Be VicTORIEus with Dr. Torie

EToyare McDonald-Williams
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The podcast "Be VicTORIEus" is a platform to educate people about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). People share their stories, experiences, and advice on topics such as mental health, self-love, empowerment and their ways of addressing and healing their ACEs.  Be VicTORIEus podcast offers a fresh perspective and independent point of view on ACEs, the silent mental health  pandemic addressed my the Center for Disease Control and  Prevention (CDC). This podcast empowers guests affected by ACEs to take control of their childhood trauma by sharing their ACEs score, their ACEs story, and their journey to healing.The podcast is hosted by Dr. Torie Williams, a mental health advocate and ACEs expert. Dr. Torie educates while offering guidance and support to her listeners as they navigate life's challenges and understands their ACEs score. If you are looking for a podcast that will educate you about ACES while others share their stories and ways to heal, then "Be Victorieus" is the choice for you! Be VicTORIEus and raise awareness of ACEs, a mental health crisis that has an effect on us worldwide. 

  1. Oct 13

    Be VicTORIEus Ep.115

    Got a question? Send us a text! What do you call it when you are caring for someone and grieving them at the same time? Coach C has a word for it. On this episode of Be VicTORIEus, Dr. Torie sits down with longtime friend Charita  ⁨@charitahenderson5265⁩   known as Coach C. She is a faith-based grief coach, author, speaker and founder of Visions Made Manifest. Her new book, Grieve Me Alone, shows that grief doesn't only start when someone dies, and Dr. Torie wrote the book's foreword. Coach C shares how grief entered her life at age 8, when her mother became addicted to crack cocaine. She talks about becoming a generational cycle breaker, and about the word she created, Care Grieving , for caring for someone you are watching slip away. Whether you are grieving a person, a relationship, a season or the version of yourself you used to be, this conversation is for you. You can follow her on IG @charitahenderson1 You can buy her book here: https://www.amazon.it/dp/B0HMFDYWN3 Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/kTOM1e9zNEQ 0:00Dr. Torie's book is outPromo for Dr. Torie's ACEs book; order at BeVicTORIEus.com 0:35Welcome + meet Coach CGuest introduction: grief coach, author, creator of "caregrieving" 2:20What it means to be a cycle breakerFaith, "it ends with me," Kansas City roots 5:30Grief started long before deathHer relationship with grief began in childhood 6:45The therapy timeline exerciseWriting her life timeline and only getting to age 9 in an hour 7:40Ambiguous grief at age 8Losing her mother to crack cocaine addiction while she was still alive 10:20Acknowledgment is freedom"Naming it is the beginning of your freedom" 11:30Becoming a grief coachHer therapist and grief coach pushed her into it 12:30Navigating the Waves of GriefGrief "rearranged the furniture"; you move with grief, not past it 13:40Don't fight the waveTriggers like perfume or a song, and why resisting knocks you down 15:00Where "caregrieving" came fromA client caring for a husband with a trach asked for a new word 16:40What caregrieving meansCaring for someone while watching them die 18:10Clarity breeds transformationGiving people language for their grief 19:00ACEs and griefThe CDC's 1998 ACEs study and the grief inside every category 20:05What the world needs nowHer calling: language for grief 20:50Mom, grandparents and DadSuccessive losses, and now caregiving for her father 22:00"I'm the evidence"Proof that healing is possible 22:45Forgive the process"Your pain has a purpose" 23:40Dr. Torie's testimonyHow the book carried her through losses since July 25:15The foreword + where to find Coach CEditor's reaction, contact info, free sessions 26:40ClosingThey'll return together live Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  2. Sep 29

