My Therapist Is Out!

Open Space Therapy Collective
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Welcome to My Therapist is Out! An Open Space Therapy Collective Podcast. We are your hub for queer and trans mental healthcare. Each episode therapists from OSTC and guests to deep dive into mental health and community building through unapologetic queer conversations. To book a free consult call with one of our therapists visit: openspacetherapycollective.com/book-appointment

  1. May 27

    What "Toxic" Actually Means, and Why the Word Alone Isn't Enough

    The word "toxic" is everywhere. But what does it actually mean, and when does throwing it around start to work against us?  In this episode of Queer Hearts Healthy Starts, OSTC therapists Allison Smith, LCSW (she/they) and Ernesto Martinez, AMFT, APCC (he/they) get into the real definition: not just what's present in a harmful relationship, but what's missing. They break down the difference between genuine power and control dynamics and the everyday friction that comes with being in relationship with other humans. They talk about gaslighting, love bombing, isolation, and the ways that queer folks navigate all of this inside systems that were never designed to protect them. This one goes deep, and it goes there with care. Join us for the second episode in our Queer Hearts Health Starts: Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns series. Sound Bites: "Confusion and inconsistency are really potent things that make us very driven and attached" "To acknowledge something doesn't mean to endorse it" "The person who loves me also hurts me" "It's not just what is present, it's also what is missing" "What was I left carrying that isn't mine" "Our relationship with our government is an abusive relationship" "We start in this world of secrecy and isolation" "We're social creatures, we're made to be in a village" "Try to invest in your friendships and your communities" Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Asia Brooks - She/Her - @samuraiasia Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Madi - She/Her - @clicksbymadi Hosts Bio:  Allison Smith LCSW (she/they) is a Licensed Therapist at Open Space Therapy Collective. Allison specializes in integrating trauma-informed, abolitionist frameworks to support clients in exploring identity, relationships, and cultural connections.  Ernesto Martinez APCC, AMFT (they/elle/he/el) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Ernesto specializes in working with Adults, Teens, & Parents of Gender Expansive Children, Adult Children of (im)Migrants to transform challenges into stepping stones towards self-compassion, fulfillment, and confidence.  To find more from us visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective Keywords: queer relationships, toxic relationships, intimate partner violence, power and control, emotional codependence, minority stress, attachment, gaslighting, love bombing, isolation, intergenerational trauma, healthy love, community care, LGBTQ+ relationships, heterocentric norms, systemic oppression, nervous system, repair, incompatibility, chosen family

    50 min

  2. May 13

    Series Intro: Queer Hearts Healthy Starts: Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns

    Welcome to the series Queer Hearts Healthy Starts: Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns! Queer people know how to love hard. We also know how to stay too long, give too much, and call it devotion. In this intro episode of Queer Hearts Healthy Starts, OSTC therapist Terra Friedman, AMFT, opens the conversation we actually need to have — what makes a relationship toxic, where those patterns come from, and why queer folks carry more than most. Terra breaks down the definition of toxic relationships (hint: it's about power and emotional codependence, not just bad vibes), traces the historical and systemic forces that shape how we love, and takes on the myths that paint queer relationships as inherently unstable or uniquely evolved. Spoiler: neither is true, and both do damage. This one's the foundation. Tune in so the rest of the series lands the way it should. Sound Bites "Toxic relationships are based in power and emotional codependence" "Systemic models of health are rooted in white, hetero, binary norms" "Trauma and systemic stress influence relationship patterns" Mentioned in this Episode: Evelyn Hooker - The Adjustment of the Male Overt Homosexual My Therapist is Out! Can You Have Healthy Relationships If You Only Saw Toxic Ones Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Fox Woods He/They @fox_kendall_woods Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Bex She/Her @bexbourgeois  Host Bio : Terra Friedman AFMT (she/her) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Terra specializes in working with high achieving womxn who experience anxiety. Terra also works with couples and partners who are currently in or exploring non-monogamous relationships. To find more from us visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective Keywords: queer relationships, toxic relationships, mental health, community connection, systemic prejudice, healthy love, attachment, LGBTQ history

