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  1. 2d ago

    Share. A Piece: What Are Spiritual Gifts Actually For?

    I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about spiritual gifts. Partly because we’re beginning to explore them in my 2:42 discipleship group, and partly because I think a lot of us have been taught to approach spiritual gifts by immediately asking one question: What’s mine? What is my gift? Am I a teacher?An encourager?A leader?Do I have mercy? Faith? Discernment? Administration? And listen, I think discovering how God has uniquely gifted you matters. I think there is something beautiful about becoming more aware of how the Holy Spirit works through you. But the more I sit with the major New Testament passages about spiritual gifts, the more I wonder if we sometimes start with the wrong question. Maybe the first question isn’t: What gift did God give me? Maybe it’s: What did God give spiritual gifts for? Because when you read Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12, and Ephesians 4, something becomes pretty clear. God gives different gifts to different people. Nobody gets everything. Nobody is unnecessary. And what God gives you was never intended to stop with you. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 12 that: “To each is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good.” That phrase has been sitting with me. For the common good. Not merely for personal fulfillment. Not so I can build an identity around being “the prophetic one” or “the teacher” or “the leader.” Not so I can rank my gift against yours. Not even primarily so I can understand myself better. God gives something to me that He intends to do something through me. That changes the conversation. Your Gift Is Not Just About You There’s a subtle temptation in conversations about spiritual gifts to turn them into a Christian personality test. Tell me who I am. And again, self-awareness can be good. But Scripture seems much more interested in telling us how we belong to one another. Paul uses the picture of a body in 1 Corinthians 12. A body has different parts with different functions. An eye does something a hand cannot do. A foot contributes something an ear cannot contribute. The differences aren’t a problem to solve. The differences are the design. Imagine if every part of your physical body suddenly decided it wanted the same job. That wouldn’t be unity. That would be dysfunction. In the same way, the Church doesn’t become healthy when everybody discovers how to do the exact same thing. It becomes healthy when different people faithfully offer what God has entrusted to them. Romans 12 says: “Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them.” I love how practical that is. You have been given something. It may be different from what somebody else has been given. Use it. Somebody Else May Need What God Put in You Here’s the thought I can’t shake: A spiritual gift is not primarily evidence that you are special. It is evidence that somebody else needs what God placed in you. Maybe someone needs encouragement. Maybe someone needs wisdom. Maybe a room needs leadership. Maybe someone is hurting and needs mercy. Maybe something chaotic needs administration. Maybe somebody’s faith is weak and God uses your faith to help them believe again. Maybe a truth needs to be taught clearly. Maybe somebody needs to be served quietly without anyone ever knowing your name. The gift may be yours. But the benefit often belongs to somebody else. That means spiritual gifts aren’t simply about discovering our individual identity. They are about discovering our responsibility to one another. The Gifts Build Something Ephesians 4 gives us another important clue. Paul describes Christ giving different kinds of leaders and ministers to the Church for the purpose of: “equipping the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ.” There it is again. Building up. The goal isn’t simply that gifted people exercise their gifts. The goal is that people become stronger. More mature. More equipped. More unified. More like Christ. That gives us a pretty good way to evaluate our understanding of spiritual gifts. If my gift only makes me feel significant, but consistently leaves everybody else smaller, dependent on me, impressed by me, or invisible beside me… I might need to reconsider how I’m using it. Because gifts from the Spirit should ultimately contribute to the health of the Body. Maybe Community Helps Us Discover Our Gifts This is also why I’m increasingly convinced that spiritual gifts are difficult to fully understand in isolation. There are assessments we can take. Books we can read. Lists we can study. And those things can be useful. But sometimes the people around you can recognize what God repeatedly does through you before you have language for it yourself. They are the ones who say: “When you explain Scripture, I finally understand it.” “You always seem to know when somebody is hurting.” “When everybody else panics, your faith settles the room.” “You bring order to things that feel impossible.” “You make people feel seen.” “You challenge me in exactly the way I need.” Maybe part of discovering your spiritual gifts is paying attention to the places where God consistently seems to bless other people through your presence. Not because every strength is necessarily a spiritual gift. And not because every compliment is divine confirmation. But because spiritual gifts were designed to function in relationship with other people. Which means community may be one of the places where they become most visible. So Maybe We Ask a Different Question Over the next few weeks, I’m going to keep studying spiritual gifts with my 2:42 community. We’ll talk about what the gifts are. Who receives them. How they differ from talents. How they differ from responsibilities Scripture gives to every Christian. And yes, eventually we’ll ask: What might my spiritual gifts be? But I don’t want us to rush there. Because before asking What did God give me?, I want us to understand why He gives at all. So maybe start here: Who gets stronger when you show up? What seems to happen consistently in the lives of other people when you faithfully follow God? Where does your presence seem to bring clarity, encouragement, faith, mercy, wisdom, service, leadership, generosity, or growth? And perhaps most importantly: Who might God intend to bless through what He placed in you? Because maybe your spiritual gift was never meant to end with you. Maybe God gave it to you because somewhere in His Body… somebody else needs it. Thank you for Liking, SHAREing and Supporting! 🫶🏽 buymeacoffee.com/joeldavidbarnes Joel’s GoFundMe Page → https://gofund.me/58b8a14d1 This is a public episode. 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    Share. A Piece: What Are Spiritual Gifts Actually For?
  2. Aug 9

