Beyond the Statistics (formerly 1 in 3)

Ingrid Dutton
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Beyond the Statistics is a survivor-led podcast exploring domestic violence, sexual assault, human trafficking, coercive control, trauma, healing, and the systems that impact survivors. Hosted by survivor and advocate Ingrid Dutton, each episode goes beyond the numbers to share the real stories behind them. Through conversations with survivors, family members, attorneys, therapists, healthcare professionals, advocates, law enforcement, researchers, and other experts, the podcast explores abuse, recovery, prevention, systemic challenges, and the hope that healing is possible. Because abuse is rarely limited to physical violence. It can include emotional abuse, psychological manipulation, financial abuse, stalking, legal abuse, and trafficking-related exploitation. These forms of abuse are often hidden, but their impact can be life-changing. Whether you're a survivor, supporting someone you love, a professional, or simply seeking to better understand abuse and its lasting effects, Beyond the Statistics offers honest conversations, expert insights, practical resources, and hope. Where awareness starts with numbers, but understanding begins with stories. New episodes are released every Wednesday, with occasional bonus episodes throughout the year. Learn more, explore episode resources, browse the Collections, or register as a guest at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com. A Point 5 Pinoy Productions podcast.  

  1. 1d ago

    Healing After Domestic Violence: Reclaiming Your Story with Tricia Gray I Ep. 135

    What happens after you tell your story—and the people from your past start responding? Tricia Gray returns to Beyond the Statistics to talk about what happened after publishing her memoir, A Lotus Legacy. Readers across the country began connecting with her story, but so did people from the Louisiana hometown she once ran from—including people who remembered the day her mother died. In this conversation, Tricia and Ingrid explore healing after domestic violence and childhood trauma, what survivors may need after someone finally says “me too,” and why telling your own story can be both freeing and deeply vulnerable. Tricia shares how responses to her memoir led her to create the Bloom framework and a 48-page guided journal designed to make healing feel practical and approachable. She explains why there is no such thing as “perfect journaling,” how isolation and silence can shape survivors, and why compassion matters more than judgment. The conversation also confronts one of the most persistent questions asked about domestic violence: “Why didn’t she leave?” Tricia and Ingrid discuss survival mode, motherhood, the realities that can keep victims trapped, and why judging a survivor’s choices without understanding the circumstances misses the larger story. They also explore inner child healing, Ingrid’s experience with EMDR, the importance of support systems, and what can happen when survivors reclaim their stories before someone else tells those stories for them. Because there is always more to the story. This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

  2. 3d ago ·  Bonus

    How to Document Coercive Control & Abuse with Norma Peterson & Tracy Curtis I 134

    Coercive control doesn’t always leave bruises. It leaves patterns, fear, and often a trail of behavior that can be incredibly difficult to explain—or prove—when a survivor finally asks for help. In this bonus episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid sits down with Norma Peterson of Document the Abuse and Tracy Curtis of EmpowerEd to talk about documenting coercive control, domestic abuse, and post-separation abuse in ways that can help survivors preserve important details and help professionals better understand the bigger picture. Norma explains the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA), a free, secure digital diary designed to help victims and survivors document abuse as it happens rather than trying to reconstruct months or years of events later. They discuss what to document—including incidents that may seem insignificant on their own—how coercive control develops through patterns of behavior, and why one act of violence can continue functioning as a threat long after the physical incident is over. The conversation also explores documentation security, notarization, discoverability in court, family court culture, gaps in professional training, and the language used by media and institutions that can minimize domestic violence. Norma and Tracy also share what’s ahead, including efforts to expand access to documentation resources through law enforcement partnerships and a collaboration with Statute Finder designed to help survivors better understand potential legal thresholds in their state. Because sometimes the evidence of abuse isn’t one dramatic event. It’s the pattern. Norma and Tracy’s Episodes:  Norma’s Episode #103: https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/103-how-documenting-abuse-saves-lives-with-norma-peterson/ Tracy’s Episode #129: https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/what-is-coercive-control-understanding-the-pattern-behind-domestic-abuse-with-tracy-curtis-i-ep-12/ Norma’s Links:  https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/norma-peterson/ https://documenttheabuse.org/ https://www.instagram.com/documenttheabuse https://www.facebook.com/DocumentTheAbuse linkedin.com/company/documenttheabuse/ Tracy’s Links:  https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/tracy-curtis/ https://empowereddv.com/ https://linkedin.com/in/tracycurtismacdvp This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

