Become A Trauma Informed Coach

Lindsay Poelman
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Are you a coach who's afraid to use the "T" word (Trauma) on your calls? Or you that trauma is a thing, that it happens, but not much more (because you’re not sure if you want to know more)? If any of this resonates (or you just want to know more about how, as coaches, we can support clients carrying trauma), this podcast is for you. Bringing our lack of understanding into the light is necessary to support ourselves—and clients—during calls. Now coach, I am NOT HERE to induce fear or paralysis in your coaching—bleh. I am here to help you 1) see what you’re potentially not seeing, 2) reaffirm 10000% that you absolutely can do something about it, and 3) reinforce the notion that we all start somewhere (it’s ok to be where you’re at right now)! There is SO MUCH you can do to support clients carrying trauma—as well as understanding the limitations we have as coaches—so that they can receive the care they are in search of. I believe that being Trauma-Informed is an Essential Standard of Care for every coach in the coaching industry. I have a vision of every coach being Trauma-Informed. 

  1. 9h ago

    Nurses Get Assaulted More Than Police Officers. One ICU Leader Is Changing That.

    What happens when a nurse with 36 years at the bedside, 22 of them in the ICU, certifies to teach other nurses to feel their feelings and complete stress response cycles?  In this episode I sit down with Terri Petroff, an ICU nurse leader who came through The Fluent Human Certification™ and is now building an evidence-based program to reduce nurse burnout from the inside out. Terri has spent her career being with people on the worst day of their lives. She has also watched what that costs the people giving the care. We get honest about the parts of nursing nobody trains you for. The death and dying. The violent procedures. The moral distress. The workplace violence that Terri says makes nurses more likely to be assaulted than police officers, most of it going unreported because nurses are taught it is "just part of the job." For 22 years Terri was told to never process any of it. What she learned is the thing so many high-capacity, caring people learn too late: what you do not process shows up sideways. This is a conversation about what it actually looks like to get trauma-informed and put it to work. Terri walks through the tools from the certification that landed for her: the four lenses, the trauma responses (freeze, fawn, flight, fight, and frenzy) and how each one shows up on a real shift, and the self-compassion work that lets a nurse who made a med error write a new story instead of carrying the shame. She shares the 30-second pause her team takes after a code, the end-of-shift huddle where nurses name what was hard and who they are grateful for, and the moment she watched an entire unit exhale. Then she tells us what she is building. An eight-week cohort program for bedside nurses with validated pre and post stress measures, designed to prove it lowers perceived stress, protects nurses, and saves hospitals the roughly 83,000 dollars it costs to replace a single nurse. Terri did not just take the certification. She is running the experiment to show it works. If you have ever thought "that sounds great, but I am too exhausted to add one more thing," this episode is for you. Terri's answer to that is the whole point: you do not get your energy back by resting harder. You get it back by learning to process what you are carrying. Her closing line is the reason this show exists. "To be fully human is to be fully fluent in all of those emotions." What you will learn Why the tools nurses actually need are science-based, not "just go do more yoga"The real scope of workplace violence against nurses, and what prevention can look like (risk scoring, safety huddles, staffing two nurses to a room)The five trauma responses and how freeze, fawn, flight, fight, and frenzy show up on a shiftHow a 30-second pause after a code and a simple end-of-shift huddle change a whole unit's nervous systemWhy "I am too exhausted for coaching" is the exact reason to startWho the certification is really for, and how to know if that is youTimestamps 00:00 Meet Terri Petroff00:57 Nursing roots and burnout01:36 ICU trauma and COVID04:04 The reality of workplace violence against nurses06:02 Preventing nurse assaults08:12 What landed most from the certification11:06 Debriefs, the pause, and gratitude huddles15:32 The identity and agency shift17:57 The eight-week nurse program she is building20:09 "I am too exhausted for coaching"24:23 Who should get certified25:33 Final message and where to find Terri27:06 ClosingSupport the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

    Nurses Get Assaulted More Than Police Officers. One ICU Leader Is Changing That.

  2. Sep 4

    You're an expert at reading everyone else, but what about YOURSELF?

