Drop us a line or two . . . Queenie and TT are recording from Cape Cod Bay — or as they're lobbying to rename it, "Queenie and TT's Water" — and the vibe is pure decompression energy. The vacation is going swimmingly, except for the part where it literally isn't: the inflatable boat has sprung a leak. Did that stop them from staying out on the water for a couple of hours? Absolutely not. They rode that increasingly "flaccid" vessel with full commitment, carefully redistributing their weight to avoid inadvertently launching each other off an intact chamber. The plan now involves duct tape and optimism, pending a trip to a marine supply shop in Provincetown. Classic. The Cape has been delivering exactly what was needed — perfect low-seventies weather, healing sun, soul-cleansing waves — because Queenie has been running on fumes. Caregiving for her mum has been in overdrive, and the universe briefly threatened to interrupt the vacation when Mum attempted to cancel her own transportation to her day program because her grandson Lucas had come for dinner and she simply decided she was staying home, thank you very much. It was sorted. Mum is ninety-three today — happy birthday — and is officially the longest-living sibling, which Queenie notes is probably not the outcome anyone predicted, least of all Queenie herself, who admits she privately thought "no way" when her mother announced she was financially planning to live to a hundred. Meanwhile, TT celebrated her own birthday this week, complete with karaoke and all three sons and their partners. A good week for birthdays. Entertainment highlight of the trip: drag comedy legend Dina Martina, who summers in Provincetown and is, apparently, genuinely impossible to describe. Multimedia. Bizarre. Absolutely hysterical. Highly recommended if she rolls through your town. They also did a lot of nothing, which they both agree is exactly the point. On the cannabis beat: Queenie flagged an emerging conversation about senior living communities and the growing number of residents who are using cannabis — for medical reasons, for recreational ones, or simply because they like it and they're adults and that's allowed. The issue? Nobody's actually addressing it proactively. No designated consumption spaces, no updated policies, no real acknowledgment that people over seventy still have preferences about their own bodies. Queenie draws the parallel to the equally-never-discussed topic of sexuality in assisted living — something she navigated firsthand as a former manager, including one memorable theater situation and a delicate family conversation about a resident named Daisy. The throughline: society has a deeply weird relationship with older adults' self-determination, whether the subject is cannabis, sex, medication compliance, or simply choosing to stay in your own home. TT's mum gets a quiet nod here — still home, still making her own calls, still showing up to her day program without pants on certain occasions (technically covered where a bathing suit would cover, so: fine). The emotional centerpiece of the episode is a Good Housekeeping article Queenie brings to the table: "Fewer People Are Going to Become Grandparents and No One Has Acknowledged Their Grief." It's a real thing, it turns out. More and more adult children of boomers are choosing to be child-free, and the parents who had quietly, completely assumed grandchildren were part of their future are sitting with a loss that doesn't have a name, a ceremony, or a support group. TT speaks to this directly and with real vulnerability — she's felt selfish for feeling it, she's felt isolated because most of her friends already have grandkids, and she hadn't even fully recognized the feeling as grief until this moment. Queenie gently but firmly separates the grief from the blame: two truths can coexist. Adult children have full authority over their reproductive choices. Parents are allowed to mourn an imagined future. Grief is not the same as disappointment, and disappointment points blame in a way that grief doesn't have to. The conversation lands somewhere genuinely useful: TT decides her F**k It List addition is releasing the expectation of grandchildren — not dismissing the feeling, but grieving it properly and letting it go. Queenie reframes TT's sons' choices as evidence of exactly the kind of free-thinking, non-conformist parenting TT and Rich actually did. It's a good moment. TT's Choice goes in a delightful direction: one meal for the rest of your life, taste only, no nutritional overthinking allowed. Queenie spirals beautifully through apple crisp with fresh whipped cream, a French butterbread situation that is mostly just butter, Jean Boudini's Veal Piccata, and a genuinely excellent cheeseburger before landing, definitively, on Mallon's sticky buns from the Jersey Shore — caramel poured over, frosting on top, nuts sprinkled, dripping, warm, sold out by mid-morning. AAA-plus rating. TT, for the record, would eat a warm cinnamon bun with frosting. Every day. Post-outro bonus: Queenie admits she animated a photo of a fish that TT's husband and son Thomas caught on a fishing trip. The fish had, in her words, a great face. She made it look directly at the viewer and say "Help me." Thomas, who had already been quietly hoping the fish would escape, found this deeply sad and told her it was "very clever, but it just makes me sad." Queenie apologized. The fish did not survive either way. --- ## SHORT SUMMARY Queenie and TT are broadcasting from a slightly-deflated inflatable boat situation on Cape Cod Bay, navigating caregiving updates, a birthday for TT, and a trip to see drag comedy legend Dina Martina. They dig into cannabis use in senior living communities, the unspoken grief of boomer parents whose adult children are choosing not to have kids, and Queenie's definitive answer to the one-meal-for-life question: Mallon's sticky buns from the Jersey Shore. Also, someone animated a fish to say "Help me," and feelings were hurt. --- ## TOP 5 PULL QUOTES **TT:** "I have felt selfish, I have felt sadness, I have felt very alone in it — because most of my friends have grandchildren. There is a sense of loss, and I'm so glad it's being talked about." **Queenie:** "People are mourning an imagined future, and that makes it a very difficult loss to explain — and to validate." **Queenie:** "Describe it as grief rather than disappointment. Disappointment points blame. Grief identifies an emotion that can be processed." **TT:** "Hearing this spoken aloud — it's okay. That this is a real thing. And not even knowing deep down that that's what was happening." **Queenie:** "Cannabis in senior living is like sex in senior living — we're not going to talk about it, so if we don't talk about it, it doesn't exist." --- ## EPISODE VIBE This one moves like a good beach afternoon — unhurried, a little sun-dazed, funnier than it has any right to be, and then suddenly kind of profound. It opens in full vacation mode: leaky boats, duct tape, Dina Martina, and a fishing photo that made someone's son feel existential grief about a fish. But underneath the easy laughter is a real current of weight — caregiving fatigue, aging parents, the strange loneliness of grieving a future that was never promised to you in the first place. TT's honesty about the grandchildren question lands with real force precisely because the episode earns it slowly. By the time she names it as something she can finally put on the F**k It List, it feels less like resignation and more like release. Equal parts wry and tender, with a sticky bun chaser. Welcome to the Closet Disco Queen Pot-Cast, a #1 ranked Women in Cannabis (Feedspot, Million Pods; 2025) comedy podcast with music and pop culture references that keeps you laughing and engaged. Join our hosts, Queenie & TT as they share humorous anecdotes about daily life, offering women's perspectives on lifestyle and wellness. We dive into funny cannabis conversations and stories, creating an entertaining space where nothing is off-limits. Each episode features entertaining discussions on pop culture trends, as we discuss music, culture, and cannabis in a light-hearted and inclusive manner. 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