High Maintenance Mommy

Carissa Gutierrez
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HIGH maintenance- get it? Higher altitudes…. Ok, now that that is out of the way. LOL. Never giving up the lol. So, shoutout to my fellow millennial parents. Cheers to the ones who juggle it all! Celebrating stay at home moms, working moms/parents, and everyone in between. Coming to the realization that my religious trauma came from faulty humans- not the divine. Taking you along that journey- alongside attempting to become a pilot. A new career at 35- rooting you on to GO FOR IT. Loudly diving deeper into living in faith. Conversations rooted in allowing anyone to come to the table with their opinions. Trying to do my part and converse with grace, while also letting you in on drawing my own boundaries. In real time. Also laced with some humor, a few bad words (we are all a work in progress, ok?), and just a bit of sarcasm. Peeling back the veil of parenthood which is a blessing, of course. But also letting you see the messy side. My hope is that you tune in on a bad day and think, “Well, this is normal as shit!” Pray a little, and feel a little better about yourself. Because who doesn’t need that? Shedding light onto what God is truly about- LOVE.

Episodes

  1. 07/09/2023

    We should have expectations.

    We all know the saying, “You shouldn’t do something nice if you’re expecting something in return.” While I mostly agree with this statement, I eventually want to be able to expect the bare minimum from people in my life. At what point do we say, Ok I deserve someone to show up in return? I have spent years giving, and giving, and giving- but to what end? I’m sorry, but yes, at this point in my life I expect some sort of kindness in return. There is a difference between making everything transactional, and genuinely knowing that you deserve more than crumbs in return. I do have some expectations as I hope the ones I love expect more from me as well. When it comes to who is important in your life- have some expectations and standards. I expect my partner to show up as a father and partner. As he expects me to show up as a Mother.

  2. 02/22/2023

    Toxic parents- severing ties.

    I’m sure some people will assume I’m automatically telling you to cut off your parents. No. But if you have a truly toxic parent, or caregiver who refuses help, then what options are left? I will never think it is ok to take someone abuse, simply because they are a parent. Or family member, as we all already know. Parents are no different. I talk about the lack of capacity for that type of love. Simply put, they are probably hurting themselves. Does this then justify the behavior? Absolutely not. I talk about shifting the responsibilities. It was the responsibility of the parent to be the caregiver that child needed. So why would a child be responsible for continuing a relationship that never met their needs to begin with? This is not to judge ANY parent, but boundaries aren’t about hating the other person. It’s about loving yourself enough to know that you deserve better, and no one gets a free pass to make you feel unimportant- even your parents. Through the actions of the parents, or lack there of, that is exactly what it feels like as a child. My needs and wants were never important enough to be acknowledged. It should never be the child’s responsibility to maintain the toxic relationship. It should fall in the parent to seek help. You will always love your parents, but it is never a child’s responsibility to counsel their parent for any reason.

  3. 11/05/2022

    I’m new here-healthy relationship edition.

    If there is one thing I could tell my younger self it would be, is to have standards! Know what you deserve, and have the expectation that your partner SHOULD show up for you. You deserve all the things that should come with a genuine love. A love that isn’t transactional, or dependent purely on what you give. We all deserve healthy communication, and to be heard. Since I can’t tell my younger self that, and I don’t want to because it led me here, I will show my daughter. I will show her to love herself enough to know when to walk away- easier said than done. Trust me, I know! I can’t save her from everything, but I CAN control how I model the first romantic relationship she ever sees. Her father and I. And I will be damned if I don’t show up everyday and be present to the life I’ve always wanted. While also saying it’s ok to bitch about the hard parts! Just because you have a life worth living, doesn’t mean we won’t have bad days. And that it all ok too!

  4. 07/07/2022

    Becoming the partner you want to attract.

    Becoming the partner you want to attract. We’ve all been there, right? “I want someone who communicates, knows how to set healthy boundaries, and someone I can grow with!” But…are these things we’re doing for ourselves first?! Not everyone can relate, but the people who can REALLY can. When you’re not taught how to properly communicate throughout your life, how would you even know what “good” communication looks like? This episode takes an approach of healing yourself, and seeking out different tools for you to actually be receptive to the good partner when they come. To reclaim your power, and know your f*****g worth, so we’re not settling for someone who doesn’t meet our needs. Never better yourself for someone else, but for yourself. Become what you want to attract. Trust me, it heals us in the process too. This is not just for mothers or romantic partners, but for everyone you choose in your life. And we ALL deserve some healing, clarity, and genuine connections! Listen to this shorter episode, on how I talk about my past retaliatory behavior, and how I had to do some digging to realize what I was truly worth. Furthermore, how my own actions were hindering what was waiting for me on the other side of healing. Love you guys!

  5. 05/03/2022

    BOUNDARIES? Who needs em'?! YOU.

    Talking about boundaries in the best way possible- my way. Reminding EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. that it is ok to say "F**K YOU" to everyone who doubts you. My views are not for the "faint of heart" if you will. Never interested in appealing to sugar coated podcasts. If you are going to be a Mom, are a Mom, or just a damn human- learn to establish those boundaries BABY!!!! And sometimes realizing it takes a little flipping of the bird to do. Hi unconventional parents/Moms. I am back again- and just as unapologetic as ever. Dig deep and find that inner BAD BITCH. Spicy Bitch. Sassy bitch. Love you.

  • 5 Episodes

Ratings & Reviews

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About

HIGH maintenance- get it? Higher altitudes…. Ok, now that that is out of the way. LOL. Never giving up the lol. So, shoutout to my fellow millennial parents. Cheers to the ones who juggle it all! Celebrating stay at home moms, working moms/parents, and everyone in between. Coming to the realization that my religious trauma came from faulty humans- not the divine. Taking you along that journey- alongside attempting to become a pilot. A new career at 35- rooting you on to GO FOR IT. Loudly diving deeper into living in faith. Conversations rooted in allowing anyone to come to the table with their opinions. Trying to do my part and converse with grace, while also letting you in on drawing my own boundaries. In real time. Also laced with some humor, a few bad words (we are all a work in progress, ok?), and just a bit of sarcasm. Peeling back the veil of parenthood which is a blessing, of course. But also letting you see the messy side. My hope is that you tune in on a bad day and think, “Well, this is normal as shit!” Pray a little, and feel a little better about yourself. Because who doesn’t need that? Shedding light onto what God is truly about- LOVE.

Information

  • Creator
    Carissa Gutierrez
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2023
  • Episodes
    5
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Carissa Gutierrez
  • Show Website
    High Maintenance Mommy