Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating

Tamara Schoon
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Are you perpetually single? Do you want longer-lasting relationships? Tired of the miscommunication and misunderstandings? Wish you were better in bed? Advice from experts as well as real talk from real people so that you can see you are not alone in your thoughts and experiences. I talk about sex in my stand-up comedy and people often tell me that I say what they are thinking but are too afraid to say or admit it to their partners; too taboo they think. We'll talk about books we've read on dating, relationships and sex so that you can gain knowledge without having to read all the books yourself. I'll interview people on both sides of an issue: people who are great at dating and unsuccessful at dating...learn from the person who's great and also learn what not to do! We'll do the same with sex and relationships so that you can learn what works so you don't need to repeat others' past mistakes. I'll interview sex coaches and love coaches. We intend this to be a how-to guide. Hit follow and join us!  Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  1. 2d ago

    Relational Skills That Turn Conflict Into Connection #153

    You can read every relationship book on your shelf and still get blindsided the moment someone you love moves closer, moves in, or simply hits the exact nerve you thought you already healed. That’s why we wanted this candid conversation with Nancy Pickard, author and certified relational life therapy coach trained in Terry Real’s work. We talk about why triggers are not just drama, they are data, and how the “adaptive child” takes over your brain in conflict unless you learn the skills to come back to your wise adult self.  We get practical about what actually derails couples: the five losing strategies and how they show up in everyday fights. We also unpack anxious attachment and avoidant attachment, including how even a secure person can start to feel anxious when their partner is walled off. Nancy explains boundaries in a way you can use immediately, including the difference between a containing boundary (so you don’t dump every thought) and a protective boundary (so you don’t absorb everything that’s thrown at you).  We also go deeper than conflict management. Nancy shares a framework for the five types of intimacy and why expecting one partner to meet every need can quietly create resentment and codependence. You’ll hear concrete communication tools used in relationship coaching and couples therapy. If you’re dating, rebuilding trust, or trying to stop repeating the same patterns, this one will give you language and next steps. Subscribe for more conversations like this, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  2. Sep 8

    Boys Are Born Expressive Until We Teach Them Not To Be #152

    We keep telling boys to “toughen up,” then we act shocked when grown men struggle to name what they feel. Psychologist Gloria Vanderhorst, PhD joins us to unpack how that training starts early, especially when energetic preschool boys get treated like problems to manage instead of people to understand. She explains why boys often arrive with a broader natural emotional range than girls, and how social pressure quickly narrows that range to a small set of “approved” emotions like confidence and anger. We dig into what emotional suppression costs across a lifetime. Gloria shares a vivid story from her clinical work where a three-year-old describes swallowing his tears until they become “rocks” he throws around the room, a child’s perfect explanation for how unprocessed sadness can transform into rage. We also talk about divorce and co-parenting, why many custody schedules serve adult convenience, and how “nesting” can give children more stability by keeping them in one home. Along the way, we explore practical paths forward: men’s groups and retreats, journaling that includes drawing and movement, and therapy models like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and emotion-focused therapy that help people access early experiences stored beyond words. If you care about mental health for men and boys, emotional intelligence, and building stronger relationships, listen now, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  3. Sep 1

    The Rebound Person Is Not Your Soulmate #151

    The scariest part of leaving a toxic relationship isn’t always the breakup, it’s the moment you realize you’ve been living small for years. I sit down with Joni Woods, a certified life coach and relationship specialist, to talk about what it really takes to walk away from an abusive marriage, rebuild your identity, and stop repeating the same painful patterns. Joni is also the author of Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever, and she shares how journaling through divorce recovery helped her make sense of the past and choose a healthier future. We get honest about dating after divorce, especially the modern reality of dating apps, fast attachments, and the rebound relationship that can feel like “finally” until the red flags hit. Joni breaks down why rebounds are so powerful. We also talk about the “doppelganger” effect, when you date someone who feels eerily similar to your ex, and why collaboration can matter more than confidence if you’re trying to build an emotionally healthy connection. One of my favorite parts is the practical side: simple boundaries, upfront honesty, and the courage to say what you need without apologizing for it. Joni also shares a gut-check for fear-based staying. If you want healthier relationships, better communication, and real self-worth after heartbreak, this conversation is for you. Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one, share this with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review to help more people find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  4. Aug 25

    Sacred Sex Without Pressure #150

    Your desire isn’t broken, and you’re not “too much.” I’m joined by Satya Lila, a sacred sexuality teacher with over 30 years of experience helping women, men, singles, and couples rebuild intimacy by working with the body, the heart, and the subtle energy underneath it all. We start with a story many people will recognize: trying to make yourself smaller to keep a relationship stable, then watching your sexual energy disappear. From there, we get concrete. We talk about how shame trains us to go quiet, why sound can amplify pleasure, and how playful practice can help you find your voice again without forcing anything. Satya also shares how her work evolved into energetic sexuality, a slower approach that can include touch but doesn’t depend on performance, penetration, or rushing toward orgasm. We dig into the real reasons orgasms get blocked. Satya explains how polarity can build attraction without sacrificing safety, and she introduces her idea of a connection ceremony, a dedicated space for intimacy that removes the goal-driven vibe that shuts so many bodies down. We also touch on full body orgasms and sustained orgasmic energy, plus how people can work with her online and explore free guided meditations at satyaleela.info. If this conversation helps you feel less alone, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. What’s one belief about sex you’re ready to unlearn? Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  5. Aug 18

