Your Own Medicine Podcast

Kali Somatics
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Creating spaces for recovering people pleasers to find support through somatics and nervous system regulation. Hosted by Kali Somatics

  1. 1d ago

    96 | Why we try to be perfect in relationships: Analyzing Sex and the City with somatic psychology (S1:E11)

    Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, a *Your Own Medicine Podcast* series where I analyze TV and film through a somatic and psychological lens.This week we’re talking about **Sex and the City, Season 1, Episode 11: “The Drought”**—an episode that, unfortunately for me, felt a little like watching someone turn parts of my own life into a 26-minute HBO comedy.Carrie accidentally farts in front of Big and proceeds to have what can only be described as a full nervous system event about being perceived as an actual human woman.And honestly? This episode is such a good depiction of fawning in romantic relationships.Because fawning doesn’t always look like overtly agreeing with someone or doing everything they want. Sometimes it’s the enormous amount of internal effort that goes into trying to remain desirable. Monitoring yourself. Editing yourself. Hiding the embarrassing parts. Trying to figure out what version of you will keep someone interested.And the more you actually like someone, the higher the stakes can feel.We talk about the somatic experience of shame and insecurity, the tension created by trying to perform a more perfect version of yourself, and what happens when a tiny moment of perceived rejection gets turned into evidence that the relationship is slipping away.I also get more personal in this episode and talk about the parallels I saw in my own relationships—because Carrie’s spiral around Big hit a little too close to home.Ultimately, “The Drought” asks a much bigger question than whether farting in front of someone kills your sex life:What happens when intimacy requires us to become increasingly visible, but being fully seen is exactly what our nervous system is afraid of?Find me on Instagram & Tiktok:@kali.somatics📖 Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reinhabiting Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawninghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H53CHKJL?lv=shuf&bestFormat=true&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&channelId=704&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&plpRedirect=mhFallback❤️‍🔥 **Sexual Fawning Course**My on-demand course exploring fawning, desire, embodied consent, arousal, sexual boundaries, and what it looks like to stay connected to yourself inside of intimacy.https://v2.stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-courseSubscribe for more **Somatics on Screen** and *Your Own Medicine Podcast*

  2. 6d ago

    95 | Analyzing girl group dynamics in Sex & the City (S1:E10)

    Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, a Your Own Medicine Podcast series where we analyze TV and film through a somatic and psychological lens.In this episode, we’re breaking down Sex and the City, Season 1, Episode 10: “The Baby Shower.”Carrie, Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte head to a baby shower and suddenly everyone is taking inventory of their lives: the women with children are reminiscing about who they were before motherhood, while the single women are wondering whether marriage and babies are things they actually want—or things they’re eventually supposed to want.We get into the sunk cost of our decisions, the nervous system experience of insecurity, and what happens when someone else’s life makes us question our own.We also talk about female group dynamics and the ways women can fawn with one another—softening our opinions, bridging differences, or trying to make our choices more palatable when our lives, values, or desires don’t line up.And underneath all of it: How do you know when a desire is actually yours?How do we tell the difference between an organic desire emerging from the body and a life path we’ve absorbed because it has been modeled, rewarded, or expected of us?Connect with me on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/?hl=enTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somaticsGet my book - 📖 Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reinhabiting Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawninghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H53CHKJL?lv=shuf&bestFormat=true&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&channelId=704&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&plpRedirect=mhFallback🖤 Tired of Being “Good” LabMy on-demand companion course for working with fawning, boundaries, anger, the inner villain, family dynamics, work, dating, and more.https://v2.stan.store/kalisomatics/p/tired-of-being-good-labSubscribe for more episodes of Somatics on Screen and Your Own Medicine Podcast.

  3. Sep 22

    94 | Analyzing SEXUAL FAWNING in Sex and the City (S1:E7)

    In this episode of Somatics on Screen, we’re getting into Sex and the City Season 1, Episode 7: “The Monogamists.” This episode gives us A LOT to work with somatically. Carrie realizes she and Big may have very different ideas about what dating each other actually means. Miranda finds herself dating someone whose desire for closeness and time together exceeds her own capacity for it. And Charlotte is confronted with a sexual act she genuinely does not want to do — while also navigating the pressure, expectations, and relational consequences attached to saying no. So naturally, we’re talking about sexual fawning, attachment, relational capacity, desire, boundaries, and what happens when two people want very different amounts of closeness. With Charlotte, I unpack the difference between choosing something sexually because you genuinely want to and overriding your own disgust, hesitation, or lack of desire because you’re afraid of what saying no might cost you. And through Carrie and Miranda, we explore something I think gets flattened in dating conversations all the time: two people can like each other and still have very different capacities for intimacy, commitment, frequency of contact, or relational closeness. Those differences don’t automatically make one person avoidant and the other needy — but they do give us information. Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, where we use television as an excuse to talk about what bodies, attachment systems, and nervous systems are doing underneath the plot. 📚 READ TIRED OF BEING GOODMy book, Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reclaiming Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawning, is a deeper exploration of fawning, boundaries, anger, desire, self-abandonment, and learning to hear yourself again. https://us.amazon.com/Tired-Being-Good-reinhabiting-lifetime-ebook/dp/B0H1K2MZ4V 🔥 SEXUAL FAWNING COURSEMy on-demand course for understanding sexual fawning and building a more embodied relationship with consent, desire, sexual boundaries, pleasure, and your body’s yes/no/maybe. https://stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-course

  4. Sep 15

    93 | Somatics on Screen (Sex and the City S1:E1)

