Open the Wound Bible Based Podcast

Minister Tabatha L. Hopson
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This podcast is designed to empower women and men, no matter the age, to obtain clarity and strength through the word of Christ. It is designed to help you grow spiritually and learn how to apply biblical principles to every aspect of your life as a Christian. To learn how to deal with bad relationships, addictions, domestic violence, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of unforgiveness, and how to stop becoming victimized over and over again by your past.

  1. Self Defeating Speech That Keeps You From Moving Forward

    Mar 1

    Self Defeating Speech That Keeps You From Moving Forward

    Self-defeating speech that keeps you from moving forward also has a lot to do with playing the role of a victim. It's the speech about what they said against you, it hurt my spirit, I am the blacksheep of the family, I am always being put down, they don't love me, look at how they always treat me. I get it, but how long will we allow what other people say and do affect what we perceive of ourselves? We have to change that narrative; those thought processes are planted in our minds because we allowed them to set up residence in our hearts. We began to believe what we were told, accept the mistreatment as though it was a gift. What we should have done is reject it and not allow it to form a root inside our hearts and minds. What if the way you feel about yourself is based on misperception from hurt that came from someone expressing something to you, and you didn't clarify what they were saying to you? It is up to us to get clarity. The problem is that we are afraid of asking for clarity or afraid of confrontation, so we choose to hold on to a perception of what we think someone said to us as an offense. Until you decide to start questioning things that are being said, you will continue to be wounded by the misperceived notion from your own mind. A lot of times, we are in bondage to our own thought processes. It's sad because no one can get you out of it but you. When will you begin to take back what you lost? You are the only one who can build your self-esteem back up. My question today is, what are you waiting on? Are you waiting for the pats on the back, the encouraging words to get you motivated to do better, think better of yourself? What if it never comes? Will you choose to stay in a place of defeat because of those who you thought hurt you? Or even if it's true that someone hurt you, when will you decide to tear down those negative thoughts placed on you by the enemy? They were designed to keep you from reaching your highest potential, it was designed to keep you from healing and being everything that the Lord knows you can be and created you to be. When will you choose freedom over bondage?  We tend to walk around with the mindset of being betrayed by someone we considered to be a friend or someone you loved, but you base it off the misperception, and in fact, it truly was a misunderstanding of the words that were used. Sometimes we don't communicate effectively, and something could be misinterpreted. If you truly want to be free, go back to the people who have said things to you that may have ruffled your feathers and ask them what they meant, and explain to them how you perceived it. Guess what this is called? Effective communication between mature individuals. In the body of Christ, this is definitely needed, because people are so emotional and take everything personally as an attack. We have to learn how to express ourselves without being angry or dismissive. We also need to learn how to receive corrective criticism, but we don't want corrections.  People correct those whom they love because they want to see them do better and accomplish things in life to their fullest potential. If someone agrees with everything you do based on not wanting to lose a friendship, then, for me, that is not a true friendship and not love. When you love one another, friend or family member, you should correct them. Why? because of love. Love wants you to succeed, even if it takes you higher than yourself or higher than the other person. Love motivates you to do what's right and say what's right. Hate is what will keep people from telling you the truth, some say I will not tell them nothing they have to find out for themselves. This statement is hateful; it shows the nature of that person who claims to be your friend or relative. They'd rather you go through hardship than see you succeed. When someone tells you the truth if it offends you, you get mad and say stop judging me, but if you know it's true, why call it judgment? That's just you trying to stay in your destructive behaviors. The person is trying to get you to see the truth because they want something better for your life. You are just too blinded by the enemy to see the truth.  Mature people talk about issues of life and tough topics. You have to be able to express those things that hurt you or disappoint you. People are mostly afraid to ask questions because of what may be expressed to them by the other person. Listen, you cannot be afraid to ask people for clarity. Especially if there was something that offended you. If we don't seek clarity for ourselves then we will continue to be offended, our hearts will be compromised, it will affect our spiritual walk, we will deal with people based off what someone else did, we develop trust issues, unforgiveness is in our hearts, it will effect our speech, and we begin speaking negatively about others, ourselves, and situations in life. Listen, the power of life and death is in our mouths; we have to stop speaking the negative and speak the healing, the deliverance, and loosen ourselves from the bondage of our own minds.  Stop the self-defeating speech, stop the self-defeating thoughts against yourself, stop cosigning what was said, and walk in freedom through Christ Jesus. Scriptures on self-esteem or self-worth: Psalm 139:13-14 for you created my inmost being: you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made Ephesians 2:10 For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us Those scriptures encourage shifting focus from self-evaluation to divine affirmations, reinforcing that worth is a gift from God rather than earned, so stop trying to earn approval from others; the only approval you need is from the Lord.  Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.  Dr. Adrian Rodgers said this......It's better to speak the truth that hurts and then helps than falsehood that comforts and then kills. Prayer: Father, I thank you for being the truth that we need, the comfort in times of adversity, and our strength in times of weakness. I thank you for loving me so much that you allowed your son to pay the final atonement for me and my sins. This was a true act of love and kindness. I ask that you comfort my heart as I continue to grow spiritually mature. I ask that you continue circumcising my heart and mind into a likeness of your word, help me to communicate effectively, teach me how to deflect the fiery darts of the enemy, that I will not be wounded by the thoughts of others, that I will not fall prey to the voice of the enemy that tries to discourage me. Help me to walk according to your will, surrendering my whole life over to you, make me whole, Lord, and free me from the bondage in my own mind. I thank you for hearing my prayer in Jesus Mighty name, Amen As always, I pray that this has helped you see how to become free from bondage in your own minds. I pray that you be strengthened and be that overcomer in Christ Jesus. Please don't forget to subscribe, share this podcast with others who may need to heal, and you can always email me for prayer. Leave your comments, they are greatly welcomed. Love you much and have a great day.