    16 min

  3. Mar 4

    Part 2: Series End Q&A Identity Based Harm & LGBTQ+ Community Care

    In Part Two of this closing Q&A episode, Renae Johnson and Kristen Crowe turn toward healing — not as a finish line, but as an ongoing, collective practice. Responding to listener questions, they talk openly about navigating hate-based violence, political attacks, and community trauma without shutting down or spiraling. The conversation explores when storytelling can be healing — and when it can feel unsafe or draining — along with how to tell the difference between staying engaged and pushing ourselves past our limits. Renae and Kristen reflect on burnout, activism, therapy during crisis, and what it means to care deeply while still protecting our nervous systems. They close the series by reminding listeners that healing doesn’t require perfection, isolation, or constant resilience — it happens in relationship, in community, and often in small, imperfect steps taken together. Takeaways Showing up for marginalized communities requires humility and a willingness to learn. Performative activism can be harmful; genuine support is essential. Community dynamics can amplify emotional responses, both positive and negative. Using privilege to support marginalized voices is necessary but should be approached carefully. Everyone needs support, especially in times of crisis. Noted in this episode: The follow-up Bonus Episode with Jose and Renae is coming soon - subscribe to TTP: thetraumatherapistproject.com/podcasts Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Beth Rosenberg She/Her @squishicactus Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: James He/Him  Host Bios:  Kristen Crowe LPCC, BC-DMT (they/them) Is Licensed Therapist, Dance Therapist, and Clinical Supervisor with Open Space Therapy Collective. Kristen specializes in working somatically with adults and partners to help heal the mind-body connection so you can feel more grounded and vibrant every day. Renae Johnson, LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and the Founder of Open Space Therapy Collective, a group practice offering affirming, social justice-driven mental health care for the LGBTQ+ & QTPOC community.  In addition to their clinical work, Renae produces community wellness events like Queerly Connected and is a founding member of the LA Queer Coalition, creating spaces where queer and trans people can gather, heal, organize, and celebrate.  As a speaker, consultant, and activist, Renae is passionate about building systems of care that honor the full humanity of queer and trans individuals—and equipping healthcare and wellness providers with the tools to do the same. To find more from us visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective Keywords: LGBTQ+ mental health podcast, identity-based harm, queer trauma and healing, community care in LGBTQ+ spaces, hate-based trauma recovery, radical healing for marginalized communities, queer therapists podcast, LGBTQ+ collective healing, trauma-informed community care, storytelling as healing in queer communities

    26 min

  4. Feb 18

    Part 1: Series End Q&A Identity Based Harm & LGBTQ+ Community Care

    In Part One of this listener Q&A, hosts and therapists Renae Johnson (they/them) and Kristen Crowe (they/them) respond to questions from the My Therapist Is Out! community about identity-based harm and what it actually feels like to live inside it. Together, they unpack why so many queer and marginalized folks feel chronically exhausted, disconnected, or unsure whether what they’re carrying “counts” as trauma. Renae and Kristen explore how identity-based harm shows up in the body, in relationships, and in community spaces — especially when those spaces don’t feel as safe or healing as we hoped. They talk about the tension between wanting connection and needing protection, how to support immigrant and targeted communities without centering ourselves, and what community care can look like when we’re already stretched thin. This episode offers validation, clarity, and permission to name what’s happening — without needing to have all the answers yet. Takeaways The conversation highlights the exhaustion felt by queer individuals in today's society. Understanding the difference between personal trauma and collective trauma is crucial. Community care plays a vital role in healing from identity-based harm. Emotional responses can be complex and intertwined with societal issues. It's important to recognize the impact of social media on our emotional well-being. Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Charlie Montiel He/They @charlieboytattoo Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Rae Hamilton-Vargo They/Them @rae_hv Host Bios:  Kristen Crowe LPCC, BC-DMT (they/them) Is Licensed Therapist, Dance Therapist, and Clinical Supervisor with Open Space Therapy Collective. Kristen specializes in working somatically with adults and partners to help heal the mind-body connection so you can feel more grounded and vibrant every day. Renae Johnson, LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and the Founder of Open Space Therapy Collective, a group practice offering affirming, social justice-driven mental health care for the LGBTQ+ & QTPOC community.  In addition to their clinical work, Renae produces community wellness events like Queerly Connected and is a founding member of the LA Queer Coalition, creating spaces where queer and trans people can gather, heal, organize, and celebrate.  As a speaker, consultant, and activist, Renae is passionate about building systems of care that honor the full humanity of queer and trans individuals—and equipping healthcare and wellness providers with the tools to do the same. To find more from us visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective Keywords: LGBTQ+ mental health podcast, identity-based harm, queer trauma and healing, community care in LGBTQ+ spaces, hate-based trauma recovery, radical healing for marginalized communities, queer therapists podcast, LGBTQ+ collective healing, trauma-informed community care, storytelling as healing in queer communities