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 114

    Got a question? Send us a text! This episode discusses domestic abuse and coercive control. US National Domestic Violence Hotline: call 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. Free, confidential, 24/7. Ama K. Karikari had the plan. Harvard undergrad. An MBA and a JD. Senior counsel at Citibank, twentieth floor, writing bond disclosure. Married to a Yale man whose family came from the same part of Ghana as hers. On her honeymoon, her husband stopped speaking to her. It lasted hours. Over the next fifteen years it would last between two weeks and three months at a time, every time she failed to submit. She Googled domestic violence. She Googled abuse. What she was living wasn't in the definitions. So she went to marriage counseling, individual counseling, EMDR, Reiki, wife coaching, two sex coaches, and read every book she could find — for fifteen years — before she understood that nothing was broken. It was working exactly as designed. She's now a lawyer campaigning to have the silent treatment recognized as coercive control. This is her conversation with Dr. Torie. You can follow her on IG @amakkarikari Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/xNkpIyybRq0 00:00 The episode starts here 00:30 Caught at Meet the Teacher night 01:30 Lawyer by training, and the 9% bond due in 2045 03:30 Following somebody else's plan 05:30 The first awakening 07:00 The marriage that looked perfect on paper 09:00 The honeymoon 11:00 Googling for a word that wasn't there 13:00 Fifteen years of trying everything 15:00 The fifteenth anniversary 16:30 "Uh-oh. You've had enough." 18:00 Why domestic abuse is the blueprint 19:30 Why Dr. Torie won't tell her own story 22:00 The gap in the ACEs framework 23:30 A screamer, a beater, and the man who never raised his voice 24:30 The father hierarchy 26:30 The welfare queen, and the fear that boxed her in 28:00 The download 29:30 Imago theory, and five coincidences from Ghana 32:30 Inside the workbook 35:00 Victim accountability, not victim blaming 36:30 Learning how to trust again 38:00 Soaring Sister Circles 40:00 Worship no one but God 41:30 Close Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  3. Sep 22

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 113

    Got a question? Send us a text! This episode includes discussion of addiction, family abuse and gang violence. Dr. Torie went to a performing arts high school. Almost nobody knows she can sing. Four minutes into this episode, Maximus Leroy stops the interview and asks her whose voice told her not to. That's the whole episode, really. Maximus is a certified psychotherapist and EQ practitioner who wrote a book called "Mental Health Is a Lie" — not because mental health isn't real, but because he thinks we're arguing about 30% of the problem and ignoring the other 70%. What follows is less an interview than a session. Two practitioners in the same field, taking turns putting each other on the couch. You can follow him on IG @maximuslerois Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/t3NFkgYiRrY 00:00 The episode starts here 00:30 "Maximus, where are you?" 01:30 Wait — you can sing? 04:00 Whose voice told you not to? 06:00 Cycle breakers, and the author of your own script 09:00 When singing was the therapy 11:30 Awareness + Community = Empowerment 13:00 You don't have time. You don't make time. 15:30 Why boundaries are hardest for the first one out 18:00 "I don't keep score" 19:30 Do you see me? Do you love me? 21:30 Forgive the version of you that needed it 24:00 The Ninth Child, and an audiobook in someone else's voice 25:30 The room where nobody is alone anymore 27:00 "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps" — I've got sandals on 28:30 South LA, and the brother who wouldn't let him come 30:30 Becoming the father who could give better answers 33:00 Trauma bonds, and the difference between loving and liking 34:30 His father, still using, and the line before that 36:30 The trauma Olympics: I'm not running this race 38:30 Entrepreneurship, and what your kids are actually watching 40:00 "You're so strong" — and why that's not a compliment 41:00 The imposter syndrome tool 42:30 Mental Health Is a Lie: the 70/30 split 43:30 Be it so you can see it 44:30 Where to find Maximus Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  4. Sep 21