    13 min

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  3. RECOGNIZING THE ENEMY WITHIN YOUR CIRCLE

    Feb 23

    RECOGNIZING THE ENEMY WITHIN YOUR CIRCLE

    How do you defeat the enemy that lurks within your circle?  You know the one who, with their lips, says they love you, but their actions are those of evil. The one in your presence gives compliments and flattery while hiding a knife behind their back, waiting for you to be caught off guard. These are the same people who always want to be around you, keeping an eye on what you are doing, what you are accomplishing, just increasing bitterness and anger for you, wishing you would fall, wishing you would fail, wishing you would be destroyed, wishing ill will upon your life. They don't want you to succeed in life and will suck the joy out of you. They try to consume you with their issues to keep you from focusing on your own health, your own business, because ultimately, they want to destroy you. What's sad is this can be a close relative, like a mother, father, sister, brother, any relative, or close friend. However, they are really on an assignment from the devil. As a christian your trying to stay focused on the lord, doing things pleasing in his sight, but at the end, what do you really do? Do you walk away, go no contact, develop hate for them, as it clearly is hate, jealousy, envy fueling them? NO, You follow what the word of god says.  You forgive them, pray for THEM, ASK the lord to deliver them, and set THEM free. You want them to have joy, love, peace, and comfort, but at the same time, you want them to realize the errors of their ways and take accountability for actions that cause them to be left alone, OR THAT CAUSES THEM TO FEEL LOW IN SPIRIT. THEY HAVE TO FIND THEIR WAY TO THE CROSS, THEY HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO BREAK THAT SPIRIT IN THEM CAUSING THEM TO HAVE THE ANIMOSITY, BITTERNESS, ANGER, AND FRUSTRATION AGAINST SOMEONE THAT IS TRYING TO HELP THEM, GUIDE THEM, AND SHOW THEM TRUE LOVE.  TRUE LOVE IS NOT SOMEONE AGREEING WITH EVERYTHING A PERSON SAYS OR DOES. TRUE LOVE IS NOT OVERLOOKING FAULTS, BUT ADDRESSING THEM IN A MANNER FOR THEM TO BE HEALED, DELIVERED AND SET FREE. SOMETIMES IT'S THE PERSONS OWN FEELINGS OF INSECURITY THAT PLAYS ON THEIR MINDS AND CAUSES THEM TO BECOME EMOTIONALLY DETACHED FROM RELATIONSHIPS WHETHER IT BE A SPOUSE, RELATIVE OR FRIENDS. You have to walk in the spirit of Christ with the whole armor of God on, because if you don't, you will suffer a fatal blow to the spirit, it can hinder you in your spiritual growth, and destroy your faith in God. I remember having thoughts of ending everything just to get rid of the pain from the very same people who claimed to love me. I was being drained of my peace, love, and joy, but now my heart is saddened for them, because they do not know true joy, and it is even sadder that they probably never will. Why? Because they cannot give up the past,they cannot take accountability for their actions and are playing the role of a victim. We have to learn from the actions of others and not so much the statements of others. We have to read between the lines that have not been said yet discern the actions being displayed. When you are aware of what you're actually fighting, then you won half the battle. Sadly, we walk around with blinders on, and if you speak on things, then you're being controlling, demanding, or putting people down. The truth of the matter is that no one wants to be corrected, and they are perfectly okay with living in a fantasy world of deception. Sometimes, in life we need to take heed to what is being said, because it could be the Lord directing it to you for correction. There could be something in a person that is hindering them from maturing or being elevated by God because of their pride. Pride is a downfall of man, we have to learn how to take creative critizism, the problem is we take everything as an attack.   