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The podcast for young Nigerians who are trying to figure shit out and refusing to pretend otherwise. GoodLiving is where real conversations about identity, relationships, work, money and growing up in Nigeria happen. Not motivation. Real talk that (I hope) makes you feel less alone, think more clearly, and sometimes finally do something about it. Each episode tackles the conflicts young Nigerians are genuinely facing | the ones people discuss in private, think about at 2am, and rarely hear addressed out loud. New episodes every Monday. Hosted by Koke (Pronounced Coke)

  1. 1d ago

    No Nut November 🚫

    Koke opens with a plain announcement: he’s not coming this month. November is No Nut November, and he’s using it to build sexual discipline while he’s young and single. He lays out what the internet says abstinence does for you, including the downsides, and then what he’s actually seen from his own experience. He says it saves money, takes the pressure out of early relationships, and gives him longer, deeper work sessions on editing and writing. He doesn’t pretend it’s easy. He walks through the “banana peels” that trip people up, mainly porn, masturbation, and the habit cycle behind both. He closes with his practical fixes: stay busy, pick one big priority for the month, and don’t do it alone. It’s aimed mostly at men, and he says up front that some listeners may be grossed out. Show Notes The announcement: why he’s not coming this month, and why November is a good time to join the movementWhy he thinks sexual discipline matters for a man trying to make something of himself, and why it’s easier to build when you’re youngHis own reasons: he’s young, he’s single, and he doesn’t owe anyone sexWhat the internet lists as the benefits of abstinence, including increased semen volume, focus, and personal clarityThe downsides he read out too: lower sperm quality over long periods, night emissions, and the loss of climax as a natural painkillerA quick ask to rate the podcast on Spotify or wherever you listenBenefits from experience: it saves money, because the cost of dating and spending to get sex drops awayHow abstaining takes pressure off a new relationship, and gives it time to mature before sex enters itWhy he gets longer editing and writing sessions during abstinence, and how it fueled the start of the podcast networkThe banana peels: porn and masturbation, and how the habit cycle of cue, trigger, and habit worksWhy he says catching the cycle early beats resisting at the last momentStaying busy, and choosing one big priority for the month: for him, finishing production on A Peek Under the RainbowThe padlock: why you shouldn’t do this alone, and how the discussion group fits inThe ring he wears as a reminder, and a picture coming to the discussion groupUsing November to cut other habits too: more exercise, a better diet, more reading, and being kinderThe closing challenge: be nice to everybody for no reason, enjoy moments, and call your parentsChapter Markers Cold open: “I’m not coming this month”Why sexual discipline, and why start youngHis own reasons for doing it nowWhat the internet says: the benefitsThe downsidesBenefit from experience: saving moneyBenefit from experience: building relationships without sex pressureBenefit from experience: focus and deep workThe banana peels: porn, masturbation, and the habit cycleStaying busy and picking one priority for the monthThe padlock: community and the discussion groupThe ringCutting other habits, and the closing challengePull Quotes (verbatim) “It’s easy to build a tree when it’s young.”“You save money when you don’t need sex.”“Don’t do it alone.”“Let it be a time that you are nice to everybody for no reason.”DISCUSSION GROUPTHE E-BOOK ★ Support this podcast ★

