Everything Sucks, Now What? A Merriment Method for a Messy World.

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Everything Sucks, Now What? is a podcast about living thoughtfully in a complicated world. Hosted by Mary England, creator of the Merriment Method, this show is for people who feel the weight of reality but still want to build something kinder inside it. Each episode explores how to hold two truths at once: grief and hope, rage and responsibility, realism and joy. Instead of pretending things are fine or collapsing into despair, we practice nuance. We name what’s broken. Then we ask what we can do about it. Through psychological insight, cultural analysis, and gently absurd real-life examples, Mary translates big systemic issues into personal, livable frameworks. You’ll hear conversations about care, power, relationships, burnout, joy, responsibility, and the systems shaping our daily lives. The goal is not perfection or positivity. The goal is clarity, agency, and shared responsibility in a messy world. This is where we move beyond black-and-white thinking and learn how to build strong circles inside imperfect systems. It’s practical, emotionally honest, and grounded in the belief that feeling good is not denial. It’s a collective condition we help create together. If you’ve ever thought, “Everything feels overwhelming, but I still want to live well and do good,” you’re in the right place. Everything Sucks, Now What? A Merriment Method for a Messy World.

  1. Can People Actually Change? (Why most “self-improvement” is actually self-erasure)

    May 5

    Can People Actually Change? (Why most “self-improvement” is actually self-erasure)

    Everyone wants to know if people can change. But that’s not actually the question. The real question is:am I stuck like this?…and if I am, whose fault is it? In this episode, we’re pulling that entire thread until the sweater unravels like a Weezer song. We’re talking about: 🩷 why personality is both stable and changeable (yes, both… stay with me)🩷 how trauma, shame, and environment edit you over time🩷 why a lot of what we call “growth” is actually just really cutely decorated armor🩷 the difference between becoming someone new and remembering who you were before the world got loud🩷 why wanting to change means absolutely nothing (scientifically, unfortunately)🩷 + what it actually takes to come back to yourself without romanticizing the processWe're not doing a "just be yourself" pep talk... This is more like a “you might have buried yourself alive and called it maturity” conversation. With love.... (+ receipts). Bonus pack to accompany the episode inside Strange + Functional.

    25 min
  2. Everything Is Fine… But It Feels Wrong: Clouds, Motherhood & High-Functioning Depression (With Kendall Concini-Moore)

    Apr 16

    Everything Is Fine… But It Feels Wrong: Clouds, Motherhood & High-Functioning Depression (With Kendall Concini-Moore)

    What happens when life looks good on the outside, but something still feels heavy... and you can't quite explain why? This week, I'm sitting down with Kendall, author, social worker, mom of two, and the creator of Cloudy Day Chronicles: a blog, Substack, and now a children's book built around one of the gentlest, most honest mental health metaphors I've ever encountered: the cloud that follows you. We met the way most great things happen; completely by accident, at Artscape, because a three-year-old lost her mind over a rainbow. And I've been grateful ever since. In this conversation, Kendall gets deeply real about what it actually feels like to live with high-functioning depression. The kind where you show up, hold it together, and still feel shaded even when you know the sun is there. We talk about postpartum depression, ADHD, disordered eating, autoimmune illness, body image, and what it means to build a shared language around feelings that are hard to name. We also dig into: 🌥️ Why Kendall's cloud metaphor started as a wave in therapy (and why she had to change it)🌥️ What "high-functioning depression" actually looks like from the inside🌥️ The people-pleasing spiral and how to show up for others without abandoning yourself🌥️ Why she wrote a children's book about a mom's mental health ; and what traditional publishers said about it🌥️ The Pay It Forward program she built around her book to reach families who need it most🌥️ What her daughter Alma taught her about clouds that no therapist ever didThis one made me cry. In the best way. 📖 Get the book & find all of Kendall Concini Moore's resources at cloudydaychronicles.org📸 Follow her everywhere @CloudyDayChronicles

    2h 7m
  3. Doomscrolling Is Making You Poor: 5 Ways You're Going Broke Without Touching Your Bank Account

    Mar 16

    Doomscrolling Is Making You Poor: 5 Ways You're Going Broke Without Touching Your Bank Account

    You're tracking your spending. You're watching your account. But there's another currency you're hemorrhaging every single day ... and nobody taught you how to budget it. Your attention. In this episode, we get into why doomscrolling isn't just a bad habit... it's actually making you poor. We talk about the real cost of cynicism, why money is just a personality amplifier (scary thought, right?), and the uncomfortable truth about why getting resourced is one of the most generous things you can do. Plus: the courtroom case for why money is not the root of all evil, where you're leaving potential on the table that has nothing to do with finances, and how to start spending your mental currency on purpose. Your attention compounds. The question is what you're growing with it. Bonus pack for Positive Pulse members includes a mental money audit, 3-day doomscroll reset challenge, and a rewiring script.