To understand the biblical perspective on deceitful people, consider these verses: Proverbs 12:22 - "The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy." Psalm 101:7 - "No one who practices deceit shall dwell in my house; no one who utters lies shall continue before my eyes." Proverbs 26:24-26 - "Whoever hates disguises himself with his lips and harbors deceit in his heart; when he speaks graciously, do not believe him, for there are seven abominations in his heart." Jeremiah 9:6 - "You live in the midst of deception; in their deceit they refuse to acknowledge me, declares the Lord." Matthew 7:15 - "Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves." Proverbs 20:17 - "Bread gained by deceit is sweet to a man, but afterward his mouth will be full of gravel."

    14 min
  4. ARE YOU LOOKING FOR HEALING OR DO YOU WANT TO CONTINUE BEING A VICTIM?

    Feb 15

    ARE YOU LOOKING FOR HEALING OR DO YOU WANT TO CONTINUE BEING A VICTIM?

    When you feel like what you experienced in life was not actually reality, and its basis was based on a misperception, where did it come from? Did it come from a movie that you played in your head, and it formed into a reality? Did it come from something dark that you desired but never spoke out loud, or did it come from a repressed memory of something even darker? Something that gave you nightmares, night terrors, or something that truly happened, a shared trauma with someone else, and neither person dared to speak on it, because you know you were there, but you knew not to speak on it. What damage would it cause to others, so you sit in silence, a shared trauma, without words, without cries, without thoughts or a second glance. Would you survive the truth being told, or would you be left alone, afraid, and ostracized because you dared to tell the ugly truth of what really happened behind closed doors? Could you hold your head up while walking in a crowd? Would the dreams stop just because you released the dark secret? Are these all the things you think about, afraid to be free? Afraid to walk in victory, afraid to be released from bondage that had chains on your emotions, vain imaginations cast down from years of demonic voices,  holding you captive in a mindset of shame, and vile assumptions. The only thing to do is work on that inner self, that one that wants to be free, but doesn't know how to be free. What steps do we take? I always say they hurt me, they didn't love me, I can't make it, I'm afraid of everyone and every challenge that comes my way. I feel sad, never really happy, just walking around with a smile on my face, the pain that is hidden in the depths of my heart. I can't seem to shake it, but I want to be free from the self-defeating behaviors that have plagued me since my childhood. I need to be healed, and not remain a victim of my own mind, my hurts, my wounds; they need to be cleaned.  I can no longer give another year to this life that I pretend to live. I have to move forward. I've given enough to the demons destroying me, my aspirations, my dreams of being someone, being who God wants me to be. I can be an overcomer, I can be a conqueror. I just have to stand strong, face those dark issues and ask the Lord to take those hidden secrets those damaging experiences away from me, heal me Lord and renew my mind, spirit, and body that I will be free from all evil thoughts, night terrors, self defeating behaviors, and most of all heal this broken heart so that I can love myself and others. Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me,  all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Psalm 34: 18 The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Its hard for us to heal because we do not believe that the Lord cares for us. We do not have faith in the unseen,  but we are tormented by things from the past that are no longer a threat to us. It's just resonated in our minds. That's why we have to cast down vain imaginations.