    Wanna know why my faith is strong?

    Wanna know why my faith is strong? First of all, it is unmistakable to me that God has given me the gift of faith as something He wants me to share. I can tell you for certain that there’s a supernatural gift…and responsibility…on my life regarding faith. There’s a whole rabbit hole I could go down there, and I will be doing a deeper dive into spiritual gifts in the next couple weeks. Today, though, I wanna get extremely practical about my faith. So many people comment on it, and I want to talk about it while I’m in the valley, instead of from the mountaintop. Wanna know why my faith is strong? Because I don’t force it. It’s not something I can try to achieve or aspire to. It’s not by my own strength. It’s consistent work with God. It’s getting punched in the gut, having the wind taken outta your body, and resisting the urge to say… “Nope. I’m fine. God is good. I’m blessed and highly favored.” I committed to mySELF a couple years ago to stop lying about how I was on a given day. Y’all. I get my ass kicked. A lot. Especially in this current life season. It just happened to me the other day. I had a doctor tell me that he believes I’ll be disabled for life. He said the pain I feel will probably get worse. He told me that the surgery I have upcoming has the potential to do two things: no real change…meaning I’d continue to feel as badly as I have…or it could make me significantly worse. THAT is what this doctor told me about my future. And listen… It’s hard for that kinda stuff not to make you feel weird. Or badly. Or cause you to question. Everything. But here’s the difference: When I hear the things that humans say, I ask God what HE has to say. That’s the difference in how my faith GETS to grow. Because no matter what the circumstance, the most important part is what God says, or has already said…about ME. This doctor doesn’t know that God has continuously shown me visions and dreams of me walking. Riding my bike long distances. Standing on stages teaching people about HIM with no cane. No limp. No pain on my face. All this guy knows is what he can see with his physical eyes. My faith gets stronger every time I’m devastated and get back up praising the One who made me. Not because it’s all figured out. Not because I understand any of it. But because of my confidence in Him. My confidence that He can use everything for my good. The Bible says: “For we live by faith, not by sight.”— 2 Corinthians 5:7 THIS means we have to let God be the One who figures it out… not us. All we have to do is attempt to believe what HE says. About us. About our circumstances. About our lives. My faith isn’t strong because I did anything. It’s stronger because I let HIM do everything. I believe what He says about me. I allow Him to lead me. My hands are literally OFF the wheel. Is that easier? No. But it’s better. And that’s how my faith gets stronger. Because I do less… so He can do more. Thank you for Liking, SHAREing and Supporting! 🫶🏽 buymeacoffee.com/joeldavidbarnes Joel’s GoFundMe Page → https://gofund.me/58b8a14d1 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wehavetoshare.substack.com/subscribe

