The Skinne Bekke Podcast

Nabeelah Khan, Shaheena Links
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💩 kak praat 💗 dating and relationships 🙌🏽 brown girl magic 🤬 lots of swears If you are winging your entire f*****g life- that's okay. Because, same! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. May 26

    🎙️Season 4: Episode 6: “The Audacity to Want More!”

    We're back at it and soema making up words as we go along — “ingratitude” 😭😂 but you know what we mean mos, right? Also it’s actually a word.Classic Skinne Bekke behaviour:half therapy session 🛋️half chaos 🫠full honesty always 🤍This episode is for anyone who has ever felt guilty for wanting more.More rest 😮‍💨More joy 🌸More ease 🕊️More alignment ✨More from life 🌊Somewhere along the way, many of us learnt that wanting more meant we were:“ungrateful”“difficult”“entitled”or simply… “too much” 🥲But gratitude and desire can exist together 🤍You can appreciate where you are and still know:“This isn’t enough for me anymore.”A little laughter, a little dragging ourselves, a little healing 😭🎙️

    49 min

  2. Apr 7

    🎙️Season 4: Episode 5: “Healing isn’t softening yourself for others.”

    Healing isn’t softening yourself for others. It’s returning to yourself. 🌿 It’s choosing discomfort over self-betrayal. It’s saying no — even when your voice shakes. It’s being kind, but no longer available for everything. 🚪 Integrity is quiet. Boundaries are firm. And truth… isn’t always polite. ⚖️ Sit with us as we reflect, laugh (mostly at ourselves), and learn how to navigate the messy, uncomfortable, and necessary terrain of choosing yourself.

    46 min

  3. Mar 30

    🎙️Season 4: Episode 4: “Be a dala rot for yourself!”

    Discipline isn’t punishment… but why does it sometimes feel like you’re in the tronk? 😭🚔 So here’s a little reminder — for you and us 🫶🏽: It’s not about being “better” ❌ It’s about actually showing up for yourself… consistently 🎯 Trusting yourself 🤝 Keeping small promises to yourself 💬 Building habits that don’t feel like a personality overhaul overnight 😮‍💨🌱 Because honestly— why is our first instinct always: “why can’t I just be better?” 😭 Instead of: “What would make this easier to come back to?” 👀💭 Safe discipline looks like: gentle routines 🌿 familiar rhythms 🔁 doing the bare minimum… but doing it again 🔄✨ Every time you show up for yourself, you build credibility with yourself 📈 Like… you start believing your own chat again 😭😂 Evidence that you matter to yourself 🧡 A quiet form of self-love (even if it’s a bit ghetto some days 😭🤭) So be a dala rot for yourself 🐀🧡 Soft… but you don’t fold 😌💪🏽 Anyway — we’re back 🎙️✨ Same us. Better habits (we’re trying 😭🤞🏽)

    45 min
  4. 🎙️Season 4: Episode 3: “Oops! I'm triggered again!”

    Feb 11

    🎙️Season 4: Episode 3: “Oops! I'm triggered again!”

    “Being activated doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something needs your attention.” 🔊👂🏽 In this episode, we unpack one of the biggest healing myths: that being triggered means you’re going backwards. It doesn’t. Healing isn’t about becoming unbothered — it’s about learning how to return to yourself without shame. 🏠❤️‍🩹 Look, getting triggered does not mean you’re slip sliding back into old, harmful ways. 🛝 It doesn’t mean that you are failing at life as a person. You are still allowed to feel a full spectrum of emotions like jealousy, fear and guilt. 🎭This episode reframes healing as regulation, repair, and self-trust — not perfection. A secure relationship isn’t one without triggers; it’s one where rupture can be followed by repair, communication, and safety. 👷🏽‍♀️🏗️ We want you to have a regulated nervous system - but like, what does that even mean? Don’t worry. We got you covered. Shaheena shares lekker breathing exercises and mantras to help you get started. 💆🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️ You are not broken because you felt something deeply.You are healing because you noticed it — and chose safety instead of shame. 🌱🌻 Triggered doesn’t mean damaged. It means you’re learning a new way to come home to yourself.

