Tell Me About Your Mother

Evan Miller and Melissa Martin
  • 4.5 (14)
  • Mental Health

Tell Me About Your Mother is a podcast guided by a psychotherapist duo-- Evan Miller, LCMHC, LCAS and Melissa Martin, LCMHC. If you are a therapist, enjoy learning from experts, or curious as to how therapists conceptualize complex characters, this is your podcast. If you'd like to connect further, we are on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube and TikTok. You can also send us an email-- contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run. Our psychotherapy practice websites: Evan Miller— https://www.millercounseling.net/ Melissa Martin https://www.emdrtherapyworks.com/

  1. Apr 28

    Episode 59: Rage, Grief, and the Therapists Who Shouldn't Be in the Room | Evan Miller and Melissa Martin

    We started with accountant rage. We ended at grief, the body, and a grandmother who was home. Melissa walks Evan through his first focusing session using the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model — Gene Gendlin's somatic framework for making meaning of what your body is already trying to tell you. What starts as frustration about cash flow lands somewhere much deeper. Then the conversation shifts to where the field is falling short — and the clients paying for it. In this episode: The Felt Sense Polyvagal Model and focusing — live, unscriptedCountertransference and when the therapist's stuff shows upSex offender treatment, TikTok moral panic, and clinical nuanceA woman fired from a jail job for having a nervous systemDunning-Kruger in the therapy field — and why it mattersWhy licensure and aptitude are not the same thingTwo licensed therapists. Unfiltered. No coaches. No pop psychology. No wellness rebrands. New episodes bi-weekly. Therapy practice links Evan Miller, LCAS, LCMHC  www.millercounseling.net Melissa Martin, LCMHC https://www.emdrtherapyworks.com Send us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    1h 6m

  2. Apr 15

    Episode 58: The Therapy Industry Is Lying to You | Guest Rhiana Turner

    Evan sits down with Rhiana Holmes Turner for a sharp, honest conversation about therapist burnout, private practice, money, ADHD, recovery, and the culture of over-sacrifice in mental health. They talk about brain drain, disaster psychology, community mental health, performative social justice, and why helping people does not mean destroying yourself in the process. brain drain, disaster psychology, and why good intentions can still miss the pointtherapist burnout and the culture of self-sacrifice in mental healthwhy so many clinicians stay underpaid, overworked, and stuckprivate practice, private pay, and charging what your work is worththe overlap between ADHD, addiction, systems, and adaptationrecovery, shame, and how culture treats addiction differently than healingcriminalization, punishment, and why rehabilitation is more complicated than people want to admittherapist branding, authenticity, and the pressure to perform a professional identitywhat it looks like to stop over-identifying with struggle and actually build a lifeSend us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    2h 8m

  3. Feb 25

    Episode 57: Why Clients Mask in Therapy (And Why It Matters)

    In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood dynamics in therapy: masking.We start with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model and how somatic work helps clients notice real shifts in their nervous system. Then we get into what therapists often miss — clients who look “fine” in session but are shutting down outside the room. We cover: Why clients mask in therapy (often without realizing it)How therapists can misread progressDorsal vagal shutdown and what it actually looks likeWhen a memory is too big for the client’s current capacityWhy some people stay emotionally stuck for decadesHow blame can block real healingThe link between underdeveloped identity and addiction riskShort-form content, attention and ADHD brainsThe pressure to appear regulated in everyday lifeIf you’re a therapist, helper or someone trying to understand why change can feel harder than it “should,” this episode will give you a much deeper lens. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    43 min

  4. Jan 21

    Episode 56: Neurodivergence, Labels, and the Cost of Oversimplified Psychology

    Guest Elizabeth Morrison is a licensed therapist, MS, LPC, in Texas, that specializes in treating Neurodivergent individuals. We talk through what’s happening as mental health language goes mainstream: it’s helping more people seek support, but it’s also creating confusion, oversimplification, and “pop psychology” that gets repeated as fact. We unpack what neurodivergence and neurodivergent actually mean, why traits aren’t the same thing as diagnoses, and how real clinical work depends on nuance, context, and felt safety. The conversation also zooms out to schools and families, exploring how kids’ behavior often reflects unmet needs, overstimulation, and a lack of support rather than “badness.” Why social media spreads both awareness and misinformation about mental healthNeurodivergence vs. neurodivergent vs. neuroinclusive (and why the labels matter)Bottom-up vs. top-down processing and how that changes therapy approachesCommon neurodivergent presentations discussed: autism, ADHD, OCD (and the broader spectrum)Stimming and fidgets as regulation tools, not “bad habits”Burnout, dopamine/energy drain, and why everyday tasks can cost more for ND brainsThe difference between having traits and meeting diagnostic criteria (clinical significance)Limits of assessments: masking, self-awareness gaps, and the nuance tests can missMedication basics: what it should and shouldn’t do, and when to revisit dosage/prescriptionsSchool systems, missed support, and why behavior is often communicationPractical parenting ideas: reducing demands after school and asking better questionsHow family patterns repeat across generations and how therapy helps revise the “old contract”Send us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    1h 9m