    Wanna know why my faith is strong?
  3. Aug 4

    Introducing The 2:42 Report

    The 2:42 Report July 2026 A monthly praise report celebrating what God is doing through Scripture, fellowship, breaking bread, and prayer. July marked the beginning of something deeply meaningful. On July 6, the 2:42 Discipleship Community officially gathered for the first time. Since then, we have met consistently, opened God’s Word, shared honestly, eaten well, prayed for one another, and grown together. This report follows the pattern of Acts 2:42: “And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers.” Each report includes two reflections of gratitude, four ministry updates centered on Acts 2:42, and two prayers for what comes next. This is the July report. Two Reflections of Gratitude 1. God Did Not Let Me Walk Through This Alone One of my greatest praise reports from this summer is the community God has gathered around me during this season of waiting, healing, and uncertainty. A few months ago, a GoFundMe was created as I prepared for what was expected to be a June 1 knee replacement surgery. The financial generosity has meant more than I can fully express. It has helped create space for me to focus on healing and continue doing the ministry work God has placed before me. But the support has extended far beyond finances. People have sent messages, prayed faithfully, checked in, offered encouragement, and continued showing up in “Joel’s Care and Prayer Group” on WhatsApp. Most people joined expecting to support me through an immediate surgery and recovery. When the surgery was canceled, the group did not disappear. It became an ongoing community of prayer warriors and supporters who have remained present through the delay. That has revealed something deeply meaningful to me: God did not want me to walk through this next knee replacement surgery alone. The surgery has not happened yet, but the community God knew I would need is already here. To everyone who has supported me financially, spiritually, and relationally: thank you. Your generosity has sustained me, but your presence has reminded me that I am not alone. 2. Strength for the Assignment July 6 marked the first official gathering of the 2:42 Discipleship Community. Since then, we have continued meeting and growing together through Scripture, fellowship, shared meals, and prayer. What I love most is that God is not only using me to help others grow. He is growing all of us, including me. I have sometimes hesitated to step fully into this position because of questions about my own qualifications. Yet God continues to affirm that He has equipped me for the assignment while also revealing the areas where He still intends to develop me. I am learning that being called does not mean being finished. God can confirm that we are qualified for what He has asked us to do while continuing to shape us into the people the assignment requires. Four Movements of Acts 2:42 The Apostles’ Teaching We Opened the Bible One of the simplest and most meaningful praise reports from July is this: We opened the Bible together. For some members of the 2:42 community, this was one of their first opportunities to truly study Scripture in a group. That has made this work an incredible honor and joy. It has also been difficult, stretching, and deeply rewarding. Throughout the month, we wrestled with sin, repentance, grace, confession, mercy, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration. We did not approach these subjects pretending to have every answer. We opened God’s Word, asked honest questions, listened carefully, and allowed Scripture to challenge and shape us. The greatest praise is not simply what we studied. It is that we are becoming people who study the Bible together. Fellowship A Community Worth Protecting Three things have stood out about the fellowship developing within 2:42. First, it is safe. Every member has identified this as a place where they can share honestly, be vulnerable, and ask the pressing questions of their faith without fear of judgment. Meaningful discipleship requires more than correct answers. It requires an environment where people feel safe enough to reveal the questions they are actually carrying. Second, there has been remarkable intentionality. People have scheduled, rescheduled, communicated, adjusted, and made sacrifices to prioritize being together in person. In a season when calendars are full and isolation is easy, that willingness has been deeply encouraging. Third, people are already imagining a future together. Members are discussing ways they hope to serve, classes they may attend at church, and what the fall season could look like. Most meaningfully, one person recently said that no matter what else gets added to the calendar this year, they want to protect this group. That word felt deeply holy to me. What God is forming among us is not merely another appointment to attend. It is a community worth tending, prioritizing, and