I See What You Mean

Lou Kerestesy

"I See What You Mean" is a weekly podcast about how and why we get on the same page with each other… or don’t… or shouldn't. In my trailer I tell you why I care about such things in the workplace, at home, in communities and in our country. I describe my interview plans plus confess some geekhood you might find interesting. Or curious!   If you ever wonder what to do when you and someone see things so differently there's no agreeing what to do, listen for 2 minutes and subscribe if you think I might have some good ideas. Even if you don't subscribe, I think you'll love the very cool (copyright compliant!) blues song I use.  Best to you and yours, Lou

  1. 08/24/2022

    Mastering Transitions. A Life Skill For The Times.

    I met Justin Jacobs on LinkedIn. We were in an exchange which became testy for some, but not for us. We stayed respectful as we engaged in a sincere exchange about an issue, probing for truth as Justin put it. We followed up by phone and subsequently decided to record an episode. And I've glad we did. Listening to the audio file very closely as I do to edit, I was reminded how blessed I am to have spoken with Justin and so many guests like him. He tells it like he sees it, and by that I don’t mean "others" or "situations." I mean Justin. He's candid about himself and his experiences, including a recent and significant transition from 22 years in the Coast Guard. As he launches a new coaching practice focusing on leadership and people in transition, he's doing what he tells clients to do: Continue discovering, learning and growing to show up as your best self in what you do.  I know you'll have some ahh-ha! moments in this episode. Here are a few of mine: 1:28 - I was out of my depth and posing as a leader in my first formal leadership position. The Coast Guard offered officer leadership training and it as the first time in my life I did any real introspection about who I was. 3:58 - The relationship between getting on the same page with oneself and with others, especially when in a leadership role. 8:00 - Why understanding the 'why' of a plan or a direction matters. 16:22 - Why it's important to know what you're wired for - and not. 24:02 - A definition of being on the same page. 34:48 - The benefit to being on the same page with your team and the different mental models team members have about any situation. 42:09 - Does getting on the same page assume good intent? And what do we do if that's missing? 53:57 - What to do if you can't get on the same page with someone.

    Mastering Transitions. A Life Skill For The Times.
  2. 08/09/2022

    Getting On Some Uncommon Same Pages: Mentoring and Mergers  

    When Cal Shintani and I discussed recording a podcast episode, it was clear to me we'd talk about mentoring. Cal has a long mentoring background and described some ideas about the same page mentors and proteges get on that I wanted to record. Cool.   Then he mentioned his merger and acquisition experience. M&A's are common in the Federal contracting community. What's not common is for a consultant to be involved in several. And what's even less common is for a consultant to connect mergers with mentoring. But Cal had. He'd added mentoring to mergers and learned some valuable lessons about getting two organizational cultures on the same page while connecting individuals to the newly emerging culture. To the merged culture. Very cool!   In this episode, Cal discusses his experience getting people on the same mentoring and merger pages, and what he did when people couldn't get there. Here are a few of my favorite ahh-ha! moments:   3:57 - Building trust and relationships through the mentoring program of a government-industry IT professional association - ACT-IAC 6:58 - A mind-bending exercise - you be me and I'll be you 8:40 - The same page mentors and proteges should get on 11:50 - Resisting the temptation to advise as a mentor, and how it can change the conversation 16:32 - How a same page emerges from a trusted relationship 25:44 - What you see, what you make of what you see, what you would do, to what end 29:44 - What if you can't get on the same page? 37:00 - Mergers and cultural fit. We both say we're entrepreneurial, but are we saying the same thing? 46:11 - Mentoring and mergers

    Getting On Some Uncommon Same Pages: Mentoring and Mergers   
  3. 07/27/2022

    Generations In The Workplace Can Be A Source Of Conflict Or Collaboration. And You Get To Decide.