    27 min
  4. You Don't Actually Want Money - You Want What (You Think) It Buys

    Mar 12

    You Don't Actually Want Money - You Want What (You Think) It Buys

    You Don't Actually Want Money. (Sorry. Kind of.) Yeah, we're going there. This episode is going to annoy you a little .. fair warning. Because we're not talking about how to make more money. We're talking about why you even want it in the first place. And the answer is probably not what you think. Spoiler: it's not money. It's almost never actually money. We do a whole thought experiment about a stand-up comedian that will make you question every financial goal you've ever had. We talk about why entrepreneurs lie to themselves (lovingly). We drag the "do what you love" quote out back and examine it in broad daylight. And we get into the deeply uncomfortable truth that some of your money beliefs were handed to you by a parent, a commercial, or some guy's dad .. and you've just been carrying them around ever since like they're facts. We cover: What you actually want when you say you want money (hint: it's on a list and it includes "revenge")Why making your passion pay you can slowly ruin itThe difference between wanting money and wanting choice (not the same!!)How to stop outsourcing your worth to your salaryRewiring the money stories that were never even yours to begin withThis one's part therapy, part philosophy, part "wait have I just been chasing a symbol this whole time??" The answer might be yes. But the substance? Closer than you think. Next time we're talking about The Financial Thermostat a.k.a. why you sabotage yourself right when things start going well. Fun stuff!!

    26 min
  5. Conscious Luck: 8 Ways to Become a Very Lucky Person (On Purpose)

    Mar 9

    Conscious Luck: 8 Ways to Become a Very Lucky Person (On Purpose)

    Are some people just lucky... or are they paying attention in ways the rest of us aren't? I've been thinking about this for a while ... and I noticed something. The "lucky" people in my life aren't just stumbling into good things. They're doing something different. I call it conscious luck. In this one, I break down 8 ways to actually become a lucky person. Not through "wishful thinking", but through attention, behavior, and a willingness to get out of your own way. (Also featuring a suspicious number of raffle wins.) You'll walk away thinking differently about gratitude, bold action, self-sabotage, and what it even means to "catch a break." If that sounds like your kind of rabbit hole ... come on in.

    30 min

  6. Feb 25

    If I Created This, I Can Destroy It: 4 Ways to Feel Empowered Without Denying Your Trauma

    Radical responsibility is often explained in a way that sounds like blame. Like every painful thing that has ever happened to you must somehow be your fault in order for you to reclaim your power. That interpretation does not feel safe. And for many of us, it does not feel true. In this episode, we untangle that misunderstanding and offer a more compassionate, agency-centered perspective. One that allows you to acknowledge real harm, trauma, and unfairness while still reclaiming your ability to shape what happens next. We explore: • Why radical responsibility is about agency, not blame • How to hold “this hurt me” and “I still have power” at the same time • What it actually means to be “delusional on purpose” when shifting beliefs • How aligning your actions with your desired identity reduces inner conflict • A more nuanced version of gratitude that allows you to want more without guilt • Why focusing your impact on one lane creates deeper change in the world If you have ever rejected personal development language because it felt invalidating to your lived experiences, this episode offers a reframing that honors both truth and growth. You were not responsible for the crash. But you still get to decide what happens after. Inside Positive Pulse, you’ll find companion affirmations, prompts, and integration practices to help you reclaim agency without denying your trauma. And reminder that the price is increasing on March 1st, so lock in the 89 cents now! Uncustomary.org/PP You have to feel good to do good.