    18 min

  5. Feb 5

    Generational Strength & LGBQ+ Community Healing

    In this episode of My Therapist Is Out!therapists Allison Smith (she/they) and Gio Nigro (they/them) dig into how identity-based harm—like microaggressions, cultural erasure, and systemic exclusion—shows up in LGBTQ+ lives and bodies. They explore why healing doesn’t happen in isolation, the role of therapy in reconnecting us to ourselves and each other, and how community care, mutual support, and shared vulnerability build real resilience. Through a lens that honors cultural heritage and generational strength, this conversation offers practical ways to move from disconnection toward belonging—without asking anyone to shrink, assimilate, or heal alone. Takeaways Identity-based harm encompasses violence, discrimination, and microaggressions. Microaggressions can have a compounding effect on individuals' mental health. Community support is crucial for healing from identity-based harm. Therapy can help clients navigate the challenges of identity-based harm. Building support systems is essential for mental well-being. Connection with others can mitigate feelings of isolation. Activism can foster a sense of community and belonging. Cultural heritage plays a vital role in individual identity and resilience. Vulnerability is necessary for building meaningful connections. Practical steps can help individuals engage with their communities. Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Clark He/Him @wondermountaincabin Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Fafa She/Her Host Bio:  Gio Nigro LCSW (they/them) is a Licensed Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Gio specializes in working with queer adults and older adults who struggle to understand their identity and behaviors and who desire to gain confidence and release shame from their past experiences. Allison Smith LCSW (she/they) is a Licensed Therapist at Open Space Therapy Collective. Allison specializes in  integrating trauma-informed, abolitionist frameworks to support clients in exploring identity, relationships, and cultural connections.  To find more from us visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective Keywords: identity-based harm, community care, microaggressions, lgbtq herapy, queer support systems, activism, cultural heritage, generational strength, connection, vulnerability

    47 min

  6. Jan 21

    Stories as Medicine: Identity-Based Harm and Healing through Storytelling with Jose Rosario

