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The Universal Needs
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Join Claire & Serena as they take you through a journey to discover more about your Universal Needs, WHY they aren't currently being well met, HOW to meet them in ways that work for you and how to CONSISTENTLY do so in quick, easy and simple ways that fit seamlessly into your life. A combination of personal development & entertainment, this podcast shows you how meeting your Universal Needs is VITAL to all the most important areas of your life including relationships, mental health, self worth, business, parenting, boundaries, emotional wellbeing and more...with plenty of fun along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 5d ago

    Episode 217 - Relationship Connection Series: Unsupportive Connection with others

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 217 - "Relationship Connection Series: Unsupportive connection with others" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Actions speak louder than words, we've all heard the phrase before and many of us think we believe that sentiment. Yet when we are assessing our own relationships, the actions (or inactions) of others often don't hold as much weight as they should. Join us on today's episode where we are looking at our connection with others and how to use this as a tool to access which of our relationships are actually working, how people really feel about us, how we really feel about others and how to begin moving our relationships in the direction we want it to. In this episode we cover: What is the relationship connection spectrum and why is it importantWhy consistency is such an important factorUnsupportive connection with othersDetermining how someone actually feels towards you and your relationshipWhat can keep us from recognizing or acknowledging these unsupportive behaviorsThe difference between love the feeling and love the verbUnsupportive behaviors that impact the relationship's needsUnsupportive behaviors that impact your needsPutting the unsupportive behaviors into perspectiveTwo of the most important tools to use in the process of moving through the spectrumThe hope for our relationshipsDetermining how you actually feels towards others and your relationship Episode References: The previous Relationship Connection Series episodes:Episode 214 - Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)?Episode 215 - Relationship Connection Series: The Relationship Needs Part 2The Drama Triangle episodes:Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe episode about interconnectedness - Episode 202 - What is interconnectedness and why is it so critical to getting our needs met? Notes: “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” - Prentis Hemphill Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 217 - Relationship Connection Series: Unsupportive Connection with others

  2. Oct 12

    Episode 216 - Relationship Connection Series: The Relationship Needs - Part 2

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 216 - "Relationship Connection Series: The Relationship Needs Part 2" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Often times our relationships are treated like an artificial plant that just exists because we want it to...and then we wonder why the relationship didn't last. As we learned on the previous episode, like us, our relationships have needs to which need to be nourished in order for them to survive and grow. This week we're pickup up where we left off on our last episode and continuing to share the essential needs that every relationship has. Join us to discover the energy and effort we need to put into our relationships to not only sustain them but to help them grow and thrive.  In this episode we cover: A quick review of the relationship needs we've already coveredThe importance of communication in relationships and what elements we don't always considerShowing you understand and care by asking questionsWhat is honesty and do we actually want this in our relationshipsThe different types of connection and intimacyWhat is security and safety in relationshipsThe line between compromising and compromising ourselvesThe different aspects of learning and growth in relationshipsDealing with conflict resolution in relationshipsFinding balance with relationship equityThe different kinds of labor and the two that cause the biggest issues in relationshipsRelationship compatibility, what are the dealbreakersOptional relationship dependent needsThe two aspects that go into meeting our relationship needsWhy relationships are NOT 50/50 Episode References: Part 1 - Episode 214 - Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)The episode where we talk about honesty - Episode 146 - How honest should you be with children?The Boundaries Series -Episode 101 - Boundaries Series: What exactly ARE boundaries?Episode 102 - Boundaries Series: How to know what your boundaries areEpisode 103 - Boundaries Series: How to communicate your boundariesThe ideal world episode - Episode 195 - Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationshipsThe apology blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apology Notes: Download The Apology Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/Apology Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 216 - Relationship Connection Series: The Relationship Needs - Part 2

  3. Oct 5

    Episode 215 - Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)?