  2. Oct 26

    The 🫆Fingerprint Problem

    Ref: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Dc-1UaniU8A/?cplk=cHA3cWU0eDZld2N5Discussion Group Imagine you can’t get a National Identification Number, and without one, you can’t open a bank account, keep your SIM active, or get a passport. For many disabled Nigerians, that is how it works. This episode opens with an excerpt from an Instagram video by Funmi Yakubu on how disabled people are shut out of the NIN system. Koke picks up from there. He asks what Nigeria has actually adjusted for disabled people beyond the occasional ramp, and argues the country is optimized for one standard body and one standard process. He brings in a story from his NYSC CDS days about a corps member whose fingerprints never scanned, India’s simple fix of accepting three kinds of biometric capture, and the Apple principle of designing for the end user first. He also asks who charity actually serves. He closes with what ordinary people can do, and a plain reminder to be kind to the disabled because you may become disabled yourself. Show Notes The opening excerpt from Funmi Yakubu’s Instagram video, which inspired this episode, on disabled Nigerians being shut out of the NIN, banking, and other systemsWhy Koke thinks Nigeria lacks even basic empathy toward disabled people, down to using them for comic reliefA ramp is not inclusion: how the country is set up around one standard processA story from NYSC CDS: a corps member whose fingerprints never scanned, and the hours he spent waiting every weekWhat a simple alternative process could look like, and why disabled people should get shorter lines, not longer onesA hard digression: how some people think about the cost of raising a child with a disabilityThe accessibility mandate that exists on paper, and why nobody enforces itWhat India did: approving iris, fingerprint, and facial recognition so that if one fails, another worksScreen readers and accessible websites for blind usersThe Apple principle: building around the end user’s experience, down to how a charger cord is woundA thought experiment: a blind entrepreneur in Norway versus an able-bodied one in Nigeria, and who gets their business running firstCharity as performance: who benefits from institutions, awards, and photo-ops, and what changes afterwardWhat you can do: show concern, speak up when you see someone struggling in a queue, and voteWhy people are “living like zombies,” and why obvious fixes don’t occur to decision-makersThe closing reminder: be kind to the disabled because you may also become oneChapter Markers Opening excerpt: Funmi Yakubu’s Instagram video on disability and the NINKoke’s reaction: the empathy gapBeyond the ramp: a country optimized for one standardAn NYSC CDS story: the fingerprint that wouldn’t scanA hard digression: the cost of raising a child with a disabilityThe accessibility mandate nobody enforcesIndia’s fix: three capture systemsAccessible websites and screen readersThe Apple principle: designing for the end userThought experiment: a blind entrepreneur in Norway vs an able-bodied one in NigeriaCharity as performanceWhat you can doClosing: be kind to the disabled because you may become onePull Quotes  “We are optimized to do one standard.”“People are living like zombies in this country.”“It’s funny how many obvious things don’t even cross people’s heads.”“Be kind to the disabled because you may also become one.” ★ Support this podcast ★

  3. Oct 19

    The 'Simp Industrial Complex'

    DISCUSSION GROUPWhere did you first learn what love is supposed to look like? Koke traces it back to childhood crushes and the Disney princess story: a damsel in distress, a dragon, and a prince whose reward for saving her is happily ever after. He calls it the “simp industrial complex,” a theory that the template teaches men to sacrifice themselves for women, and that the companies funding our media profit when they do. He follows it into real dating: why the savior formula wears people out, why it doesn’t work for either person, and what he calls the “pink mist,” the early rush that makes you glaze over red flags and drop your standards. He is clear that this isn’t a red-pill episode, and he argues it hurts everyone. The way out, he says, is to notice the mist and get clear on your standards before the excitement decides for you. Show Notes What the “simp industrial complex” is, and how a childhood crush plays into itHow Disney princess stories and games like Super Mario teach the damsel-and-dragon template for loveThe reward the story promises: the love and affection of the princess, then happily ever afterKoke’s theory of who benefits: media funded by companies that sell to a market of mostly female shoppersWhy he says this is not red-pill content, and why he argues it hurts everyoneHow the savior formula plays out when a young man starts dating, and why the dragons never run outWhy doing everything at her bidding backfires: the pink mist fades and attraction goes with itThe pink mist: the early burst of excitement that makes you drop standards and ignore red flagsA tangent on why mainstream advice on love, marriage, and health can’t always be trustedWhy simply being aware of the pink mist helps you avoid its worst effectsGetting clear on your standards and long-term goals before excitement takes overThe recommendation to listen to Real Matters Only, a sister podcast on the GoodLiving NetworkChapter Markers Cold open: defining the simp industrial complexChildhood crushes and the question of the endgameThe Disney princess template: damsel, dragon, princeThe reward: love, affection, and happily ever afterThe theory: who profits from the templateWhy he says it affects everyone, not just menA tangent on trusting mainstream sourcesHow the template plays out when a young man starts datingWhy the formula fails both peopleThe pink mistStandards before excitementClosing: start Real Matters Only next ★ Support this podcast ★