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 111

    Got a question? Send us a text! This conversation discusses childhood abuse, bullying, and mental health struggles. Resources are listed at the bottom of this description. Please take care of yourself while listening. Lawrence C. Harris was severely bullied as a kid. At 12, his father became abusive toward him and his younger siblings. He was eventually put out of the house, and then the pandemic hit. At 15, he started filming himself talking about what he was learning in therapy and posting it for an audience of two subscribers. He is 20 now, and this is the conversation about what actually happened in between. Dr. Torie sits down with Lawrence to talk about what cycle breaking really requires, how adverse childhood experiences shape adult relationships people cannot explain, and what a 12-year-old in a bad house can practically do today. This one gets specific, including a full list of healing strategies for people who cannot afford therapy. If you need support right now 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988 Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741 You can follow him on IG @lawrencec.empowers Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/THlT_NvNHWo 00:00 Cold Open: The ACEs Book 00:45 Welcome and a Season of Grief 03:00 Who Checks On the Helpers? 05:00 Meet Lawrence Harris 06:30 Bullied, Then Abused at 12 09:30 Talking to Two YouTube Subscribers 11:00 What Cycle Breaking Actually Requires 14:30 If You Don't Deal With It, Your Kids Will 17:00 Finding Out About ACEs in Therapy 19:00 Why Your Relationships Keep Looking the Same 22:00 "It Stays in the Family" 26:00 Why the Cops Conversation Is Complicated 28:30 Bullying Is a Mental Health Issue 31:30 Emotional Regulation and Young Black Men 34:30 Healing Without a Therapy Budget 38:00 Why Men End Up in the Gym 40:00 Cutting People, Places, and Things 42:00 You Might Save Somebody at the Drive-Thru 44:30 You Cannot Blame the Child 47:30 What You See Before You're Old Enough to Filter It 50:00 Advice for the 12-Year-Old Going Through It Now 52:30 Faith, Higher Power, and an ACEs Score of 6 53:30 Where to Find Lawrence 54:00 Outro Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  5. Sep 21

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 112

    Got a question? Send us a text! This episode discusses suicide, childhood abuse and sexual assault. If you're struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, US) or text HOME to 741741. You are not the only one. Melanie Cox thought she had thyroid cancer. Sitting at a window working out what she'd actually built, she realized she had left her children everything worldly and almost nothing spiritual. So she wrote a book — five copies, just for her kids. The publicist refused to print five. It became a number one. In this conversation with Dr. Torie, Melanie talks about being raised by a mother who spent her life trying to die, about lying on the floor by her mother's bed as a small child with a stuffed animal and a joke to keep her alive one more night, and about what it took to stop that inheritance from moving one more generation. It is also, unexpectedly, a very funny conversation about forgiveness. You can follow her on IG @itsmelaniecox — DM your email for a FREE digital copy of the book Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/5DWF9ggm-u0 00:00 The episode starts here 00:30 Welcome, and the grandest entrance we've had 01:45 Melanie: California CEO, and the diagnosis that changed the plan 04:00 What ACEs actually are, and why this show exists 06:00 Inside the book: "Kids, you have to know" 09:00 Her mother's illness, and the decision to break the cycle 11:30 "The bill has to be paid" 14:00 Taking thoughts captive, and the gratitude reset 17:00 She never meant to publish it 19:30 Awareness + Community = Empowerment 22:00 Legacy, and the potter's wheel 25:00 What it means to operate in purpose 27:00 Abandonment, dementia, and the woman she met too late 30:30 "Honor your mother and father is for the ones they leave behind" 32:30 Forgive and release — but don't invite them to Christmas 34:00 Suicide Prevention Awareness Month 34:45 Where to start, if you're at the beginning 35:30 Watch your mouth 36:00 Where to find Melanie Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  6. Sep 1

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 110

    Got a question? Send us a text! On this episode of Be Victorious, Dr. Torie sits down talks with David Deane Haskell, author of Wounded Angels, about losing his mother to suicide, surviving childhood violence, breaking a cycle of addiction and codependency, and the inner child healing work that got him here. You can follow him on IG @daviddeanehaskell Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/kEsbwpPME2c 00:00 It's Time to Talk About ACEs 00:40 Welcome to Be Victorious + Meet David Dean Haskell 03:30 Why He Wrote Wounded Angels 06:00 ACE Score: 9/11 — The Trauma He Almost Didn't Count 09:30 Spanking vs. Abuse: Where's the Line? 12:30 Publishing the Book His Father Would Read 17:00 Generational Trauma: His Parents' Own Childhoods 20:30 Vulnerable, Not Humiliating: The Inner Child Work 23:30 Codependency & the Family Scapegoat Role 27:00 "Go Where You're Celebrated, Not Tolerated" 30:30 Rock Bottom & Codependency with His Grandmother 34:00 Why Toxic Positivity Does Real Harm 37:30 The TED Talk That Gave His Trauma a Name 40:00 Healing a Trigger in Real Time 44:00 Suicide, Stigma & Trigger Warnings 46:00 A Spiritual Awakening on the Beach in Japan 48:00 Hearing About ACEs for the First Time 51:00 Closing Thoughts & Where to Find David Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  7. Aug 25