    Welcome to the first episode of Somatics on Screen, a new Your Own Medicine Podcast subseries where I analyze TV and film through the lens of somatic psychology. And for episode one, we’re starting with the pilot of Sex and the City. We’re looking underneath the dating drama at what might be happening in the body: attachment patterns, the fawn response, relational anxiety, self-abandonment, and the ways our nervous systems can shape how we date, who we pursue, and how we try to secure connection. We talk Carrie, Big, Samantha, Charlotte, Miranda, and the pilot’s whole experiment with women attempting to have sex “like men” — while asking what some of these behaviors might look like when viewed through attachment and nervous-system frameworks rather than simply as “good” or “bad” dating decisions. Basically: somatic psychology meets my desire to aggressively overanalyze television. If you have a TV show or movie you think would be particularly juicy for Somatics on Screen, send me your recommendations. I’m building the list for future episodes. FREE: Capacity to Be Disliked MeditationA free somatic practice for building more nervous-system capacity for someone to be disappointed in you, disagree with you, or simply… not like you. JOIN THE COVENMy monthly Kali Somatics membership for ongoing somatic education, live workshops, Q&A/coaching, and deeper conversations around fawning, boundaries, anger, relationships, and everything we get into here.https://stan.store/kalisomatics/p/the-coven-kali-somatics-monthly-membership SEXUAL FAWNING COURSEAn on-demand course for understanding sexual fawning and building a more embodied relationship with consent, desire, boundaries, pleasure, and your body’s yes/no/maybe.https://stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-course

  5. Apr 18

    92 | How to rid anxiety with your next meal with LUIS MOJICA

    In this episode, I interview somatic therapist, nutritionist, and author Luis Mojica about the link between trauma recovery and nutrition, a focus of his book Food Therapy (releasing April 28). Mojica explains “food-induced stress,” arguing that nervous system regulation is affected by what we eat daily, not just breathwork or therapy, and categorizes foods as stimulants (caffeine, sugar, skipping meals), depressants (fried/processed flour and fat like fries, pizza, pasta), and balancers (beans, greens, proteins). He describes “seesaw regulation,” shame-free “unconscious alchemy” behind cravings, and how balancing meals can shift mood, sleep, glucose, and stress responses. They discuss examples including insomnia tied to nocturnal hypoglycemia, improved blood sugar, boundaries revealed when removing coping foods, and how culture and processed diets shape regulation. Mojica shares a tracking practice and invites pre-order readers to a free book club. Connect with Kallie on Instagram: https://stan.store/kalisomatics?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAdGRleARQsKhleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA8xMjQwMjQ1NzQyODc0MTQAAaekIYy6yHKiLmOfqLB6P1B-SfHnOs4TfxYjIbTGbdPPNBhh4_0CTn1CThQmHw_aem_wge7M1c9I3gInfyi0T7sGA Connect with Luis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/holistic.life.navigation?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Buy Luis's book here: https://amzn.to/4ci3byy

  6. Mar 16

    91 | Unshaming insecurity, eating disorders & more w/ David Bedrick

    In this episode, we welcome back teacher, counselor, and author David Bedrick, founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-Based Studies, to discuss his “unshaming” approach to shame and trauma healing. Bedrick contrasts traditional pathology-and-fix models with meeting symptoms—such as eating struggles, anger, addiction, codependency, anxiety, and insecurity—with curiosity, respect, and embodied listening to uncover their meaning and intelligence. He shares a story from a Slovak eating-disorder documentary session where a client’s throat-closing response reveals a powerful boundary and a “revolution” in expression, emphasizing organic pacing rather than quick fixes. Kallie relates the approach to post-infidelity insecurity in a new relationship and discovering boundary intelligence. They also discuss Bedrick’s book The Unshaming Way and his upcoming Unshaming Way Workbook (March 17), designed with step-by-step somatic practices and poetry. To find Kallie on social media and explore her offers: https://stan.store/kalisomatics To sign up for Kallie's 6-month program, SHED: https://kalisomatics.com/shed To find David on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/david.bedrick/ To order David's new The Unshaming Way Workbook: https://www.amazon.com/Unshaming-Way-Workbook-Reflection-Self-Blame/dp/B0FFG5HF69

  7. Feb 26

    90 | V from Below Deck on grief, manifestation & being villainized by villains

    Victoria from Season 10 of Below Deck Mediterranean joins us today. In this episode we explore what happens to your nervous system under pressure, how grief shapes relationships & life, navigating messy connection on camera, and why manifestation isn’t just mindset — it’s about what your body feels safe to receive. Follow Victoria on Instagram at @victorianadaoiz To learn more about, SHED, our upcoming 6-month program starting March 31st, click the link below: https://kalisomatics.com/SHED

  8. 12/17/2025

    89| Beyond the villain edit with The Bachelor’s Courtney Robertson

    Courtney Robertson is best known from Ben Flajnik’s season of The Bachelor, where she was labeled the “villain”—called manipulative, calculated, and the Black Widow—for being confident, s*xually expressive, and openly chosen early by the lead in a high-pressure, highly surveilled environment. In my work around fawning and nervous system survival, her season is a powerful example of what happens when being agreeable or palatable doesn’t actually protect you, and a woman stops performing niceness to manage other people’s discomfort. This conversation isn’t about rehashing reality TV—it’s about identity, shame, motherhood, and what it takes to be visible again after being flattened into a role, especially when the culture is quick to punish women for not fawning.

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Creating spaces for recovering people pleasers to find support through somatics and nervous system regulation. Hosted by Kali Somatics

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  • Creator
    Kali Somatics
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    95
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kali Somatics
  • Show Website
    Your Own Medicine Podcast

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