  4. Oct 12

    A 17-Minute Walk and a Confession

    DISCUSSION GROUP Koke walks to the gym, which takes 17 minutes on foot, and uses the time to give the update he promised after his earlier trip: how the podcast network and his December event are actually going. The original plan was five shows with a 12-episode season each. After reading how other networks stumbled by launching too many shows too early, he scaled back to three running at once and held the rest for later. A few months in, he gives an honest read on where each show stands, what the first day of a new launch taught him, and why his motivation isn’t what it was when he started. It’s a candid look at what happens when plans meet reality, plus a confession about why the episode he announced isn’t the one you’re getting this week. Show Notes Recording on a 17-minute walk to the gym to give the update he promised on the December event and the podcast networkThe original plan: five podcasts, one 12-episode season eachWhy he scaled back after researching other networks: starting with too many shows too early is a common mistakeThe revised rollout: three shows first, the rest to followIdeas still on the table for later shows, including a series that talks with people near the end of life about mortality and a niche-community seriesWhere the shows stand: GoodLiving Podcast weekly, Real Matters Only’s season fully recorded with episode 11 out that day and episode 12 the following week, and A Peek Under the Rainbow airing around episode eight or nine with some episodes still unrecordedWhat a new show’s first day taught him: 100-plus plays in the first 24 hours, and a repeatable plan for itAmplifying the work beyond audio, including an ebook version of the Real Matters Only episodesThe December event: progress tied to sponsor funding, social media getting started, and early posts coming soonWhy motivation dips once the boring parts of the work arriveWhether he overestimated demand for niche shows, or whether it’s simply not their time yetManifestation and why it works without a timelineThe confession: why this week’s announced episode was held back and this walk became the episodeChapter Markers Cold open: the 17-minute walk and the update he promisedThe original plan: five podcasts, 12 episodes eachWhy he scaled back: the mistake other networks makeThe revised plan: three shows first, plus ideas still on the tableThe launch schedule and where each show stands nowWhat the first-day numbers taught himAmplifying the work: the ebook ideaThe December event: funding, sponsors, and social mediaWhen motivation fades and plans meet realityManifestation, timing, and planting the seedThe confession: why this week’s announced episode was held back ★ Support this podcast ★

  5. Oct 5

    HOW TO BE SINGLE - THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO KOKE ⤱

    DISCUSSION GROUP What if being single isn't a waiting room for your next relationship, but one of the most important periods of your life? Inspired by Karen Uzo's book How to Be Single, this episode explores what the host has learned from several periods of solitude throughout his life. From the heartbreak of his first university relationship in 2017, to the curiosity and self-education that followed a later breakup, and finally to a deeper period of introspection in recent years, each season of solitude brought a different kind of growth. The episode explores how being alone can push you to develop your skills, discover your capacity to create money independently, become more curious about the world, understand your identity, confront difficult parts of yourself, and ultimately become less dependent on external validation. It also gets deeply personal, examining childhood experiences, ADHD, the fear of being a "one-hit wonder," patterns in past relationships, and the ways self-knowledge can change the kind of partner you choose. The central question isn't simply "How do you become comfortable being single?" It's: What happens when you use solitude to actually get to know yourself? Show Notes In this episode, I talk about what I've learned during the different periods of solitude I've experienced throughout my life. The first came after my university relationship ended in 2017. At first, it was painful, but that period eventually pushed me toward football, creativity, drawing, and discovering that I could make money from my own skills. A later breakup in 2023 led to a completely different kind of solitude. I already had a business, a house, a car, and a relatively stable life, so instead of rebuilding from scratch, I became deeply curious about the world. I consumed lectures, history, ideas, and information from Ivy League universities and other sources, and built a much larger knowledge base. The current period of solitude has been different again. The focus has shifted inward. I've spent more time examining my identity, my tendencies, my relationship patterns, my childhood, my insecurities, and the things I didn't previously understand about myself. One of the biggest realizations has been that knowing yourself deeply changes what you need from other people. Instead of looking for someone to complete you or provide your sense of worth, self-knowledge can move you toward self-sufficiency. I also discuss my ADHD diagnosis and how it helped me reinterpret parts of my childhood — including the recurring fear that I might initially impress people but eventually disappoint them once they discovered more about me. Ultimately, solitude can become an opportunity to ask difficult questions: Who are you when nobody is validating you? What patterns keep appearing in your relationships? What parts of yourself have you avoided examining? And perhaps most importantly: How well do you actually know yourself? ★ Support this podcast ★

