The Conscious Couples Podcast

Alan Lazaros and Emilia Smith

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your host Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this podcast, we share our life, love story & combined relationship expertise to help you create & consistently cultivate the most magnificent intimate relationship possible. Never again will you feel hopeless and alone in facing your intimate relationship challenges. Having accumulated thousands of hours coaching conscious couples & individuals all over the world, as well as starting & growing a global business together, we are here to guide you on all things relationships. Thank you again for tuning into the one place where it’s not about you, or me, it’s about The We!

  1. 3d ago

    How Deep Is Your Relationship? (240)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #63 on Wednesday, September 16th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "The 7 Fundamental Pillars of Love" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/us1WEEEnQFWiwwLyQdloQQ#/registration 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ What if the distance in your relationship is not caused by conflict, but by how little you truly know each other? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan introduce the Emotional Safety Ladder, a practical framework for conscious couples and singles who want deeper connection, healthier communication, and lasting relationship trust. They share the six levels of connection, from everyday preferences to emotions, fears, values, dreams, and life purpose. You will hear why vulnerability can feel risky, how past hurt can keep people guarded, and why emotional safety is built slowly through honest, caring conversations. Whether you are dating, married, or strengthening your relationship with yourself, this episode can help you move beyond surface-level talk and create more closeness. Start one real conversation today. Small talk has had a long enough career. Show notes: (1:41) Why relationship depth matters (3:21) Everyone wants to feel known (8:44) Emotional safety grows slowly (9:46) Six levels of relationship depth (10:47) Feelings, fears, and core self (15:01) Vulnerability helps relationships grow (20:30) Willingness makes deeper connection possible (22:32) Assess your relationship depth together (24:40) Outro Digital Asset: The Depth of Connection - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1NMDSeUP7DUZIk0ANb5csXbll3wS_mCpF/view Related Episode: What Level of Truth Can Your Partner Handle? (238) - https://youtu.be/xHyGb3Dx6CA The We Dictionary: Relational Safety - The foundation for "Lasting connection" and "Trust," essential for navigating "Conflict repair" and fostering deep intimacy. ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  2. Sep 7

    How Your Career Choices Impact Your Relationship (239)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #63 on Wednesday, September 16th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "The 7 Fundamental Pillars of Love" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/us1WEEEnQFWiwwLyQdloQQ#/registration 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ Your work goals shape more than your future. They shape your relationship too. In this episode, Emilia and Alan discuss how career choices can affect your time, money, family plans, confidence, and long-term relationship goals. Whether you are building a career, considering a new job, thinking about staying home with children, or still finding your path, this conversation offers a thoughtful way to look at the choices ahead. You will hear why couples need honest conversations before making major work and family decisions, how shared ambition can create more choices, and why a job, career, and calling can each shape your life differently. This episode is for conscious couples and singles who want to grow together with more clarity and purpose. Press play, then build the future your relationship deserves. Show notes: (1:01) How career choices affect relationships (3:59) Weighing work and family choices (7:31) Slowing down big life decisions (8:26) Knowing a job, career, or calling (13:04) How your partner’s career affects you (17:15) Career goals shape your family legacy (19:09) What you build builds you (24:04) Outro ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  3. Aug 31

    What Level of Truth Can Your Partner Handle? (238)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #63 on Wednesday, September 16th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "The 7 Fundamental Pillars of Love" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/us1WEEEnQFWiwwLyQdloQQ#/registration 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros speak to the power of honest communication in conscious relationships. They discuss why some truths feel easy to share while others can change the direction of a relationship, and how couples can tell the difference before a hard conversation goes wrong. Emilia and Alan introduce a simple way to think about the weight of truth, from small concerns to major decisions about the future. They also share why timing, emotional safety, and asking for permission can make difficult conversations feel less threatening. For couples and singles alike, this episode offers a grounded look at building trust, expressing your real thoughts, and growing closer without walking on eggshells. Show notes: (2:07) Pebbles, rocks, and boulders of truth (6:07) Why truths feel heavier for partners (8:20) Handle big truths with care (12:17) Every decision creates a ripple effect (16:42) Ask permission before sharing a truth (18:18) Truth helps couples grow together (22:37) Outro Digital Asset: We Truth Expression - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CXpODlOkwcVGawFt_yXCzsbIVBD7DUJy/view?usp=drive_link ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  4. Aug 25

    Are You & Your Partner Living a "HELL YES" Life? (237)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #63 on Wednesday, September 16th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "The 7 Fundamental Pillars of Love" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/us1WEEEnQFWiwwLyQdloQQ#/registration 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ What if the life you want is on the other side of the things you keep agreeing to? In this episode, Emilia and Alan share why conscious couples and singles can feel pulled in too many directions and how stronger boundaries can create more room for love, peace, and a relationship that feels more like your own. They talk about the clutter that quietly fills our lives, including social plans, emotional drama, physical stuff, and endless digital noise. You’ll hear why saying no can feel uncomfortable, how to pause before agreeing, and how to tell the difference between a hard choice that supports your growth and one that simply drains you. Press play before your calendar starts making decisions for you. Show notes: (1:39) What a "hell yes" life means (3:03) Curate what enters your shared life (5:06) Everything that matters, nothing that doesn’t (7:46) Why saying no feels so hard (12:04) Childhood conditioning and fear of responsibility (16:36) Four types of relationship clutter (18:01) Protect what enters your mind (20:10) Pause before responding to invitations (24:39) Outro The We Dictionary: Experience Review - A specific framework or process used within the podcast for examining past events or relationship dynamics. ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  5. Aug 17