    You can read the room the second you walk in. You know your partner's mood by the way the door closes. So why is the one person you can't quite read... you? If you've ever understood one of your own patterns perfectly and still found yourself right back in it by Monday, this episode is for you. Lindsay unpacks the difference between awareness and actual change, and why insight alone never seems to be enough. Today's AH-HA: Insight lives in your head, but your patterns live __________________, and information alone doesn't reach the place where the pattern actually lives. You've spent your whole life becoming fluent in everyone else's needs and everyone else's weather. It kept you safe, it kept you chosen, and it was a genius adaptation. But what if you brought even a fraction of that brilliance home to yourself? That's fluency, and it might be the most freeing, sovereign thing you ever learn. In this episode: Why being "fluent in everyone else" is a survival skill, not a flaw, and what it's quietly costing you nowThe trap smart, self-aware, growth-loving people keep falling into (and why it's not that something's wrong with you)The real difference between knowing something and being fluent in yourselfHow to tell a trigger from a true intuitive hit, so you stop gaslighting yourselfThe four lenses (neuroscience, nervous system, somatic body, and psyche/soul) that make change actually holdWhat that "oof, that's a lot" feeling about investing in yourself is really telling youReady to become fluent in the language of your own body? The Fluent Human Course is a self-paced program with short, easy videos, real somatic tools, journal prompts, a full workbook, and lifetime access, so you can come back to it in any season of your life. This weekend only: Labor Day pricing is on, with 50% off the course when you use code LABOR at checkout. Live debrief calls start next week, and the sooner you join, the more intimate access you get to Lindsay on those calls.  Enroll in the Fluent Human Course: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/fluenthumancourse Certification-curious and want to go all in? The Fluent Human Method certification takes everything in the course and adds live semesters, peer coaching, and everything you need to become a certified trauma-informed coach. Book a call with Lindsay first and she'll help you get clarity either way: https://LindsayPoelman.as.me. If this is what your wanting, type LABORDAY in at checkout and see if you did it in time for a limited offer!  If this landed, follow the show, share it with someone who's fluent in everyone but themselves, and come find Lindsay on your favorite platform. xo Support the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

  3. Aug 13

    The 5 Hidden Layers Running Your Life (and How to Read Them)

    Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still stuck in the same patterns? In this trauma-informed masterclass, former CPA turned coach Lindsay Poelman walks you through the five hidden layers that quietly run your life beneath the surface: conditioning, nervous system, story, wounding, and inheritance. If mindset work, journaling, or even therapy have left you feeling like something is still missing, this episode is the missing piece. You'll learn how your subconscious, not your willpower or discipline, is actually steering the ship, and why lasting change starts with becoming fluent in the language of your own body. Lindsay breaks down what each layer sounds like, what it looks like day to day, and the research-backed long-term effects of ignoring your body's cues, from burnout and anxiety to chronic stress, rumination, and shame. Then she shows you the way back: naming your layers, meeting them with a curious, compassionate "gardener" approach, and doing the nervous-system-based, neuroscience-backed, trauma-informed work that actually holds. This is nervous system regulation, somatic awareness, subconscious reprogramming, and trauma education brought together in one place, for every human, not just coaches. Podcast listeners! subscribe here for your exclusive intro price on The Fluent Human Course: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/podcastsubscriber Take the free Fluent Human Quiz to discover your most dominant layer, then listen all the way to the end for an exclusive podcast-listener intro price on The Fluent Human Course and Certification. Quiz Link: https://lindsaypoelman.typeform.com/to/smIB1wMq Once you subscribe, watch for your special code on the thank-you page and in your welcome email, and be sure to whitelist lindsay@lindsaypoelmancoaching.com so nothing lands in spam. Support the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