    Renae Johnson (they/them) sits down with Jose Rosario (he/him) of Phoenix Empowered for a powerful conversation about identity, storytelling, and mental health as pathways to collective healing. Jose shares his lived experience as a queer Latino man with a disability and how storytelling has become both a personal and political act—one that resists erasure, challenges identity-based harm, and creates space for radical healing. Together, they explore how hate-based trauma and systemic oppression show up in the body and mind, why representation in mental health is necessary but not enough, and how community care and cultural practices can foster real empowerment. This conversation names anxiety not as a personal flaw, but as a rational response to ongoing threats, and invites listeners to engage in community, storytelling, and advocacy as acts of resistance and care. Through the lens of Phoenix Empowered, Renae and Jose remind us that healing doesn’t happen in isolation—it happens when we are seen, heard, and held in community. Takeaways Storytelling is a powerful tool for healing. Identity-based harm includes various forms of violence, not just physical. Representation in mental health is crucial but not sufficient. Community support is essential for healing and empowerment. Radical healing involves understanding systemic oppression. Cultural practices play a significant role in healing. Anxiety can be a response to systemic threats. Engagement in community can be a form of resistance. Phoenix Empowered aims to amplify marginalized voices.  Mentioned in this Episode: Jose’s Ted Talk Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Harley He/They @bb.musicstudio Guest 2: Shauna She/Her @palsbarla Guest Bio :  José Rosario is a mental health activist, researcher, and clinician and founder of The Phoenix Empowered, a nonprofit that helps organizations develop culturally-informed mental and social health protocols. José’s lived experience as a gay, Latino person who uses a wheelchair has informed both his clinical practice and his consulting work with organizations such as Home Depot, DoorDash, Shell and Johnson & Johnson.  José has spoken at TEDx, Washington State University, University of California Irvine, Arizona State University, ATOP MeaningfulWorld United Nations Affiliate Org, and the National Association of Councils for Developmental Disabilities, among many others.  He has served as an American Psychological Association (APA) Interdisciplinary Minority Fellow and is an active member of the APA’s Division of Trauma Psychology Policy and Anti-Oppression Committees. He also serves on the Community Advisory Board for the Rhode Island Attorney General’s Office and the Congressional Advisory Board for former Congressman James Langevin. He has been honored with the Chris Martin Humanitarian Award and the Victoria Lederberg Award for Excellence in Psychology.  Host Bio:  Renae Johnson, LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Board-Certified Art Therapist, and the Founder of Open Space Therapy Collective, a group practice offering affirming, social justice-driven mental health care for the LGBTQ+ & QTPOC community. With clinical expertise in complex trauma, identity development, and creative expression, Renae blends therapeutic depth with a commitment to equity and inclusion. Renae produces community wellness events like Queerly Connected and is a founding member of the LA Queer Coalition, creating spaces where queer and trans people can gather, heal, organize, and celebrate.  As a speaker, consultant, and activist, Renae is passionate about building systems of care that honor the full humanity of queer and trans individuals—and equipping healthcare and wellness providers with the tools to do the same. To find more from us visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

    46 min

  7. Jan 7

    Feeling Safe Again: Embodiment & Queer Community Care

    In this episode of My Therapist Is Out!, therapists Kristen Crowe (they/them) and Terra Friedman (she/her) unpack how identity-based harm disconnects us from our bodies—and from each other. Through somatic, relational, and systemic lenses, they explore why so many LGBTQ+, BIPOC, disabled, neurodivergent, and immigrant folks feel “too much” in some spaces and “not enough” in others, and how disembodiment can become a survival strategy in unsafe systems. Grounded in real therapy room conversations and lived experience, this episode names the impact of racism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, and other forms of marginalization—while offering compassionate, practical ways to reconnect with your body, access community care, and remember that you don’t have to be fully healed to take up space or belong. Takeaways Identity-based harm targets individuals based on their identity. Embodiment involves awareness of one's physical and emotional state. Community care is a collective responsibility for well-being. Disconnection from the body can lead to isolation. Healing often occurs within community settings. Societal norms can create barriers to connection. Finding the right community can be a gradual process. It's important to listen to your body's needs. You don't have to be fully healed to engage with others. Taking small steps can lead to greater community involvement. Keywordsidentity-based harm, community care, embodiment, mental health, LGBTQ+, therapy, self-discovery, healing, connection, support Mentioned in this Episode:  Instagram accounts: @beingqueerinla @silentbookclubla @beingqueerinla @sapphicla @everywhereisqueer @heyfam @queerasiansocialclub  Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Matthew Schmuck He/Him @matthewschmuck Guest 2: Katherine Kottaras She/They @katherinekotaras Kristen Crowe BC-DMT, LPCC, CST Bio :  Kristen (they/them) Is Licensed Therapist, Dance Therapist, Sex Therapists and Clinical Director with Open Space Therapy Collective. Kristen specializes in working somatically with adults and partners to help heal the mind-body connection so you can feel more grounded and vibrant every day. Terra Friedman AMFT Bio:  Terra (she/her) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Terra specializes in working with high achieving womxn who experience anxiety. Terra also works with couples and partners who are currently in or exploring non-monogamous relationships. To find more from us visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective

    50 min

  8. 12/24/2025

    Allyship in Action: Supporting Immigrant Communities

    In this episode of My Therapist Is Out!, we’re joined by Veronica Velazquez (she/her) from LA Queer Coalition to talk about what real allyship looks like in action—especially as immigrant communities face increasing harm, surveillance, and ICE activity. Together, we explore how LGBTQ+ communities can show up in meaningful, practical ways that go beyond statements of support. This conversation breaks down how to respond to ICE raids, protect community safety, and participate in mutual aid without causing harm or burnout. Veronica shares grounded, accessible strategies for advocacy, organizing, and care—while naming the emotional toll these moments take on queer and immigrant communities alike. Whether you’re looking for concrete steps, clearer boundaries, or ways to stay engaged while protecting your mental health, this episode offers tools for showing up with intention, accountability, and solidarity. In this episode, we cover: What allyship looks like during ICE raids and increased surveillance How LGBTQ+ communities can support immigrant neighbors safely and effectively Mutual aid, community safety strategies, and local organizing efforts Navigating fear, anger, and burnout while staying engaged Why community care is essential when institutions fail This episode is a call to action—and a reminder that collective care and solidarity are powerful tools for survival and change. 🎧 Listen now and learn how to turn care into action. Queer Moment of Joy Guest 1: Devan Rose he/them @dvn_rse Queer Moment of Joy Guest 2: Michael Vandie he/him @minivandicamp Guest Bio :  Veronica Velazquez (she/her) is the founder of RadCraft Design, where she specializes in usability—making systems easier to navigate—and optimization—making them more effective and efficient.  Earlier this year, during the LA fires, Veronica recognized how her skill set could be applied beyond tech to support community care. Since then, she has used her expertise to help build effective mutual aid networks, create accessible information campaigns, and organize events that engage communities in environmental advocacy and collective support. As a Colombian-American, Veronica experiences firsthand the threats facing immigrant and communities of color. As a community organizer and activist, she understands the urgent need for allyship, training, and coordinated action to protect and support those most at risk—especially during times of heightened harm and systemic failure. https://www.icescream.org/ https://radcraftdesign.com/ @verosoraptor LA Queer Coalition Bio:  LA Queer Coalition (LAQC) is a grassroots collective of LGBTQ+ organizations, activists, and community members working to protect, uplift, and mobilize queer and trans communities across Los Angeles. Rooted in intersectionality and collective action, LAQC focuses on community safety, mutual aid, advocacy, and rapid response to systemic harm—particularly at the intersections of queerness, immigration, race, and economic justice. Through coalition-building and on-the-ground organizing, LAQC creates pathways for community care and resistance when institutions fail to protect our most vulnerable. https://www.laqueercoalition.org/ @laqueercoalition To find more from OSTC visit: Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective  TikTok: @openspacetherapy  Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut  Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective Keywords: #AllyshipInAction #QueerAndImmigrantSolidarity #CommunityCare #MutualAid #ICEAwareness #ProtectOurCommunities #LGBTQAdvocacy #ImmigrantJustice #CollectiveCare #GrassrootsOrganizing #CommunitySafety #QueerResistance #MentalHealthInActivism #SolidarityNotStatement #CareAsResistance

    33 min
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Welcome to My Therapist is Out! An Open Space Therapy Collective Podcast. We are your hub for queer and trans mental healthcare. Each episode therapists from OSTC and guests to deep dive into mental health and community building through unapologetic queer conversations. To book a free consult call with one of our therapists visit: openspacetherapycollective.com/book-appointment

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  • Creator
    Open Space Therapy Collective
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    105
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Open Space Therapy Collective
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    My Therapist Is Out!

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