    7 min
  5. What belief systems do you have that may contribute to your mental health?

    12/30/2023

    What belief systems do you have that may contribute to your mental health?

    What are belief systems?  They are beliefs about religion, world views, economical views, based off what has been experienced in life, while be raised as a child, and could be developed by harsh treatments well into adulthood. Some beliefs that I've heard are about races of people, it is stated that some groups of people are lazy and just want to be taken care of. While other groups of people work hard for what they want, and are entitled to wealth. Belief systems are taught, and are not necessarily positive ways of thinking. If your belief system is causing you to be confused about life and the world you live in, then those belief systems have given you a false sense of being, or reality. Some of my beliefs that was ingrained in my mind, is that if you cry its a sign of weakness. I had to be strong, not letting anyone know what you didn't have. In otherwords if you have financial difficulties, that is not to be broadcast. Don't ask for assistance, because it's embarrassing, Use what you got to get what you want was another thing that was told to me as a child. I knew some of these things were wrong, but how could I decipher the good from bad. I grew up trying to figure things out in the world. Another thing that was developed is fear of eating, or spending the night at other peoples houses. I was raised not to eat because people are evil, and not to sleep at others' home because they are not clean. So, as an adult I had all these belief systems that needed to be reconstructed with truth. I had developed a fear although noone was aware of this, but I started being careful where I sit in someone's home, if I went to use their restroom I had to look at the toilet to make sure it was clean, in restaurants I looked at the utensils, the glasses, the food itself to make sure there wasn't anything in it that did not belong, I had developed a form of OCD. I had a fear of being in crowds, because that's when conflict arises, so I didn't go to house parties or to many school events.  So, now as an adult I have figured out that a lot of my OCD issues were developed by false beliefs. How do you demolish false belief systems? You have to seek answers by reading, researching and asking questions to family members about why were these beliefs passed on to you. I personally realized that the beliefs were passed on to me, because a cousin of mine, was poisoned, she went out to a club with friends, had drinks and someone slipped a mickey in her drink. She passed away. So of course the family members had issues with these things already, and it just built more mistrust in the world that we all live in. Our belief system was then validated, but it was validated using fear as a way to keep us from experiencing life.  What are some of your belief systems that are giving you a false sense of exhistence, false sense of security, and causing you to have emotional and mental stressors in your life. Here are a few examples of belief systems that have been passed along to us through our home life and church life. Behavioral beliefs, how we should behave, should we express our true feelings, or supress our feelings, anger, outburst in order to get our way. Unconscious beliefs, maybe you think you are better than someone else because of your education or financial status in the world, Conscious beliefs you could be very arrogant and prideful, noone can correct you, rational beliefs they seem right, but maybe its not completely rational thinking. Religion is a major belief system that maybe you feel that your race is the chosen race and noone else is truly saved, or worthy of salvation.  We have to renew our minds, changing our worldly views and breaking the negative belief systems that cause us heartache, confusion and pain.  Romans 12:2 says Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and perfect.  2 Samuel 24:14 says David said to Gad, I am in deep distress. Let us fall into the hands of the Lord for his mercy. But do not let me fall into human hands. We have to first identify the issues we have, then place them at the alter of God, allowing him to transform us into a new person by changing our old ways of thinking.

    7 min
  6. Wounds from words spoken over our lives.

    10/02/2023

    Wounds from words spoken over our lives.