  3. Aug 26

    Breaking Codependency After Abuse: Boundaries & Self-Trust with Barb Nangle I Ep. 133

    Codependency is often talked about in conversations about domestic violence—but too often, it sounds like blame. What if people pleasing, approval seeking, and self-abandonment aren't character flaws, but patterns shaped by trauma, instability, and survival? In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid is joined by boundaries coach, speaker, and podcaster Barb Nangle to talk about codependency recovery, healthy boundaries, and rebuilding self-trust after relational trauma. Barb shares her own “codependent bottom” and the volatile living situation that led her into 12-step recovery through Al-Anon, CoDA, and ACA. Together, Ingrid and Barb explore how childhood trauma and unhealthy relationships can shape people pleasing, approval seeking, fear of saying no, and losing yourself in the needs of other people. They also break down what healthy boundaries actually look like: recognizing resentment as a warning sign, identifying your values, setting limits earlier, staying respectful, and learning to keep promises to yourself. But boundaries become more complicated when abuse and coercive control are involved. Ingrid and Barb discuss why simply telling a victim to “set a boundary” can be unsafe—and why safety planning must come before conventional relationship advice when someone is living with an abusive partner. In this episode: Codependency and people pleasingChildhood and relational traumaSelf-abandonment and approval seekingHow to set healthy boundariesRebuilding self-trust and self-worthBoundaries vs. controlling someone else's behaviorCoercive control and domestic violenceSafety planning in abusive relationshipsAl-Anon, CoDA, ACA, and 12-step recoveryIf saying no has ever felt terrifying—or you've spent years keeping everyone else comfortable at your own expense—this conversation is for you. This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

  4. Aug 19

    Two Wives, the Same Man: Narcissistic Abuse & Red Flags with Deana & Lizzie I Ep. 132

    Two different marriages. The same man. And a trail of “that’s weird” moments that only made sense once Deana and Lizzie finally compared timelines. In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid sits down with Deana and Lizzie, co-hosts of Surviving Toxic Relationships, to share the remarkable story of how they discovered they had each married the same man at different points in their lives—and began recognizing strikingly similar patterns of emotional abuse, manipulation, deception, and control. They take us inside the warning signs that are often easy to dismiss while you’re living them: locked accounts, disappearing access, financial control, gaslighting, isolation, love bombing, polished public charm, and a double life hidden behind spiritual retreats. Deana and Lizzie also confront a difficult question many survivors face after leaving: Do you warn the next partner when you know you may be dismissed as the “crazy ex”? Together, we explore: Emotional abuse red flags that may not look dramatic from the outsideGaslighting and the gradual loss of trust in your own perceptionLove bombing and why charm can be mistaken for characterFinancial abuse and controlling access to money and accountsTrauma bonding and cognitive dissonance in abusive relationshipsWhy couples therapy may become another opportunity for manipulation in an abusive relationshipWhy leaving can require careful safety planningRebuilding identity and learning to trust your instincts againThe complicated grief that can follow a toxic or abusive relationshipThis conversation is also a reminder of why survivor stories matter. Patterns that seem isolated can look very different when people begin comparing experiences. If you’ve found yourself thinking, “Something feels wrong, but I can’t explain why,” this episode may help give language to what you’re experiencing. Beyond the Statistics is a survivor-led podcast sharing the stories behind the numbers and examining domestic violence, intimate partner violence, sexual assault, human trafficking, coercive control, and abuse. Subscribe to Beyond the Statistics, share this episode with someone who may need it, and leave a review to help more survivors find these conversations. Deana & Lizzie’s Links:  https://www.survivingtoxicrelationships.org/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556560386678# https://www.youtube.com/@survivingtoxicrelationships12 This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