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 215 - "Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)?" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Did you know our relationships have their own needs? Many relationships are focused on the needs of the people involved and not on the needs of the relationship. Tune into today's episode where we discuss the difference between our individual needs and the needs of our relationships and share the essential needs that every relationship has. In this episode we cover: What causes the most issues in relationshipsThe the 3 entities that comprise all relationshipsThe difference between our needs and the relationships needsThe difference between connection and a relationshipThe essential needs for all mutually supportive relationshipsBuilding trust in our relationshipsHow effort shows up in relationshipsSupporting the people within our relationships without rescuing themTaking responsibility in our relationshipsWhen adult/child dynamics show up in adult relationshipsThe importance of time and space in relationships Episode References: Self Love Series:Episode 211 - Self Love Series: Unsupportive self connectionEpisode 212 - Self Love Series: Supportive self connectionEpisode 213 - Self Love Series: The behaviors that can heal your self love woundsThe Shapes Series - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulEpisode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachEpisode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachEpisode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachEpisode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneEpisode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of moviesThe relationship orbits episode - Episode 154 - What are your relationship orbits, and how can they protect you? Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 215 - Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)?

  4. Sep 28

    Episode 214 - Self love Series: What do to when wounds pop up along the way?

    ***Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence - 39:00-39:44 Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 214 - "Self Love Series - What do to when wounds pop up along the way?" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide As we've talked about in previous episodes, it takes mindful effort and work to achieve self love. When we feel as though we may be moving backwards on our journey, it can have us questioning where we're truly at. The good news is, not everything is as it appears on the surface. Join us as we continue our series on self love and discuss how to use the antidotes found in our self connection layers to heal our past wounds and become more solid in our self love journey. In this episode we cover: Why Claire is now accessorizing with a crownWhen life happens along our self love journeyThe main indicator that a past wound needs healingThe antidote and healing our past woundsHealing through the layers of self connectionHow to get the donkey out of the wellSurpassing the experience to get to the goalSwitching focus from working the process to enjoying itTrigger Warning - Domestic Violence - 39:00-39:44Looking at the bigger picture - our client's experience as she goes through this processSome context for our next episodes about the relationship connection journeyJoe questions his love of SerenaThe experience of love we know vs the experience of love that is possibleThe difference between loving energy and being in relationship Episode References: The tah-dah list episode - Episode 153 - The power of whimsy when meeting your needsPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 214 - Self love Series: What do to when wounds pop up along the way?

  5. Sep 21

    Episode 213 - Self love Series: The behaviors that can heal your self love wounds

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 213 - "Self Love Series: The behaviors that can heal your self love wounds" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide How can we love ourselves if we don't even like ourselves? Well, the short answer is we can't. The good news is, now that we know about the unsupportive and supportive levels of self connection, we can learn how to actually move from unsupportive to supportive. Join us this week as we discuss the behaviors that heal our self love wounds, and how to use these behaviors to move through the layers on our self love journey. In this episode we cover: Claire's confession and why we're not getting into our level of connection with others this weekWhere our inability to love ourselves usually stems fromAcknowledging the level we're truly atThe positive and negative relationships between self love and needs being metUsing the layers of self connection to move along our self love journeyHow do you stop hating yourself?The antidotes for beginning to release toxic behaviorsThe simple phrase that has helped many of our clientsThe behaviors that can heal the self love woundsCreating the next layers of connection with ourselvesEmbracing our inner weirdosTaking the time to create, sustain and embody our self connection Episode References: The unsupportive self connection episode - Episode 211 - Self Love Series: Unsupportive self connectionThe supportive self connection episode - Episode 212 - Self Love Series: Supportive self connectionTrauma series -Episode 86 - What is trauma?Episode 87 - How do you identify trauma Episode 88 - How to heal trauma and triggersThe toxic positivity episode - Episode 39 - Just HOW toxic is Toxic Positivity?The episode about hard and soft boundaries - Episode 101 - Boundaries Series: What exactly ARE boundaries?The episode where we talk about the Star Trek shields - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxietyThe but/and episode - Episode 143 - Get your But out of here Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 213 - Self love Series: The behaviors that can heal your self love wounds