    Are You And Your Partner More Active Or Sedentary? (236)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A Fitness is forever, it's a lifestyle. Get jacked and join the Next Level Fitness Accountability Group. This group is invite-only. Please reach out to Alan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alazaros88/ 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ Your lifestyle shapes your relationship. In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan talk about how active and sedentary habits can affect your energy, connection, mindset, and future as a couple. They share why partners often mirror each other’s routines and how too much sitting, stress, and low energy can quietly pull a relationship off track. You’ll hear simple ways to build more movement into everyday life, create meaningful time together outside, and make healthier choices without trying to change everything at once. Whether you are in a relationship or building habits as a single person, this episode offers a clear reminder that small actions can create lasting change. Make your next step one you take together. Show notes: (2:13) Active or sedentary relationship? (5:20) How shared habits shape health (8:03) Exercise supports mood and self-respect (10:28) Small movement creates meaningful change (12:21) Walks build connection and conversation (17:23) Audit habits with your partner (19:23) Start small and stay consistent (23:42) Outro Watch this episode on YouTube to see the WALL-E images/clips: https://youtu.be/Y80FUycWizQ ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  6. Aug 10

    What is Your Partner's Willingness Score? (235)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down the willingness score and why it can shape the future of your relationship. When one partner wants more than they are willing to work for, it can create stress, resentment, and conflict around love, money, goals, and daily responsibilities. Emilia and Alan explain the difference between healthy ambition and entitlement, how social media can raise unrealistic expectations, and why shared dreams require shared effort. They also reveal key signs of high and low willingness, helping conscious couples and singles take a more honest look at their habits, mindset, and ability to grow together. Show notes: (2:00) What your partner’s willingness score means (3:03) The three levels of willingness (7:41) Taking steps back to move forward (11:37) Wanting outcomes versus doing the work (14:03) How mismatched willingness affects couples (16:37) Social media raises unrealistic expectations (18:22) Clear signs of high willingness (21:24) Red flags for low willingness (23:17) Outro ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  7. Aug 3

    Which Partner is More Impulsive? (234)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ Could one quick choice quietly hurt your relationship? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how impulsive habits around spending, food, social media, and everyday choices can create stress, debt, and distance between partners. They explain why delayed gratification matters for trust, money, health, and the future you are building together. You will hear how to spot your personal “kryptonite,” talk about impulse control without blame, and create more teamwork around the choices that affect both people. This conversation is for conscious couples and singles who want stronger habits, clearer boundaries, and a relationship that supports their biggest goals. Before your next impulse gets same-day shipping, hit play and give your future relationship a vote. Show notes: (1:55) Which partner is more impulsive? (3:54) Why adults must delay gratification (8:40) Quick wants Vs. Wise choices (14:17) Talk together before major purchases (18:25) Create a safe space to talk (23:17) Find your impulse triggers together (27:43) Outro Digital Asset: The Marshmallow Test Audiobook - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ZllpyD3XDBnc_SzGTKznLjlJ3OrIFtPl/view The We Dictionary: Raise Your Standards - A call to action within the conscious couples community to choose "clarity over comfort" and stop repeating the same cycles.Relational Safety - The foundation for "Lasting connection" and "Trust," essential for navigating "Conflict repair" and fostering deep intimacy.Emotional Maturity - A key component for a "Partnership built to last," emphasizing honest reflection, responsibility, and the ability to engage in adult relationships.Honest Reflection - A practice integral to emotional maturity and honest awareness, crucial for identifying "Limiting beliefs" and facilitating personal and relational growth. ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  8. Jul 27

    Is There a Self-Worth Gap in Your Relationship? (233)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Session: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ What you tolerate reflects your self-worth. In this episode, Emilia and Alan talk about how a self-worth gap can affect the standards you keep, the red flags you may overlook, and the needs that can feel hard to say out loud. For conscious couples and singles, this conversation connects self-respect with healthy boundaries, honest communication, and learning to trust your own inner voice. They also break down the difference between self-worth that comes from within and validation that depends on other people’s approval, success, or appearance. A healthier relationship often begins with the way you treat yourself when no one else is watching. Choose one truth you have been avoiding and give it a voice today. Show notes: (2:18) Self-worth gap in your relationship (5:10) Ignoring red flags and your intuition (7:07) Intrinsic Vs. Extrinsic self-worth explained (11:43) Daily ways to build self-respect (13:20) Self-advocacy gives self-worth a voice (16:20) How to assess your self-worth (24:54) Self-worth gaps that show in relationships (30:30) Outro ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your host Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this podcast, we share our life, love story & combined relationship expertise to help you create & consistently cultivate the most magnificent intimate relationship possible. Never again will you feel hopeless and alone in facing your intimate relationship challenges. Having accumulated thousands of hours coaching conscious couples & individuals all over the world, as well as starting & growing a global business together, we are here to guide you on all things relationships. Thank you again for tuning into the one place where it’s not about you, or me, it’s about The We!