Council of Fathers

Dave Bonaiuto and Noah Goldstein
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The Council of Fathers podcast is here to support parents in navigating the challenges of parenting and fatherhood and family dynamics from a place of compassion and care. We’re offering down-to-earth insights and real-life tools for shifting our lives in the direction of more heart-centered living. We hope to share meaningful stories and inspiring examples of connective parenting without creating impossible to live up to standards or expectations. Fatherhood requires Brotherhood and we intend for this Podcast to help spark more community and connection amongst fathers as well. Learn more at www.counciloffathers.com

  1. Fathering from the Heart: Debriefing the First Cohort

    May 12

    Fathering from the Heart: Debriefing the First Cohort

    We just finished our first full cohort of Fathering from the Heart, and we couldn't let that pass without sitting down to talk about what actually happened — what the dads said, what moved them, and what we're taking with us into the next round. In this episode, Noah and Dave reflect on: What made this cohort different — over 30 dads across five groups (some online, some meeting in person in Boulder, Denver, and Paonia), all working through the 12-module program together The hunger that surprised us — not just for connection, but for intentional connection; the kind that doesn't leave you feeling empty afterward The warrior archetype reframed — willingness to feel pain in service of a greater cause, and why that's exactly what's needed right now Discipline as devotion — why showing up weekly, even when you don't want to, is one of the most fathering things a man can do The magic of ritual — what happens in a container that's been set with intention, and why that's more counter-cultural than it sounds in an age of AI and infinite scroll Redefining the role — moving from default autopilot (or TV archetypes) to consciously choosing the kind of father you actually want to be Fathering ancestrally vs. traditionally — finding the gold that's been buried, and surfacing the blueprint for wholeness that lives in our lineage We also talk about what's coming: Cohort 2 launches September 17th. If you've been feeling the pull, it's not too early to start thinking about who in your life might be ready to do this with you. Get on the waitlist: programs.counciloffathers.com Subscribe to our newsletter (website or Substack) for info on summer live workshops Say hello: connect@counciloffathers.com

    38 min

  2. 11/14/2025

    Raising Empowered, Not Entitled, Kids

    opics Covered: The Core Tension (00:05:00 - 00:12:00) Finding the sweet spot between empowerment and entitlement Two extremes to avoid: kids running the show vs. overly obedient/disempowered children The spectrum from "too much responsibility" (scary lack of boundaries) to "no autonomy" (outsourcing will) Parenting styles: overly directive vs. overly following, with "guiding" as the middle path Modeling assertiveness vs. aggression or passivity Building Critical Thinking Skills (00:12:00 - 00:19:00) Preparing children for nefarious influences in the world Providing foundation of principles vs. controlling exposure The importance of open communication channels Creating safe space for mistakes and "failing forward" Avoiding vilification of different beliefs/influences Relationship as Foundation (00:19:00 - 00:27:00) Keeping the "bank account full" through positive connection Fun, play, and genuine quality time Modeling vulnerability and transparency Proactive conversations about social dynamics Sharing your own struggles and repair processes John Gottman's "positive sentiment override" Essential Skills for Empowerment (00:27:00 - 00:35:00) Working with difficult emotions Cultivating curiosity as an engaged posture Skepticism vs. cynicism - maintaining openness while questioning The trap of "anti-gullibility" (thinking you're immune to manipulation) Acknowledging our human desire to be seduced/led The challenge of "reading the label from inside the jar" Practical Wisdom (00:35:00 - 00:41:00) Balancing self-esteem with humility Seeking external reference points without giving away your truth Dave's example of Rafi being vulnerable about needing support Self-compassion as strength, not avoidance of accountability

    42 min
  3. What It’s Like to Be a Man: Breaking the Isolation of Modern Fatherhood

    10/13/2025

    What It’s Like to Be a Man: Breaking the Isolation of Modern Fatherhood

    Topics Covered: Upcoming Council of Fathers offerings (8-week cohort, online workshop, and January program launch) The James Hollis quote on the three losses men experience Why male friendship and emotional intimacy are vital for wholeness The cost of being disconnected from one’s inner voice How cultural definitions of success can hollow out a man’s soul The antidote: connection, community, and sacred fatherhood Mentioned in This Episode: Under Saturn’s Shadow by James Hollis Iron John by Robert Bly Council of Fathers offerings and upcoming events: counciloffathers.com Register for the upcoming workshop, Sacred Fatherhood: Healing Triggers, Breaking Cycles → programs.counciloffathers.com