    Gentelligence - Intelligence produced by inter-generational learning and collaboration.   This week's guest and co-authors have added this meaningful word to our vocabulary - also the title of their book - and it's one I predict will be added to dictionaries. The concept's value isn't limited to the workplace, but with five generations of Americans in the workforce, the concept's time has come.   Dr. Megan Gerhardt, Professor of Leadership at Miami University's Farmer School of Business, joins me for this episode to discuss ways generations conflict or collaborate at work, and how a few simple conversation techniques can transform suspicion and tension into trusting relationships. Relationships rich with creativity and innovation - and respect - which come from generational differences.   Megan and I had a lot to talk about so I split the conversation into two episodes. Here are a few of my favorite ahh-ha! moments from Part 1:   1:41 - How some foundational ideas which would become Gentelligence came from being a 26-year old university instructor closer in age to her students than to many of her colleagues - and appreciating the diversity of ideas she saw 3:17 - "Please help us figure out what to do with these millennials!" 8:08 - Generational diversity can produce collaboration, learning and intelligence - except left to our own devices that doesn't usually happen. Like any diversity, generational diversity must be managed to be useful. 11:09 - What is a generation, and why do they matter? 18:48 - "Oh! You're taking notes on your phone while I'm talking? That's not what I thought you were doing…." 21:13 - Four practices for creating Gentelligence. The first one is conduct an assumption audit and I LOVE that phrase! Then adjust the lens, build trust and expand the pie - and each comes with simple conversation practices to use.

    Generations In The Workplace Can Be A Source Of Conflict Or Collaboration. And You Get To Decide.
  4. 06/06/2022

    Can Better Governance Deliver Better Government? And Early In A Career, Can You Contribute?

    In Part 2 of our discussion, Richard Spires talks about the subject of his upcoming book - running government programs effectively and efficiently. We discuss the importance of governance not only for delivering program results, but also for building relationships and problem solving capability, generally. Richard also explains how cultivating mentor relationships and expertise - two of the 12 traits he wrote about in his first book - can help young professionals make valuable contributions to how programs are run.    Visit Richard-Spires.com to check out his first book, "Success in the Technology Field - A Guide For Advancing Your Career," and watch for his second later this year. Here are a few of my favorite ahh-ha! moments for Part 2 of our conversation. And please forgive the occasional audio "scratches" I couldn't edit out.    1:58 - Open and honest governance conversations lead to a better informed team with more options to solve problems 5:42 - How a senior governance team prepared the Internal Revenue Service to take electronic returns in a much shorter time than anyone thought possible. 9:35 - The trusted environment - even people who want to be open and honest will become guarded if they're not sure then can trust others in the room. 12:31 - The value of mentorship for young professionals learning project and program management ropes. 14:27 - The value of cultivating expertise that you're known for, especially early in your career. 20:54 - Can running programs effectively and efficiently restore trust in government?

  5. 06/01/2022

    Organizations Might Benefit By Zero Trust For IT Security, But They Need A Trusted Environment For IT Projects. Part 1 Of My Conversation With Richard Spires.

    If you're not a technologist (I'm not), you might think success in a technology field hinges on technical knowledge. Technologists know exactly which technical knowledge and skill is required for success, and they know there's more. Working with people? Check. Understanding business needs? Check. Listening, negotiating, problem solving? Checks all around. And my guest this week will tell you that's not all.  Richard Spires is an accomplished technologist who will tell you that in every leadership position he's held, getting people on the same page was key to success. It wasn't the only key. But team and stakeholder misalignment will sink a small technology project or a major modernization, just the same. As happens in great conversations, Richard and I lost track of time and ran long, so I'm publishing it as two episodes. Part 1 examines the people skills organizations need in their technologists. Part 2 will focus on what it takes for government to operate effectively and efficiently. Please forgive the occasional audio "scratch" I couldn't edit out.  Listen in and be sure to visit Richard-Spires.com to check out his first book, "Success in the Technology Field - A Guide For Advancing Your Career." Here are a few of my favorite ahh-ah! moments from Part 1: 2:45 and on - Technology is delivered through projects, and one's ability to manage projects effectively is critical to technology's success. And that requires the leadership of people. 5:55 - A definition of "technologist" that might surprise you - but makes perfect sense. 10:03 - When very senior people see very large technology projects… very differently. 12:15 - Constant communication is critical in part because project plans change the moment a project is kicked-off 19:34 - Why creating a trusted environment - not just trust - is critical to project success. 28:20 - Important advice for young leaders - learn the leadership style that fits you. And find a mentor.

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"I See What You Mean" is a weekly podcast about how and why we get on the same page with each other… or don’t… or shouldn't. In my trailer I tell you why I care about such things in the workplace, at home, in communities and in our country. I describe my interview plans plus confess some geekhood you might find interesting. Or curious!   If you ever wonder what to do when you and someone see things so differently there's no agreeing what to do, listen for 2 minutes and subscribe if you think I might have some good ideas. Even if you don't subscribe, I think you'll love the very cool (copyright compliant!) blues song I use.  Best to you and yours, Lou