Therapy Works

The Times

Conversations about life's biggest challenges. Bestselling author and psychotherapist Julia Samuel invites us into her therapy room as she talks to both known and unknown voices about events and experiences we will all face - and how we face them. Therapy Works is full of therapeutic conversations which may contain difficult emotions but can also bring light. Hear what the guests have learnt, have failed to learn and how they’ve grown through the experience. At the end of each episode, Julia reflects on her session with her two psychotherapist daughters who share their thoughts on the conversation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 11h ago

    The hidden grief of baby loss and TFMR

    Warning: This episode contains detailed discussion of termination for medical reasons (TFMR), baby loss and pregnancy loss. To mark Baby Loss Awareness Week, author and former teacher Rosanna Brown joins Julia Samuel to share the story of her son William and her experience of termination for medical reasons (TFMR). Rosanna was approaching 24 weeks pregnant when she and her husband learnt that William had a condition incompatible with life. She speaks candidly about the trauma of ending a much-wanted pregnancy, the medical procedure itself and the words from a midwife that helped her begin to reframe what had happened: “You didn't choose, you consented to medical advice.” Rosanna and Julia explore the often hidden grief surrounding TFMR and baby loss, the difference between grief and trauma, and why Rosanna struggled to feel entitled to mourn her son. They also discuss how couples can grieve differently, the role talking therapy played in her recovery and how she and her husband found ways to remember William together. Rosanna also reflects on pregnancy after loss, becoming a mother again and why another baby can bring enormous joy without replacing the child who died. Now an advocate for greater awareness of TFMR, Rosanna shares why she wants other parents facing termination for medical reasons to feel less alone, ashamed and silenced. If you found this conversation helpful: Listen to Julia's conversation with Geraint John, on losing his wife, navigating grief as a family and learning to rebuild life after loss: Listen here. You may also enjoy Agony Aunties: How Do You Handle the "Death Admin" While You're Still Grieving?, exploring the emotional and practical challenges of bereavement, and why we need to give ourselves time and support after losing someone we love: Listen here. Never miss an episode: follow the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Subscribe here to Therapy Works on Substack for weekly insights into emotional well-being. Subscribe here to The Times and The Sunday Times to enjoy unlimited digital access to all our journalism. Guest: Rosanna Brown Producer: Georgie Rutherford Executive Producer: Emily Leahy Video Producer: Darren Michael Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    The hidden grief of baby loss and TFMR
  2. 5d ago

    My family doesn’t believe my ADHD diagnosis. What Do I Do? | Agony Aunties

    This week’s listener has recently been diagnosed with ADHD after a lifetime of struggling with strong emotions and impulsivity. While the diagnosis has brought her and her husband a huge sense of relief, understanding and emotional healing, her mother and sisters refuse to accept it, believing her successful career and relationship mean she couldn’t possibly have ADHD. Julia, Sophie and Emily explore what happens when a new diagnosis challenges long-held family roles, why we can so quickly revert to childhood dynamics and how reparenting supports personal growth. They discuss setting boundaries when family members see things differently, learning to tolerate different versions of the same family story, navigating family expectations, and protecting your mental health when old childhood wounds are reopened. Please do send in your Agony Aunties questions to: jsamuelpod@gmail.com Never miss an episode: follow the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. You can also watch episodes of Therapy Works on Julia’s YouTube page. Subscribe here to Therapy Works on Substack for weekly insights into emotional well-being. Subscribe here to The Times and The Sunday Times to enjoy unlimited digital access to all our journalism. Hosts: Julia Samuel, Emily Samuel, Sophie Samuel Producer: Georgie Rutherford Executive Producer: Emily Leahy Video Producer: Darren Michael Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    My family doesn’t believe my ADHD diagnosis. What Do I Do? | Agony Aunties
  3. Oct 7

    Elif Shafak: “All I wanted from my father was an apology”