  6. Oct 3 ·  Bonus

    SO HE CAN'T SPEAK YORUBA F.T MAYWEDA

    DISCUSSION GROUPA gubernatorial candidate in Lagos gets asked a question in Yoruba and can't answer fluently — and overnight it becomes a referendum on who actually "owns" Lagos. Koke and a friend (unplanned, mic-still-warm energy throughout) unpack the Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour language controversy, then pull the thread further: is this really about language, or a convenient distraction engineered to keep people arguing about identity instead of policy? From there the conversation widens into a bigger question — does voting even work, or is democracy fundamentally broken. Asked how leaders were chosen in Africa before democracy existed, Koke's answer is one word: competence — and he makes the case that a system built around producing and installing capable leaders, rather than winning popularity contests, is closer to what real leadership should look like. Chapter Markers Cold open — catching up on the day, football/coaching talkThe GRV Yoruba fluency controversy enters the conversationThe argument that the controversy is a manufactured distraction tied to the governorship raceWidening out: is democracy actually working?The case against voting as a systemPivot: how were African leaders chosen before the 1700s, before democracy? Koke's answer — competenceClosing — acknowledgment this was unplanned/off-the-cuffPull Quotes (verbatim) "The whole democracy thing is not working here, bro.""Democracy is a big sham.""Let leaders lead. People that are born to be leaders should lead.""Competence. That's what communism is all about. The system that produces these people." Corrections Note (for the listener) A quick correction on a couple of things discussed in this episode: the candidate's name is Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour. Also, the system described in this conversation — competent, ideologically trained people leading rather than the general public voting — is more accurately described as a vanguardist strand of socialism (associated with Leninist theory), not communism as classically defined. Communism, properly speaking, refers to collective ownership and an eventual classless, stateless society — it doesn't itself include a mechanism for "the most competent rising to the top." Most other forms of socialism, including the more commonly known democratic socialism, still retain elections. ★ Support this podcast ★

  7. Sep 29

    WW III

    Corrections Note  A quick correction on a couple of things said in this episode: The strait referred to as "Al-Hammud" or "Al-Hermon" is actually the Bab-el-Mandeb Strait, and the "Sea West Canal" mentioned alongside it is the Suez Canal — both real waterways along the Red Sea shipping corridor. Also, the account of the Pentagon memo naming seven countries for regime change was attributed to "a former general who worked in the CIA." That quote actually comes from General Wesley Clark, a retired U.S. Army four-star general and former NATO Supreme Allied Commander, from a widely-circulated 2007 interview. Why did the U.S. actually go to war with Iraq — and does it explain what's happening with Iran right now? Koke traces a chain of events from the assassination of Iran's Ayatollah, through the Strait of Hormuz blockade and the resulting pressure on the Bab-el-Mandeb Strait and Suez Canal, to a 1996 document called the Clean Break Memo, arguing that decades of U.S. Middle East policy trace back to a long-term plan tied to Israeli interests. He brings in General Wesley Clark's widely-circulated account of a Pentagon memo naming seven countries slated for regime change, connects it to the economics of oil, and closes with a challenge to the listener: do your own research, and figure out where you actually stand. Corrections applied here: the strait/canal names (Bab-el-Mandeb Strait, Suez Canal) and the Wesley Clark attribution are corrected from the original recording per confirmed research. The transcript's claim tying that route to Hezbollah/Lebanon is left as spoken — that appears to conflate Hezbollah (Lebanon) with the Houthis (Yemen, the group actually positioned near Bab-el-Mandeb), but that's a substantive claim, not a name error, so it's flagged for Koke rather than changed here. Show Notes The "decapitation method" — why killing a country's leader doesn't always work, and how it played out with IranHow the Strait of Hormuz blockade created ripple effects across oil-dependent economies in the Middle EastThe U.S. and Israel's workaround through a second shipping route, and how Iran retaliated through regional proxiesBacking up to 1996: the Clean Break Memo and the shift away from a negotiated Middle East peaceA general's account of a Pentagon memo naming seven countries slated for regime change, starting with IraqThe Zionist belief system behind the push to control the region, according to Koke's explanationWhy he thinks this could escalate toward a larger global conflict, and where Russia and China fit inOn oil — why it underpins nearly everything, from medicine to plastics to transportationClosing challenge: do your own research and decide where you standChapter Markers Cold open — the assassination and the "decapitation method"The Strait of Hormuz blockade and its economic ripple effectsThe U.S./Israel workaround through a second shipping routeIran's retaliation through regional proxies (Hezbollah)Backing up: 1996 and the Clean Break MemoThe Zionist belief system, as he explains itThe Pentagon "seven countries in five years" accountSpeculation on U.S.-Israel relationsWhy this could escalate into a larger global conflictOn oil and why it underpins nearly everythingClosing challenge to the listener ★ Support this podcast ★