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 109

    Got a question? Send us a text! On this episode of Be Victorious, Dr. Torie sits down with sits down with  ⁨@JasonABenefield⁩   to unpack his childhood, his ACE score, and the framework he built — Commodity Consciousness — to help others do the same healing work. You can follow him on IG @jasonabenefield Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/pxiovs3eruk 00:00 It's Time to Talk About ACEs 00:40 Welcome to Be Victorious + Meeting Doc Benefield 03:00 Who Is Jason Ojudu-Benefield? 05:30 Feeling Unworthy in a Family of Faith 08:30 Taking the Seat: This Is a Safe Space 09:30 The Seizure at Church They Called Demonic 13:00 Labeled "Bad": The Birth of a People Pleaser 15:30 The Zoo School Diagnosis 18:00 The Masquerade of Always Looking Healed 20:30 Writing an ACEs Book Without Knowing It 23:00 Mentorship, His ACE Score (5) & PTSD 27:00 The Second Largest Study in the U.S. 30:30 Inspired by Les Brown 33:30 Building Commodity Consciousness 38:30 20 Years in the Making 40:30 A New Book on Mother Figures 44:30 Dr. Tori as a Mother Figure 46:30 Face the Pain to Find Freedom Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  8. Aug 18

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 108

    Got a question? Send us a text! On this episode of Be Victorious, Dr. Torie sits down with  ⁨@rodneyjahan⁩   to talk about cycle breaking, adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), the mentorship that changed his life, and the healing habits that keep him grounded — from the gym to skincare to literature. You can follow him on IG @rodneyjahan  Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/X-PaGx9x7iY 0:00It's Time to Talk About ACEs (book intro) 0:45Welcome to Be Victorious + Meet R. Jahan 3:00Who Is R. Jahan? (Stage Name Story) 4:30What Is a Cycle Breaker? 6:30The Childhood Calling to New York 10:00Life as Activity Director & Losing TJ Shirley 15:00Naming ACEs: CDC Update & His ACE Score (7/11) 18:30The Leap to New York: Culture Shock & Grit 23:30The Mentor Who Changed Everything: Yvonne Nesbitt 28:00Healing Strategies: Gym, Shakespeare & Skincare 35:00James Baldwin, Literature & Black Archaeology of ACEs 40:00Full Circle: The Thermos Story 43:00Advice for the Next Generation of Cycle Breakers 46:30The Baldwin Play Update & Closing Thoughts Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

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The podcast "Be VicTORIEus" is a platform to educate people about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). People share their stories, experiences, and advice on topics such as mental health, self-love, empowerment and their ways of addressing and healing their ACEs.  Be VicTORIEus podcast offers a fresh perspective and independent point of view on ACEs, the silent mental health  pandemic addressed my the Center for Disease Control and  Prevention (CDC). This podcast empowers guests affected by ACEs to take control of their childhood trauma by sharing their ACEs score, their ACEs story, and their journey to healing.The podcast is hosted by Dr. Torie Williams, a mental health advocate and ACEs expert. Dr. Torie educates while offering guidance and support to her listeners as they navigate life's challenges and understands their ACEs score. If you are looking for a podcast that will educate you about ACES while others share their stories and ways to heal, then "Be Victorieus" is the choice for you! Be VicTORIEus and raise awareness of ACEs, a mental health crisis that has an effect on us worldwide. 

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  • Creator
    EToyare McDonald-Williams
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    117
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Be VicTORIEus with Dr. Torie
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