    I pray that today finds you in good spirits, I pray that you have overcome wounds that you never thought you could or would overcome and heal from. Today, we will talk about wounds from words spoken in your life. Many people have said that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt us. That is not true.  According to Proverbs 18:21 Amplified states: Death and Life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words. Colossians 3:8-9 states: But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. 9. Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds, 10. and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to image of Him who created him When I was a child I remember my grand mother saying if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Once I got older I realized that the word nice is deceptive, although it starts out complimentary, it ends and deceptive. So I understand now that we should be kind with our words. Kindness is being truthful, but with tact as Jesus spoke he spoke truth even when he addressed his disciples and Mary Magdalene. However, in society today we have people just spreading hate speech all across this land, people are slandering others names, and then we have those that gossip about others personal lives and it causes alot of discord.  Depending on how you use your words they can go out and set a tone to do you or the person those words were meant for, some very hard times. Do you ever ask yourself why Proverbs 18:21 states that the power of llife in death are in the tongue, its because once we received the Holy Spirit, then we have the same power in us to speak blessings or curses over our lives or the lives of others. How many of you have had someone close to you or even family members curse you telling you that you are no good, you're bummy, you are low class and will never amount to anything. Those words are harmful to a person's mental state. Especially, when it comes from someone you respected. That's why we need to be mindful of the things that we say out of our mouths, because once you said it, it's too late to turn back from it. The enemy used you to belitte someone and damage them to the point that they feel useless. Some words that have been said to some people have also caused them to commit suicide. Words to people can damage more sometimes than actions. I know that people will tell you to grow a pair, or they'll tell you that you need to get tougher skin and stop wearing your feelings on your sleeves. Here's the thing, if you don't like being talked to harshly, then don't you speak harshly, if you don't like being lied on then don't lie to others, if you don't like being gossiped about or slandered then don't you gossip or slander anyone. See we sit and become hypocrites about the very thing we don't want done to us and it causes havoc in our lives.  I wish that we could all realize the hypocrisy of the society that we live in today. Its more or less that it's not offensive to you until it happens to you, or it's not your problem until it happens to you. I recall years ago being around some one that said they couldn't believe a paticular individual fell in to adultry because of the Leadership position, they compared themselves to that person saying I wouldn't fall into that, and of course, the Lord had to show them that the very words you said about someone else, is now your situation, and now your sitation is out publicly. Would you want people to show you mercy, because that's what the other person was wanting when they went through it.  We have to stop pretending or feeling like we are untouchable. Stop spreading slander, stop using your words to hurt others and you have all rights to stop someone from speaking negatively about your life, your children, your job, your finances and your spiritual walk. If you are upset, frustrated, or anxious about something, be slow to speak and quick to listen, that's one of the best things you can do to keep from saying something you didn't mean to say. If you have ever spoken words over yourlife or anyone you can recant them in prayer. You just go into prayer asking the Lord to retract every negative statement and you name it out in prayer and allow uplifting, empowering, encouraging words to come from your lips, let them be blessings and not curses and end in Jesus Mighty name. Amen. We have to watch every word that we say even in joking, I'm not saying you can't have fun, but just be careful that you don't place word curses over yourself or anyone else, no matter how upset you are, remain silent as Jesus did with Pontius Pilate.

    7 min
  7. Soul Ties Influencing Your Life and What are They?

    09/16/2023

    Soul Ties Influencing Your Life and What are They?