  4. Aug 4

    Betrayal here, there, and everywhere

    Lindsay Poelman returns to reintroduce the show as a brand new season and open a new series on betrayal. Drawing from her own story, a high-demand Mormon upbringing, a check-the-box life, and the turning point when her husband disclosed longstanding lies about his porn use, Lindsay names betrayal trauma out loud and explains why it lives underneath so much of the pain women carry and cannot name. Using Jennifer Freyd's definition of betrayal trauma, Lindsay walks through the many places betrayal shows up: religion and faith transitions, family systems that silence the victim to protect the family's image, institutions and medical gaslighting (including women dismissed around perimenopause), partnership and infidelity, and the self-betrayal we learn young in order to survive. Across almost a decade of coaching, she has seen the same pattern again and again, and the same way through: rebuilding self-trust, reconnecting to the body's felt sense and intuition, and using community to dissolve shame. She closes with the heart of her work: your body is not the problem, it is the solution. Learn more inside The Fluent Human course and certification, her live community calls, and her limited one-on-one coaching. What you'll learn in this episode What betrayal trauma actually is, defined through the research of Jennifer FreydWhy betrayal is not only about marriage, and the shape it takes underneath religion, family, institutions, and partnershipHow medical gaslighting works, and why so many women (especially around perimenopause) were told it was all in their headsWhat self-betrayal and self-abandonment are, why they were once a survival strategy, and how to tell if the pattern is still running your lifeWhy rebuilding self-trust and reconnecting to your intuition is the difference between staying stuck and moving forwardHow the body holds truth, keeps score, and can sense when something is off, even when everything looks fine on the outsideWhy community and being witnessed dissolve shame faster than trying to heal alone Key concept: What is betrayal trauma? Betrayal trauma, as defined by Jennifer Freyd, is the deep emotional and psychological injury that happens when a person you trust, love, or depend on for safety and survival breaks that trust in a major way. Lindsay expands it into a working definition for everyday life: betrayal is being told to trust something that was not safe. Once you see it that way, you start to notice how many places you were told exactly that. Chapters and timestamps 00:00 Welcome back, season reset00:28 Why betrayal, again01:11 My background: the checklist life02:16 The first betrayal story03:51 Coaching patterns and hope04:54 Self-trust and The Fluent Human06:43 What betrayal trauma is (Jennifer Freyd)08:22 Betrayal in religion09:50 Betrayal in family10:55 Institutions and medical gaslighting12:04 Partnership betrayal13:05 Boundaries and relationships15:27 Self-betrayal and self-abandonment18:20 Body wisdom and intuition19:03 Work with me: options21:15 Final encouragement and next episodesSupport the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

  5. 09/09/2025

    How Trauma-Informed Work Saved My Marriage, Career, and Sense of Self

    What if the life you’re living right now isn’t the one you’re meant to stay in? In this deeply personal episode, I share my story of becoming trauma-informed and how it changed everything—my marriage, my parenting, my relationship with myself, and even the continent I live on. This past decade has been the most transformative of my life. I open up about: My breaking pointsWhy learning about trauma, anxiety, and depression was the catalyst for healing.The choices that catapulted me into an entirely different life (including moving to France!).What I’ve learned about re-parenting myself, setting boundaries, and finding freedom in my body.Why trauma-informed work is essential in our homes, workplaces, and communities.This isn’t a polished “10 steps to healing” conversation. It’s raw, emotional, and honest. My hope is that as you listen, you’ll see reflections of your own journey and feel inspired to take the next brave step and learn what I did (and more) in my upcoming "LAST LIVE" Trauma-Informed Coach Certifications! Check out the LINKS below to experience first-hand what it feels like to be held, celebrated, and deeply supported. 👉 Links: Trauma-Informed Coach Certification: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/traumacertMythic Zions Retreat: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/mythiczionsAdv. Trauma-Informed Coach Certification: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/relationship-trauma-certification-1 Support the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

    How Trauma-Informed Work Saved My Marriage, Career, and Sense of Self

  6. 08/26/2025

    Reset, Realign, and Return Home A New Person

    Discover the Healing Power of a Trauma-Informed Retreat What if one weekend could shift the way your whole nervous system feels — not just for a few days, but long after you come home? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on our Mystical Magical Zions Retreat.  You’ll hear why a retreat isn’t just a getaway (hint: it’s a full-body reset), how intention-setting shapes the work we do together, and what it looks like to come as you are and leave with more clarity, alignment, and calm in your body. We’ll talk about the power of gathering in community, somatic practices that open your system to change, and why nature in Zion is such a potent container for transformation. If you’ve been craving space to exhale, recalibrate, and be deeply supported, this conversation is for you. Don't miss out on the chance to learn about the unique experiences planned for the retreat, including: The importance of warm, in-person connections post-COVID, The science behind using music and drumming for emotional processing, & The creative ways to express and release emotions. Click this link to snag your spot before they're all filled up! https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/mythiczions 01:16 Meet Melissa Taylor: Somatic Practices and More 03:24 The Power of Connection and Healing 07:52 Exploring Kundalini Yoga and Breath Work 15:11 The Impact of Drumming with Jill Freestone 28:15 Song Circle with Amy: Music as a Portal Support the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

