secrets around a fire, where honesty can glow in the dark. Listeners come away with a sense of connection, comfort, and recognition. Pull up a seat. The fire’s warm, night’s long, and the stories are waiting.

Information

  • Creator
    Paul Cram
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    44
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Paul Cram
  • Show Website
    Soft Weird