    Good day everyone! I pray that you all have been doing well and that the Lord has truly been dealing with you all in different areas of your lives. I pray that all is well with your spirits, your mental health, and your financial health as well. Today, I want to talk to you about the topic of Soul ties. I'm almost positive that at some point in your christian life or journey, you have heard the term Soul ties, and were told that they need to be broken from your life.  If you have not heard it, let me give you some insight on the definition. A soul tie is an emotional and spiritual connection between two people. It can be formed through relationships and interactions with certain individuals such as family members, friends, co-workers, romantic partners and even pets. Soul ties can be long-lasting and effect you or impact your life in a negative way, which develops into strongholds. Some of these ties will leave us feeling depressed, anxious, suicidal, angry, financially distressed, emotionally unhealthy and could cause us to ultimately turn away from the Lord depending on the magnitude of the soul tie and its influences. Let me break this down from a biblical perspective. According to Genesis 2:24 It reads: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 1 Corinthians 6:16 reads: Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, the two will become one flesh" 1 Corinthians 6:18 reads: Flee from sexual immoraility. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Galatians 5:1 reads: For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery. From a biblical perspective the reason, we were to refrain from sexual relationships until marriage, is because once you have broken the seal of virginity, which is sacred to marriage vows, you have now become one flesh with the individual you have slept with. Now, lets go further, for everyone that you slept with, and the other person slept with, you have formed a soul tie with them, even if you have not slept with the other individuals. What happens is that the spirit transfers to each one, so if someone is dealing with the spirit of poverty, sucidal, depression, anxiety, low-self esteem, anger, jealousy, whoremongering, etc, then that spirit will spread within the groups of people that either of the two people initally slept with. In other words, if I slept with 5 different people, I have a soul tie with each one of them, and if each one of them are dealing with any of the listed things I previously mentioned, then that starts to manifest itself in my life and the life of anyone else I sleep with, then if they in turn sleep with others the cycle goes on and on and not only do I pass things from myself to others, but others past things to others and we're all in what you would call a bigamist relationship not knowing or understanding the spiritual effects it can and will have on our lives. How, because consummation (sexual intercourse) was the action making a marriage complete, if there was no consummation for a year then the marriage is not considered a marriage until intercourse takes place. In society today, we have gotten away from the morals and values from the bible and we considered them to be old fashioned, but the instructions are clear in the word of God. We have so many people dealing with traumas, wounds from past relationships and we're looking for ways to escape the pain, not realizing that its an accumulation of childhood trauma, combined with the soul ties we have in our lives.  Let me dig deeper, say for instance you have a group of girlfriends that you hang out with on a consistent basis. The soul tie that you will make is your menses will sync up, each one will experience their time of the month a few days apart from each other, or a week a part from each other, also these same friends if one becomes pregnant, another will within a few weeks or months apart from each other.  Also, the same group of friends can be married and if there is maritial problems within the group say arguing ensues with one couple, the next week it will be the next couple and so forth and so on. The sad thing is that they don't recognize the cycle and don't understand the spiritual connections behind it. A soul tie can also cause you to push others that recognize the difference in you away. You will begin to think that they are jealous of your relationship, or they don't know what they are talking about. Listen if someone is draining your mental ability to cope with life in a positive manner as you did before they came into your life, then this is when you need to do a self examination of the relationship. You may have entangled yourself with a negative soul tie. It doesn't mean that the person is a bad person, it just means that you need to break the soul tie of those that are connected to the individual you are dealing with and he/she needs to break the soul ties of the people from past relationships as well. That's why it's not good to jump from one relationship to another so quickly, because there is baggage that follows.  The blessing is that soul ties can be broken, you will have to do some research, listing the people you have been involved with both intimately and friendships that you feel an emotional connection with. Focus on the things that you know of the individuals, what are they dealing with emotionally, spiritually etc, and then you start to pray casting out and denouncing the very issues to break that soul tie.  If you don't know how to start the prayer here is an example: Father in the name of your son Jesus, I know I have soul ties with and you say the person name, Lord I ask that you sever the soul tie of unforgiveness, anxiety, depression, poverty, anger, jealousy, from my life, I ask Lord that you will set straight what was broken in me, that I may live a life filled with your peace, love, and joy. I ask now Lord that you will fill me with your holy spirit, and give me the strength not to get tangled up into another soul tie that is not through marriage, set a hedge of protection around me, and increase my spiritual discernment that I maybe able to recognize a soul tie before it takes root in me through different friendships, coworkers and or family members. Lord help me to be who you want me to be, lead me into all truth and show me your ways that my ways will line up with your word. I ask Lord that you will forgive me of my sins and make me whole again. I ask these things in your son Jesus Christ Name Amen! Now, once you have broken the soul ties, its best that you do not continue delving into different sexual relationships again, because it could be worse. I have had my on personal experiences with soul ties, and I can tell you, that it is not fun, its very painful, and it almost cost me my life.  I pray that this episode of Open the Wound has helped you to discover if you have a soul tie. As always I thank you for listening and subscribing, please feel free to leave feedback, if you are in need of prayer don't hesitate to reach out. I pray that this has truly been healing, for your mind, body, spirit and soul.