  5. Aug 12

    When the System Fails Sexual Assault Survivors with Danielle Pyle I Ep. 131

    Reporting sexual assault is supposed to be a step toward justice. But what happens when the system itself becomes another barrier? In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid is joined by survivor and advocate Danielle Pyle to talk about surviving sexual assault, reporting to law enforcement, navigating a sexual assault forensic exam, and fighting for accountability when the justice system falls short. Danielle shares what she remembers from the night of her assault in April 2021, including the disorienting effects of a blackout and coming to during the attack. She talks about survival mode, the freeze response, and the self-blame that can follow sexual trauma—even when the body was simply doing what it needed to survive. She also takes us inside what happened after she reported. Danielle describes going through a forensic exam at a SAFE clinic, repeatedly recounting what happened, and watching potential evidence get brushed aside. Her case became even more complicated when she learned her assailant had audio recorded the encounter and attempted to use Tennessee’s one-party consent recording law in his defense. After prosecutors declined to pursue charges, another devastating discovery followed: Danielle was notified so late that Tennessee’s civil statute of limitations had already expired, leaving her without the option to pursue a civil case. Instead of stopping there, Danielle turned her experience into advocacy. She helped fight for Danielle’s Law, legislation extending Tennessee’s civil statute of limitations for sexual assault from one year to three years, with additional time under certain circumstances. Danielle shares what it took to walk into lawmakers’ offices, confront victim-blaming myths, tell her story repeatedly, and push for a law that could give future survivors more time to seek accountability. In this conversation: • Why freezing is a normal trauma response • Self-blame after sexual assault • What happens during a sexual assault forensic exam • The challenges survivors can face when reporting to police • Consent, recording laws, and gaps in the justice system • Statutes of limitations and survivor rights • How Danielle’s Law changed Tennessee law • Turning lived experience into survivor advocacy and legislative change This is a conversation about what happens after sexual assault—and what can change when survivors refuse to let systemic failures have the final word. Subscribe to Beyond the Statistics and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. If you’re willing, leave a review to help more survivors, advocates, and allies find these conversations. Danielle’s Links:  https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/danielle-pyle/ https://www.instagram.com/_daniellepyle/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/dlpyle/ This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

  6. Aug 5

    Life After Domestic Violence: Hypervigilance, Trauma & Healing with Ray Floyd I Ep. 130

    Someone can survive domestic violence and still feel unsafe long after the relationship ends. In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ray Floyd shares how abuse changed his everyday life—from living without fear to constantly scanning his surroundings for danger. His memoir, No One Is Listening, tells the story of surviving domestic violence, navigating trauma, and rebuilding life after abuse. Ray and host Ingrid Dutton discuss the warning signs he recognizes in hindsight, including escalating anger, communication breakdowns, chronic job instability, isolation, and the gradual loss of peace that often accompanies abusive relationships. Together, they explore why abuse isn't always obvious, why anyone can become a victim, and how quickly a relationship can turn dangerous. The conversation also examines the lasting effects of trauma, including hypervigilance, grief, self-blame, PTSD symptoms, and the challenges survivors face even after leaving an abusive partner. Ray also shares concerns about victim safety, including delayed release notifications, bail decisions, and gaps in the criminal justice system that leave survivors feeling unprotected. If you're healing from domestic violence, supporting someone who has experienced abuse, or working to better understand trauma recovery, this episode offers practical insight, validation, and hope. In this episode:  Why survivors often feel unsafe after leaving  Hypervigilance and trauma after domestic violence  Red flags that became clear in hindsight  Emotional abuse and coercive control  PTSD, grief, and rebuilding life after abuse  Challenges with victim safety and offender accountability  Finding hope and healing after trauma If this episode was meaningful to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need to hear this conversation. Ray’s Links:  https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/ray-floyd/ https://rayfloydbooks.com/ https://a.co/d/01N7nNCc This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

  7. Jul 29

    What Is Coercive Control? Understanding the Pattern Behind Domestic Abuse with Tracy Curtis I Ep. 129