protecting. Breaking Bread The Power of Consideration We have never had a shortage of good food around the table. But what has made breaking bread so meaningful is not only the food itself. It is the communication required to plan it, the intentionality involved in preparing it, and the growing desire to make each gathering more thoughtful and generous. There is something powerful about considering what another person enjoys, remembering what they like to eat, and then making the effort to provide it. That kind of consideration has become part of the glue holding us together. Around the table, care becomes tangible. Hospitality becomes personal. People are reminded that they were thought about before they ever arrived. I believe God delights in teaching us to love one another this way—not only through what we say, but through the attention, preparation, and generosity we offer each other. Prayer Taking One Another to God Prayer is one of the movements I continue asking God to deepen within our community. There can be a real stigma around asking for prayer. Admitting that we need help can feel vulnerable, and people sometimes hesitate to share because they fear becoming a burden. My prayer is that God will continue removing that stigma and invite us into deeper connection by teaching us to carry one another’s needs to Him. A prayer request is not automatically an invitation for us to fix the situation. At its simplest, it is a request to take the need to God. That does not mean God will never ask us to act. Recently, during an intense pain flare, I was in tears and desperate for prayer. I chose to communicate that need in a way I may not have in the past. One member of 2:42 reached out privately and asked whether there was anything she could do. I had not eaten, which meant I could not take the medication I needed to help manage the pain. I asked whether she could help me get something to eat, and she did. She did not assume she was responsible for solving everything. She prayed, listened, asked, and responded to the need God placed before her. That is the powerful movement of prayer: we take one another’s needs to God, release the pressure to control the outcome, and remain available when He invites us to participate in the answer. Beyond the 2:42 Table SHAREapy and One-on-One Faith Coaching The ministry happening in this season extends beyond our group gatherings. Through SHAREapy and one-on-one faith coaching, I have continued walking with people through questions of faith, pain, relationships, purpose, isolation, and important life decisions. Some of these conversations happen by phone. Some happen while I am working from bed because of pain. But the work continues. I remain deeply grateful that God allows me to create intentional spaces where people can be heard, encouraged, prayed for, and helped toward their next faithful step. Whether around the 2:42 table or in a private conversation, the heart of the ministry remains the same: Biblically grounded formation delivered through intentional relationship. Two Prayers for What Comes Next For nearly two years, my prayer requests have consistently been distilled down to two words: Pain and provision. Provision The need for provision remains real and straightforward. Because I am still unable to work in a traditional capacity, continued financial support is essential as I wait for surgery and prepare for the recovery that will follow. The generosity of those who have prayed, given, shared, and supported me has allowed me to focus on healing while continuing to do the work God has placed before me. And that is where something has shifted. Every available day and every available moment, I am trying to do what God has asked me to do—even when that work has to happen from my bed. I take calls. I walk with people through difficult seasons. I study, teach, pray, write, build community, and make myself available as my body allows. Provision is still necessary for life. That is simply the truth. But I am no longer viewing this season only as time I must survive before the “real work” can begin. God is already allowing meaningful ministry to happen here. My prayer is that He will continue providing in the ways only He can so that I can remain faithful to the work He has entrusted to me before surgery, through recovery, and beyond. Pain For a long time, my primary prayer was that God would deliver me from pain so that I could eventually tell the story of His goodness. I have never lost faith that He will bring me through this season. As long and difficult as it has been, God has somehow preserved that faith in me. Some days, I do not even understand how that is possible—but it is true. I still believe healing and restoration will be part of the story arc of my life. But I am no longer focused only on the end of the story. I am beginning to understand that the hardest part of the story may also be one of its most important parts. While I continue to move between pain and possi