    51 min

  5. Feb 5

    🎙️Season 4: Episode 2: “Boundaries are my personality now.”

    Hey Skinnebekkies! The weekend is almost here 😝 And if you’re anything like us, you need something to get you over the finish line. So we’re choosing softness this week.  In this episode, we unpack what a real soft life actually looks like. Everyone wants a soft life… Until it requires a hard conversation. 🗣️🥊💬 Soft life isn’t face masks and bath bombs, it’s truth bombs. 💆🏽‍♀️🛀🏽🧼 It has nothing to do with aesthetics, filters, or disappearing to keep the peace. 🪷☮️ Softness isn’t passive. It’s honest, regulated, and protected by boundaries. 😌🧘🏽‍♀️ We talk about: Why rest without guilt is revolutionary How boundaries are the work behind peace Saying no without a backstory, apology, or emotional cushioning The difference between peacekeeping and actual peace Why feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong How firmness with others allows softness with yourself If you’ve ever: Explained yourself into exhaustion Said yes while resenting it Confused people-pleasing with kindness Wanted peace but felt scared to enforce it This episode is for you. So go make a cup of coffee or tea, sit down, and lock in. ☕🍵 It’s all about no, no, no, no, no and not, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah! 🎵🎶

    57 min
  6. 🎙️Season 4: Episode 1: “Back to Factory Settings”

    Jan 29

    🎙️Season 4: Episode 1: “Back to Factory Settings”

    Season Four is HERE 🖤🌱We’re back, babes. New season. New look. Is it cute? This episode, we're defaulting back to our factory settings, like for your phone, except not, it's for you, and we are asking who we were before all the trauma? Who are you without survival mode?Without labels?Without other people’s expectations? Because softness doesn’t mean avoiding hard truths.Sometimes healing hurts before it heals.Sometimes growth is klom cringe.Sometimes it’s laughing through the discomfort. And yes — it is okay to care what people think of you.Stop lying to yourself if you’re pretending it’s not. This episode is honest.It’s tender.It’s funny.It’s uncomfortable in the way that leads to freedom. Eeeeeeeeeeeek. Sound good?Okay lekker 😌💫

    1h 8m

  7. 12/20/2025

    🎙️Season 3: Episode 7: The Self We Post vs the Self We Live

    🤔 Who are you when no one’s watching? 📸 And who are you when everyone is? We talk about the gap between who we are and who we post. Why we only see the highlights. Why validation isn’t wrong — but pretending might be. Oversharing. Lying. Parasocial relationships. And the quiet pressure of living life according to social media timelines. This episode dives into the real self vs the online persona — validation, oversharing, curated lives, and the quiet pressure to live life by the feed. Messy. Honest. Necessary. 💥 Aagh you know where the links are bestie x

    50 min

  8. 12/12/2025

    🎙️Season 3: Episode 6: Boundaries vs Barriers - A coloured myth?

    Two VERY different things, but ag… life will mos teach you until you learn properly. We spoke about naming your boundaries, setting them, and actually keeping them — even when it feels kak uncomfortable 😅. Early detection is ALWAYS easier… for you and for the guilty parties 😂. Family, friends, romantic partners — nobody is exempt. Boundaries aren’t disrespect 🙅🏽‍♀️ They’re clarity. They’re care. They’re the difference between connection and full-blown chaos 💥. And babes — watch for the vibes, but not whole time whole time 👀😂. LISTEN instead. That’s the important part. Because as usual… the technical grinch got us 😒😂 Don’t vesuip in the boundaries. Hold them with softness, but HOLD THEM.

    44 min
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💩 kak praat 💗 dating and relationships 🙌🏽 brown girl magic 🤬 lots of swears If you are winging your entire f*****g life- that's okay. Because, same! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Nabeelah Khan, Shaheena Links
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Nabeelah Khan, Shaheena Links
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    The Skinne Bekke Podcast