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  8. Are you dealing with stubbornness leading you the wrong way? How? and Why?

    07/19/2023

    Are you dealing with stubbornness leading you the wrong way? How? and Why?

    I believe all of us in times have dealt with someone who exhibits stubborn behaviors and we either ignore them or we address them with truth. We have probably gotten cursed out, because people don't want to deal with the truth of their behaviors. Well, the word of the Lord gives us correction, and sometimes we get upset when we read his word, so we begin to overlook different scriptures dealing with our own attitudes, or behaviors so to speak. I know you're asking yourself what does this have to do with stubbornness? My answer to that is a lot!  Most of us do not handle correction well, we are set in our ways and for so long we haven't had any true friends that loved us enough to tell us the truth about ourselves.  Proverbs 12:1 says: whoever loves disicpline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid. Proverbs 29:1 says: He who is often reproved, yet stiffens his neck, will suddenly be broken beyond healing. Stubbornness is defined as having or showing dogged determination not to change one's attitude or position on something, especially in-spite of good arguments or reasons to do so. Refusal to learn from experience, someone that is hard to convince, persuade or move.  It's also a sign of insecurity and a way to hold onto a very fragile mental equillibrium. It is said that truly strong people know how to compromise when necessary. It is also said that Stubborn people are often fearful of change, which explains the rigidity that characterizes much of their behavior. People who have been wounded hold on to their points of view, because they feel vulnerable or they don't want to feel that they are weak, or that they aren't standing up for themselves. It's their protective mechanisms kicking in to form a barrier wall of protection. Their mindset is that, I'm not going to allow anyone to get the best of me again, and that they are protecting themselves from becoming a victim again. The stinking thinking forms. Once people have experienced mental, emotional and or physical abuse, they do view things differently. Those that have experienced mental and emotional abuse state that they could have dealt with the physical abuse better, Why? Because, it's just physical scars, and the mental and emotional is worse. They feel that it's harder because they deal with feelings of depression, suicidal thoughts, not knowing what to feel or even how to feel. I can relate, but at the same time I was a victim of all three the mental, emotional and physical abuse. I'm not saying that my case was worse, it depends on each individuals experience and how they dealt with their life while going through it. My physical scars you can't see them, my emotional and mental scars are their, but I have learned to deal with life from a spiritual point. If it wasn't for the word of the Lord I truly don't know where I'd be at this moment in my life. It was only the Lord that healed me from my stinking thinking. I felt that I needed to vindicate myself and retalliate against those that did harm to me, but reading the word showed me that I had to forgive others, so that I could be forgiven. So, I had to face my emotional, mental and physical abuse issues head on. I took a look in the mirror and I hated what I saw staring back at me. The pain from it all was depressing, and I truly wanted to end the pain, the sufferring, I really didn't think about what would happen to my son, I just wanted to be free from the pain. That was my stinking thinking, before my mindset changed. I thought that I needed to be strong, don't allow anyone to tell me anything, because they're not walking in my shoes, so I developed this strong willed attitude, because I didn't want to be a victim, or feel weak. I made myself not feel, I got angry when something caused me to shed a tear, I was so jacked up mentally and emotionally and dealing with the physical scars that only my husband that I'm married to now, and I can see. I felt worthless at some points in my life. I was determined to not allow anyone to get the best of me again.  That type of thinking was the birth of me becoming stubborn or hard headed. I had to decide not to allow the pain to cause me to complain or spiral downward into that depressed state of mind, the enemy of our souls will bring past situations up in order to paralyze us from reaching the destiny that the Lord has for us. I was searching for peace, and I didn't want to be robbed of a future designed by the Lord. So, Yes! I thought my stubbornness was actually helping me and keeping me from being abused. The Lord wants us to be set free from those burdens, those things that so easily besets us. Although we all have had some form of trials, struggles in life, I personally feel that once we get on the other side of the pain, we can begin to see clearer and learn the