    17 min

  7. Feb 19

    Did I Just Find the Exit From Patriarchy?! What Women Can Do to Dismantle Patriarchy Without Starting a Gender War

    A furious essay kicked off this episode. It was moving, blistering, and full of big claims about patriarchy, biology, “the secondary sex,” and how fast humans have managed to speedrun catastrophe once domination became the operating system. So I’m doing something specific here. I’m honoring the rage. I’m keeping what’s accurate and important. And I’m gently but firmly correcting what’s exaggerated or scientifically shaky, because if we want real cultural change, precision is power. In this long-form episode, I introduce a simple framework that changes how you hear the whole conversation: Patriarchy is a ladder. Matriarchal logic is a circle. Not men vs women. Not flipping the hierarchy and calling it healing. Systems. Architecture. Power flow. Care. Accountability. We walk through: what the essay gets right (and why that matters) where it overreaches (and how to critique without gender essentialism) how patriarchy actually emerged historically (surplus, inheritance, early states, organized violence) what matrilineal and matrifocal societies really look like why Nordic countries often feel “more circle” inside modern institutions the micro level: how to build circles in your home, friendships, and community the macro level: what to advocate for in the U.S. if you want care-centered outcomes language that builds bridges instead of creating more division what men can unlearn, what women can unlearn, and what a realistic hybrid system looks like This is Merriment Making work because merriment isn’t fluff. Joy is a systems outcome. Nervous systems don’t open under domination. They open under care. Bonuses in Positive Pulse: I dropped a companion bundle inside Positive Pulse to help you integrate the episode, including reflection questions, a “One Circle” 7-day micro challenge, language upgrades (copy/paste phrases), key takeaways, Merriment Maker affirmations, and shareable pull quotes. Uncustomary.org/PP You have to feel good to do good.

    1h 1m

  8. Feb 4

    If You’re About to Give Up on Your Goals, Try These 9 Things First

    By February, most people assume they’ve already failed their goals. The routines didn’t stick. The motivation dipped. January didn’t turn them into a new person. In this episode, I want to slow that story down. Instead of asking why you’re “falling behind,” we talk about how goals actually integrate into real lives. Gradually. Imperfectly. In layers. I share: why January isn’t a deadline, it’s a warm-up how to stop expecting overnight change what “showing up” actually counts as why doing half of your routine is not failure how to stack habits into containers that already exist how to use what you skip as information instead of evidence against you why big goals need tiny, daily anchors how seasonal focus makes long-term change sustainable how to give yourself more than one “new me” moment per year This is an episode for anyone who made a long list of goals, meant well, and then felt overwhelmed by how fast everything was supposed to happen. You’re not late. You’re building capacity. If January didn’t go the way you imagined, nothing is wrong. This episode is here to help you keep going… without burning out. You have to feel good to do good. 💛   Free Companion Bonuses inside Positive Pulse To support this episode, I’ve added a set of ready-to-use bonuses inside Positive Pulse, my gentle support space for orientation, momentum, and real-life integration. Inside, you’ll find: recap guidelines you can return to when goals feel heavy seasonal and monthly check-in ideas affirmations and quotes to interrupt goal shame journaling prompts for clarity and self-trust a gentle 7-day “keep going” challenge temporal marker ideas beyond New Year’s and a simple overview of the Merriment Method, adapted for goals Positive Pulse is free to join for the first week, and then just 89 cents to stay. No pressure. No perfection required. You can join anytime and explore what’s helpful at positive-pulse.mn.co   If January didn’t go the way you imagined, nothing is wrong. This episode is here to help you keep going… without burning out. You have to feel good to do good. 💛

    21 min
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Everything Sucks, Now What? is a podcast about living thoughtfully in a complicated world. Hosted by Mary England, creator of the Merriment Method, this show is for people who feel the weight of reality but still want to build something kinder inside it. Each episode explores how to hold two truths at once: grief and hope, rage and responsibility, realism and joy. Instead of pretending things are fine or collapsing into despair, we practice nuance. We name what’s broken. Then we ask what we can do about it. Through psychological insight, cultural analysis, and gently absurd real-life examples, Mary translates big systemic issues into personal, livable frameworks. You’ll hear conversations about care, power, relationships, burnout, joy, responsibility, and the systems shaping our daily lives. The goal is not perfection or positivity. The goal is clarity, agency, and shared responsibility in a messy world. This is where we move beyond black-and-white thinking and learn how to build strong circles inside imperfect systems. It’s practical, emotionally honest, and grounded in the belief that feeling good is not denial. It’s a collective condition we help create together. If you’ve ever thought, “Everything feels overwhelming, but I still want to live well and do good,” you’re in the right place. Everything Sucks, Now What? A Merriment Method for a Messy World.

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