    Reset, Realign, and Return Home A New Person

  7. 08/12/2025

    The many faces of Betrayal

    For centuries, we’ve been told to move on, stay quiet, be grateful, or trust the system—whether that system was religious, medical, familial, or societal. But what if the very institutions we were taught to trust are where the deepest betrayals took root? In this raw, deeply personal episode, I walk you through a trauma-informed lens of betrayal in all its forms—and why naming it is not "playing the victim," but a powerful act of nervous system repair and reclamation. We explore: 🔥 What betrayal trauma actually is (and why it lives in the body)💔 The hidden cost of religious, medical, and societal betrayals😶‍🌫️ How women especially are conditioned to betray themselves to belong🧠 What neuroscience and trauma research say about repair, healing, and hope💡 Why witnessing ruptures is sacred—not shameful🌿 My own story of healing from personal and systemic betrayalsIf you've ever felt dismissed, gaslit, silenced, or ashamed for being too sensitive or too much—this one is for you. Your wounds are real. And your healing? It’s revolutionary. 🔗 Resources & Mentorship Mentioned: Apply for 1:1 Mentorship: [Insert your mentorship link here]Join the free ReSourced Community: [Link]Learn more about trauma-informed coaching: [Link to certification or about pag01:00 Personal Journey into Betrayal Coaching 04:25 Types of Betrayal 18:39 Internalized Betrayals 20:47 Healing and Moving Forward 24:34 Mentorship Opportunities Support the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

    The many faces of Betrayal

  8. 07/23/2025

    IFS, Collective Trauma, & How it relates to the USA - Part 1 of 2

    What if the parts of you that sabotage, overachieve, numb out, or shut down… were just trying to help? In this 2 part series, I sit down with trauma therapist and IFS expert Kathy Kinghorn to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) gives us a radical, compassionate map of the human psyche. You'll learn how the different “parts” of you—yes, even the ones that seem chaotic or contradictory—are showing up for a reason.  ✨ Topics We Cover: What IFS actually is (& how it mirrors your external family)Why they're ALL trying to help youThe neuroscience of partsWhat happens when we speak, lead, or parent from unintegrated parts🔗  Know an immigrant who needs a mental health eval with Kathy's team? Click here. Kathy's website: here. 💫 Become trauma-informed? Click here. 🌄 Somatic retreat this fall: Mythic Zions 🤍 Work w/ me privately: Mentorship for Coaches + Creatives ✨ Tik-Tok-er who insipired this interview: here. Overview: 01:17 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) 04:55 Exploring Parts and Self-Energy 14:23 Real-Life Examples and Applications of IFS 29:00 Conclusion & Teaser for Part Two, w/ how this all relates to the current state of the US Support the show Lindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay:...

    IFS, Collective Trauma, & How it relates to the USA - Part 1 of 2
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Are you a coach who's afraid to use the "T" word (Trauma) on your calls? Or you that trauma is a thing, that it happens, but not much more (because you’re not sure if you want to know more)? If any of this resonates (or you just want to know more about how, as coaches, we can support clients carrying trauma), this podcast is for you. Bringing our lack of understanding into the light is necessary to support ourselves—and clients—during calls. Now coach, I am NOT HERE to induce fear or paralysis in your coaching—bleh. I am here to help you 1) see what you’re potentially not seeing, 2) reaffirm 10000% that you absolutely can do something about it, and 3) reinforce the notion that we all start somewhere (it’s ok to be where you’re at right now)! There is SO MUCH you can do to support clients carrying trauma—as well as understanding the limitations we have as coaches—so that they can receive the care they are in search of. I believe that being Trauma-Informed is an Essential Standard of Care for every coach in the coaching industry. I have a vision of every coach being Trauma-Informed. 

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  • Creator
    Lindsay Poelman
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    110
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Become A Trauma Informed Coach
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