lesson from it. Now, I look back and I know the difference of being in a healthy relationship compared to a toxic one. I had to make up my mind to not be a victim over and over again. I had to dig deep down and find strength and courage to get out of situations that weren't healthy for my son and I. I started looking at my life differently to see what I could change about me. I realized that by me being head strong or just plain stubborn caused me to make bad decisions. That was all on me and I had to face it, I grabbed that bull by the horns and faced it. It's hard sometimes to admit to ourselves that we were the cause of some of our pain, but I had to face that if I truly wanted to be delivered and healed. I truly wanted peace to be in my life, and wanted to be out of the personal hell that I placed myself in.  When you view yourself with the scales removed from your eyes, you will begin to see things clearer, than ever before. That happened due to me reading the word of the Lord and searching scriptures for the issues that I had been dealing with, throughout my life. I needed to be healed from it all. I had to ask the Lord to guide me and to give me peace. Only the Lord knows, why, I asked that question, because it seemed that everything that could arise to cause me discomfort appeared knocking at my door. I didn't realize that in order to develop or attain peace, that discomfort had to come about in my life, to teach me how to handle things differently, then how I handled things before. I really didn't know the extent of my wounds and the damage they caused me emotionally and mentally. I was so bogged down with flaws and emotional baggage that I truly wanted to give up, I saw no way of escaping, but God intervened in my life one night. I was at a shopping center heading to my car after grocery shopping. This man appeared out of no where and said to me John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. Once I read that scripture, I took that as God sending me a message to trust him and get my life together.  It seemed the more I prayed the more was revealed to me about my way of thinking. Yes, Still dealing with head strong, stubborn Tabatha.  I remember running into a Lady, I knew she was God sent, she told me that the Lord will not place burdens on us, and that he is our burden bearer. She was in my life for a season and disappeared, she helped me to understand somethings about forgiving and she really hammered it in, she said because God will then forgive me. The forgiveness wasn't for the other person, it was for me, and, I needed to get passed things in life. I truly thank God for those devine interventions as they showed me to always put my trust in him and he will see me through it.  The Lord did allow me to go through trials to break that strong willed spirit, being head strong or let me just be real and say that jezebel spirit or withcraft spirit, because I wanted to be in control. In order to be free, you have to face what's looking back at you in the mirror. Everything isn't lovely, I was a wreck. Where I thought strength and being head strong was good, it really was doing me damage not only naturally, but spiritually as well. We have to be honest with ourselves, our friends and family, because if we all go around living in a fantasy world, noone is living in reality. We're all living a lie, with blinders on. Friends that I look to have are those that are not afraid to tell me what I need to hear compared to what I want to hear. They will not pull back any punches and tell me when my stinking thinking is rising up. If my friends see me doing something contrary to what I confess as a christian they should reprove me. That's what's needed, but not to many really want you to correct them on their behaviors, so how are we learning to be better versions of ourselves created by God, if we choose not to say anything or accept correction.  Do you know that some of your friends right now know that if they try to correct you, they know you will get salty with them. Guess what? They leave you right there and talk about you later, because they know you won't accept what they are trying to help you with. We need to be those types of friends that would be kind enough to show the love and tell us what we need, in order to save our lives and to do better.  Proverbs 27:5-6 says: Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. Some of your so called friends are actually your enemies, especially if they agree with your negative behaviors. I had to evaluate different relationships and start eliminating those that meant me no good. I didn't want or need a cheerleading squad to cheer my negative behaviors. I need a cheerleading squad of telling me truth, that would set me free from satan's grip. I need people that will ruffle my feathers, tell me the truth in love and help me to get to a place of freedom in Christ, so that I could be used for the Lord. Stubborn behaviors causes us to pick and choose who we will

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