Living with your Thoughts

Tracy Moxey
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We live with our thousands of thoughts everyday. These thoughts determine how we live our lives, our success, our downfalls, our illness, our quality of life. Whether we are at peace or at war with ourselves. Join me and explore where your thoughts originate and how you can learn to manage them. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

  1. 1d ago

    Episode 235 Our Sense of Self is Shaped Through Connection

    This episode explores how human identity is formed through relationships and emotional connection. From infancy, our nervous systems learn safety, belonging, love, and self-worth through the responses of others. Positive, emotionally safe relationships help build a healthy sense of self, while inconsistent, critical, or conditional connection can create identities rooted in survival and people-pleasing rather than authenticity. The episode discusses how many people unconsciously become “the achiever,” “the caretaker,” or “the perfectionist” in order to gain acceptance, often leading to exhaustion and disconnection from their true selves. Drawing on neuroscience and the concept of neuroplasticity, it emphasizes that healing is possible through emotionally safe relationships that allow vulnerability, authenticity, and co-regulation. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on who makes them feel calm, valued, and uplifted, while learning to step away from relationships that negatively impact their nervous system. Ultimately, the episode highlights that healing and rediscovering oneself often happens not in isolation, but through safe, supportive human connection.

    10 min

  2. May 29

    Episode 234 Fulfilment is Found in Engagement, Not Perfection

    Episode 234 explores the idea that fulfillment is not something we achieve at the end of a perfect journey, but something we experience through meaningful engagement in everyday life. So many people chase success, healing, or external validation believing it will finally make them feel complete, yet still feel disconnected once they arrive there. True fulfillment comes from being emotionally, mentally, and physically present in the things that matter — whether that’s deep conversations, helping others, learning, creating, spending time in nature, or simply being fully present with the people we love. This episode reflects on how the brain is wired for connection and engagement, not isolation or perfection. Fulfillment is found in participation, purpose, and presence — not flawless circumstances. It’s about asking yourself not “Am I fulfilled?” but “What am I truly engaged in?” From work and relationships to parenting and personal growth, this conversation is a reminder to bring more attention, connection, and meaning into the moments that already make up our lives.

    10 min

  3. May 22

    Episode 233 Episode 233 TRUST isn't equal and that is why your team is struggling.

    In this episode, the focus is on a powerful leadership insight: trust should not be applied equally to everyone. Using a simple framework built on two axes — competence and confidence — the episode explores how different people require different forms of leadership, support, and trust to thrive. The episode breaks teams into four categories: ​A Person: Low confidence, low competence — needs structure, coaching, reassurance, and guidance.​B Person: High competence, low confidence — capable but self-doubting; needs encouragement and belief.​C Person: Low competence, high confidence — enthusiastic but inexperienced; needs direction, feedback, and boundaries.​D Person: High competence, high confidence — highly capable and self-assured; needs autonomy, ownership, and freedom.A key message throughout the episode is that effective leadership is not about treating everyone the same — it’s about understanding what each person uniquely needs. The same action or phrase (“I trust you, run with it”) can empower one person while overwhelming another. The episode also emphasizes that trust is not static or equal; it is contextual and should evolve as people grow. Misaligned trust — either too much too soon or too little for too long — often leads to anxiety, disengagement, frustration, or poor performance. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on: ​Where they currently sit within the confidence/competence framework​What the people around them truly need​Whether others actually experience them as trusting leadersUltimately, the episode reframes leadership as the ability to see people clearly enough to lead them differently, reminding listeners that trust is not simply given — it is experienced. Trust Grid

    13 min

  4. May 15

    Episode 232 You Cannot people Please and Have Inner Peace

    In this episode of Living With Your Thoughts, the focus is on the emotional cost of people-pleasing and why true inner peace cannot coexist with constant self-abandonment. The episode explores the difference between chasing happiness and cultivating peace — emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Drawing on neuroscience and nervous system regulation, the discussion explains how people-pleasing is often a learned survival response rooted in fear of rejection, conflict, or disapproval. When approval becomes linked to safety, saying “no” can feel threatening, even when it is necessary. Key themes include: ​The hidden emotional and physical toll of people-pleasing​How self-abandonment creates internal conflict​Predictive processing and why the brain equates approval with safety​Neuroplasticity and rewiring the belief that honesty is unsafe​Learning to choose authenticity over external validation​Building peace through alignment, boundaries, and self-trustThe episode encourages listeners to reflect on where they are saying “yes” while internally feeling “no,” and reminds them that inner peace begins when they stop abandoning themselves to keep others comfortable. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via Calendar