    Introducing The 2:42 Report
  4. Jul 30

    Although I Have Been Disabled, He Is More Than Able

    Today is my birthday. Forty-eight years young. Birthdays have become one of my favorite spiritual disciplines because they force me to pause and reflect. Reflection is one of my secret weapons. It invites God into the story. It allows me to look back and ask questions I don’t usually ask in the middle of the journey. Where have You brought me from? What have You carried me through? What have You been building that I couldn’t see while I was living it? How have You been faithful when I didn’t even recognize it? Every year around New Year’s and every birthday, I intentionally make space for those questions. Looking back has become one of the most powerful catalysts for my spiritual growth. This morning I found myself reflecting on everything that has happened between July 30, 2025, and today. There are tangible milestones. I started a small discipleship group—something I had been intimidated to do for years. I developed new resources to help people build intentional, Christ-centered relationships. The vision God has been growing in me became clearer than ever before. I know He has called me to fight isolation and loneliness. I know that sharing our blessings and our bruises is one of the ways He heals people through community. I know our spiritual gifts are meant to build up the Body of Christ and help people discover that they have something valuable to contribute. Those things matter. But as I reflected, I realized they aren’t the biggest story of this past year. The biggest story isn’t what I’ve accomplished. It isn’t how many conversations I’ve had. It isn’t how many people I’ve discipled. It isn’t even how many people have come to know Jesus. The greatest lesson God has taught me this year can be summed up in one sentence: Although I have been disabled, He is more than able. That truth has changed everything. There have been countless days when pain has kept me in bed. Days when CRPS flared so intensely that I couldn’t imagine being useful to anyone. Days when I wondered how God could possibly use someone who couldn’t consistently work, couldn’t consistently move, and sometimes couldn’t even think clearly because of pain. Yet somewhere along the way, something shifted inside me. Instead of asking, “God, when will I finally be useful again?” I started praying a different prayer. “Lord, while I wait for healing, use whatever You find valuable in me. Whatever part of this broken life You can use for Your glory—use it.” And He has. Again and again. There were days I limped into a conversation. Days I had to cancel meeting in person because I couldn’t physically leave the house. Days I led over the phone because pain made anything else impossible. And yet... God still showed up. He still drew people closer to Himself. He still brought light into dark places. He still reminded me that ministry has never depended on my strength. It has always depended on His. Sometimes it feels like I’m no closer to the end of this pain story. The testimony isn’t finished. The healing hasn’t fully come. But reflection reminded me of something important today. Maybe I’m not at the end of the story. But I am in one of its best chapters. Because this chapter has taught me to trust God’s ability more than my own. I’ve never been more convinced that I’m walking where He wants me to walk. I’ve never been more certain that He’s using my life exactly as He intends. Not because everything is easy. Not because the pain is gone. But because His faithfulness has become impossible to ignore. So today, on my birthday, my heart is simply grateful. Thank You, Lord. Thank You for carrying me when I didn’t realize I was being carried. Thank You for sustaining me on the days I thought I had nothing left. Thank You for the people You’ve brought into my life. Thank You for every conversation, every prayer, every opportunity, every lesson, and every reminder that Your strength is made perfect in weakness. Thank You for another year of life. And Lord, I still ask for healing. You know the pain I carry every day. You know the panic that can come with severe pain. You know the exhaustion, the questions, and the moments when I don’t understand why the journey has taken so long. If it is Your will, heal me. Restore me. Strengthen me to run the race You’ve called me to run. But until that day comes... I’ll keep showing up. I’ll keep trusting. I’ll keep serving. I’ll keep sharing. Because while I wait... You’ll keep working. And if You’re still working, then so will I. Amen. Thank you for Liking, SHAREing and Supporting! 🫶🏽 buymeacoffee.com/joeldavidbarnes This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wehavetoshare.substack.com/subscribe

    Although I Have Been Disabled, He Is More Than Able
  5. Jul 26

    Is AI Discipling Us?