    What happens when a parent is absent from your childhood, and how does that shape the person you become? Bestselling author Elif Shafak joins Julia Samuel to explore her relationship with her father, the loneliness she experienced growing up and how storytelling became a tool for personal growth and mental health recovery by helping her find connection and belonging. Raised largely by her grandmother and mother in Turkey, Elif grew up surrounded by strong women but with very little contact with her father. She opens up about the pain of discovering that he had been a present and loving parent to her half-brothers, the anger that followed and how those early experiences influenced her personal growth and instinct to write about people whose voices have been forgotten or silenced. They also explore the emotional cost of Elif Shafak's prosecution in Turkey following the publication of her novel, The Bastard of Istanbul, her complicated relationship with her homeland and the sense of grief that can accompany living between cultures. Elif speaks candidly about her mental health and experiencing postnatal depression, losing her ability to write during that period and the challenges of navigating motherhood alongside her creative identity, experiences she later explored in her memoir Black Milk. Elif Shafak reflects on the family patterns we inherit, why literature helps personal growth by helping us understand ourselves and others, and the importance of human connection in an increasingly anxious and divided world. Elif Shafak’s new novel is In One Brief Moment All Eternity (published on 15 Oct). If you enjoyed this conversation: Listen to Julia’s conversation with Mary Berry, on family, grief and learning to live alongside loss: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/therapy-works/id1646616622?i=1000791219769 You may also enjoy Sathnam Sanghera on bridging conflicting cultures, exploring family, identity, heritage and the search for belonging: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/therapy-works/id1646616622?i=1000674940873 Never miss an episode: follow the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Subscribe here to Therapy Works on Substack for weekly insights into emotional well-being. Subscribe here to The Times and The Sunday Times to enjoy unlimited digital access to all our journalism. Guest: Elif Shafak Producer: Georgie Rutherford Executive Producer: Emily Leahy Video Producer: Darren Michael Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Elif Shafak: “All I wanted from my father was an apology”
  4. Sep 30

    Mark Foster on hiding his sexuality and learning to be himself

    What happens when the person the world sees doesn’t quite match who you are behind closed doors? In this open conversation with five-time Olympian and former world champion swimmer Mark Foster, we explore the double life he lived for much of his extraordinary sporting career. For 20 years, Mark was one of the fastest swimmers in the world, breaking world records and competing at five Olympic Games. But while his public identity was defined by success in the pool, privately he kept his sexuality hidden from teammates, coaches and much of the world around him. He opens up about why he felt unable to share that part of himself, and the fears that kept his public and private lives separate. Mark Foster also shares his relentless pursuit of improvement at the highest level of sport, why even becoming the fastest swimmer in the world never felt like an endpoint, and what years of competition taught him about failure, resilience and separating what you achieve from who you are. We talk about his childhood, his relationship with his parents and the importance of finding people who give us a sense of belonging. Mark also reflects on why he eventually decided to speak publicly about his sexuality at 47, the importance of visibility and what he discovered when he allowed himself to be more vulnerable in therapy. From Olympic success to self-acceptance, this is a conversation about identity, happiness and what can happen when we feel able to show other people who we really are. Never miss an episode: follow the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Subscribe here to Therapy Works on Substack for weekly insights into emotional well-being. Subscribe here to The Times and The Sunday Times to enjoy unlimited digital access to all our journalism. Guest: Mark Foster Producer: Georgie Rutherford Executive Producer: Emily Leahy Video Producer: Darren Michael Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Mark Foster on hiding his sexuality and learning to be himself
  5. Sep 23

    Dame Mary Berry: "I never asked why after my son died"

    How do you move forward after the loss of a child? In this personal conversation with cooking legend Dame Mary Berry, we explore raw grief, building resilience and the most meaningful lessons she’s learnt in 91 years of life. Behind the warmth so many know her for in her cooking shows and books, is a life shaped by profound loss. In this conversation Dame Mary Berry opens up about the devastating death of her son William, how her family approached processing grief, and how she found the strength to keep moving forward. She also shares the traumatic experience of surviving polio as a teenager, how she’s developed resilience and her emotional healing capacity, and the power of talking therapy during challenging times. Dame Mary Berry also reflects on the secrets of a 60 year marriage, why kindness matters above all else, as well as the comfort of cooking and food when life feels uncertain. From navigating grief to finding joy, this is a profound conversation about connection, care, and family. Never miss an episode: follow the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Subscribe here to Therapy Works on Substack for weekly insights into emotional well-being Subscribe here to The Times and The Sunday Times to enjoy unlimited digital access to all our journalism. You can also watch episodes of Therapy Works on my YouTube page. Guests: Dame Mary Berry Producer: Georgie Rutherford Executive Producer: Emily Leahy Video Producer: Darren Michael Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Dame Mary Berry: "I never asked why after my son died"
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Conversations about life's biggest challenges. Bestselling author and psychotherapist Julia Samuel invites us into her therapy room as she talks to both known and unknown voices about events and experiences we will all face - and how we face them. Therapy Works is full of therapeutic conversations which may contain difficult emotions but can also bring light. Hear what the guests have learnt, have failed to learn and how they’ve grown through the experience. At the end of each episode, Julia reflects on her session with her two psychotherapist daughters who share their thoughts on the conversation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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