    44 min
  4. Empowered Parenting

    11/25/2024

    Empowered Parenting

    Journal Prompts: And so you can sit down and think about a time that you felt disempowered and you can think about and feel into what that felt like and what was happening in that situation. You can think of a time when you felt empowered and powerful and what, what did that feel like and what was happening in that situation. And then you can also think of a time you shifted from feeling disempowered to feeling empowered and reflect on how that happened, what you did, what was done, what, you know, what, just what happened. And last, , how do you want to be as a dad in relation to power? What do you want to teach your children or child about power? Implicitly through modeling practices that you engage with in your family, and explicitly through age appropriate Conversations. And then I'll leave you guys with a little exercise, which is to find what What being empowered feels like in your body? Where do you feel it? In your chest? In your heart? In your arms? In your belly? In your head? In your legs? What does it feel like? Is it bright? Is it heavy? Is it dense? Is there somewhere where it's emanating from? And find that feeling and, and practice it and remember it and learn it and come back to it two, three, four times a day. Just take a minute. Take a deep breath and just like, feel it. And then notice, does doing that before I pick up my kids from school or before I leave my room in the morning to start the whole breakfast, lunch, dinner, , just getting to school on time routine. Does that change anything about that? Does it change anything when I get home from work and, , kind of enter into the chaos of dinner or whatnot? Just noticing, just touching into my sense of empowerment. How does that impact my day and my family and my partnership?

    57 min
  5. Making Fatherhood Sacred (Ep 17)

    10/25/2024

    Making Fatherhood Sacred (Ep 17)

    In this episode, we dive into something profound yet often unspoken—the journey of fathers connecting not only with each other but with something deeper, something sacred. Here Noah shares his perspective on creating a space for dads to explore connection beyond the everyday—a sacred space, if you will. Together, Noah and Dave unpack what it means to bring a sense of purpose and spirit into fatherhood, an idea that feels both challenging and refreshing in today’s fast-paced world. Noah talks about making the invisible visible, being intentional about the values that anchor his life, and how creating sacred moments can resonate within family life and community. From lighting a candle before a family meal to cultivating deeper connections in a circle of dads, this conversation invites you to consider ways of introducing both playfulness and purpose into the rhythms of family and fatherhood. If you’ve ever felt like there’s more to fatherhood than what we see on the surface, or if you’re curious about ways to elevate and ground your connections, this episode is for you.

    43 min

  6. 09/27/2024

    Making Fatherhood Meaningful

    In this episode, Noah and Dave dive into the topic of finding meaning in fatherhood. They explore how fatherhood can be more than just fulfilling day-to-day responsibilities and what it means to truly embrace the role. They discuss the challenges fathers face, the importance of being present, and how fathers can grow through the experience. It’s a deep conversation that encourages fathers to reflect on their journey, prioritize meaningful connections with their children, and find purpose in every step of the way.

    35 min
  7. Connection-Based Parenting with Jenny Sandler

    03/22/2024

    Connection-Based Parenting with Jenny Sandler

    Get all the information and the transcript at www.counciloffathers.com In this candid episode we talk with Jenny Sandler, a Parent and Support Counselor and Coach, about parenting, communication, development in children, and how we grow and change as parents over the years. Learn more at wwwww.counciloffathers.com We talk about: Exploring the relationship with anger and how it manifests in parenthood Normalizing and welcoming anger as a feeling The importance of repair in relationships and using anger as teaching moments The demonization of anger and the ambiguity surrounding its expression The value of community in parenting and the role of extended family and friends Embracing different developmental stages of children and appreciating the joys and challenges of each age The significance of understanding and connecting with children on a personal level The evolving knowledge and resources available for parents compared to previous generations The loneliness and confusion that can come with being a new parent The ongoing learning and growth process in parenting and relationships

    45 min
  8. Fathering from the Shadows

    11/13/2023

    Fathering from the Shadows

    In this Episode, Dave and Noah explore our psychological shadows and unpack how our unconscious minds drive our feelings and behaviors in ways that can impede connection. They share personal examples of how the shadow impacts them. They also discuss possible interventions to uncover the shadows in order to become better partners and parents. Dave and Noah also offer insights into how we can limit how much repression happens for our children so they can express as there true and authentic selves from an earlier age.

    50 min
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The Council of Fathers podcast is here to support parents in navigating the challenges of parenting and fatherhood and family dynamics from a place of compassion and care. We’re offering down-to-earth insights and real-life tools for shifting our lives in the direction of more heart-centered living. We hope to share meaningful stories and inspiring examples of connective parenting without creating impossible to live up to standards or expectations. Fatherhood requires Brotherhood and we intend for this Podcast to help spark more community and connection amongst fathers as well. Learn more at www.counciloffathers.com

Information

  • Creator
    Dave Bonaiuto and Noah Goldstein
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Council of Fathers 2021
  • Show Website
    Council of Fathers

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