    10 min

  5. May 8

    Episode 231 The Relationship That Shapes Every Other One

    Your most important relationship is the one you have with yourself—because it shapes every other relationship in your life. When something feels off with others, your reaction often comes from your internal beliefs, not just their behavior. Your brain filters experiences through your self-image, reinforcing what you already believe about yourself. If you struggle with self-doubt or feeling “not enough,” even neutral situations can feel painful. That’s not always because others are hurting you, but because your mind is trying to stay consistent with your identity. Strengthening your relationship with yourself changes everything. Instead of seeking validation, overthinking, or over-giving, you begin to act with clarity and self-trust. To improve this relationship: Keep promises you make to yourself to build trust Be aware of and kinder in your inner dialogue Learn to sit with your emotions instead of avoiding them Replace self-judgment with curiosity Ultimately, you can’t have peaceful relationships with others if you’re in conflict with yourself. When you improve how you see and treat yourself, you change what you allow, attract, and receive in life. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

    11 min

  6. May 1

    Episode 230 Don't Pass It On - The Hidden Cost of Unhealed Pain

    This podcast explores the hidden cost of unhealed emotional pain—and how it quietly shapes our relationships, reactions, and lives. There’s a subtle moment most people miss: when past wounds begin speaking through present behavior. It’s not loud or obvious, but it changes everything. A small comment feels like an attack. Silence feels like rejection. Feedback feels like failure. In those moments, we’re not responding to what’s happening now—we’re reacting from what happened before. The brain is wired for survival, not truth. It constantly scans for familiar patterns and reacts automatically to protect us. When emotional experiences go unprocessed, they don’t disappear—they repeat. They show up as overreactions, withdrawal, control, or unrealistic expectations placed on others. This is how pain gets passed on—not intentionally, but unconsciously. The podcast focuses on breaking that cycle. It reframes healing not as perfection, but as awareness—the ability to pause between trigger and reaction and ask: Is this about now, or is this about then? Through reflection and practical insight, listeners are guided to recognize their patterns, process emotions instead of suppressing them, and take responsibility without shame. Because healing isn’t just personal—it’s relational. The state you carry affects every conversation, every relationship, and every space you enter. When you stop avoiding your inner world, you stop exporting it onto others. What you don’t transform, you transfer. But what you do transform can change everything around you. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

    12 min

  7. Apr 23

    Episode 229 You Can’t Control Your Thoughts — But You Can Lead Them

    Most people believe they should be able to control their thoughts, but in reality, our brains are designed to constantly generate thoughts automatically. Trying to control them can be exhausting and often makes them stronger. Instead of control, the real skill is managing your relationship with your thoughts. Intrusive or negative thoughts are normal and often come from memory, fear, or survival wiring in the brain. According to neuroscience and psychology, pushing thoughts away can actually intensify them, because the brain interprets resistance as a signal that the thought is important. Rather than fighting thoughts, it’s more effective to notice, explore, and understand them. Welcoming intrusive thoughts can provide useful information about underlying fears, patterns, or experiences. Awareness is the first step toward reducing their power. The key is to lead your thoughts instead of trying to control them. Practical strategies include: ​Name the thought (e.g., “I’m having the thought that I’m failing”) to create distance from it.​Allow the thought instead of resisting it, which reduces its intensity.​Question the thought—ask whether it’s fact or fear.​Write down your thoughts to notice patterns and repetitive negativity.​Redirect your attention intentionally, such as moving your body or changing activities.Ultimately, mental strength isn’t about never having negative thoughts. It’s about not being controlled by them. When you learn to manage your thoughts, you gain something more powerful than control—you gain choice, and that’s where true freedom begins. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

    10 min

  8. Apr 17

    Episode 228 The Voice Inside Your Head Isn't Always You

    The voice in your head is not always truly “you.” It’s a constant stream of thoughts that comment, judge, predict, and try to protect you. Most people move through life on autopilot, reacting to these thoughts without realizing they’re there. These thoughts often appear as quiet, negative statements like “I’m not good enough” or “This will go wrong.” Because they feel real, people tend to believe them automatically rather than question them. Over time, these thoughts form patterns shaped by past experiences, fear, and habit, which can lead to emotions like anxiety, shame, or anger. When emotions attach to these thoughts, it can feel like being caught in a mental storm where everything seems urgent and true. Many people avoid noticing their thoughts because it reveals how harsh or critical their inner voice can be. The key shift is learning to observe thoughts instead of identifying with them. When you pause and simply notice a thought—without judging, fixing, or believing it—you create space between yourself and your mind. The main message: ​You are not your thoughts.​You are the observer of them.​By noticing thoughts without automatically following them, you gain greater freedom and control over your mind.Manage your mind or your mind will manage you.If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation.I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

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We live with our thousands of thoughts everyday. These thoughts determine how we live our lives, our success, our downfalls, our illness, our quality of life. Whether we are at peace or at war with ourselves. Join me and explore where your thoughts originate and how you can learn to manage them. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

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  • Creator
    Tracy Moxey
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    238
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Tracy Moxey
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    Living with your Thoughts