  8. Sep 21

    Thank you for coming to my TED Talk 😖

    This one didn't come with a plan. Koke steps outside his own compound — a full-circle moment from where he used to record during the NYSC series — to just talk through three days of feeling off: a stalled business he's poured money and pitches into with nothing to show for it, a meditation practice that was going well until it suddenly wasn't, and the quiet guilt of a day where he did literally nothing. No neat conclusion here, no lesson packaged up at the end — just him thinking out loud in real time, and feeling lighter for having said it. Show Notes Recording from outside his own compound — an echo of where he used to record during the NYSC seriesOn feeling off internally without a clear reason, even with good company around all weekWorrying he's lost some of the podcast's early rawness now that the audience has grownHis work history — the office job he quit after two months, commissioned drawing, remote gigs, video editingWhy he decided to consolidate everything into one businessThe setbacks — ad spend with zero clients, pitches to a celebrity and a former employer that went nowhereOn why he refuses to chase or be persistent when pitching himselfA full day of doing nothing — no content, no gym, not even brushing his teethThe relief of just saying all of it out loudOn his meditation streak breaking on day three, right when he expected it to clickClosing — ending the episode the way it usually ends, regardlessChapter Markers Cold open — recording from outside his own compound, an echo of the NYSC seriesOn feeling off without a clear reason, even with good company aroundWorrying he's lost some rawness now that the audience has grownHis work history — the office job he quit, drawing commissions, remote gigs, video editingDeciding to consolidate everything into one businessThe business setbacks — ad spend with no clients, pitches that went nowhereOn why he won't chase or be persistent when pitching himselfA full day of doing nothing — no content, no gym, no teeth brushedThe relief of just saying it out loudThe meditation streak that broke on day threeClosing — ending the episode the way it usually endsPull Quotes  "I know in my mind that I'm a serious-minded m**********r. I work hard. I chase what I want down.""When something is right, it is going to be effortless. When something is for you, it's going to be effortless.""Sometimes you just need to open your mouth and say what the f**k is wrong and throw all that negative energy out in the open so it doesn't just stay inside you.""I haven't even brushed my teeth today." ★ Support this podcast ★

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The podcast for young Nigerians who are trying to figure shit out and refusing to pretend otherwise. GoodLiving is where real conversations about identity, relationships, work, money and growing up in Nigeria happen. Not motivation. Real talk that (I hope) makes you feel less alone, think more clearly, and sometimes finally do something about it. Each episode tackles the conflicts young Nigerians are genuinely facing | the ones people discuss in private, think about at 2am, and rarely hear addressed out loud. New episodes every Monday. Hosted by Koke (Pronounced Coke)

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  • Creator
    Goodliving Network
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    279
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Goodliving Network
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    GoodLiving Podcast