    The danger is not simply that artificial intelligence may be wrong. The danger is that we may become so accustomed to immediate answers that we lose our ability to seek God, endure uncertainty and grow in the tension of waiting. Let me begin with the necessary disclaimer. I use artificial intelligence. I find it fascinating. I believe it can be helpful. I believe it will become even more useful as people learn how to use it responsibly, creatively and honestly. AI can help us organize thoughts, explore an idea, locate information, prepare questions and find language for something we have struggled to express. It can make certain resources more accessible to people who may never have had access to a coach, teacher, researcher or creative partner. That matters. So this is not an anti-AI article. It is an argument for putting AI in its proper place. Because I am becoming increasingly convinced that the greatest spiritual danger of artificial intelligence may not be that it gives us the wrong answer. The greater danger may be that it gives us an answer too quickly. An answer before we have prayed. An answer before we have listened. An answer before we have searched Scripture. An answer before we have wrestled with our motives. An answer before we have sought wise counsel. An answer before God has finished using the question to form something inside us. AI can give us information almost instantly. But God does not always work instantly. Sometimes God answers immediately. Sometimes He makes His direction unmistakably clear. But throughout Scripture, God also allows time between the prayer and the answer, the promise and the fulfillment, the calling and the commissioning. And that space is not alway empty. Sometimes the waiting is where the formation happens. AI may help us find an answer. But only God can form wisdom in us through the process of seeking Him. Compliance is not comprehension A recent research project called DigitalCoach compared how human experts and leading AI models coached people through computer tasks. The researchers found that AI models gave more direct instructions than human coaches. However, they offered fewer explanations, fewer diagnoses of what had gone wrong and fewer questions checking whether the learner actually understood what they were doing. When people worked with the AI coaches, they were more likely to passively follow directions without engaging deeply in the learning process. That finding stopped me. Because there is a significant difference between being able to follow instructions and actually knowing what you are doing. You can tell someone where to click. You can tell them what sentence to write. You can provide the Scripture, the business strategy, the apology, the prayer or the five-step plan for fixing their life. And the person may successfully complete the immediate task. But do they understand why it worked? Would they recognize when the same advice does not apply in a different situation? Could they identify the mistake if something went wrong? Have they developed wisdom? Have they sought God? Or have they simply learned to return to the machine for the next instruction? There is a name for what concerns me here: Compliance without comprehension. The person gets through the task, but the person does not necessarily grow. And when we apply that pattern to spiritual life, the concern becomes even more serious. Biblical wisdom is not merely the possession of correct information. Wisdom is the God-given ability to understand what is true, recognize what is happening and respond faithfully. Scripture tells us: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God.”— James 1:5 James does not tell us merely to locate an answer. He tells us to ask God. That request implies relationship. It requires trust. It positions us as dependent upon Someone greater than ourselves. AI may retrieve biblical information. It may summarize multiple interpretations. It may help us organize our questions. But it cannot replace the posture of seeking wisdom from God. God is not a search engine We live in a world that increasingly treats every question as a problem to be resolved immediately. We search. We scroll. We prompt. We expect a response. And when the answer does not come quickly, we assume that something is malfunctioning. But God is not malfunctioning when He does not answer immediately. God is not a search engine. He is not obligated to provide an instant response in the format we requested. He is a Father. He is a Shepherd. He is Lord. He may answer our question directly. He may redirect our attention. He may expose a deeper question underneath the one we asked. He may use Scripture, prayer, circumstances and other people. He may say yes. He may say no. He may tell us to wait. And sometimes He allows us to remain in the tension long enough for us to discover whether we actually want His wisdom or merely His approval. Proverbs teaches: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.”— Proverbs 3:5 That verse is often quoted as reassurance, but it is also an invitation to surrender. Do not lean exclusively on what you can currently understand. Do not treat your perspective as complete. Do not assume that the fastest conclusion is the wisest one. “In all your ways submit to him,” the passage continues, “and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:6). Submission takes more than information. It requires us to place our judgment, desires, fears and timing before God. There is growth in the tension Waiting is uncomfortable because it exposes what immediate answers allow us to avoid. When we do not know what to do, we discover how badly we want control. When direction is unclear, we discover what we are tempted to manipulate. When God seems quiet, we discover where our trust is actually located. When the answer is delayed, we encounter our impatience, anxiety, pride and fear. Those discoveries can be painful. But they can also be formative. Psalm 27 ends with David speaking directly to his own soul: “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.”— Psalm 27:14 Waiting is not presented as passive resignation. It takes strength. It requires courage. The waiting itself becomes an act of faith. Isaiah similarly describes those who wait for, hope in or trust in the Lord as people whose strength is renewed (Isaiah 40:31). The promise is not merely that waiting will eventually end. The promise is that God can do something within us while we wait. Romans 5 says that suffering produces perseverance, character and hope (Romans 5:3–5). James tells believers that the testing of faith produces perseverance and that perseverance must finish its work so that we may become mature and complete (James 1:2–4). These passages reveal a pattern: God does not only care about getting us out of tension. God uses tension to develop us. There are qualities of faith that cannot be formed through immediate resolution. Patience cannot be developed without delay. Trust cannot be developed without uncertainty. Perseverance cannot be developed without resistance. Discernment cannot be developed if every answer is handed to us before we have learned how to listen. Discernment grows through practice Hebrews describes mature believers as those who have trained themselves through constant use to distinguish good from evil (Hebrews 5:14). That language matters. Discernment is trained. It develops through practice. It grows as we study Scripture, pray, obey, make decisions, learn from mistakes, receive correction and observe the fruit of our choices. Discernment is not simply knowing a collection of Bible verses. It is learning to recognize what aligns with God’s character, God’s Word and the work of His Spirit. That development takes time. An AI system can list biblical principles about a decision. It can offer possible interpretations. It may even identify relevant passages that we overlooked. But if we consistently allow it to reach conclusions for us, we may bypass the very practices through which discernment develops. We may become people who can access spiritual language without learning how to spiritually listen. We may know how to ask a system, “What does God want me to do?” without learning to ask God, “Search me and know my heart” (Psalm 139:23–24). We may collect information about God without developing intimacy with God. Fixing the answer is not the same as diagnosing the problem One of the most important distinctions in the DigitalCoach research is the difference between giving an explanation and diagnosing an error. Someone can tell you the correct answer without understanding why you got the answer wrong. Researchers working on related AI coaching tools have described the need for “misstep awareness”: identifying the mistaken belief, missing knowledge or misunderstanding beneath a person’s incorrect response, rather than merely replacing it with the right answer. Human beings work the same way. Two people can ask the exact same question while needing two completely different responses. Consider the question: “Does God forgive me?” That may be a theological question. It may be a shame question. It may be a trauma question. It may be a repentance question. It may be a person looking for permission to continue doing something harmful. It may be someone trapped in a cycle of compulsively seeking reassurance. It may be someone who already knows the biblical answer but needs another human being to sit beside them long enough for that truth to reach the wounded place inside them. The sentence is the same. The need underneath it is not. AI can answer the sentence. A healthy human relationship can begin to understand the person. And God can reveal what neither the system nor the individual could immediately see. David prayed: “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.”— Psalm 139