    A Dating Platform Built For Marriage #149

    Swiping promised freedom, but a lot of us ended up with the same result: more chats, more dates, and fewer people willing to build something that lasts. That is why we brought on Jeremy Nelson, the founder of MarryingAmerica.com, a new dating platform for marriage-minded singles who are done playing the numbers game and ready to date with real intention. We dig into Jeremy’s “feast and famine” view of modern online dating: a feast of casual options paired with a famine of commitment. Then we get practical. MarryingAmerica.com is web-based by design (no app to live on), and it limits how you behave. From there, the conversation goes deeper: courtship, going slower, and the idea that love is something you do, not something you say. We also explore a surprising (and unsettling) angle: as AI chatbots and AI companions get easier to talk to than real humans, will people start opting out of human relationships entirely? If you want an intentional dating approach that prioritizes long-term relationships and marriage, listen now, share this with a friend who is serious about commitment, and subscribe and leave a review so more people can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  6. Aug 11

    The Four Intimacies Framework with Roy and Dr. Amy Clark #148

    Sex doesn’t usually fail in the bedroom first, it fails in the hours and days before it, when couples stop asking real questions and start running on assumptions. We sit down with Roy and Dr. Amy Clark, co founders of ARIA Luxury Brands and authors of The Four Intimacies, to map a clear path from “we feel disconnected” to “we know how to find each other again.” We talk through their Four Intimacies framework in plain language: verbal intimacy that opens the door, emotional intimacy that creates safety, physical intimacy that deepens trust and pleasure, and spiritual intimacy that often emerges when the first three are working. Along the way, we get practical about communication skills that actually change relationships, like listening to understand, asking follow up questions, avoiding interruptions, and using “feelings before fixing” when someone is hurting instead of rushing into advice. We also dig into what physical security really means, why many couples need connection long before sex starts, and how shame around sex, including shame rooted in religious messaging, can be unwound with curiosity, honesty, and support. If you want actionable relationship advice, marriage communication tools, and a healthier view of intimacy, you’ll leave with a better blueprint and a lot of hope. Subscribe for more conversations like this, share the episode with a friend who’d appreciate it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  7. Aug 4

    Dating Without The Chase #147

    I sit down with relationship therapist Thomas Westenholtz to unpack why anxious daters so often get pulled into avoidant relationships that feel intoxicating at first and miserable later. We map the nervous system patterns behind chasing, criticism, and rumination, then lay out what secure love actually looks like in real dating behavior.  • how the anxious-avoidant cycle forms and why it repeats old wounds  • why criticism shows up as a desperate attempt to get through  • using an internal “compass” across thoughts, emotions, and body signals  • recognising persistent anxiety as a signal of inconsistency and confusion  • early dating signs of secure attachment including clarity and follow-through  • why calm can feel boring when you are used to chaos  • trusting actions over words and avoiding fantasy-driven attachment  If you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  8. Jul 28

    Toy Chats And Smarter Sex Toy Buys #146

    We talk with Cam Jennings from ToyChats about why sex toy shopping still forces people to gamble, and how a dedicated review platform can give consumers real feedback without relying on mainstream social media. We also get practical about safer buying, lube basics, anal play, and what changes as intimacy products go more mainstream.  • why sex toy brands struggle to communicate with consumers on major platforms  • why returns are limited and why warranties matter  • how ToyChats works as a user-generated sex toy review site  • how reviewers get paid for approved written and video reviews  • what makes certain manufacturers stand out on quality and support  • how men’s toys and tech features have evolved over time  • what’s real and what’s hype in sex dolls, robots, and AI  • why buying intimacy items at big-box stores feels different than an adult boutique  • lube safety basics, reputable brands, and why water-based is a smart default  • anal play guidance, prostate targeting, and beginner safety rules  I really hope that everybody engages with us on Toy Chats, even if you're not looking to be a reviewer.  If you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well.  Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

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Are you perpetually single? Do you want longer-lasting relationships? Tired of the miscommunication and misunderstandings? Wish you were better in bed? Advice from experts as well as real talk from real people so that you can see you are not alone in your thoughts and experiences. I talk about sex in my stand-up comedy and people often tell me that I say what they are thinking but are too afraid to say or admit it to their partners; too taboo they think. We'll talk about books we've read on dating, relationships and sex so that you can gain knowledge without having to read all the books yourself. I'll interview people on both sides of an issue: people who are great at dating and unsuccessful at dating...learn from the person who's great and also learn what not to do! We'll do the same with sex and relationships so that you can learn what works so you don't need to repeat others' past mistakes. I'll interview sex coaches and love coaches. We intend this to be a how-to guide. Hit follow and join us!  Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

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