    Domestic abuse isn't defined by a single incident—it's defined by a pattern. At the center of that pattern is coercive control. Coercive control is the ongoing use of fear, intimidation, manipulation, isolation, and domination to strip away another person's freedom and autonomy. It can exist with physical violence, but it doesn't have to. In many abusive relationships, coercive control is the foundation that allows every other form of abuse to take hold. In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, host Ingrid Dutton is joined by Tracy Curtis—survivor, forensic psychology professional, and founder of Empower Ed—to unpack one of the most misunderstood aspects of domestic abuse. Together, they discuss: • What coercive control is and why it's at the heart of domestic abuse • Why abuse is about patterns of behavior, not isolated incidents • How intimidation and credible threats keep survivors trapped • Why asking "Why didn't they just leave?" misunderstands abuse • How trauma bonds form and why separation can feel like withdrawal • Why documentation is essential when abuse isn't physical • How survivors are often misunderstood in family court while abusers appear calm and credible • The lasting effects of coercive control on the brain, body, and nervous system • Why coercive control can also appear in elder abuse and other caregiving relationships Whether you're a survivor, supporting someone you love, or work in healthcare, law enforcement, advocacy, social services, or the legal system, this conversation offers the language and understanding needed to recognize abuse that too often goes unseen. Tracy’s Links:  https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/tracy-curtis/ https://empowereddv.com/ https://empowereddv.com/ Link to Norma Peterson's episode (discussed in today's episode) https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/103-how-documenting-abuse-saves-lives-with-norma-peterson/ This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

  8. Jul 22

    Nonfatal Strangulation: Domestic Violence's Deadliest Warning Sign with Brian Bennett I Ep. 128

    Strangulation is one of the strongest predictors of future homicide in domestic violence, yet it's often misunderstood, minimized, and overlooked because many survivors have little or no visible injury. In this episode of Beyond the Statistics, Ingrid Dutton is joined by retired South Carolina law enforcement officer and domestic violence expert Brian Bennett, who has trained thousands of officers, investigators, medical professionals, and advocates on identifying and responding to nonfatal strangulation. Together they discuss: • Why nonfatal strangulation dramatically increases homicide risk  • The difference between strangulation and "choking"—and why the language matters  • Manual, ligature, and positional strangulation explained  • Hidden symptoms that can appear hours or even days later  • Memory loss, traumatic brain injury (TBI), and oxygen deprivation  • Why survivors often have no visible injuries  • Stroke, carotid artery injuries, and delayed medical emergencies  • When to seek emergency care and request a forensic nurse examiner (SANE/FNE)  • How law enforcement investigates strangulation cases  • South Carolina's current strangulation laws and why advocates are pushing for stronger protections Whether you're a survivor, healthcare provider, advocate, first responder, attorney, or someone supporting a loved one, this conversation could help save a life. If this episode helps you better understand the hidden dangers of nonfatal strangulation, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs this information. Brian’s Links:  https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/brian-bennett/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579008364852 https://www.youtube.com/@SacredMissionSC https://www.facebook.com/groups/3854501681461625 https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-bennett-b32943303/ This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own. Support the show If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp. Connect with Beyond the Statistics: 🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com 📧 Email: BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast@gmail.com 📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod If today's conversation meant something to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone. Music: Tim Crowe

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Beyond the Statistics is a survivor-led podcast exploring domestic violence, sexual assault, human trafficking, coercive control, trauma, healing, and the systems that impact survivors. Hosted by survivor and advocate Ingrid Dutton, each episode goes beyond the numbers to share the real stories behind them. Through conversations with survivors, family members, attorneys, therapists, healthcare professionals, advocates, law enforcement, researchers, and other experts, the podcast explores abuse, recovery, prevention, systemic challenges, and the hope that healing is possible. Because abuse is rarely limited to physical violence. It can include emotional abuse, psychological manipulation, financial abuse, stalking, legal abuse, and trafficking-related exploitation. These forms of abuse are often hidden, but their impact can be life-changing. Whether you're a survivor, supporting someone you love, a professional, or simply seeking to better understand abuse and its lasting effects, Beyond the Statistics offers honest conversations, expert insights, practical resources, and hope. Where awareness starts with numbers, but understanding begins with stories. New episodes are released every Wednesday, with occasional bonus episodes throughout the year. Learn more, explore episode resources, browse the Collections, or register as a guest at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com. A Point 5 Pinoy Productions podcast.  

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