    Is AI Discipling Us?
  6. Jun 22

    One person at a time

    One Person at a Time I make content for one person at a time. I have always written my pieces for one person at a time. I’ve always cared for the one person who “needed to hear that” when I communicate. Some might say that I’m not thinking big enough, or that what I do isn’t scalable enough to be 10x’d or mass-produced. But to me, as one individual person, what does it matter if the message is 10x’d if it’s not for me first? Recently, I outlined six things that someone can count on me for in a SHAREapy relationship. One of the points I’m most proud of is the one that says, “Many people are invested in your performance. I am invested in your spiritual health. While I care about your leadership and responsibilities, my primary concern is who you are becoming in Christ.” Today, I got to see a glimpse of that paying off in real time for one of my friends. Recently, I’ve been coaching him on his startup business, and he was in the middle of a pretty significant breakthrough. He achieved his first sales goal! What happened next was fascinating. As he reflected on the business win, he didn’t thank me for the business operations advice. He didn’t point to a tip or a piece of business experience I had shared. Do you know the first thing he pointed out? “You led me to a cleaner way of living and to becoming a truer version of myself that I didn’t know existed.” What’s cool to me is that as he continues to grow spiritually, his leadership, his responsibilities, and his work will continue to flourish. So I guess what I’m saying is that I hope I never try to 10x a relationship that needs to be personal. How can we walk with one person at a time and make it scalable? We don’t. But we CAN make more people capable of walking with more people. We can teach people to share their blessings and bruises so that more connection happens. More empathy happens. More “walking with others” happens. To me, that’s only possible… One person at a time. Thank you for Liking, SHAREing and Supporting! 🫶🏽 buymeacoffee.com/joeldavidbarnes This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wehavetoshare.substack.com/subscribe