  5. 12/05/2025

    Episode 55: Blame Throwers and Party Hats | Guest Sandra Killebrew

    Welcome back our guest Sandra Killebrew, a therapist specializing in high-conflict couples therapy in Seattle, WA. This episode dives into the messy, magical work of being a therapist. We unpack what happens when clients come in with chaos—blame throwers in hand—and how playfulness, props, and presence can shift the energy in the room. From adolescent therapy and couples work to private pay dilemmas and therapist boundaries, we explore the art of staying human while holding space. Topics include: The “blame thrower” metaphor and how to manage chaotic energyUsing props and playfulness to disarm resistance and build trustWorking with teens: safety, attunement, and how to not take the baitCouples therapy, contempt, and staying grounded in the stormTherapist self-awareness: when over-identifying does more harm than goodNavigating private pay vs. insurance expectationsWhat happens when clients want therapy to “fix” someone elseThe loneliness of solo practice and the beauty of professional communityEnergetic integrity: how we show up when the room feels offSend us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    1h 7m

  6. 11/06/2025

    Episode 54: Genocide, Murder, and Therapists’ Humanity | Rhiana Turner | International Psychology

    Welcome our guest, Rhiana Holmes Turner, LPC, LAC, is a licensed mental health professional and Approved Clinical Supervisor based in Denver, Colorado, with multi-state licensure across Colorado, Florida, Texas, and Kansas. She has expertise in trauma-informed, care and a career spanning community advocacy, international mental health work, and psychopharmacology education, Turner brings a unique lens to this raw and resonant conversation. In this episode of Tell Me About Your Mother, Evan and Rhiana open up about their work with some of the most misunderstood populations — from genocide survivors in Cambodia to clients who have committed murder. The discussion explores what it means to show up authentically as a therapist, the projections therapists carry, and the radical empathy required to do the work well. Topics include: Working with genocide survivors in Cambodia and unintentional publicationNarrative therapy and reintegration between victims and perpetratorsCoercion, moral ambiguity, and the psychology of violenceTreating clients who have killed someone — and confronting therapist biasRejection-prevention behaviors and shame in clinical relationshipsBlank slate therapists vs. authenticity and immediacyAttachment dynamics, regulation, and what actually makes couples therapy workThe universal human need to feel loved, accepted, and safe — even for therapistsSend us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    55 min

  7. 10/06/2025

    Episode 53: Let Them Fail | Therapists, Adolescents, and the Audacity to Be Human

    In this raw and wide-ranging episode of Tell Me About Your Mother, Evan and Melissa explore what it means to be a therapist, parent, and human being—flawed, opinionated, and under pressure to perform. From setting boundaries on the soccer field to navigating adolescent risk-taking and drug use, the conversation covers the deep discomfort of losing control, the power of regulation, and the dangers of sanitized professionalism. Topics include: Why regulating yourself is the most powerful parenting moveThe limits of behavioral control in adolescenceThe dark side of data, AI, and digital permanenceWhy therapists shouldn’t have to apologize for being humanSelf-diagnosis trends and the loss of clinical nuanceWhether you’re a clinician, a parent, or just someone trying not to lose it in public—this episode is your permission slip. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    1h 9m

  8. 09/12/2025

    Episode 52: Is EMDR Magic or Marketing? Debunking Therapy Buzzwords

    In this fiery and insightful episode of Tell Me About Your Mother: Evan and Melissa respond to the backlash after their viral EMDR TikTok clip (24k+ views).They clarify what EMDR is actually doing in the brain—hint: it’s not magic or hypnosis.The hosts tackle common misunderstandings about working memory theory, bilateral stimulation, and exposure therapy.Evan shares a powerful campfire story involving a dysregulated parent and shame spirals.Melissa explores how trauma theory intersects with parenting, cultural expectations, and body image.Together, they reflect on the ethical tightrope therapists walk when navigating social situations with clinical awareness.Whether you’re a therapist, client, or just trauma-curious—this episode blends science, snark, and soul in classic TMAYM fashion. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Have any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

    1h 9m
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Tell Me About Your Mother is a podcast guided by a psychotherapist duo-- Evan Miller, LCMHC, LCAS and Melissa Martin, LCMHC. If you are a therapist, enjoy learning from experts, or curious as to how therapists conceptualize complex characters, this is your podcast. If you'd like to connect further, we are on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube and TikTok. You can also send us an email-- contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run. Our psychotherapy practice websites: Evan Miller— https://www.millercounseling.net/ Melissa Martin https://www.emdrtherapyworks.com/

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  • Creator
    Evan Miller and Melissa Martin
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    59
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Tell Me About Your Mother
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