  6. Sep 14

    Episode 212 - Self love Series: Supportive self connection

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 212 - "Self love Series: Supportive self connection" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide As the episode title says, self love is a journey and our journey together continues. This week we'll be discussing the supportive end of the self connection spectrum. Tune in to find out how we can begin creating our own paths to self love. In this episode we cover: Review of the self-connection spectrumSerena learns a new wordWhat levels are in the supportive self connection spectrum?The behaviors that show up in each of the supportive spectrum layersWhy the layers are ordered as they areHow we can begin to create and move closer to self loveThe levels of learning and how they apply to the self love journeyAntidotes to the unsupportive self connection spectrumWhat's got Serena thinking of ballsThe client who thought they were further along their self love journeyFeeling vs showing - how do you treat yourself when you are at these levels Episode References: The unsupportive self connection episode - Episode 211 - Self Love Journey - Unsupportive self connectionThe Selfirst Series - Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibilityEpisode 22 - Selfirst Series: A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needsThe episode about the difference between nice and kind - Episode 67 - People Pleasing Series - The problem with putting others firstThe Guilt and Shame Series -Episode 43 - The difference between guilt and shameEpisode 44 - That's not guilt, it's shame in disguiseEpisode 45 - That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanityThe episode where we talk about the levels of learning - Episode 35 - Self worth Series: The link between self worth and self careThe episode about the Love Need variation - Episode 200 - One of the Universal Needs is CHANGING!The Shapes Series - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachThe other "shapes" episodes -Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 212 - Self love Series: Supportive self connection

  7. Sep 7

    Episode 211 - Self love Series: Unsupportive self connection

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 211 - "Self love Series: Unsupportive self connection" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Weeeeeeeee're Baaaaaaaaaack! It's the first episode of season 5 and we're going on a journey...a self love journey that is. There's a lot of pressure in today's society to love ourselves and the truth of the matter is, many people don't love themselves. On this episode we're going to get into the unsupportive stops along our self love journey that are important in getting to our destination. Tune in to find out how just because we don't feel the love doesn't mean we are not on the journey to do so. In this episode we cover: How one "simple" slide in our program turned into (at least) a four episode seriesThe misconceptions about self loveThe three parts to the self-connection spectrumWhat levels are in the unsupportive self connection spectrum?The behaviors that show up in each of the unsupportive spectrum layersStarting with the small wins, small steps and small thingsOwning where we are at, not where we "should be" and moving in the direction of self loveNot realizing when we're actually on the self love journeyFaking it till we make itThe action of loveHow to begin showing love to ourselves Episode References: The episode on the small wins and small steps - Episode 174 - Just one small thingThe episode about not meeting needs that aren't your responsibility - Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibilityThe Empowerment Ecosystem episodes -The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 211 - Self love Series: Unsupportive self connection

  8. Jun 8

    Episode 210 - SEASON FINALE: Why you're never to old to learn how to meet your needs (or to benefit from them being met)

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 210 - "SEASON FINALE: Why you're never to old to learn how to meet your needs (or to benefit from them being met)" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Do you believe it's too late to make a significant change in your life? If so, you're not alone. Change can be hard and uncomfortable and it can also be the thing that leads us to true happiness and fulfillment. Join us on this episode where we're talking all about change and how it's never too late to learn to begin meeting your needs and start making the changes in your life and relationships that will have you living your best life. In this episode we cover: What's in store for our season breakThe difference between something working and just being familiarUsing tools to get us to our destination fasterComing to terms with change and the best time to make changeHow to change and navigate those changesThe importance of choice in changeLetting go of what isn't workingMicrodosing changeStarting where we have the capacity and then testing your capacityAn invitation for during the break Episode References: The episode on microdosing discomfort - Episode 209 - Microdosing discomfort to build your capacity for itThe episode on supportive discomfort - Episode 188 - What is supportive discomfort?The episode about the life conveyor belt - 136 - Why you might not WANT the goal that you THINK you do…especially when it comes to weight lossThe episode on resilience - Episode 51 - How to increase your resilienceThe Empowerment Ecosystem episodes -The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Episode 210 - SEASON FINALE: Why you're never to old to learn how to meet your needs (or to benefit from them being met)
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Join Claire & Serena as they take you through a journey to discover more about your Universal Needs, WHY they aren't currently being well met, HOW to meet them in ways that work for you and how to CONSISTENTLY do so in quick, easy and simple ways that fit seamlessly into your life. A combination of personal development & entertainment, this podcast shows you how meeting your Universal Needs is VITAL to all the most important areas of your life including relationships, mental health, self worth, business, parenting, boundaries, emotional wellbeing and more...with plenty of fun along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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