  7. Jun 16

    Intentional Care

    I can distinctly remember walking into my grandfather’s house as a kid and smelling his Italian gravy, as he would call it. That smell wafting through the house as we walked in the front door, through the front room, and into his kitchen off to the left. It was easy to track down the source of the smell... spaghetti sauce that had been going since 5 a.m. We would get there at two, after church. We would have to wait for at least an hour to enjoy the spaghetti because the first course was salad. Not a salad that was bagged and dumped into a bowl already completed... iceberg lettuce, carrots, purple cabbage, cucumbers. All intentionally chopped into bite-sized pieces, added to a big plastic bowl, and drenched with Italian dressing. My grandfather was a big man. I used to jump up in his lap and share his salad with him out of this big mixing bowl. After the salad course was done, I barely remember inhaling mounds of spaghetti. I was definitely not appreciating the hours of work he had put in, considering the speed of my consumption. But this is how the memory of my grandfather lives in me today. This was the gift that he gave me that I now get to share with other people. When you put time and effort into cooking for someone, they get to feel special, and seen, and anticipated. When he would tell us what time he was awake to start the sauce, I remember thinking, “Wow, he loves us enough to think about us before we even thought about being here.” I may have rushed through eating the spaghetti, but the most important sentiment was received. He thought I was special. He wanted me to enjoy this food that he had prepared. He looked forward to spending time with me. I can’t say that I reconciled all of those thoughts and emotions properly in my mind at the time... but those sentiments are alive and well in me today. This is why I cook for people. This is what sparks my creativity when it comes to coming up with a new recipe that someone might enjoy. Or hearing that someone likes a certain dessert and learning how to make it. Intentional care. That’s all it really is. I’m so grateful that my grandfather taught me this... decades ago. I still miss my grandfather. I have not had a male role model as impactful and as loving as him since I lost him on my birthday 30 years ago. But he lives on in me... And I think he would be very proud of how many people have been touched by the care of cooking. Thank you for Liking, SHAREing and Supporting! 🫶🏽 buymeacoffee.com/joeldavidbarnes This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wehavetoshare.substack.com/subscribe

  8. May 16

    God vs. Not God

    The Spiritual Difference Between Peace and Pettiness If you’ve been around here for awhile, you know that I see God in the IMPOSSIBLE. I’m a huge nerd and numbers guy so if I pick up on something that is a mathematically impossibly good thing, I try to give the credit STRAIGHT to God. But something happened yesterday that was interesting. I built up the courage and battled a bit of angst to text someone to have a conversation. One that might be awkward for us both. But I sent it, put my phone down and felt like I had done the right thing. Fast forward 5/6 hours and I’m scrolling IG. I see this sourdough recipe and I get excited and screenshot it. I go to crop the recipe and would you believe that the person I had texted hours ago had just liked the post ABOVE the one that I had screengrabbed. I wasn’t even THINKING about this text from earlier and now IMPOSSIBLY, I’m sitting there thinking “oh you can’t text me back but you can be likin all these posts on IG?!” I’ll be the first to admit that there’s a little petty b***h of a human that’s buried in my soul. lol. I don’t always have grace as my first reaction. That’s for sure. But it made me think … this was one of those numerical impossibilities that I might have given credit to God for if it was different. So then… supernaturally impossible events might not always be God. The Evil One has considerable power, too. That’s important to remember. So how do I tell the difference? Great question. First of all, even though both are capable of supernatural, God is all powerful. His supernatural looks like LOVE and Compassion and grace and NON judgement. You’ll factor in the full situation versus your narrow view of what you “think” should happen. The evil one will make you have the petty thoughts like I had at first. There will be no grace. No patience. No mercy or compassion. It will be entitled. It will be self centered and sometimes, when you reflect on the way you thought, even for that split second, it’ll feel bad. But you have a chance to capture those thoughts. Before they get too far down the road, you can recognize em and say… whoa whoa whoa. I don’t HAVE to think that way. It’s only been a few hours. It’s all complicated. People are busy. Chill. Take your thoughts and bring em to God and be like, “Yo, God. Help me to be more patient. Help me to take the pain and insecurity that I have rumbling below the surface and hand it over to You to work on. I don’t wanna be b****y, I don’t wanna be petty. I want to be loving and trust You with any and all outcomes. Thank You for reminding me of how quickly my human side can pop up and steal my joy and my peace. I’m sorry for being petty. Help me to be grace FULL first.” Amen Thank you for Liking, SHAREing and Supporting! 🫶🏽 buymeacoffee.com/joeldavidbarnes This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wehavetoshare.substack.com/subscribe

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